Hey! I am a 14 year old girl who loves to give advice. If you have any problems, then just ask me and I will try to help. I promise I won't laugh at your problem, only help!! Thanx for visiting my column, and I hope I can answer any questions that you have!!! Although I am still going through, or haven't had these problem(s), that doesn't mean I can't help you!!! :-D
~A*m*a*n*d*a~
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My friend's b-day party is on Saturday. I also have a very important softball practice that same day. They are both at the same time. I (link)
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I think that you should go to the practice. tell your friend the dilemma, and if she is a good friend, then she wont mind. (even if she is disapointed) and after the practice, you can plan an extra special weekend slumber party w/ just you and her. also make sure she knows that if you could change it so you could go to both then you would, but you cant. i hope i helped!!!!
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I have a friend who is always fealing rather down and out because her 2 best friends are leaing her out. I can tell she really doesn't like it, i mean who likes to be left out. What should I tell her to do about her best friends?
Daisyswim (link)
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You should tell her to just talk to her friends about when they leave her out, that it really hurts and makes her feel unloved. And if they don't really care, or they deny, it then tell her to let it either blow over in a couple of days, or find two "new" friends.
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ok i have a really good friend and she is hurting herself by like throwing herself into walls durring school because i think she is depressed. It seems like she really doesn't want to talk about it to anyone. The other day she almost cracked her head open. (she kind of did or maybe she just got a cut on it and it started bleeding because she was banging her head on the lockers) ya i know it sound phsyco...but i don't want her 2 be like this! i mean 2day she was slamming her head against the concrete until i made her stop! what should i do to get her to either tell me whats going on or to stop her from hurting herself????? (i rate high)
ThAnKs A BuNcH!
-*Marissa*- (link)
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she might be insecure for right now but if it happens again, make sure she stops. i dont think you should bug her that would make her close up to you. what you should do is let her know that you are and always will be her friend and if she has a problem then she can always talk to you. reminder her that at least once a day. and it might help to tell her that banging her head is EXTREMELY dangerous. and tell her to try ripping paper. hope i helped and i hope she opens up to you!!!
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I have glasses and I think that is the reason why no boyz like me. My friend, Zoe, is beautiful, gets all the boyz, all the girlz wanna be her friend, and she gets like an I-POD and an electric gutair and stuff. But, anyway, I think I am nice, cool, quiet, all my friends even say so, so I just dont understand why no boyz like me. I think its just becuz I wear glasses and that hurts. What can I do to get a boy to like me?
I am 13 years old. (link)
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u r are not ugly never get yourself down, for one thing and just because boys ont like doesn make ou ugly either none of the guys are right for you you will find the right guy it takes time and if you still think your are ugly then change your look:
makeup
hair
clothes
try contacts 2
when you do that and come back to school the boys will be lining up but remember if they didnt talk to you b4 and now they are since you changed your look then watch yourself dont fall in too deep they might be shallow i hope i helped and good luck!
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On Friday my school is having talent show auditions. The problem is we were notified on Friday of this. So this gives my friends and I almost no time to get a decent act together. We were planning on dance but we cannot because we are always busy and if we want a good dance it would take several days to make up. I play the piano and can sing but I am not the best at either. I also play the clarinet but without other insturments it would sound too swqueaky. So my question is what should I do for the talent show? Should I try and get a dance together, play piano, or sing? Or should I just play the clarient? Thank you for your help. (link)
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i personaly think that you guys should find a song you all like, and then someone can sing and the others can dance. that way there can be still be dancing. good luck!!! hope i helped!!!
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i know its stupid .. but i need help!! i have never been french kissed before and i htink im ready, but i dont know how to do it! do both yo uadn your boyfriend put your tounges in each others mouth or does one just put theirs in the others mouth? and how do you know whos tounge goes on top or bottom? I REALLY NEED HELP!! (link)
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im really sorry to say this but i have the same problem you do!!! ask around, and if you can will you get back to me???
ps: it will happen sometime and when it does you will know exactly what to do!!!! hope i helped!!!!
~katkrazy~
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me and one of my best friends like the same guy but she dosent know that i like him and he asked me out and not her what sould i do say yes or no please help me i dont know what to do? (link)
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well if she is your best friend she will under stand and you should except if you really want to. like i said if she is your best friend, she will not let a guy come btween u!!!
Guys r never
Friends r 4ever
katkrazy
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im not sure if u will answer this but i need help really bad ok ijm 15 yrs ol and i weigh 190 lbs. im fat!!!!!!!!! i wana be down to at least 130 by this summer wat are some good workouts and diets i could do that oesnt cost any money? plz help (link)
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Generally, you should eat less, eat healthy and exercise at least an hour a day. But some good things to do are to ride a bike, run, and work on situps, pullups, and pushups, or even jumprope. And instead of getting someone to drive you to the store to buy candy, walk of ride your bike and instead of candy, get healthy foods. And about diets, all I can say is either join Weight Watchers, start to be a calorie counter, or try the Atkins diet. But whatever you do, DON'T BECOME ANOREXIC OR BULLEMIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I truly hope I helped, and lots of luck!!! :-D
~Katkrazy~
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Hey, I might be going to meet Nicky Hilton tommorrow [if you don't believe me don't bother commenting because I will not rate you highly]. What should I wear? I was going to wear my THAT'S HOT tshirt with a Juicy sweatsuit set, but I thought it might be cheesy, considering Paris says that! Thanks ♥ (link)
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I think you should wear something, cute, stylish, and classy. Not what you were planning, considering her sister says it's cheesy. So basicaly you should be youself.
Like a cute skirt w/ a nice shirt
Or a semi/casual dress w/ strappy heels
Or even a nice pair of jeans w/ a stylis shirt.
Don't 4get accessories!!!!! Have fun, and hope I helped!!! :-D
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O.k i'm 14/fm and live in Texas. I want a b.f. so badly, but none of the boys at my school like me cause i have braces, and i'm 5ft 2inch. I've had boyfriends, but they were'nt very much true b.f.'s. I'm always told by a friend or something that i'll never have a true b.f. that actually likes me, cause they eather say i'm not pretty enough or i'm not smart enough. My dad says i'm pretty, and i get all a's in my classes. How come guy's still don't like me. Maybe a guy could answer this question for me. Thanx lots.
Love- Lacey P.S. i give people who answer nicely 5's.True answers to please. (link)
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Well Lacey, you are not doing anything wrong, sometimes it just takes a while for the right guy to come and find you. Don't worry, there is someone for everybody. And if your friends say that you are too ugly or too dumb, then no offence to them but they aren't that good of friends. They shouldn't be negative to you and make you feel bad about youself. A real friend supports you!!!
PS: I hope "Mr. Right" comes for you soon!!!! :-D
~A*m*a*n*d*a~
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ok i asked about the games for my party earlier..and if they were too babyish..most of you said no, so thats a good sign. My next question is how many games per hour should i have? i dont want to overwhelm everyone with games..should it be once every half hour? every hour? thanks you guys (link)
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well i answered your other one and said it sounded great, so now i think ur right u dont want to overwhelm everyone, so you should have at least 2-3 games per hour, depending on how long/short the games are. good luck, it sounds great and happy sweet 16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I'm writing my boyfriend of 7 months a note, I really want it to have an impact on him. He's amazing and honest and wonderful and I don't know what I'd be without him, and I've expressed that alot through the letter. Last week, I screwed up majorly and that's why i'm writing this note to him.
-- Last week I went snowboarding and I met this guy, before an hour had passed he had asked me to make out with him, since I have a loving and caring boyfriend I didn't make out with him because it's wrong, right? Like always, NO never works on a guy, so naturally he kept on harassing me. Insted of making out, we agreed on hugging. I told my boyfriend this, and to some people this might seem "over protective" or "obsessed", but he got really upset with me.
Everything is wrong now, so I told him I didn't hug him, i just dont' want to lose him. I know i should have confessed and stayed that way, but you've got to see it from my point of veiw. What I'm trying to say is, is there anything more to put in the letter to make an impact on him... I also need to have advice on what to say to my boyfriend about the other guy.
Please help, I'm desparate. (link)
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you should tell him you love him and that you were only hugging the guy, and ask him to forgive you. do that and hope for the best!!! hope i helped!!!
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okay, for all you iditos who anwser questions with rude anwsers..go away now..because you arent wanted..
this one i would probaly like a girl to anwser..but hey, i dont care
okay, im 6th grade(girl of course)..corny but hey, and i like this guy..everyone says that we would look really good together, and i know him well. this is my 3rd year of being in the same class as him, we hang out together sometimes, and we basically sit next to eachother. well, his gf just broke up with him, althogh it wasnt a real relashonship..they never really liked eachother..well, i don't know if he likes me or not..we get along great and all..and well, i really want him to ask me out! he is so nice and funny, caring also..i always said that i would never have a bf until like 7th or 8th grade..cuz the relashonships are never real..but how can i clue him to like ask me out? or how can i get clues as to if he likes me or not? i really need help on this one..sorry for the length
signed..
need help!
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i think to find out if he likes you, you might want to have one of your friends ask him, but make sre she doesnt give you away. some (most) boys dont notice sutleness. alse you might want to always flirt and be a great friend to him at the same time, and then at some point, (when your older) if he hasnt made his move, you ask him out. good luck, and i hope i helped!!!
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im so sick of not having a bf. im 13, 5'1" 128 lbs. blonde perfect teeth, no braces. anything a guy would want! the thing is i have NEVER had a bf. my frend has and she is really really unattractive. she has hideous crooked yellow teeth and puffy frizzy hair. i dont mean to be mean but i really hate the fact that an ugly grl has had 7 bfs and i had none. please please help! (link)
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you might not like this, but you just have to wait. the right guy will come at the right time.
i hope i helped.
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i want to lose a little weight, i am going on some sort of diet but i was thinking about throwing up like 1 time or even 2 times. Its nothing big, and i am going to eat, but IF i do this whats going to happen?? Because if you give me enough reasons why not to then i might change my mind
im a big athlete and i dont want to ruin that!
i rate high (link)
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if u do that, then you wont be able to stop. it is very unhealthy, you'll end up in the ER if you take this seriously!!! if you want to lose weight, then eat healty and exercise daily, DONT be anorexic, or bulimec!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it does nothing but make you worse!!!!!!! i hope i convinced you to not become anorexic!!!!!!
katkrazy
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ok im 13 female and i started cutting because family and friend problems and i stopped 4 like 2 weeks and then i got so mad and deprest i cut again and now i want to really bad but i promised myself i wouldnt do it again because im scared someones going to find out about it and send me to a mental home or something beause of it and i have thought about killing myself one or twice but i havent gone threw with it yet but i trie to hide it from my mom and my teachers so i dont wear shorts or anything and i wear a jacket most the time so that no one see the scares but i really need help and i was going to tell someone about it but im to scared so can anyone give me advise because i could really use some right now??? please help (link)
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wow you must be going through alot in order to want to kill and cut yourself. my advice to you is to confide in something or someone like a diary, or a VERY trusted friend!!!! i really hope you stop b/c it is dangerous. so try buying a diary or journal and when you feel like cutting, write. make that your habit instead. good luck!!! wishing you the best,
amanda
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ok, i have a really big mouth, i can't keep a scercret & all of my firends get mad at me when somethihg slips. they never tell me a scerect any more, even though i am working on it. does anyone have any advise. plese help, if u can!!!!!
signed blabber (link)
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i think that you should ask your friends to give you another chance and keep working on it. practice on a little sibling, like get them to tell you a secret and dont tell anyone for as long as you can. wat you can do after that is tell your friends how you did and get them to tell you secrets again. hope i helped!!!!!
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i was thinking about who i would call up for my candle ceramony for my sweet 16..i counted 12 relatives, and the other 4 spaces would be for my friends. Problem! I have 3 friends i know im definately going to call up..but thenn there is only one more space left..and i have some other pretty close friends! :/ how doo i not hurt their feelings! (link)
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do they know when your birthday is?? if they dont then ivite who you are going to invite, and dont say anything to the people who aren't invited. if they do know when your birthday is you could always lie and say your party was cancled not the best thing to do!!! :( anyway i hope i helped!!!
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OK ive been to a few sweet 16's this year and everyone has the same thing : music and food for like 3-4 hours. People who arent the dancing queens and are dancing all night..tend to say they are bored, etc. For mine..i def dont want that to happen.
Is it a cool idea to go swimming for 2 hours at the hotel(im having my party there) with my closer friends ..then a half hour later the actual party starts? There are showers and i could bring a hair dryer (its a nice place) so my friends could do my hair so its not sopping wet. Also, there are a ton of pretty cool games i found off the internet which i was figuring would keep everyone happy.
Examples are :
(twister,hula hoop contest,game where two teams and together as a train..everyone has to walk to the finish line in single file while everyone has a bananna they have to get across without using their hands..they have to press it against the backs of the other ppl,
guy belly dancing contest, dancing/singing contest,pinata,limbo, and the human string relay, where there are two teams in a single file line. The first person has a spoon tied to yarn, and they have to put it down their shirt and pants..pass it back..same thing happens,,whoever is done first wins, "Roast" where people get up and tell funny story about guest of honor (me), game where as guests come in..you give them a necklace and tell them if they say any form of "yes" then the person who hears that can take their necklace away..person with most necklaces at the end wins.
for all these games i was thinking spending $50 on prizes for the night and for the winners i would hand out prizes
if you dont like these could you give me an idea on how to keep everyone happy and for my sweet 16 to be different and unique? thanks!! 5's for everyone who isnt rude because i know this is super long..but its really important to me
thank you again! :)
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wow that sounds awesome!!!!! i doubt anyone would be bored at this party. since i m not really a dancer, i love all the game ideas!!!! and if anyone was bored they'd be nutso!!!!! :D I hope i helped, and i hope your party is one no one will 4get cause it was soooooo awesome!!!
~KatKrazy
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i babysit this 11 yr old boy, max and i am 13/f he is taller than me and is quite mature for his age. the thing is latley he's been acting really strange. he asked me if i had my period yet and i tried to change the subject but he was persistant. oh, and the other night we were watching a movie at his house (lion king) and he is younger than me so he like layed down on me and pretended to be asleep. then i fell asleep too. when i woke up he was like all over me and touching my boobs. i dont know what to do. his parents pay well and i need the money badly. should i tell his parents, will they hire me agian? should i talk to him? HELP! (link)
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i think he is doing this cause he looks up to u and feels attracted to you. it sound pretty bad, but if i were you i would either talk to him or go to his and/or your parents b4 it gets worse.
hope i helped!!!
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