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Hey y'all. I have been threw alot in the past sixteen years. From Family issues to Friends to Boyfriends. I can help on pretty much anything you need help with so ask me anything. If you dont want to post it on here you can always im me or email me. Or if you want to just chat, or ask more things related to what you have asked before.
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I have this friend named Emily. She has recently just liked this guy named Justin. Well a week ago she decided she didn't like him anymore. Last night they were talking online and Justin told Emily that he really really liked me and he was going to ask me out and if i said no then he would like be at da point crying. I don't like him and i don't really want to go out cuz i like someone else but my friend wants me to go out w/ him... what should i do?

hun just tell him that you want to get to know him or sumthing.. i mean dont lie to him but think about it tell him you dont like him like that..

ok today I was talking to my boyfriend and he said that i dont think this relationship is gonna work out and i asked him y and he said because we dont ever do anything together and when where on the phone I never talk to him. ok this is no reason to break up with someone but i said that we cant ever go anywhere because your grounded and you dont say anything on the phone then he hung up on me wat do i do? Should i call him back should i break up with him help me out here!!!
SCM

hey hun well duh call him back you too need to talk about everything that is goin on.. why does he get grounded.. i mean maybe he can change that and make plans with him and try to fix it all but remember you cant do it all by your self.. hope i helped
Jaymi lynne

Ok, im 13 year old female and just broke up with my boiifriend!! the main reason i did this is because i like another boii!! lets just call him "bob"! all of my friends think that i shouldn't go out with bob cuz he is a player!! but one of the security gaurds at skool told me that i can be the one girl to set him straight and that my friends should beleive in me. they should beleive in the fact that i could change him. but they still don't they say it's because they don't want me to get hurt!! sooooo..... wat should i do?

hey i kinda put one of my friends in the same thing.. just talk to your friends n be like ok look i really like this guy and so what if he is a player my best friend went out with one and those too are fine.. he changed and he like loves her so much so yeah theres the chance he changes.. but you cant be a bitch to your friends. because they are just trying to make sure you dont get hurt.. so just try to take things slow with you n *bob and talk to your friends about it all and explain it too them
hope i helped
Jaymi

I have a freind. The other day we went over to her house and it was scarry i didn't know that her brother was the guy i had been hanging out with before i met her. How do i tell her that i know who he is and ahe doesn't have to keep explainig him to me. Irate high!

-Haley

hey hun just tell her that you n him were hanging out before why would she care? it cant be that bad

Last year i went to this valentines day dance. my best friend had a girlfriend and i didnt and i felt like a "tag-along". he has so many girls that like him and i think it might happen again this year. i was thinking that i might try to ask someone too but i dont really like anyone so i dont have anyone to ask. I was just going to find someone that i liked a little bit and ask her but im not sure. Should i ask somebody or should i go alone like last year? What should i do? Please help.

hey well do you have any "girl friends" who you no dont have a date.. just ask one of them if they want to go as friends.. you dont have to go as a date date just as friends with some one. i'm sure if you ask some one they would go with you.

Alright i recently got my hair cut to shorter then i ever had it before...kinda past my shoulders...and it's soo thinned out too but the point is my hair use to be where my boob was...around there and its about
------------------------------------------- this much. how long do u think will it take for me to grow it out again? my said a month but then again it's her...so please help! i've been depressed about this since wednesday! i'm never getting it cut at that place again. please help!

hey hun my hair was that shorth its getting longer but it has been taking about a month and a half... just find a shampoo that will help i no there out there my friend has it i can check up on it and try to get back to you bout it

well, see i used to have these two really good friends and I had so much fun around them. then things got shaky and they started hanging around these really bad guys that always wanted us to do stuff for them , and I couldnt take it. turns out, their realtionships at home got worse and they started fighting with their moms and such. but i still remember all the fun times we had. should i let them back in?

hey well first are they still hangin out with these "bad guys"? and why are they fighting with their moms? just be careful n dont get yourself into all of that again

Are you suppose to wash your hair everyday?Not Because I wash my hair everyday.Someone told me It like ruins the hair or bad for it.Thanx

well iono i wash it everyday but i guess your not suppose to your suppose to wash it every other day but yeah iono forsure i just wash it everyday so i no i am clean... lol

I went out with this guy for about 2 months. He was really shy and It didn't feel like we were even dating. So I dumped him. Now it has been a little less than a month since we broke up and one of his good friends just called me and asked me out! So I don't know him that well; he's ok looking but not what I go for and also he is nice and I don't want to make him feel bad so I told him I'll tell him tomorrow. So anyway, even though I want a boyfriend, I don't want him but I'm afraid that if I go out with someone else later on and say no to him he'll feel crappy! Usually when I don't want 2 go out with a guy who asks me out I just keep saying I'll tell you tomorrow and then finally say yes or no after about 5 days of torture! But now I'm in middle school and I know better than to lead them on! What do I do? Oh and not that I care what people think, but people always know who's dating and this kid isn't much of cool he is kind of weird and even though he hangs with popular kids he doesn't seem so popular...people will talk! So anyway sorry this is so long and thanks for reading this. Today is January 12 and I need advice before tomorrow if possible so please try to hurry! Thanks. I will rate you a 5!
I am 14 years old and a female of course!

hun just tell him you would rather be friends and get to know him better.. that way he wont feel like shit and you dont have to worry about it. And i am sorry but who cares what other people think. Trust me yeah they will talk a little but thats just because they are immature...

Guys like to say girls are difficult but guys can be just as difficult too. There's this guy who no matter how hard I try to not like him, he stays in my mind constantly. I know most would say move on but the truth is I can't. He's not dating anyone at the moment but he loves to flirt a lot. We've been friends for awhile and it didn't seem like him, but he played me. He promised my bestfriends that he wouldn't hurt me and also he let them know that he liked me a lot but he never came around to asking me out. Should I still wait for something to happen even though it's been months, or just force myself to move on?

hey hun been there before just try to move on but at the same time like him... if you meet a different guy go for it theres no point on wasting time on him if hes not gonna give you a try... and you dont want some one who is that much of a flirt.

This is a serious question, so please don't joke about it. I know it's long..but if you read it, I'll really appreciate a decent answer. My friend and are both 13 and female. Yesterday at lunch my friend wasn't eating. She usually doesn't eat lunch, but I hadn't really caught on until now. I asked her why she wasn't eating and just said "I don't know". I asked her when she had last eaten a full meal and she said it was about a week ago! Only a couple of her close friends know this, but I was the most recent one to find out. Why aren't her friends doing anything about it? I've been thinking about it all yesterday and today. I had a long chat with her online last night about it and she answered some questions that I asked. One: I asked her (again) why she hadn't eaten in the last week. She told me it was a way to relieve "stress". She also said she thought of doing this, since it is better than cutting herself. Her parents are divorced so she says to one parent that she eats at the other house and vice-versa. Basically our whole lunch table knows this about her, so one of my friends buys her a snack everyday. We try to make her eat it, but she just turns her head and shuts her mouth. She said that she won't let it go that far. I told her that this is going to become a bad habit for her and she needs to start going back to her regular eating before it gets worse. I never would have expected this to happen to her. She's not fat (and she doesn't think she's fat either), she's NEVER sad (always happy and hyper), I just don't know. I know I have to tell someone about this. But I didn't think I would ever be in a situation like this. It scares me. She told me not to tell her parents or anyone else. I want to tell so badly..but at the same time, I just want to let it go! If I tell, I'm so scared I will lose her as a friend. I need someone to help my friend and me. Please.

Hey hun i am going threw the same thing only me n my friend both arent eating so i can tell you how she feels. You need to keep talking to her bout it make her eat. its not good for her to just stop eating.. she is gonna end up really sick if she doesnt. My friend has been shaking alot n i have been getting dizzy n headaces. We have both started to eat at least one full meal a day. and we have a lil snack now n then. If you want tell your friend to im me (xiloveyoux35) or email me (lildevilchic35@yahoo.com) i will be happy to talk to her about anything.. so yeah i hope i kinda helped... if she wont atleast eat one meal a day you are gonna have to tell someone.
Much love
Jaymi Lynne

At my old school i had so many boy friends and now at my new school, i doubt that any of the boys even like me!...how can i get that to change? i want boys to like me more than a friend and i miss having a boy friend...

How long have you been at this new school? just give it time.. let them get to know you. I am sure they just dont want to be all over you rite when you get there...

Okay well I am 13 years old. I think I am one of the fattest people out their! I weigh about 105, and I am about 5,1 ½ .. There are like 4 people who tease me, and call me fatt because they know it gets to me, and I cry all the time. About 1 week ago I tried making myself throw up. It hurts, but I don't care. I am also on a diet. So the food I eat is healthy still get's vomited out. But oh well. But my two best friends ones a guy who I like love with all my heart, and one is a good girl friend of mine are so pissed that I do this, and tell me not to listen to what people think =/ They said if I continue to do it they'll refuse to talk to me.. Urg! I wanna lose a lot of weigh for summer, and stuff and this is a pretty good way to do it but I dont know because I dont wanna lose my friends anymore =/ .. Ekkkk what to do?

hun your not fat... trust me... and you really need to stop making your self throw up... thats so not healthy.... hun you need to just trust in your two best friends and stop listening to what other people think... your friends prolly wont hate you they are just really worried about you... you need to get some help.. like talk to your friends about it.. hun dont worry about what others say about you... they are just people the only people that should matter what they think of you is your friends.. and they shouldnt care if your different n stuff... i hope i helped if you wanna talk more you can always email me i no what you are going threw i went threw it all too... my email is lildevilchic35@yahoo.com
much love
Jaymi Lynne

ok i met this guy off buddypic a while back and hes got a salute and a lot of pictures so i know its him for sure and we talk on the phone and stuff....well he wants to meet me next weekened and hes already talking about fucking me in the car next weekend....hes like oh well have SO much fun....i have a boyfriend though of 5 months...and we promised to NEVER cheat on eachother..and me and my boyfriend havent even fucked..should i do this??

hun... i wouldnt... i mean you dont even really know this other guy and you have a boyfriend... does he no bout this guy? i dont think you should do anything with the guy... i'm sorry. its cool if you go n meet him but dont do anything...

Okay this is a question for guys and girls. im a 15 year old girl and i like this kid and he said that he likes me to but he doesn't want a girlfriend. im confused though cause we have like 45 min conversations on the phone and talk alot. what does that all mean?

well i am goin threw the same thing... have you ever asked him why he didnt want a girlfriend? i mean maybe he just got out of a relation ship or iono... but he does like you.. i mean no guy would be on the phone for 45 min if he didnt... just ask him why he dont want a girlfriend maybe its that he dont know you enough...

okay tomorrow i have to watch my aunt and uncles puppy rottie.my grampa is going but i dont think he will be a big help.anyway does any one got an idea to keep him calm or any other tips??
ples help i rate reeeeel high:)

well i dont have a dog but i guess you could just play with him... like you cant keep a puppy calm... so just play with it all it was is attention....

ok.....you answered another one of my problems but what if your to shy to talk to the guy you like? I get all nervous around them and im scared im going to say something and embares myself.

yeah i no how that feels.. but you kinda just have to take the chance... you dont want to be shy around him because he can get the feeling you dont like him... and if you want just have one of your friends go with you when you talk to him.. so that way its not that bad and the next time you can talk to him by your self.. i do that all the time... hope i helped... if you ever need anymore advice just ask i will help you...

me and my ex bf have broken up 11 months ago and i have been with my current bf 10 months. i went out with my ex for 2 years and a month... i love my curent boyfriend alot..... but i cant help but think abt my ex from time to time.... he broke up with me saying he didnt love me but the next day he called me to tell me he just wanted to see other people and he wanted me to wait for him.... and that he still loved me.... should i have waited is that why i still think abt him till this day..... is that normal after all this time i still think abt him....can it be that i do love my boyfriend i have right now but im still wondering abt the ex? this is tearing me up please help

Hey hun... ok my best friend is goin threw the same thing... it takes half the time you went out with a guy to get over it... but if you were in love with him you are always gonna feel sumthing for him... all you can do is love your new boyfriend as much as you can... and try really hard to not think of the other guy... i mean you have lasted 10 months with the other guy so you really do like him alot so you cant let your ex boyfriend get in the way just because you still have some feeling for him... i hope i helped... if not you can always ask my friend bout it... you can im her at xomegzmichellexo or advice site is http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=mEgAnMiChElLe hope one of us can help you...

Aight well, I have a friend and she wants to start to see some other people and thinks i am holding her back. But the thing is i am not (not that i relize but inn her eyes it might) anyway i have met a lot of people to no one is holding me or her back. I don't want to lose our friendship but maybe it is too late. See the other day she told me she is gonna start seeing other people. I was sad all night and the next day because i thought this would change our special relationship. I never want to end our relationship. She means the world to me and no one can change that. She is soo friendly, caring loving and supportive. I want her to see other people and i don't have a problem with it but afraid that it might hurt our relationship. I totally freaked when she told me she wanted to see other people because i was afaid of loosing her and now i don't she might be mad i over reacted wat should i do??

Sincerely,
Afraid friend

Just call her and tell her your sorry for over reacting but you are afraid your gonna lose her as a friend. tell her that your relationship with her means so much to you.. i am sure she will forgive you for it.. hope i helped...

Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend, I was only dating him for like a month and a weekish. & He kept saying Fuck this, I'm sick of you & hung up. He does it occasionally. So, I told him it was over. He was really upset and started crying. I'm so sick of him doing it, and I've told him. We've got into SO many fights lately, and I dont know why. I told him tonight when we talk I'll tell him if I wanna continue the relationship or just break it off. Also, he said if we break up he won't talk to me ever again, because he doesn't want to keep liking me, if we break up. What should I do?

hun you dont need to put up with all of that..you need to just call it off for good... even if he wont talk to you its a chance you have to take... hope i help a lil...

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