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boyfriend trouble
hi i have a boyfriend named and we were talkin for a while then he asked me out on monday.. we like each other alot and things were going really good. but he has this girl who liked him since 9th grade they are friends though i dont care that there friends but she doesnt like me ever since we started goin out. but she doesnt know me or anything about me. i dont like drama i dont involve myself with it. so shes hating on me and him. i really like him and i want to contiue being wit him but this girl is jus gonna keep starting trouble with me. my sister told me to tell him that if he cant tell the girl to not disrespect me then to break up wit him.
wat should i do
signed: boyfriend troubles
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well i agree with your sister. i mean this girl doesn't have any business with you and your boyfriend! this is what you should understand: that she is only ragging on you because she's jealous that you're going out with her old crush. and really. follow your sisters advice. good luck! and have a great summer!bye
-.christina*
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i think that pretty much your sister gave you the best advice, and you should follow it.
That would have been my advice.
So basically your sister just answered this question for you.
Good luck!
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ur mom
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This is quite a predicament and one I can actually relate to.
When my boyfriend and I first started going out, there were two girls who really liked him and so immediately hated me. Things eventually came to a head with one girl when she posted something particularly unpleasent on the internet about me. Although my boyfriend was aware I had experienced problems with this girl for some time, he only got involved when she did this and he made it clear she had to back off once and for all.
Now, I think this was appropriate because this is the sort of situation that can arise in a large number of relationships and you need to be able to deal with it or it can destroy a relationship. If the girl is causing you trouble then you need to try to deal with it first. By all means tell your boyfriend what is going on but if you make him choose between his friend who is being unpleasent and you, you might not win this early in the relationship and however you phrase it, if you ask him to step in and do something, this is how it will seem to him.
Next time she says something nasty to you, you need to tell her to back off and leave you alone because you have every right to go out with him and as long as you care about each other, she isn't going to get anywhere by behaving the way she is. After this point, ignore her completely. Allow him to talk to her if he wants to but that doesn't mean you have to have anything to do with her. If a situation arises where you do have to be in a room together, be civilised. Never raise your voice, never react to her insults and never let her see that she has upset you.
If she does something truly awful to you or says something particularly bad, tell your boyfriend but if she does things on a regular basis and they're only little, don't tell him every time because this will put him constantly in the middle.
You just need to learn to ignore it. She's jealous and it is this sort of behaviour that will eventually drive your boyfriend away from her completely. So stay calm, ignore it and let her ruin things for herself.
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ok. i dont know why you need advice for this but all you have to do is bitch her out. tell her to get the f**k over it and oviously he doesnt like her so shes retarted all you have to do is tell him you really dont like her and say she has to go. end of story
p.s still dont get why you need advice
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She's going to be jealous of every girlfriend he has and she's going to have to get over it. She's more miserable than you are, but she's brought it on herself.
I agree that you should ask him to tell her to leave ya'll alone about it. You'll just have to ignore her and hope she finds someone else. You can't let this hurt your opportunity for a relationship.
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Have your boyfriend talk to her. If she doesn't stop hating on both of you, then he shoulden't talk to her either. But first have him be like "Hey I'm with her now, not you..so leave us alone or I wont talk to you again -- ever". This way she knows if she keeps doing things to make you mad...she'll lose him as a friend...so unless shes stupid, she wont do it again.
If she keeps bothering you guys, then dont talk to her at all. Both of you.
&& If your boyfriend isint willing to give her up as a friend(after the fact that you warned her and she is still not stopping) then maybe
you should re-evaluate your relationship with him!
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