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Q: Hey! I'm 15 year old female and I will be a freshman this year. Does anyone have some simple things that I could do to my hair but would look great?? I wanna really stand out this year! Thanks so much

ok my hair is naturally straight and i can't scrunch it either! could you crimp it? i do the half ponytail alot and sometimes i don't pull the hair out of the ponytail holder... so that the hair is like coming out like a fountain. you should double the holders with thick hair thou! hope thats an idea!

Q: i am finally over my ex but now i find myself constantly thinking about my best friend's ex. i missed him while i was on vacation..do i have a crush on him? If i do...what should i do? should i tell him? my friend still isnt completely over him.. what if he likes me too? oh and im a 14 yhear old girl

ahh! never a good sitution. you may just care for him, not nessarly like him. really i think the best thing for you to do is stick with your friend and not do anything about this guy cuz it will cause problems between you and your friend. how do you know if he liked you? just stay away from this guy for a little while because he has trouble written all over him... don't get in between them either. stick with your friend... thanx for your question

Q: I am 15 years old and have never had a boyfriend. Is that normal?

yes its completely normal! most parents don't really want their girls dating until they are 16. but happy thou. girls with guys are headed for heartbreak and tears. also kids who are in relationships too early in life are more likely to be in postions they don't wanna be in... like sex. don't worry! i have so many friend who have never have a boyfriend! and my brother didn't get a gf until senior yr in highschool and she cheated on him!

Q: I'm a 15/f and i'm really crushin on this totaly hotti. He's like in my grade but like he's kind of in the "popular" group - ya kno? so yea what should i do yo...help a sista out

haha if hes hot then its good. are you in the popular group silly? is he nice? if he is and understanding why not flirt and if he flirts back tell him! lol i would do that! but if hes mean and nasty don;t tell him... just admire from far!

Q: hi does toothpaste rellay work on pimples/zits?!
KLG

i think it does... it dries up the zit.

Q: I'm sbout 5'2" and weigh about 90lbs (I have a REALLY fast metabolism). Is it possible to gain any weight on my arms without getting any on my stomach? That's where all my gained weight goes. Could I be able to beef up my arms a bit?

you can light weights and do push ups... build up you muscules! thats what i do!

Q: for some reason guys always take me as a whore..is there anyway i can make them stop thinking that?! i realli need help! i'm so depressed n crying! i'll rate!

ok well take a look at yourself. do you give them reasons to think your a whore? like your make up... is it like really heavy or really dark or does it look like a mask? thats definalty a reason! and your clothes... if they are too tight or too reveling thats def. another thing. and your actions... are you all over guys?? allyou can do to make them stop thinking is calm it down with make up and boys, and dress more modest...

Q: I was obbsessed with this guy for like 6 months. I just got over liking him but my one of my best friends told me she went to a party and asked him to slow dance and they danced together 3 times. When she told me this i was speechless even though i stopped liking him. I am kinda mad that she danced with him-or i think i'm mad. I'm not sure whether or not i'm mad or just jealous...i still might have feelings for him. Do you think i'm mad at her or just jealous?

i know what your feeling. happened way to many times to me. well i think its really jealously along with madness. i mean like really... how did you feel when your friend went up to him and danced with him? i would be mad! lol then youd be jealous bc he can get your friend or your friend gets the guy... happens all the time. so really its a combination...

Q: How can i make my ex like me again, they told me they loved me once and now they basically ignore me. What can i do?

you can't... theres a reason they broke up with you or you broke up with them. now they ignore you... not a good sign... sorry... just flirt and see how they react

Q: i really like this one guy but hes going out with a girl... and it seems like this guy likes me and he calls me almost everynight and when were together he always wants to like make out and things liek that but then if he liked me why would he be going out with his grilfriend? so i don't know what to do anymore just go with the flow or try and work things out and just be friends with this guy...

hes 13 too i'm guessing. relationships that young don't mean anything. he just has a girlfriend to hook up with or say hes got a gf

Q: hi ppl . ok well heres my problem . im not bragging or nethng but i think im pretty & hav a good personality but my one thing is , i hav NEVER had a boyfriend . and im 14 . its bothering me b/c all of my friends can get them , and i cant . i talk to guys all the time and im being myself , but it isnt working . nothing is working . i dono what to do nemore . any tips

its ok 14 is kinda young to be in relationships... studies have shown that if you are in relationships too early in life you have better chances getting stds and having sex, and all that bad stuff. so really wait till your 16. thats when parents start letting theres kids have bfs! so don't worry

Q: would it be wrong for me or any other girl my age (15) to go out with someone older than 20? i mean once your older, no one really cares about the age difference.

it depends is he hot and famous? haha but he will raaaaaaaape you

Q: Ok there is a guy a like aand he thinks I'm cute and he and his friend asked if my friend and I wanted to go swimming and we said yes. But should I change my mind? I'm scared because what I fall or trip or something.

Sincerely,
CameronLover1

definatly go! don't worry! if anything happens just make fun of it! sometimes you need the extra push! i know i do!

Q: My best friend and I are like sisters. We've been through everything together. Last night though we were at our other friends house. We talked about school and stuff but then out of no where, my best friend said that she has had sex with her boyfriend of 2 years. It came to a shock to me cause first of all she is only 14 and then second she didnt use protection. My other friend though said it was no big deal since she has been dating him for 2 years. I dont know what to say to my best friend. i really need some help cause i don't want anythin bad to happen to her.

woah sex at 14? well when did she have sex? was it like a while ago or just like the other night? if it was just the other night wait to see if she gets her period or whatever. if she doesn't call a planned parenthood thing. i don't think they show up on phone bills. anyway, if it was a while ago and if no signs appear she prob not pregnant... but theres always the threat of stds. tell her to go to a gynocylist in the mean time

Q: Ok, lets say one of your best friends just broke up with his gf, who you have kind of liked for awhile? Should you ask her out right away or give her some time? It wasn't a very serious relationship, but I don't know how she would feel going out with me, after being with my friend?

ew no! ok don't do anthing! for a while that is. see if the gf dumped the guy it would be a little better but seeing as the friend broke up with her she could still be upset and missing him. if you like her ask your friend why he dumpped her then see what happens. talk to her about too and see what she thinks. depends on the signs i guess

Q: I'm a 16-year old female who's just gotten into a really bad breakup. My now ex-boyfriend and i had been together for over a year and it turns out that he just didnt love me anymore, so he broke up with me. He lied to me alot, cheated, and did so many things that are totally unforgivable, but i find myself still loving him so much. How should i handle this situation and is it wise to ever get back together with him?

ok well sometimes in relationships the love just stops. trust me it hurts. but would you rather be in a relationship with a guy who doesn't love you or a relationship just because you feel alone. you prob. feel like you still love him because its like a habit and you aren't used to him not being there because you were together for so long. If he lied, cheated, and did unforgivable things why would you wanna go thru that heartbreak again! take time off and go with other guys and see how you feel... chances are that you will see you don't really love him as much as you think right now.

Q: my friend whose a girl and 14 told me a few days ago that she cutts. i was devistated wen i heard this. i asked her wat in the world wud make u so miserable as 2 kill urself? and she sed that her family was messed up and that shes ben feeling really depressed. i told her 2 think bout wat life will bring her in the future. youll have kids a husband a job and a happy life. i dont think it convinced her. wat should i do?

ah get her help. tell someone. i know you can't do it alone. no one can. the next thing you should do is try to understand where shes coming from and just be there for her to talk to. it the best thing for you to do. she just needs someone to be there for her and make sure she knows that when she feels like cutting she should just call you. i hope she gets ok!

Q: Well this coming skool year I'll be a freshman. At our highskool, two different graduating 8th grade classes from two different skools form into the freshman class at the high skool. Before I graduated 8th grade, sum of my friends and I had been spending a lot of time with sum of the girls from the other skool that we'd be sharing highskool with this coming skool year. A lot of the girls at my own skool were becoming jealous and thought that when we become freshman, my friends and I would ditch our great ol friends from our old skool and go for the girls from the new one. I'm really close with the girls from our old skool and I know this won't be the case, but how do I make sure this doesn't happen and how can I make my friends from my old skool believe it won't? (m/14)

sorry but in highschool you'll be lucky to stay friends with your old group of friends. In highschool theres so many new people and you may click with other people. just keep all your friendships close. you can prove to them that you won't forget about them. randomly ask them to do stuff with you and in school hanf around them alot too

Q: Most my friends have seemed to not care about me anymore. They all just care about other friends now, and never have time to even just say "hello" to me, but they have time to spend time with other people for hours on end. I feel so betrayed, these people that i called friends just don't seem to care anymore, I hardly ever talk to them anymore, when when i attempt to, i get responses of "uhuh" or any other word related. What can i do to get them to actually notice me? =( please help!

ok well what i do is start spending time with another group of people and then they will notice your not around. so then youll be noticed. but this is a tricky one to do bc if they don't notice it will be very hard to get back. I also invite a few of them over or see if they wanna go to the movies (or maybe 6 flags!)then we like bond or whatever and catch up and they don' forget about how much fun you had together!

Q: I just cant seem to get over my ex girlfriend...i know first loves are the hardest to get over, but im still really really really into this girl..and its been a year, i miss everyting about her, but its jut not gonna work out again between us.....what should i do?

just try to think of other girls... it may not work but at least you can say you tried. theres nothing i know of that you can do... if there was everyone would be going out with someone

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woohoo! i finally got about to this! ok so i'm lauren! and i am always hyper unless you catch me on a bad day. even thou i'm hyper everyday i can still be serious! apparently thats when i sound smartest! haha but i know the time of firendship even thou i act like i don't.