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Is it wrong.. and what do I do?
Is it bad to feel good when guys look at you or try to talk to you when you have a boyfriend.Not to want to want a relationship, But just look at you and think you some what attractive.I sometimes you know, look at guys.Just think their cute or whatever.Not to where I forget I'm taken and want to hook up with them, But just to look.And want them to look at you.I kind of feel guilty though for even looking or somewhat liking when cute guys look.Is this wrong or what.Also, is it bad to still have feelings for you ex and your boyfriend not know.That your ex wants you back , But your with someone.Not that you want to be with your ex... basically because you KNOW he did you wrong and you just don't picture yourself with him EVER.I still think about him and love him and stuff.Just I know nothing will never be.Obviously I know that because I'm with someone , trying to move on.I still keep in touch with my ex.. But it seems like he can't accept that I'm with someone and happy.He's getting desperate because his girlfriend dumped him.I don't know what to do anymore.I need some help...anyone know what I can do and tell me if what I first said was wrong.. and what I can do about the ex?
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first of all, its not at all wrong to look at guys and have guys look at you. it makes you feel special, it just makes you feel good about yourself when guys look at you.
basically, they are just checking you out, its not like if you look back there gonna come up to you and go wanna go out, thats not usually the case. and if that ever does happen, be like sorry i have a boyfriend.
you dont have to tell your boyfriend, he knows that you probably find other guys cute, but he's lucky to have you and thats all that matters. he probably thinks other girls are pretty but hes not gonna go ask them out, like you wouldnt get asked out by some random guy.
about the ex...tell him plain and simply that you cant go out with him, that he hurt you and you never want to be hurt by him like that again. it sounds like he wants to go back out with you because he's on the rebound from his last girlfriend, and you dont want to dump something good and get treated badly again.
just stay with your boyfriend, if things dont work out and you break up, then maybe give your ex a chance, but otherwise dont do anything with him.
hope that helps a little :]
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its ok to look and want to be looked at
i used to be like tht even if i was with a guy i liked. and its normal to feel guilty because some people dont want to look or have the desire to be looked at.
the ex situation is always hard
i had an ex once that treated me like poo and i liked him for a long time after we broke up
and i had a bf who i was happy with and he was happy with me but i couldnt live with the guilt of being with him but wanting my ex back
in the end i broke up with him . what im saying with this is its not right to want your ex and have a great boy by your side.but theres nothing you can do about the ex liking you . just hope he moves on and i would tell your bf that you still have feelings for him but you still want to be with him but just understand how he feels when you tell him goodluck ♥christina
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first off, it is not bad to look at guys and want them to look at you. you cant help them to look at you and just because you have a boyfriend will not make you not think someone is cute. if you started hooking up with them, yes. and you might want to try to avoid flirting. but looking is perfectly fine. i do it all the time.
if you have feelings for someone, it is very hard for you to not have feelings for them afterwards. you may not want to be with them, but you probibly will always have a little feelings for them. if your boyfriend doesnt know, thats okay. it isnt a big deal and its not a bad thing to keep that from them.
you should talk to your ex and say that you just need to be friends. you need to help him accept that your with someone else right now. tell him that it didnt work out before, and you just dont think it might now work out again.
i hope i helped.
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1st dont feel quilty for talking to another guy
2nd its fine to look you just can't buy anything
3rd its okay for you to have feelings for an ex your boyfriend doesnt need to know all about your past relationships
but if you feel the need tell him, it might help, but youll know whether you should or not
4th try and forget about him you have someone else and if you cant get over him maybe you and your boyfriend should take a break and then you can see which one is best for you
hopefully i helped
abby
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