My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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what are veneers? i want my teeth whitened but theres no guarantee of it working (link)
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Veneers. They grind your teeth down A BUNCH, and then put caps on them that are perfect and white and awesome. You have to do it every few years. A lot of celebrities have them. They are EXTREMELY expensive.
One step down from that would be laser whitening treatments. Those are still expensive, but your teeth don't get grinded down, you don't have to keep doing them if you don't want to, and they aren't AS expensive as veneers.
What I would do is use Crest White Strips. I hear that they start working in less than a week and they do really work. They're expensive too, but you can buy them in the store and they're aren't nearly as expensive as laser treatments or veneers.
Crest White Strips + Brushing twice a day with whitening toothpaste + flossing + mouthwash = A clean, white, awesome mouth.
Good luck!
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im 5'8" and i weigh 170 lbs. my doctor says its good cause im not like skinny im "big boned" and i have broad shoulders and im stronger than most people but like i still have some fat in some places.
annyway is this weight normal for my height and my build?
15/f (link)
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According to your BMI, you are only slightly overweight. You're BMI is 25.8 while the healthy range is 18.5-24.9. In order to get into the "healthy" range, you'd only have to lose about 6 pounds. The healthy weight range for your height is 122-164.
HOWEVER, you are not in medical danger. If you feel you look good, don't lose weight. There's no point in it. Depending on your build, you may look better at your weight than you would 10 pounds lighter. If you think you look good, other people will too. :)
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Is it normal to queef right after having sex doggy style? (link)
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Yep. That's when it's most common.
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okay if u masterbate too much like maybe 4 years none stop would your penius shrink?? i was juss wondering because i was searching on google an average penius size.. (by the way what is an average size) and this guy said his been masterbaiting for 3 years.. and he's notice his penius shrinking.. thats kinda weird could that really happen? (link)
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1. No, masturbation does not make your penis shrink
2. It's impossible to masturbate "non-stop" for four years. haha.
3. A lot of people say the average penis size is 6 inches, but that's not technically true. The REAL average adult penis size is 5 1/4 inches. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, because that's the truth.
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how do you add songss?? and i see ppl with all these features and i dont get it, i'm confused. (link)
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I believe the features you're talking about are the applications. It's pretty self explanatory, I thought, but if one of your friends adds an application, such as the Top Friends application, just click on the link and add the application. Then it'll take your through the process of putting a top friends list on your page.
As for music, all I know about is the iLike application, which is here:
http://apps.facebook.com/ilike/
You go there and add the application..then you can search for songs and it'll add them to your profile. BUT:
1. It only plays a little part of each song
2. It doesn't start automatically, you have to go down and push the play button.
If you know of someone with a song on their profile that starts like a MySpace song, I don't know how to do that. You could message them and ask, because if they have it, chances are they know how to do it.
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is jonanthan chase, the jock stud from another gay movie, is he really gay? (link)
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He's never officially "come out" as gay, straight, or bi. BUT after some research done by someone on IMDB, evidence was collected from interviews and it was concluded that Jonathan is straight. And I believe Mitch Morris is as well.
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How can you tell if a guy is after sex or love? I feel like I can't be objective so I'm just gonna tell you some stuff and you'll tell me what you think.. what is he after? He seems to be very interested in me even though we've NEVER kissed or held hands or had any physical contact (so that speaks for LOVE right?) ALTHOUGH I have given him strong signs that if he were to become mine, we'd do A LOT of physical stuff.. so I have planted expectations in his head. When he flirts it's usually like "i can't wait to be alone with you" "i cant wait to see you..theres all these things i want to say to you..and do to you" or "make sure you wear tasty lipgloss the next time you come over" but sometimes he also says "i miss you so much" or "Love you like a fat kids love cake" His friends all lie to him and tell him I'm a slut.. so he probably thinks I'm easy (even though I've only had one kiss and nothing else my whole life!) but he's always treated me with respect. When he wants to give me a compliment it has never been about anything physical, it's always like "you're so sweet" or "you have this quality i've never seen in any other chick" or sometimes compliments my eyes, so i dont know, i get mixed signals, and I would really want to know what he's after, cause I don't put out..
oh and one more question! lets say I'm at his house..and we're making out (which im cool with) but then he starts undressing me.. is there any way to pause the physical without saying "lets take it slow" or "I dont want to".. like is there a way to not go further withotu ruining the mood or making it awkward?! (link)
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Well there's really no way for me to TELL you if he's after love or sex. No one on this site knows him and we can't really make an accurate idea of what this guy is all about.
From your question, it sounds like you guys aren't even dating yet. Are you? If you aren't, him saying he wants to "do things to you" isn't exactly respect. If you're not dating someone but you are talking about it, and he says he can't wait to be alone with you and do things to you...it might make you feel good about yourself and it's not even a bad thing, but it's definitely not a non-sexual respect.
He seems sexually attracted to you, yes. But that does not mean that he's ONLY after sex. He is saying sweet things to you. He could be 1) trying to get into your pants by feeding your ego or 2)just being genuinely interested in you. Again, there's no way we can tell you that.
This is a difficult situation and my best advice would be to just go with the flow, try to be as objective as possible, ask your friends what they think, and use good judgment.
As for your last question, I can relate. With my last boyfriend, we did a lot of sexual things together (making out, feeling up, grinding, handjob, blowjob), but I never let him give me oral, finger me, etc. And we never had sex. Closer to the beginning, I had already "touched" him, if you know what I mean, but he hadn't even touched ME on top of my pants. One time he let his hand glide across that area and he pulled at the string on my pants. We were making out at the time and I didn't stop and say anything, I just took his hand and guided it away from my crotch onto my hip. All he did was sort of laugh into my mouth as if he was saying "hey, I had to at least try" and we went on like nothing happened. Just guide his hand away from the area that it shouldn't be and it won't be awkward. He just needs to know his boundaries. :) If he pushes it, though, you're going to have to say something to him.
Good luck!
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I'm 14 and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't really care and I don't obsess over it or anything but if I do ever get one any time in highschool I wouldn't want to do stuff like being fingered or sex or blow jobs and all that...
is that weird? I just don't think i'd feel comfortable doing any of that. I wouldn't have a problem with kissing though..
I'm scared i'll never get a boyfriend just because I don't want to do any of that stuff. (link)
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No, you're definitely not weird. Not all guys are looking for sex. If a guy really likes you, he'll wait for you to be ready. It's totally fine not to feel comfortable with things like that at such a young age and you should NEVER do ANYTHING you're not 100% comfortable with.
From someone that used to be in a similar situation, though, this can change when you get a boyfriend. I didn't get my first boyfriend until this end of this school year (I'm 17) and before that I always told myself I'd never do all of that so soon. Well, we dated for three weeks before things went bad, but in that time I gave him a hand job and a blow job and we grinded and made out and felt each other up and all that. If someone were to tell me this story from their point of view, I know I'd sound like a whore, but I know that I didn't do anything I didn't WANT to do. I didn't let him give me oral sex or finger me (my pants stayed ON and BUTTONED the entire time) and I didn't have sex with him because I wasn't comfortable or ready to do that. And now, I'm glad I didn't do those things, but that doesn't mean I wish I hadn't done the rest. I chalk it all up to experience now.
It's really good to have strong opinions, but if you do get a boyfriend and do those things, never regret something that you did that you wanted to do at the time. Just go with the flow and things will happen when they're supposed to happen. Don't let any guy pressure you into doing something you aren't comfortable with.
Good luck!
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okay so i don't know what to do. i've been going out with this girl for over a year now and i'm starting to get board. we have sex, that's great, but i'm not used to being with people, i can't break up with her, she'd be devstated. i don't know how to tell her that i'm just so board, but i don't know how to make things interesting again... can anyone help? please! (link)
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Well the first thing you have to decide is if you still want to be with her or not. If you no longer are in love with her and would rather be alone, yes she'll be hurt, but staying with her wouldn't be fair to her either.
In a relationship that's been going on as long as yours has, things are bound to get a little boring because it's the same person that you're around all the time. Things don't stay new and exciting for very long. That's why long-term relationships take time and effort. You can't leave at the first sign of trouble.
I understand that you're not used to being with someone like that, especially for so long, but if you're still in love with her, you should work on it. Talk to her about it and be honest with her, because she deserves your honesty. You should never hide what you're feeling from the person you're with. It's not fair to you OR them.
Maybe you can think of some ways that you can un-bore the relationship and talk to her about "spicing things up". Sometimes all you need is a couple new ingredients to spice up an old, familiar dish. Ya know?
Communication is key. Maybe you'll start talking to her about it and she'll feel the same way. Another thing to remember is that some relationships aren't meant to work out. If you don't want to be with her anymore, don't stay with her out of pity. Because then you'll end up getting so bored and aggravated that you could find your fun with other women, and that is NOT cool.
So, basically, my advice is to ask yourself if you still want to be with her. If you do, talk to her about how you feel and try to fix it. If you don't, you have to break it off with her in the best way you can so you both can move on quicker. Either way, don't be mean about it and don't make her feel like any of this is HER fault. Don't let her think that the whole relationship was just a waste of both of your time. Let her know that you do still care about her and love her, but you just think it would be best if you saw other people, took a break, and see how you both do on your own. Who knows? Maybe one day you'll find your way back to each other. If it's meant the be, it'll happen.
Good luck!
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I was just wondering about what the style today is for guys for body hair i.e. chest hair, happy trails, leg hair, facial hair and stuff like that. (link)
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Well I think it's all pretty much just an opinion type thing. All girls like different things. If you look at models, they all have smooth chests and stomachs...VERY little body hair.
However, if a guy were to shave his chest, the happy trail better stay there. lol. My friends and I agree that that's one of the hottest things on a guy.
As for arm hair, underarm hair, and leg hair...leave it alone! Guys are supposed to have hair there. It's very...masculine.
As for facial hair...on young guys mostly they shave it all off. However, if you want facial hair there's anything from that soul patch thing that some guys have all the way to a goatee or the goatee that has the thin line from the chin up to the hairline. It all depends on what you can pull off.
My last boyfriend had no facial hair, no chest hair (he had a little bit of a happy trail) and he was blonde so even though he didn't remove it, he had very little hair on his arms and legs. He was very clean-cut and smooth and all that jazz.
HOWEVER, the guy I'm into now has facial hair, hair on his chest and stomach, and he's a brunette so the hair on his legs and arms is darker. Basically, he's a pretty hairy dude. But I think he's just as hot as my ex (and he's not a jerk, so that's even hotter ;]).
It all depends on opinions I think. Some girls aren't picky while others are. Here's my advice...do what YOU want and what YOU think looks best on YOU. Don't change it for a girl. If you like having a hairy chest, you'll definitely find a girl that either likes it or doesn't care. As long as you're comfortable with your body, no one will really mind.
As for methods, most young guys who remove their chest hair just shave it. It could be a pain in the ass though. Waxing would keep it smoother for a longer time, but it 1) hurts and 2) can be expensive if you do it regularly. Maybe get it waxed once and shave it to keep up with it.
As for pubic hair, now THIS I have an opinion on. haha. Some girls like for a guy to shave, but I DON'T, and I know that a lot of girls don't like it either. I just know I wouldn't want to go down there to see what looks like an overgrown 10-year-old boy. And don't believe that "it makes it look bigger" crap...because it doesn't. Now, I don't mean just let it go wild. Keep it trim and short (like with an electric trimmer or just scissors). It's all about hygiene. :)
Good luck!
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im going into eighth grade. and i want to know some flirting techniques that middleschoolers could use. please and thankyou :] (link)
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Ok, here are a few subtle flirting techniques:
-Reaching out to touch his arm when you talk to him
-Eye contact while you're talking
-If he's across the room you can catch his eye, give him a little smile, and then look away
-Smile/laugh with him
-Brush against him as you walk by and then look back at him. If he looks back at you, smile.
Another thing is to ask guys about themselves. Guys love talking about themselves. Ask about his family or friends. "What's your favorite thing to do on the weekend?" "What did you do over the summer?" "Do you have any brothers or sisters?" etc.
Find something you know he's interested in, such as football for example. Watch the next game that airs, and then bring it up. "So the Patriots kicked ass last night, huh?" If you make an effort to like what he likes, he'll LOVE it. Or if he's into cars, do some research so you know a little about it and you can ask him stuff like "What kind of car do you drive?" "What's your dream car?" If he's a car guy, he can talk about it for hours.
Just take an interest in him. Guys love to know that a girl actually wants to hear about his love of sports or cars or...whatever.
Good luck!
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hey i'm a guy hust wondering what kind of hair girls might like- long, short, spiky, whatever. Just say what you would like thanx! (link)
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I'm not picky, but one thing I DON'T like on guys is long hair. But on the other hand, I don't like buzz cuts. Some guys are hot with it, but I probably wouldn't date one. Gotta have something to grab on to, right? ;)
I like short spiky hair personally. Or just messy. Maybe about an inch in length.
One out of the ordinary fetish I have is mohawks. Some people just look ridiculous in them, but there is this guy I work with and it is probably the hottest thing I've ever seen. haha. Nothing crazy, just something like this:
http://tbn0.google.com/images?q=tbn:HoldVU7J4-_t-M:http://www.brock937.com/mohawk.jpg
...and maybe buzzed a little shorter on the sides.
But if you're not going for the shock value, I'd say something like this would be hot:
http://www.beauty-and-the-bath.com/image-files/guys-short-spiky-hairstyle-4.jpg
http://images.google.com/url?q=http://members.aol.com/david10567/Seann.jpg&usg=AFQjCNGlS1jBvxQ3mTeYwkUSImic2VP1hw
http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/641820/2/istockphoto_641820_young_guys_portrait.jpg
Good luck!
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For history, we have to read two books and write a paper on both. One we have to read, and the other we pick from a list. Any recomendations?
The books are:
-1876 - Gore Vidal
-The Alienist - Caleb Carr
-All the President's Men - Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein
-The Autobiography of Malcom X (as told to Alex Haley)
-The Brethren - Bob Woddward
-Burr - Gore Vidal
-The Devil in the White City - Erik Larson
-The Feminine Mystique - Betty Friedan
-Flags of our Fathers - James Bradley
-For Whom the Bell Tolls - Ernest Hemingway
-The Grapes of Wrath - John Steinback
-The Jungle - Upton Sinclair
-Lies My Teacher Told Me - James Lowen
-The Right Stuff - Tom Wolfe
-Roughing It - Mark Twain
-Uncle Tom's Cabin - Harriet Beecher Stowe
-Undaunted Courage - Stephen Ambrose
-Vernon Can Read! - Vernon Jordan
We have to summarize the book, explain the authors perspective on the subject, and explain what we liked/disliked about the book. I was going to read Lies My Teacher Told Me, but then I thought it would be too hard to summarize and write a good paper on it, since every chapter is something different. Any suggestions would be great. Also, any tips or things I should expect going into AP US history? Thanks! (link)
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Hm, well if it were me, I would choose either Uncle Tom's Cabin or Flags of our Fathers for the following reasons:
-Uncle Tom's Cabin is a CLASSIC and was very controversial in it's time and, like the last person stated, is considered one of the causes of the war.
-Flags of our Fathers was also made into a movie. I saw some of it, but I didn't finish. I think it would be an interesting read, but even more importantly, it would be VERY helpful to you once you get to the WWII portion of the class.
I took APUSH last year. We didn't have any summer reading, but we learned about a good deal of these books. If you look into the two I mentioned and aren't interested, the next ones I'd recommend just from what we learned about them is The Autobiography of Malcom X, Grapes of Wrath, and The Jungle.
I understand what you mean about the Lies book being hard to write about, but I'm definitely going to look into that book once I get done with my summer reading. It looks like an interesting read, even though I probably know all of it by now. :)
One piece of advice that may help is going on Amazon, reading the summaries of all the books, and seeing which YOU would be most interested in. Because, as we all know, the hardest books to read are the ones that bore you to death.
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What is the most accurate age that girls lose their virginity (in the US)
Ive seen many different answers. (link)
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I looked it up online and even though I didn't find a scientific statistic, I believe the average age is 15 or 16.
HOWEVER, about 75% of the girls who lose it that young regret it after they do it.
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Is a girl considered a "virgin" is she has had oral or anal sex but not intercorse? (link)
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Everyone has their own opinion on what makes someone not a virgin, but here's my take on it:
I don't think oral sex makes you not a virgin. I've given a guy oral before and I still consider myself a virgin. Even if he did it to me, oral sex doesn't take your virginity.
Now for anal. If I received anal sex, I wouldn't consider myself a virgin anymore. Take gay men for example. Some never have sex with a woman. But would you consider a gay man a virgin just because he's only had anal sex? I'd say that person is DEFINITELY not a virgin.
Vaginal intercourse is different, but I don't think that people should still say they're a virgin just because no guy has entered their vagina. You could be the biggest whore in town and just have anal and oral sex. That definitely doesn't make you a virgin.
So basically, IN MY OPINION, once penetration occurs, you are no longer a virgin.
But, like I said, everyone has their own opinions about things...there's technically no "right" answer.
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Hey
Im 16/f and I still dont have my period. Yeah yeah im a real "late bloomer" Im seeing a doctor and she says im normal. Anyways my epifoses (wowww thats def not how you spell it) The things on your bones that close are still open. Currently my boobs are between an A and B cup. (depends which brand) They are super super sore all the time. Does this mean they are growing? About when do boobs stop growing? How long after your period to they stop.. or start? Im confused. (link)
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Yes, during puberty your breasts can become very tender and sore. In part, it is because they're growing, along with a few other factors. Generally your breasts will grow until the age of 18, but with your period not started yet, I'm not sure if yours may even grow after that.
You can ask your doctor about all of this just to make sure, but as far as I know it's completely normal.
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So I have an ex that's in Cali. for training to be in the army.I talked to him for the first time today since months ago.We broke up end of October.After dumping me for his ex.. that lasted less than a month then he tried to get back with me and I denied his offer.He tried for a long time and then he finially gave up, and I was talking to a guy.I ended up with him and he is currently with his girlfriend who he dumped me for.Supposively she's pregnant and their getting married in July.Which is ridiculous because she might not be pregnant.I mean, he has his doubts and today I told him to do whatever will make him happy.He understands , but then again, he's a coward.For one, he hit her.Which is wayy off the line.Which was a while back when he went to his ex after me.Anyways, he told me he called me because they drowned him and they told them to call whomever they think changed their life in some way and had feelings for.And he thought of me.And he told me a flash memory of us when he asked me out.By then, I was like... oh god.. and he stopped telling me details of what he could remember.He also told me that he admitted to his current that he still loved me and that kills her to hear that.And he gets angry when she's talks her stuff about me, which then he sticks up for me when he doesn't even talk to me or have any communication with me.I couldn't admit to him that I miss him or love him.That would be wrong of me to do when I have a boyfriend.And tried to ask me If I missed him and I said I wasn't going to answer that.And he also asked if I ever thought about him and he added that I came to mind every once in awhile to see what I was doing, if I was drinking , am I happy.So I told him obviously because I called him.( I called him a few days ago not knowing he was in Cali for the army., but he didn't answer) And I hate admitting at all that I even had thought about him.I really don't know what to do in the situation though.It's really hard.So I went to the movies with my boyfriend tonight and I called my ex back later on when I got back..I'm not sure why.He told me to call when I wanted or whatever.And he answered shocked and he couldn't understand why I called back, which he thought I wouldn't talk to him again.But yeahh.. I just don't know what to do.I don't want to do anything to hurt my boyfriend and our relationship.I've been with him for almost 3 months.I don't even know what I'm asking.Sorry for being so long.So I guess I'm asking what do I do in this situation.I wouldn't ever go back to my ex.He did me wrong and he knows it and he even told me what he did wrong.Soo.... yeah.I'm just trying to move on.. (link)
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Wow, this is a complicated situation you've gotten yourself into.
My advice would be to stick with your current boyfriend. I'm not going to list my reasons because you know what your ex did was horrible and what he's doing to his current girlfriend is horrible as well. You don't want to get involved with a guy like that.
What I would do is not call him. It just seems to cause drama. However, if he calls you, talk to him. But do like you're doing and don't ever let him think you still have feelings for him. Tell him you just want to be friends. Don't lead him on.
I don't know if your boyfriend knows about all this, but if he doesn't I think it would be best to tell him. It's not good hiding things from the person you're with. Even if it doesn't seem like a big deal and you aren't doing anything wrong, let your guy know what's been happening and how you feel about it so he understands and isn't threatened by your ex.
Eventually you'll move on completely and so will your ex. These things take time. But never trust him as much as you used to, even if you're just friends. Don't let your guard down around him because if he hit his current girlfriend, you don't know what he will do to someone who refuses to go out with him again when he says he loves them that much.
I just think you should pretty much keep doing exactly what you're doing.
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Do long distance relationships work?
Or what are your views on them?
I'm not thinking of starting one, but a friend is and I was just wondering what others thought about them. (link)
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I estimate that 90% of long distance relationships don't work. Both people have to be SO dedicated to the other. If you start off long distance, I think the chances of it lasting is very slim. And if you date for a while and then one moves away, I think it can last a little longer just because a personal connection had time to form.
I don't have a bunch of experience in this department, but I dated my last boyfriend for 2 weeks and then he left for California for a 2 month work vacation. A week went by and we barely talked...then I found out he was dating another girl. So that's my one bad experience.
I can't really compare all long distance relationships to that, but I felt this way before I even went through that.
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does anyone know any diet pills that are effective and that 14 year olds can buy? and that are also not too too expensive? i need to lose some weight and what i'm doing is not working out.
and i'm probably ruining my body but i don;t care anymore. 121 pounds is too much for me.
anyone who can offer any advice thank you very much :] (link)
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There is exactly one diet pill that's DHA approved, and that's Alli. However, NO diet pill, even Alli, are supposed to be used by a 14 year old. And no diet pills should be used on ANYONE that weighs 121 pounds. Your body can't handle it. And, lastly, NO diet pill is inexpensive. They all cost a pretty good deal of money.
You're just going to have to do it the old fashion way. Diet and exercise, just like everyone else. Losing weight takes time, and I'm just guessing here, but you're probably already too skinny for your height.
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hi i'm 14 want my breasts to grow im a size 34A oh and for all the guys is that big? how do i make them bigger without padded or water bras or implants thanks (haven't started my period) (link)
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1. You're 14, you're not SUPPOSED to have big boobs.
2. Considering an A cup is only one step up from a sports bra, no, that's not big.
3. Without surgery, there's NO way to make your boobs grow.
4. You're just going to have to deal with what you've got. They aren't done growing until about 18.
5. Again, you're 14, no one but you should care about your tits.
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