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i'm 17/m
she's 15/f
i'll start out by saying that i'm one of the shyest guys alive.
so there's this girl i'm really into, she's one of the shyest chicks alive. i think she's into me too because on aim she always starts conversations with me. so we talk a good amount on aim and occasionally see each other and talk, like in school and i drove her home once and she visits me at work all the time.
thursday i asked her to go bowling with me. here's why i'm an ass: i went with a friend of mine because i was too scared to go with her by myself. i told her ahead of time though and asked her to bring one of her friends but she said that none of them liked bowling. it was really weird because me and this girl are really shy and my friend kept rambling on about his favorite subject, drugs. i talked to her , like chit chat but never got into any real conversations like i had hoped to. i texted her later that night and told her i made it weird by bringing my friend and told that next time it would be just us.
today after work i'm gonna call her, no texting just talking, and explain that i made a big mistake cause i'm an ass. we're kinda awkward around each other cause we are both deathly shy but i'm really determined to make things work. i'd appreciate any opinions or advice very much.
well your doing the right thing, by calling her up and explaining that your sorry, just explain to her that you reall shy, pretending that you dont realize she is really shy.
definately dont hang out with your friend with her again, thats bad that all he did was talk about drugs, thats not what a girl wants to here about. it kind of makes her wonder if you do drugs too. tell her that you dont do drugs at all either on the phone, just to clear it up.
your not an ass for doing it, its just kind of awkward that he did all the talking. you'd probably be more comfertable with just you and her. you dont have to only talk, do more bowling and flirting, or whatever your going to do with her next. just apologize and that will show her that you care enough about her to apologize.
hope that helps a little :]
ok i am sooo sick of being called a skater i need a whole knew hairstly and wardrobe in order to be called something else ... but i dont know were to start i am going for like a punk/emo thing... and yes that probably makes me a poser i guess but think all you wish i just need help on were to find clothing thats cheap and punk also i need help on finding the right haircut! any advice helps =)
well i dont know if you are a guy or a girl, but try going on hottopic.com and look for clothes and also the models for the clothes have hairstyles that you could get.
hope that helps a little :]
ok, i get really really bad chapped lips. like they get bumps on them, and swell up and no matter what i do fixes them.. can you tell me how to get rid of it? thanks
go to your doctor, you probably have a condition that needs special medication that you cant find at a drugstore.
also, you probably should use the chapstick that is medicated. its usually black and it makes your lips feel much better, and then using something from your doctor should do the trick.
hope that helps a little :]
For about a year now me and my step sister have not been on the greatest of terms. we used to be really good freinds until middle school came along and she turned in to the snobby prep i couldn't even talk to. I feel like she doesn't treat me as a freind but more like her enemie i think it might be because o f my changes to with freinds and hobbbies we have grown apart i need help on finding out how to make that freindship agian
just come clean with her. sit her down and tell her that you miss the times you had together and you feel like youve grown apart. tell her you want the friendship you used to have back. she will understand and tell her thats shes changed so much and its hard for you to come out in the open. just tell her how you feel.
hope that helps a little :]
i've never had a boyfriend, im 13 and i havent even kissed one person.....i really just want to have a boyfriend, that and to get more experienced, but, how? also is there something im doing wrong that makes guys un-attracted to me?
don't worry, im exactly like you. i know its wierd but im fifteen and i still havent had a boyfriend or kissed someone.
i think it mainly depends on you, and the guys that you like. i want a boyfriend too, but im trying to be patient until the right guy comes along.
i doubt your doing anything wrong. you just need to be more open and become friends with more guys, then they will get to know you and probably like you. youll become experienced before you know it.
hope that helps a little :]
okay sorry in advance for this being so long..
but i really need help with something.
i'm a 13 year old girl and i feel very..worthless right now.i've never had a boyfriend..never kissed anyone.or anything.
the most i've done was hug one.one.
i'm in love with this boy that doesn't really know what i'm like..but he doesn't like me much because as far as he knows,i hate him.and i strongly believe he hates me too.
although maybe he doesn't,i'm not sure.
i keep getting these signs that we're going to date soon.
i keep taking quizes and such that say "his name will start with an a" or "you'll have a boyfriend soon" or something stupid like that you know?
and my friend keeps telling me that it'll happen too.
but me,being unexpeirienced,am kind of nervous about the whole situation.
but i can really really see myself with him and i really want to be with him.
i just realized today how much i like him..
can someone please help me cope with this?
any advice is MUCH appriciated..
:/
first off, dont worry about not having a boyfriend or your first kiss. im 15 and i still havent either. im not trying to scare you by that or anything.
if all of your friends say youll be with him soon, listen to them, it should make you feel really good about yourself
try not to rely on those quizzes, sometimes they are like false hope. its fun to take them, but they are usually not accurate.
if your so sure you guys are meant for each other, talk to him and flirt with him a little. your a girl and its your natural instinct to know how to flirt with guys.
everything will work out if its supposed to work out.
hope that helps a little :]
15/f
okay so i met this guy and before i actaully talked to him i saw him at and band concert and i thought he was really really cute and stuff
so i started talking to him awhile back on myspace and he seemed nice at first, but then he was being a huge butt like all the other guys that go to his school. so "Chuck" and i talked for about 4 weeks straight and then all the sudden he stopped talking to me and i tried messaging him a few days ago and he read it but he didnt respond and he said himself he wasnt like the rest of them but his pants are on fire
if you were only talking to him on myspace, the relationship was going no where. online relationships shouldnt start out online, it just doenst work.
he sounds like a jerk, so find someone else. they cant all be jerks at your school.
i think they are all jerks at my school, but ive found out that some arent as jerky as i thought
hope that helps a little :]
16 f
this might be long but i need help please help. ok so i had a boyfriend who i really loved. and i know he loved me too. there were jsut moments when you know you can feel it. we were fine and all but then i broke up with him because he was acting different liek he wasnt the same we lasted 10 months. so i asked for a break. during that break i missed him so much and he always said he missed me too. we would always talk and such. but then i decided that i wnated him back. so i tried to talk to him and he told me that i dont deserve him and i said why? and he said if i knew all of the bad things that he did to me then i would neevr want to hear from him again. so i told him tell me. and he said tht he doesnt want to hurt me but that he needs to tell me to get it off his back. he said that he cheated on me. those 8 months out of 10. i thought i was going to die when he said that to me. he also told me that he had sex with 2 girls and that while we were at themall and i went to the abthroom he saw one of his exs and hang out with them. he told me he loves me, and i was the only girl that he loved but that he couldnt take me back becuase after what he did things would never be the same. he says hes really sorry and that he does love me. he sid i showed him what real love is and that he messed up things badly and i shouldnt be with him. he said i too good for him. but after everything he said to me i still miss him. why? how can i get hurt and still miss him? what should i do now? any comments advice? thanks! for the help i really do appreciate it!
the reason you still miss him and love him, is because he came clean. he cracked under the weight of lying to you for eight months and told you.
he told you because he didnt want you to find out later and hate him, he probably wanted you to feel bad but at the same time remember him as nice because he told you the truth.
sweetie, find another man. if you want him back and he takes you back, you know hes not gonna change, hes gonna do the same things.
he's right, he doesnt deserve you because you didnt cheat or lie to him, but he did to you. he sounds like a player. find someone else that will treat you better.
hope that helps a little :]
14/f
sorry if it's long
i like this guy, let's call him D. he's best friends with my sister's boyfriend, B. i knew that D had a girlfriend, L. but she was in florida at the time, but he said that they were on the rocks, if you know what i mean.. well D & B came over to my house about three weeks ago. at first it was awkward, because my sister and B were all over each other the whole time. also, D kept texting L a lot, so i was kindof left out. and after a while, my sister and B got in a fight about something stupid, and went outside to talk about it. so me and D were just sitting in the kitchen, and then L called him. he had it on speaker, and she deffinately was drunk. i didn't hear everything she said, but after he hung up, he was like, "i'm so sick of her doing this", like she's called him drunk before. but idk. so after D & B left, i guess when they were driving home, B asked D if he liked me, and he said "if L wasn't in the picture, i'd like her." now that L's home from florida, her and D are better than ever, because they made up. but i really like him, and i don't want him to get hurt. but today, i was at a fair, and D and L were there, and i was like "hey D" and he gave me this big hug, while L was giving me dirty looks the whole time.
would it be weird if i told B that i liked him? they're like brothers, and they spend all of their time together. like, if i told him that i want to hang out with D more, even though L is home?
thanks in advance
definately tell B that you like D. that would make things much easier. because then D will realize that you like him and he likes you. then L and D will probably get into a fight, then he'll come to you for support. if he asks you out right after they break up or get into a little fight. DO NOT say yes, because that means hes using you to get revenge and make his old girlfriend L jealous. tell him not now, not right after he broke up with L and tell him why. just hang out with him more and he'll realize that your more for him, not L.
hope that helps a little :]
Is it bad to feel good when guys look at you or try to talk to you when you have a boyfriend.Not to want to want a relationship, But just look at you and think you some what attractive.I sometimes you know, look at guys.Just think their cute or whatever.Not to where I forget I'm taken and want to hook up with them, But just to look.And want them to look at you.I kind of feel guilty though for even looking or somewhat liking when cute guys look.Is this wrong or what.Also, is it bad to still have feelings for you ex and your boyfriend not know.That your ex wants you back , But your with someone.Not that you want to be with your ex... basically because you KNOW he did you wrong and you just don't picture yourself with him EVER.I still think about him and love him and stuff.Just I know nothing will never be.Obviously I know that because I'm with someone , trying to move on.I still keep in touch with my ex.. But it seems like he can't accept that I'm with someone and happy.He's getting desperate because his girlfriend dumped him.I don't know what to do anymore.I need some help...anyone know what I can do and tell me if what I first said was wrong.. and what I can do about the ex?
first of all, its not at all wrong to look at guys and have guys look at you. it makes you feel special, it just makes you feel good about yourself when guys look at you.
basically, they are just checking you out, its not like if you look back there gonna come up to you and go wanna go out, thats not usually the case. and if that ever does happen, be like sorry i have a boyfriend.
you dont have to tell your boyfriend, he knows that you probably find other guys cute, but he's lucky to have you and thats all that matters. he probably thinks other girls are pretty but hes not gonna go ask them out, like you wouldnt get asked out by some random guy.
about the ex...tell him plain and simply that you cant go out with him, that he hurt you and you never want to be hurt by him like that again. it sounds like he wants to go back out with you because he's on the rebound from his last girlfriend, and you dont want to dump something good and get treated badly again.
just stay with your boyfriend, if things dont work out and you break up, then maybe give your ex a chance, but otherwise dont do anything with him.
hope that helps a little :]
Hey guys
17/m
Here's the deal.
I like this girl. I mean, i like her a fair bit. But i'm not sure if she likes me back or not. I mean, recently she has been saying in quizzes (i know not the greatest source of all knowledge in the world) that she isn't sure if she fancies someone. And its just the timing is kind of coincidental. So I was just wondering what you guys think I should do?
See, i don't want to say anything and potentially ruin what could be a good friendship, but then again if i don't take the chance i probably never will.
So yeah, I was just wondering what you guys thing I should do.
ok this is kind of hard, i know im younger then you but ill do my best.
i dont think you should plainly come out and tell them, because that has gone wrong a lot for me. you could say oh i dont want our friendship to be ruined, but i kinda like you. that sometimes doesnt work, depending on the person. things may get awkward.
just flirt with her a little, your a guy and i expect you know how to flirt. show her that you have feelings for her without actually telling her. speak more with your touch rather than your mouth, that way you'll be able to see if she flirts back a little. also hang out with her more, ask her to go to the movies, which is the best place to flirt, or the mall where you could talk, and she probably likes shopping.
hope that helps a little :]
I have like, a dark red sorta colour hair (dyed). Being as it's now summer and i have 6 weeks off, i wanted to put highlights in my hair.
But, i'm not sure what colour. I wanted maybe purple or blue but i don't know what colour would look good in my hair.
Any ideas?
hmm im not sure if your a guy or girl, but purple and blue isnt the way to go. i would recomend either a dark blonde, or a very light brown, that would look the best, but im not sure of your style. try anything you feel because its summer, so it doesnt really matter! hope that helps a little :]
I want to do something new with my room.
I can't paint my room.
I have the box room. It's really small but i want to change it around a little, because it's been the same for months now.
Any ideas?
hmm i always get the same problem. the trick is that you change up your furniture to make it suitable and comfertable for you. if you want change so bad maybe its not suited for you. you could hang things up on the walls. i dont know if your a guy or girl, but i bought a cheap bulltien board thing, and i had all my friends and family write me little fun things and drew pictures and i put them up, it just made my room look cooler. hope that helps a little :]
I need help finding a knew hairstyle thats emo and i know i sound like a poser.
well im not sure if your a girl or boy, but my friends go on sites that are sort of punk and emo, like hottopic.com, then you look under the clothes for boys or girls and see if there are any styles, or try google and yahoo. youll eventually find something. hope that helps a little :]
Hey now i just moved back to connecticut form florida and i am really nervous to get back to school i mean last year alot of kids called me names like gay or fag and belive me i am not gay i have had three girlfreinds. buut how could i get people to stop saying this kind of stuff cause its not helping my self confidence and it just makes me more nervous and paranoid about everyone around me
ok so you can't really make them stop, because kids are kids. they are really immature and you just have to be above them. ive had my share of getting called names, and i know how you feel because they sometimes go to far. just dont become the same as them. if someone says it to your face in the hallway or something, stop and look at him or her and just say, wow your pathetic, because they must be if they have such low self esteem that they have to make up things that arent true. even if it was true they still shouldnt say things like that. just dont pay attention to it, and if you dont let it bother you, it will eventually stop because they will get bored because you have no reaction to it. hope that helps a little :]
Okay well there's this guy that I really like. And he really likes me too. But the only problem is I don't talk. Like we'll be on the phone.. and I can never think of anything to say. He always says the "how was your day" basic things so I can never say those. And then when I say weird off-the-wall things he's like "uhhh okay?" so there is nothing to talk about. WHAT CAN I DOOOO????
ok i had the same problem. but to tell you the truth. if you cant find anything to talk about, maybe your only attracted to each other, not really for the personality if you have nothing to talk about. tell him that you think the conversations you have are boring. that you want to talk about more things. and if nothing happens, stop talking on the phone as much. talk more in person, it will be less awkward. i hope it helps :]
i want to know if im considered a racist. i can be friends with black people, i have 3 black friends but i can never picture myself dating or having sex/children/marrying a black guy. is this racism or just prefrences?
it's not racism. you dont single them out,and you dont make fun of them for their color or race. it's just what you prefer. some people only like african americans, some dont prefer to date them at all. some african americans wont date white people, and some only will. its kind of like a taste in people, you can be friends with them, but they're not dateable in your eyes. im white and i have african american friends, and i wouldnt mind dating them but i wouldnt go for them because i have a different taste. dont worry its not racism because another person in another race may feel the same way about you. its totally normal. hope that helps :]
15/f So i have this friend who is the same age as me and he lives like 5 houses down... this summer we have been hanging out alot... and i mean like 5 hours every other day... i have a lot of friends and he like... never leaves his house.. hed rather play video games then hang out with ppl but lately ive been having feelings for him and its realli freaking me out.. like he is realli fun to be around and ive known him since like 7th grade... well a few weeks ago i was like "what would you say if i said i liekd you more then a friend" and he got realli like nervous and later he told me online that we were to good of friends... so i kinda dropped it but im realli starting to have feelings for him and i realli want to win him over it a very SUBTLE way...what do i do i mean ive never had like a real boyfriend and hes never had a real girlfriend.....please help...what do i do!??!
Thanks
just be yourself. if this kid has any sense, he'll realize that he cant let you slip away. just dont try to act different. try to talk to him more and talk to him about stuff that both of you like. youll eventually realize if you really like him, and if he really likes you. hope i helped :]
on the hills commercial, where it's talking about the season premiere. what's that song?
it's a girl singing.
and it's like "good things come to an end" or something like that, i don't know exactly.
THANKS!
its nelly furtado-all good things (come to an end). hope i helped :]
15/m
Three years ago i moved and changed school when i was at the other school i realy like some girl but i was to shy to tell her, so now i live about 40 minutes away from her and i had not seen her, i found her on myspace and i told her i liked her she also told me she like me, so what i want to know is how often do long distant relationships work? saying ill only see her about mayby once a month
let me tell you something, dont do it. it would be so hard for you and her, plus you dont know what she could be doing with other people. find a girl that you can see as much as possible, once a month wouldnt cut it, it would hurt you too much. its better that you stay the kind of friends with benefits, the one time you see her, you dont have to be shy you know? trust me, having that kid of relationship does not work. my old bf lived about 20 minutes away from me and it was so hard, and i never got to see him, i ended it, can you imagine how hard it will be for you if she lives 40 mintues away? i dont think you should, but you should keep in touch with her. just tell her it would be too hard on both of you, even though you still really like her. hope that helped you out a little bit. :]