hey. my name is christina benavente. and i am 13 years old. i am so good at giving people advice. if you have any questions about anything just ask me! hope you ask all the questions in the world! bye!
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ok so their is this one boy and i really like him. i finally got the courage to tell him and when i did he told me he like me lots too. i was so incredable happy! then a few weeks after that their was a party that we bolth went to and we hung out and ended up making out on the floor.
but little did i know his ex girlfriend walked in the room and spoiled it. he didnt care but i did it felt so wierd! so i told him and he had been calling me prude. every friday my friends and i go hang out at this place and he was their and we ended up making out their too. but then some how my mother found out and she said that she didnt want me to have any relationship with him. so i tried getting over him. i went to another party and he wasnt their and this one guy i had a crush on for 2 years was their and we ended making out! it was so much fun. but then it got around school. then i found out that the guy i had like for 2 years was going to ask out my friend. and he didnt really like me. i was devistated. then the boy i had made out with twice told me he still liked me and of coarce i still liked him. but then he started flirting with other girls ALL THE TIME! i have been dealing with this FOREVER and the other night i told him i couldnt take it anymore and i couldnt like him i also told him i just wanted to be friends. he sat down and looked like he was going to cry and i dont know if he did because he was wearing glasses. but then he still had enough happyness to be all over another girl. so i felt bad so i went to talk to him and he said that i was the player and the flirt and i told him all the girls he was flriting with that night. then he told me that they where all over him. i had upset him so much he didnt want anything to do with me. what do i do? do i say im sorry? do i stay mad at him for LIFE? what in the world do i do? i NEED advice badly!
if it makes a difference im only 14 and he is too.
thanks! :)
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well for one you should apologize to him. you shouldn't stay mad at him forever since he doesn't really like you anymore. you should just accept it. even though it's hard to swallow you'll get over it. there are other fish in the sea. and there'll be other guys who will like you and won't be all over girls at a party after you dump them. hope you have a wonderfel summer! good luck! bye
-.christina*
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I have a crush on this kid in my grade and the thing is i don't even like know him...I never talk to him and when he comes online i go onto my friends sn to talk to him because they talk more...i don't know why i like him and i think it is ridiculous but i really want a way to be closer to him and start talking any suggestions? (link)
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well..the first thing you should do is like have your friend introduce you to him (to make it a little bit more easier) or introduce yourself to him (if you have enough confidence). i mean after the introduction he will know you. then you should take it one step at a time like when you guys pass in the hall just like say hi to him. then you guys can like hang out during lunch or afterschool. thats what i would do if i were in your situation. hope everything turns out good! have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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Is it wrong to like my best friend's boyfriend? i feel like he can do so much better than her and the way she treats him bugs me..i really like him...he's like the perfect guy..its okay to crush on him as long as i dont take action right? (link)
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of course it's ok! i mean if your best frineds boyfriend is very sweet and knows how to treat a girl then of course it's alright!
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theres a whole long backround story im not getting into details with but basicly...
me and this kid, lets call him Chris, had a HUGE history and we went out and a lot of stuff. Well this other girl, lets call her Kim (shes a grade older), and him had a tiny history but she really liked him. Ok so me and Chris were finally doing good as friends but we were flirting all day and texting eachother and everything. So then that night we were on a boat and he was allllll over me. I figured he was using me because he did this before but hes a sweet talker and im a sucker so i went with the flow.
Then we started really getting like into eachother. But then he was standing next to me outside of the boat and just started making out with me but i thought it was just a kiss on the lips but it wasnt. I pulled away because 1. teachers were around and 2. i didnt want to do this right now.
So then Kim starts freaking out and gets all of her friends, who used to be my friends to hate me. They all started IMing me saying OMG YOUR A B*TCH HOW COULD YOU GET IN THE MIDDLE OF CHRIS AND KIM YOU SL*T I CANT BELIEVE YOU DID THAT!
and now basicly i have no friends. so i dont know what to do everyone hates me and i didnt do anything.
me and chris were talking and i said sorry kim is mad at him and then i was like..wait no im not i didnt do anything im not sorry. he was like yeah i know. and then i told one of the girls who hates me the true story of what i just wrote here and she asked chris and chris said no it was my fualt and i was all over him!!
its all messed up i need some advice. i dont know what im going to do. now i have like literally 5 friends!!
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it's not your fault. just dont' worry about it. let people think what they want to think. and that kim girl don't pay any attention to her. she's just jealous of you. if people are calling you names because of something someone tells them which isn't true you don't have to explain it to them. just remember let people think what they wanna think. all that matters is that you know what really happened. good luck and have an awesome summer! bye
-.christina*
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hey, well my boyfreind sorta gets into alot of trouble in school and such. so his parents just kicked him out of his own home. so now hes living with his grandma. but before he left to go to his grandmas his parents took his cell phone. his grandma also doesnt have a computer .. so that means no AIM. so basically now the only time i see him is in school. he metioned to me that his grandma doesnt like him using her phone so theres really no way of communicating. this makes me quite upset and i dont know what to do. please help. cait♥ (link)
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you just have to deal with it. i mean it's better to see your boyfriend in school then not see him at all. i mean, it's not your fault he gets in so much trouble! so basically, just deal with it. or just find a time where you and him can go shopping, go to the movies, or just have some alone time. good luck and have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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hi i have a boyfriend named and we were talkin for a while then he asked me out on monday.. we like each other alot and things were going really good. but he has this girl who liked him since 9th grade they are friends though i dont care that there friends but she doesnt like me ever since we started goin out. but she doesnt know me or anything about me. i dont like drama i dont involve myself with it. so shes hating on me and him. i really like him and i want to contiue being wit him but this girl is jus gonna keep starting trouble with me. my sister told me to tell him that if he cant tell the girl to not disrespect me then to break up wit him.
wat should i do
signed: boyfriend troubles
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well i agree with your sister. i mean this girl doesn't have any business with you and your boyfriend! this is what you should understand: that she is only ragging on you because she's jealous that you're going out with her old crush. and really. follow your sisters advice. good luck! and have a great summer!bye
-.christina*
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Should i be worried if the boy i like called another girl that likes him .. But my friend says that they only talked on the phone for 2 minutes. should i worry about it? or wonder whats goin on with them?
xox - brandy marie (link)
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ok..you should only be worrying if he's your boyfriend. and since you didn't mention thatyou guys are going out then i don't think you should be buttin into somebodys business when it has nothing to do with you.
-.christina*
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my friend is mad at me because of a misunderstanding. i have tried everything, but no matter what i do she refuses to be my friend. I have told her i was sorry more times than i can count. i was literally in tears before because her friendship means a lot to me. i even told her this. she has blocked me on aim and wont answer her phone because my name shows on the caller id... and she wont talk to me at school. there is no way i can get through to her that it was a misunderstanding. i feel awful and i don't know what to do....please help. (link)
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well if you keep on apologizing for a misunderstanding and she won't forgive you then just give her some time to let her steam out. and either wait for a time when she's very very very calm or a time when she feels right to come to you and talk about it. good luck and have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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me and my boyfriend broke up today because another boy blew a kiss at me and i laughed -- which he considered flirting i didnt do it on purpose so we broke up and today after school he told one of my friends he was just made and he wants to get back with me as all day at school he screamed and yelled at me and told me he didnt want to go on our class trip with me any more and we always fight and argue is it worth the troubles? should i get back with him or not? i love him but i dont think i can handle this anymore. Should i move on to see if theres better things or stay with the person i love that always hurts me? some one please help me! (link)
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well i would advice you to just go wherever the wind takes you. or what i'm trying to say is follow your heart. if you really love him then go out with him. good luck and have a great summer! bye!
-.christina*
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Ok, So I am 13 years old and since May 2005, I have found myself madly in love with no other than a 20 year old McDonalds worker. He has started to open up a little more in the past couple of months, and he gives me lots of hugs, flirts, and shows all the "signs" of love back. Yet he has never told me. This week we are supposed to go to the movies. My question is, Should I open up and tell him I love him or should I just wait until he does? (link)
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um..it's kinda illegal for you guys to be dating. so if you don't want him to go to jail i suggest you dont' say anything.
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ok so a few days ago i caught my almost 16 yr old brother looking at porn on the internet...and he caught me spying on him. and i promised to him i wouldnt tell cuz god only knows what my parents would do... so idk what to do like is this normal .. it probably is but what should i do its just kinda freaky ....
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well. when you're a guy (but i'm not a guy i just have brothers) you're hormones are really different than a girls own. i mean it's perfectly normal when a guy looks at porno. but i'm not advicing you to tell, but what i'm advicing you is to let him tell your parents. i mean i know he might not want to tell your parents right away, but eventually he'll tell your parents. so just don't worry about it. just take it one step at a time. ok ogod luck! bye
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I know this may seem stupid. but i cannot stand freaking "popular" people. i have an advice collumn, and everyday i have a different message in my inbox from them like "stop being jelous of the popular people" or "why dont you wear preppy clothes and dress like everyone else? you'll never be popular if you do." and i sware im not jealous, and i wear all the same clothes they do. why do they think there the best? there really not that great. and i know im not a loser, so why do they call me one? they are all extremely mean, and full of themsleves. i dont want to be friends with them, but is there any way i can make them stop this? i really cant take it anymore and its really lowering my self esteem. pleaes i need help as soon as i can get it! thank you so so much!
love always.
oh bye the way if you are one of the popular people at your school, i'm really sorry im not being steriotypical and saying all popular poeple are like that. so please dont take thi the wrong way! (link)
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well, those people who keep on telling you to act the same as the "popular" crowd just tell them that it's not your thing to look and act like everyone else. and when the popular people are like being really mean to you it just means that they're jealous of something you have that they don't. good luck! and have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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hey im 15/f and today this girl brooke shes a grade ahead of me. And today she was just talking and she said she had to write a story for english class. And before she talked about this kid named cody and i "hooking up" but i only like him as a friend. But she is trying to hook us up and she keeps on embarrasing us and saying that we want each other bad and crap like that. Which is really making me mad! SERIOUSLY! and i told them i didn't like him. But her english story was about this girl named ashley because thats who i am. And she said that i was madly in love with cody and stuff like that. And at the end i guess he ditched me and me and his new girlfriend got in a fight. Which is really stupid. I mean cody is the class clown i like him as a friend hes funny and yea. But im getting sick and tired everyday she says that we want each other and we know it blah blah bla is there anything i can say or anything to make her stop.. ANYTHING! and im not a nark i dont go and tell teachers or anything i'll rate 5s! Thanks alot (link)
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well. if this girl brooke keeps on making fun of you and cody then why don't you ask her to stop? i mean be like "hey why are you picking on me and cody? we don't like eachother that way". i mean don't make it rude but just make it as polite as possible. but if that doesn't work just try to ignore it. good luck! bye!
-.christina*
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my puppy is adorable but he can get very aggressive and bites a lot. Is there a way to make him stop? (link)
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well. i had the same problem with my dog. see dogs are kinda like humans except they don't have aposable thumbs or whatever. anyways. if it keeps on biting you just discipline it. but i'm not advicing to hit it or anything. just like if it tries to bite you just say like "no!" or tap it on the nose. but not too hard or that might hurt it. hope your puppy learns some manners. bye!
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This guy and I we have always had a connection through the way we smile and the look in our eyes, we knew we had a connection but we never told each other whats more, we didnt talk alot.
At the prom I asked him whether he ever had a cush on me, he said he did for a year or so but then 'he got the feeling we were just friends' I thought that meant he stopped having a crush on me. My friend on the other hand said 'whattt no!! that means he wasnt getting the right signals from you'..so im perplexed to what he meant by that...i never asked him whether he still had a crush on me, but through the prom he kept holding onto me asking me to dance and impulsiveley kissing me on the cheek...do u think theres something there?? what do u think he meant? anyways take care xxx (link)
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your friend is so right! he so got the right vibes from you. if he was holding onto you the whole prom and kissing you on the cheek well duh! he likes you! and if i'm right then you should ask him out! hope it goes well..take care! bye
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this kid that i've been hanging out with went out with one of my so called friends. and like she's been supposvedly calling me a slut and stuff. and like i don't know if he asks me out if i should date him or not ..we kissed last night ..and he's always like flirting with me and kissing my cheek and telling me to kiss his ..but idk if i should do that to her or not. they've also been apart for more than 5 months. help?! :( (link)
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well if you really like him then i'd say go for it! and if she's calling you a slut then she's not really your friend since she's supposedly jealous. so don't worry about it. because if she calls you a slut again just ignore her. well good luck.bye
-.christina*
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Hey i am 16 years old and i had this boyfriend and we were getting pretty serious but i would break up with him like everyday cause he would just do stupid stuff or ignore me sometimes in the hallways at skool...well he started to wanna do sexual stuff to eachother and he wanted to have sex and i felt so pressured so one day i ended up letting him finger me, and he just wanted more so i had a long talk with him telling him that i wanted to wait till marrige for sex..and 2 days later he broke up with me i was devistated and now he has been nothing but rude to me and the other night we were fighting and he had the nerve to ask me to wait for him over the summer after telling me that he hated me,he says that he needs time to matture and learn how to be a better b/f. well we got in another fight cause i found out he was trying to get close to some girl who is a well...whore and he got all mad and told me to forget waiting on him and i wouldn't let that happen.so he told me that i had all summer to find someone else and if not then we were gonna spend h.s together? i dont know what to think or what he wants? will you please help me i am so confused. did he just want sex? or does he really need to learn how to be matture? do i wait till summer is over and skool starts again for him? we havn't talked in over a week though...=( (link)
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well..if he didn't respect your wishes about not wanting to have sex and wait for marriage then he's not a good boyfriend. and if he said he hated you and wanted you to wait for him during the summer then that doesn't make him a good boyfriend either. if i were you then i wouldn't date him anymore. i mean if he treats you this badly then he's not a good boyfriend.hope you have a great summer. and good luck! bye
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im supposed to think of 3 different types of songs for our 8th grade farewell dance (im on student council) and i need a "Rap/hip hop" song, a "slow" song and a "overall" song..by overall they mean how the year meant..and it was good and bad and i cannot think of ANY!
5s for anything.and i mean anything! (link)
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well for my 8th grade graduation we had "graduation friends" by Vitamin C. it was a really good song to play because it described what our year as 8th graders and as the years from the past years we all had together. good luck! and i hope you use the song! bye!
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A couple days ago, on myspace, I was on my friends page, and I saw this guy [one of his skater friends] and I thought he was hott and he lives in my town, and he's my age, so I figured I'd add him as a friend because there are good chances of us already knowing each other. Well it turned out to be one of my ex-boyfriends from a few years ago. You know. We dated when we were young. I was like 13-14 or something. Now I am 17 & He's 18. Well when we were together he liked me a lot and he was really sweet and everything. Like a perfect boyfriend, but we were young, so it really didn't matter. Well now we found out who each other is, and we can't believe we are talking again after these years have gone by. Well the problem is, I have been talking to him again for a couple of days and we talk on the phone and stuff, but he tells me how cute I am, and he brags about me, and he TELLS ME HE LOVES ME. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ignore him anymore, I just want to be friends because I have my most recent ex boyfriend whom I love very much and he just got a job for me and everything. (link)
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well. if you just want to be friends with him just tell him. i mean don't be like "i dont' like you anymore i just want to be friends" because that would be very rude. but i advice you to say it in a way he would understand and not have a nervous break down. be like "i had feelings about you back then but i don't have them now. i just wanna be close friends" something like that.but don't use my exact words. ok..good luck! hope he understands
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i hate it when people talk about me behind my back but unfortunatly people do. and i dont know how to deal with it anymore. i used to ignore it but i cant anymore and im ready to snap. what should i do? (link)
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well. if people are talking about you behind your back then i'd advice you to ignore it. but since you can't take it anymore then this is what i have to say. even if they make ufn of something about you just remember it's something you like. it's what makes you you. good luck! bye
-.christina*
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