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need help..ex
16 f
this might be long but i need help please help. ok so i had a boyfriend who i really loved. and i know he loved me too. there were jsut moments when you know you can feel it. we were fine and all but then i broke up with him because he was acting different liek he wasnt the same we lasted 10 months. so i asked for a break. during that break i missed him so much and he always said he missed me too. we would always talk and such. but then i decided that i wnated him back. so i tried to talk to him and he told me that i dont deserve him and i said why? and he said if i knew all of the bad things that he did to me then i would neevr want to hear from him again. so i told him tell me. and he said tht he doesnt want to hurt me but that he needs to tell me to get it off his back. he said that he cheated on me. those 8 months out of 10. i thought i was going to die when he said that to me. he also told me that he had sex with 2 girls and that while we were at themall and i went to the abthroom he saw one of his exs and hang out with them. he told me he loves me, and i was the only girl that he loved but that he couldnt take me back becuase after what he did things would never be the same. he says hes really sorry and that he does love me. he sid i showed him what real love is and that he messed up things badly and i shouldnt be with him. he said i too good for him. but after everything he said to me i still miss him. why? how can i get hurt and still miss him? what should i do now? any comments advice? thanks! for the help i really do appreciate it!
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the reason you still miss him and love him, is because he came clean. he cracked under the weight of lying to you for eight months and told you.
he told you because he didnt want you to find out later and hate him, he probably wanted you to feel bad but at the same time remember him as nice because he told you the truth.
sweetie, find another man. if you want him back and he takes you back, you know hes not gonna change, hes gonna do the same things.
he's right, he doesnt deserve you because you didnt cheat or lie to him, but he did to you. he sounds like a player. find someone else that will treat you better.
hope that helps a little :]
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In the beginning, you thought that your (now ex) boyfriend was this amazing guy who would do nothing to hurt you, no matter what the circumstances.
The key word in that statement is THOUGHT. You thought he was a great boyfriend, and you thought wrong. Anyone who cheats on their significant other isn't a great partner, no matter how sweet or wonderful he/she may seem to be.
What I'm trying to say is that you are in love with and miss the man you thought he was, not his true self.
Even if you got back with him, the relationship would be horrible. Everytime he goes out with his friends, you'll wonder if he's going to see the girl he cheated on you with again. If he cheated on you for eight months, he could easily do it again as he must be pretty sly if he kept it from you for that long. Rekindling your romance will do nothing but hurt you.
Have a girl's night with your closest friends. Don't keep all your deepest feelings inside; Let them out. Know that it's okay to cry, and that it's okay to do so on the shoulder of someone you trust.
You'll pull through this, I promise.
Good luck, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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i agree that you miss him because you loved who you thought he was. if ever yall decided to get back together itd just be a recipe for disaster and heartbreak. would you have faith that he wouldnt do that to you again? think about it.. 8 months of your relationship was a lie, and he says that you showed him what real love was, but if that was so i couldnt possibly imagine why he was only faithful for two of those ten months. i mean, having sex with two other girls? hun thats about as low as it gets. he doesnt deserve you, without a doubt. if he really loved you he wouldnt have gone behind your back & cheated repeatedly. please do yourself a favor and dont ever ever ever take his sorry self back. chances are it would only happen again. just keep reminding yourself of all the bad he did to you [itll make you get over him alot faster ha] and find yourself a guy who will be true to you, because i promise there are some out there. good luck girl!
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i think your in love with the person you thought he was. even if he treated you bad cause we all want something we think we can change.and as for him telling you he loves you and your the first girl hes ever loved , he would never have done that to you in the first place and you do deserve better anygirl does =]
♥christina
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He's right, you dont deserve him.
You deserve better.
Your way better then him.
You gave him everything while he took everything for granted.
You might still miss him, that's perfectly normal.You miss knowing the guy you thought you knew, thats what it is. But don't get the feeling that you want to get back to him because you dont wan't to face the same thing again. Just move on. you dont want a guy like that. If it took him 8 dang months to realize that, he's not even worth being with you. You're too good for him.
I Hope I helped!
-Speakfreely
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honestly i haven't been threw this but if you were my friend
i would tell you that you should forget about him
that may sound really mean and hard
but hun if he did that to you, he may love you but he needs your trust for you two to be together and im sure you don't trust him still
just try your hardest to forget about him and then you can find you a real man and you wouldnt have to worry about him cheating on you
keep your head up
sorry if it doesnt really help you
<3Abby
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