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I have been w/ my amazing bf for 10 months. I have never cheated until this relationship. Before him I dated a guy who cheated on me a lot. My parents made me breakup w/ him and threatened to take everything away from me.. I'm not in high school btw I am in college. I could not stop seeing my ex, I still love him. I am still seeing my ex and my current bf. it is seriously making me sick to my stomache. Idk why I even so it because I am not sexually attracted to my ex... I just love him and don't know what I would do without him... But I also lOve my bf... None of them know about each other and both think I am exclusive. It is almost making me want to move away and cut ties with everyone.... Advice?? (link)
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Well, it sounds to me like you are in love with what you thought you and your ex had, and upset you never ended it on your own terms as your parents forced you to do it. Your ex betrayed you, and I think you need time to overcome that, in the meantime, you know what you are doing is wrong.
You said you want to be with your current boyfriend and yet you love your ex as well, that's understandable. Perhaps he was your first serious boyfriend or he just met your expectations and because of that he'll always have a place in your heart, but you will be hurting him more by keeping up with this façade.
My advice would be to break it off with your ex since we established you don't want to be with him, tell him you can be friends and perhaps in the future it'll change, who knows? And then really sit and think if you want to be with your boyfriend now, if you did, ask yourself why you did this, knowing yourself how it feels.
I don't want to sound like I am lecturing, but this is a serious topic so I want you to really think before you make your decisions. Just remember, it's your life, not your parents, do what makes YOU happy, not them.
goodluck
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I have no guys in my life when all my other friends and most girls my age do. I've never had a boyfriend and have never done anything sexual besides drunk kissing at parties if that even counts( no, I'm not gay!). I'm a bit overweight but not too much and not ugly, I'm told sometimes that I'm pretty and get compliments every so often. I usually attribute my issues with this to my looks, thinking I'm not pretty enough for guys to notice me. This may be part of the problem but I'm sure it has to do with shyness and low self-esteem too. I have a hard time coming out of my shell and I'm a very cautious, careful person. As much as I try I can't change this about me. and I don't think that wearing slutty outfits would make so much of a difference. I know that confidence is most attractive, blah, blah, blah. But I have a good personality, I'm kind, intelligent, witty, and talented and have a good amount of friends. That combined with being somewhat pretty should get me SOME male attention, right? Why is it that I get NONE at all besides the occasional guy grinding up on me at the club? All of my friends have flings and relationships .Why can't this be me? I'm in my third year of college and literally haven't experienced anything yet. How is my confidence supposed be high in this regard if no one shows interest in me? (link)
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Hey, I really know where your coming from! It took me 18 years before a guy even asked me out and almost 20 years for me to find my first boyfriend. I'm sure you are very pretty, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and in college guys usually aren't interested in a relationship, they want to get laid as often as possible, and if you don't agree with one-night stands then stand by it!
I found after the first few guys paid attention to me, more started to follow, I can only guess that the first few boosted my confidence, so think of everyone that HAS paid attention to you, they thought you were pretty and worthy of their time after all.
Boosting your confidence is a good start, but don't rely on others to boost it for you, think of who you are, you're smart, pretty, funny, and you have a collection of friends who clearly see that in you :)
Stand tall and wait for the right guy who will make you realise just how special you are.
Goodluck
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My grandmother passed away about 4 months ago now. She left behind a small will, but many possessions that were not listed in the will. Currently, most of these things (decor, books, jewelry) are sitting in our house. With several items, people have just expressed interest in them and my mom or dad will just generously give them away, as we don't really need them, and it seems like what my grandma would have wanted.
There is one box, however, that has remained untouched. This is all of my grandmother's jewelry. We aren't sure of a lot of the value, and so we haven't really decided what to do with it. Recently though, I was made aware that my grandma's wedding and anniversary rings are also in this box, and she hadn't left them to anyone in her will.
Here is my question- I am getting married next year, and currently my boyfriend and I are looking at rings. Honestly, I would really love to have my grandma's ring, but it seems a little rude to ask for it, because I don't want to seem like I am trying to profit off her passing or anything...
Is there anyway I could bring this up without coming across like I am using my grandma's death for my own benefit?
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It isn't making profit off of her passing away, it's a lovely way of keeping a part of her close to you :) just ask and explain that you loved your grandmother and the sentiment would mean the world, it's almost like having her at the wedding :)
Your parents are sure to understand as many people have used their parents/grandparents rings for weddings. Besides, a wedding ring is something you keep forever, You aren't going to sell it and I'm sure your family knows that :)
Good luck and congratulations x
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so im 13 and gave head to these 4 boys and then people heard bout it and i want to know does it make me a slut my friends said no because i can do what i want but i really am regreting it i mean i dont know they gave me sexual favors but i dont know 13/f HELP! (link)
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Hmm, at 13 and giving head to 4 different boys isn't considered very pure to be honest.
At 13 you should be more interested in what new films are out or the latest single, trust me it will be gaining you a bad reputation.
When you get older, you'll meet the perfect man and he'll ask how many you have slept with etc. and alot of men would be very put off by a large number. Do yourself a favour and stop making it so easy for these boys to get their way with you. It is your life and I won't control it, but, in my opinion you are not giving yourself the best start to becoming an adult.
goodluck x
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Well i like to go to any state to a great biology-vet school the problem is that i would have to rent an apartment and will have to share it with a roommate, it get scary since i will be pretty far from home and i don't even know how to cook *yeah amazing but i hate cooking i love doing other non-kitchen stuff*
I need advice from people who had the experience of moving to other place and having a roommate, and being far without knowing anybody, or to cook, or even survive in emergencies.. sorry for the dramatic expressions. jeje i am kinda worry (link)
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Hey sweety, I know how you feel. I go to university in England and we don't have room mates but we get flat mates.
It was scary at first, being in your situation I'd never cooked for myself before, and had never been so far from home! but I prepared myself.
Try to learn how to cook easy and basic foods before you leave, rice, chicken, pasta, pork, vegetables. It'll be enough to keep you alive and you can treat yourself to some fast food and microwave meals as well.
As for room-mates, chances are they will be in the same situation as you, nervous and scared so just be friendly and you could be best friends (me and my flat mate just got our own house together for the rest of our uni life), Also, you could be lucky and they might enjoy cooking meals for the 2 of you.
And finally, emergencies. There is usually someone to help students with situations, security to stop people robbing you, and lots of help desks with things such as finance and the likes, so don't worry, find the place that deals with the problem and they'll help you through it.
Don't worry, you'll manage to make lots of friends and meet people with the same idea's and hobbies as you, its scary at first but within a week you'll feel right at home :)
Goodluck x
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My boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for 2 yrs. We loved each other a lot but often had fights over little things & he would temporary break up with me (like me refusing to eat fish-which is a very imp part of his culture). It was a Saturday and my last exam was over, i couldn't wait to spend the evening with him. We were having a very nice evening when i passed a comment about his family having no property of their own and staying in a rented apartment. This upset him a lot and he broke up with me. We had no contact for a week and i missed him. The following Saturday evening, he stopped by to collect his stuff from my place when i cried & apologized but he stuck to his decision. He was going to a pub with his friends (two guys). I felt sad and depressed that night and requested him to let me come along too to which he agreed. i tried getting his attention the whole time there but he ignored me & spoke to his friends about another girl he found hot and how she'd be a perfect fit in the family. I was heart broken & i allowed myself to get absolutely drunk and while they were dropping me back home, my boyfriend sat in front with one of his friends who was driving while i sat behind with the other..now i dont remember anything in the car but he saw me give his frnd a peck on his lips from the rear view mirror.The next day he calls me all sorts of names, tells his parents too..he said he would've gotten back if i hadn't done this..he says i cheated on him and i must be his bitch and get out of my skin to get him back. Its been 2 months now and he hasn't gotten back but treats me like his bitch. I have quit drinking out of my own will. i really love the guy, what must i do? (link)
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Honestly, I'd leave him. He sounds temperamental and controlling. A man doesn't "break up" with his woman over something silly like a comment, he may fall out with you but that should be resolved in a day tops!
When he was out with his friends, talking about this "hot woman" who'd fit in, he did that entirely on purpose. He knew you'd hear it and it would upset you, as a form of punishment. Understandably you wanted to drink to both not remember feeling that way any more and hope to drown out their conversation, his friend was most likely trying to comfort you, as I'd imagine you were visibly upset, guess what?
That isn't his friends job! If your man upset you, your man should fix it, not ignore you and expect you to get over it.
By all senses this sounds like an emotionally abusive relationship, and that can escalate quickly. Unfortunately men like this are very good at getting a girl to fall for them, it's a game to them so get out while you can and meet a man that appreciates you! theres plenty out there and you have all the time in the world :)
goodluck x
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so like me and my bf are gonna have sex he's like super experienced so what should i do i have no idea . tips on what to say, how to move? detailed the better. any good sites? also all the girls say he's huge and really good. he's 4 years older than me. thanks!! (link)
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Just relax, the first time will be quite painful, especially if he is as huge as everyone says, so don't tense up or anything, just do what feels right and stop if its too bad (trust me, I had to stop my first time.)
But, as you do seem younger than most adults would like, make sure your ready to have sex, when you loose your virginity it's gone forever, and from my experience you should make sure you care about this boy before anything happens. If you want to go ahead and do it anyway the only advice I can give you is foreplay is important, it warms you up and readies you for what's to come and sets the mood.
During actual sex, that depends on what you both like, guys don't like girls to be stiff while they do whatever, so move with him, your body will help him know what you like and what you don't. if he's on top (which is likely for your first time) don't worry too much, you'll probably naturally move with him, if your on top you have a lot more work to do, if you just rock your hips back and forth on him that should do the trick just about, until you get into your own rhythm.
Also being silent isn't always appreciated, I myself get embarrassed by loud screams of passion so I tend to make quiet noises and whisper what I want to him, which works twice as well imo but its whatever you both want :)
If he is very experienced, be cautious about his behaviour. Some guys are good at saying all the right things, just to get what they want, and a virgin is a good pull for these guys because you will be tight and feel extra nice (which is one reason why when you get older, guys go for girls with less sexual partners). Another thing to be cautious of is STD's, and guys HATE getting tested for these, no idea why. I've never met a guy who was honest when he told me he was checked before we slept together, because I'd of walked away straight from the go if they said they hadn't, which has led to me needing treatment myself, so please be EXTRA careful there.
Now, the 4 year age gap, I understand concerns but you know you best, if you find it suspicious then move on, if you believe there's nothing wrong with it then okay, 4 years isn't so bad when your older but at a younger age its alot because of the amount of growing people do from childhood to adulthood,4 years could mean a world of differences, so consider that as well.
If you believe he cares for you and you change your mind about the sex, I'm sure he'd wait until you are 18, where the 4 years means almost nothing (funny how that works isn't it?) but trust your instincts most of all and be careful :)
goodluck x
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For a while now me and this guy have been having really good sex, I'd say about 3 days of the week, 2 or 3 times each day I see him.
Things were going REALLY good sex wise with him, and I think both me and him were loving it; we're both quite highly driven people, constantly horny etc. haha
So about three weeks ago I got my period during sex with him and naturally we stopped things as soon as we noticed. He got thrush about three or four days after that (whether it was linked or not I don't know) and we couldn't have sex for two weeks because of it (he said it was uncomfortable or painful for him). So that was about 2 and a half weeks we couldn't have sex. Then we tried it again and he came quite quickly so it wasn't that great. It's been three weeks now since we had good sex! We tried again last night and i started randomly bleeding from my urethra (god knows why!) so we had to stop. Then it just wouldn't stop bleeding so that was that evening ruined.
I'm getting so horny!! I am seeing him again tomorrow evening and I want to make sure that nothing goes wrong! The bleeding i experienced yesterday was a one off; i have had no pain at all and no more bleeding since then so i don't think it will happen again. There's no cuts.
How can i make sure that nothing gets in the way of us having a good evening?? I can't leave it any longer without sex!! Another thing... if it does go wrong, how can i stop myself from feeling grumpy and annoyed? I've been feeling pretty depressed since last night :(
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Well if it had been a while since he had sex after the thrush that probably explains him cumming quickly that time, as for the random bleeding I suppose getting it checked is the best thing.Just enjoy your evening together and try to not think of sex as it puts an added pressure on the evening :)
As far as not feeling grumpy I'm not sure what you could do, if he finishes too quickly again you could ask him to pleasure you until you have done yourself perhaps, although if you start bleeding again I'd stop and go see the doctor
Goodluck x
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Ok so I broke up with this guy, lets call him brendan. So I broke up with brendan a couple months ago because I got pressured by this other guy... =/ Brendan is so sweet and funny and nice and cute and totally the perfect package. (Note: I wont use the guy's real names) Anyways, this guy uhm call him Ryan pressured me to break up with brendan and then he asked me out and I said yes =( I broke up with Ryan after realizing what a jerk he is (only lasted a week) Its been 3 months since I broke up with Ryan. Yesterday, we went to Canadas Wonderland for a band trip. Brendan is in band but Ryan isnt. I've always liked brendan and we've come to be good friends. I flirt with him occasionally, he flirts back =) After playing 3 songs at this band thing we got to go on all the rides at 1pm and had to meet back at 6pm. Me and my friend decided to ask Brendan and one of his friends that she likes to be in our group. They said sure and so we ate lunch then went back to the bus to get our band instruments. After we played our instruments, we went to the bus to drop off our instruments and then get clothes to change in to. We went to the bath rooms to get changed and we told Brendan and his friend to meet us outside after. They both ditched... =( I was SO pissed off!!! After at 6, I saw him and went over to him and said "Your such a ditcher!" On the bus he walked by and smiled and I said, "I've never seen more of an asshole to ditch someone" His friend didnt feel well so me and Sydney had to switch spots and surprise surprise, it was behind brendan... He turned around and said "Im sorry for ditching, why was it so important to you that I was there anyways?" and I said "if you knew then you would understand" Brendan:"You like me dont you" Me:"how did you know" Brendan:"its obvious" Then I wore his hat for the rest of the 3 hour drive back home. He asked Sydney for a pen then started writing hand notes to me saying, "I dont know if I can do this again, if you liked me then you shouldnt have broken up with me in the first place" ANd I said, "I know, Im so freaking stupid. I understand..." and then we got home and he leans over to me and whispers into my ear "What I miss the most is your hugs" and I almost started crying. TOday, his friend comes over to me and he says " DO you like brendan?" me:" what makes you think that?" him:"he told me everything, he likes you too" and yeahh. ADVICE? All of this is overwelming. My other friend Emily told Brendan the real reason I broke up with him. So um opinions? I dont know what to do! HELP!! (link)
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If you like this boy, and he obviouslly likes you too you need to really talk to him. Think about why you were swayed into breaking up with him in the first place and then decide is it likely to happen again.
People make mistakes thats a given, and we learn from them, you thought Ryan would be a better match and quickly realised you were wrong and since then its obvious you have managed to rebuild most of the relationship you had with Brendan.
That's good progress!
I think you need to remove all other obstacles in the way, ask Brendan to go and have a meal with you or to go for a walk, not to watch a film as that cuts into the time you have to discuss what you both want to happen.
Explain everything as fully as you can to him, including your present feelings and your obvious guilt for what you did
However, be prepared for him to want to remain as friends, he was hurt by your decision and he may be unsure if he can trust you, he clearly wants to remain friends at the very least, so if that is the outcome of the conversation then accept it and build the trust back up.
Best of luck x
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I'm going to college in the fall and want to make a lot of friends. I'm generally shy but I'd like to push myself out of my comfort zone and become more outgoing. What can I do to be a more outgoing person? (link)
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I know exactly how you feel! I started uni this year and was very shy and very nervous that I'd not make friends because of it!
But, I met my flat mate and we had those greeting chats, you know
"DO you have any hobbies?"
"Where are you from?"
And as the conversations continued it became easier to talk to her and now we got a house for next year together!
Also, making the first friend is the hardest step in many ways, once you have one friend you won't be so nervous to go out and explore your campus and get involved, you'll meet people in your course and there is probably a club that is just suited to you
EG Chess or a film club and theres usually every sports teams going including dance/singing groups. Joining these is going to help you meet new people and have one thing to bond over straight away!
as far as pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, you just have to take a plunge. Don't force it if you really don't want to, maybe take a lil step away from it before you take a leap, it just takes some confidence and trust in yourself
Goodluck! x
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Ok so I'm a Christian and my boyfriend isn't. I'm fine with it and stuff but I'm afraid that somehow we'll argue about it and it'll get to me.
I'm not like gonna try and change him or anything, I just want advice from people who is with someone that isn't of the same religion and how you get through it and how you deal with it.
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My boyfriend is Christian and I am not really religious at all, it works out fine because we very rarely talk about religion for that reason, he goes to church and knows I won't go so doesn't invite me, simple as that lol.
As long as you both understand each other, I mean, we play with each other, I give him scientific reasons for his religious babble and what not but I appreciate his beliefs and would never truly mock him, a relationship is based on understanding so as long as you don't constantly go on about your religion and he doesn't always insult it or mock you then you should be fine :)
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is there any way to tell how big your breast will end up being? (link)
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Well, if you a size B now I wouldn't be expecting a DD in the future, at least not without the help of surgery. Usually you can guess by what size you are now, people with large breasts have always had large breasts, they developed a little faster, equally small breasts usually remain small in comparison.
(Becoming pregnant can increase the size quite a bit though):)
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I've had my cat for a little over 2 years now and he's been a menace since we first got him, about 2 weeks old. Usually, from my experience, when cats get neutered they calm down and aren't so...bad.
My cat LOVES plastic. He sees plastic or hears it, he comes running and he loves to actually eat it. My other cat has never given me problems, it's just this younger one. Will he grow out of it or should I seek help? lol (link)
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Well, I'm not a vet but in my experience with cats and dogs, I have never had two with the same personality, some have been laid back and relaxed some have been pretty vicious and some are just pure crazy (like yours). Usually the mad hours they have make them calm down fall asleep until they start up again and they do usually calm down with age, but the eating plastic thing may be worrying, it can't be good for him anyway so perhaps just call the vet or someone with a lot of experience with cats to check what they think, chances are he is just a naughty kitty but it could be something, no harm in being safe :) x
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im so confused!! so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months. we have been wanting to step our relationship up a few notches. we have been wanting to have sex, but i have worries and questions. suuch as:
- what does it feel like?
- how much does it hurt?
-do you really bleed after??
if you know the answer, tell me! and if theres anything else i should know please feel free to tell me!! thanks. (link)
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To make it simple.
-The first time isn't going to feel very nice most likely, though everyone experience is different but typically you will be too nervous to really enjoy it, but when you get used to it it can be a very enjoyable experience :)
-again, depends on the person, sometimes you can do things to make it hurt less like if you do horse riding the chance of it hurting will be less (since the pain comes from breaking the hymen and things like horse riding help make it thinner and break easier)
-and once again, depends. I didn't bleed and neither did some of my friends but equally some had a little bit of blood and some had quite a bit. Still it isn't as bad as a period, most of the time its just like a bad cut and will stop bleeding within minutes :)
As for advice, foreplay is important to make yourself wet, so fingering and things like that, also if you never had that and that hurts I would say spend much longer than usual since fingers are much smaller lol. Also lube will probably help, since being nervous can stop you becoming wet yourself and that will just make it much more painful for you, and don't forget to always use protection (for added protection you can also go on the pill but remember only condoms protect from STD's)
And finally, never do anything you don't feel comfortable with, at the end of the day you can never go back and change your mind so make sure it's what you want and not just something your doing to keep your boyfriend, if he loves you he will wait :) x
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I can't see ghosts at least not currently but I'm nervous. NY great grandmother (who has passed away maybe a year ago or more) I guess used to see ghosts. My dad told me this and my dad told me she would tell him that they would sit on her bed next to her and watched her. She moved downstairs and they followed her there. The thing that freaked me out the most was that my dad said he fully believed her with no doubt. They were always very close. But that weirded me out because the job that he has well you wouldn't think he would be into all that stuff. I'm just nervous they might be attracted to me. I know it's been a while and I try to ignore every little thing so nothing does happen but I do hear footsteps and stuff but I won't get into too much detail. My dad says that we have harmless spirits in our house and when I was real little I can almost swear I saw a mans figure in front if my doorway. But I probably imagined that. I'm just nervous. Idk how old she was when she started seeing them and I think I'm gonna go ask my dad right now but I'm just nervous! Plus I got a new puppy and she will whine at nothing. But she is a puppy but if she continues to do that when she gets older I will be scared! Thanks!
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Hey sweety, the thing about ghosts and spirits is some people believe fully some don't at all and some agree on little bits. I believe because my mother, great nana and great great nana plus many others have been very spiritual so I grew up with it, it's also believed to be passed down in families so when you open up yourself you may find some abilities of your own.
The first thing is, 99% of the time a spirit will be watching over you to protect you, the scary films you watch focus on the negatives of ghosts most of the time but in honesty the chances that your great grandmother is still with you is likely, especially if she was spiritual but she would never hurt you and is most likely just watching over you and your family. I also believe that everyone has at least one spirit guardian who keep the scarier ghosts away, it is unlikly any of them actually will try to hurt you and the noises they make are just a reminder to you that they are still here protecting you.
Your puppy is probably seeing/sensing them much clearer than you are, as dogs and animals are much more in tune with the other world and she will probably keep doing little cries her whole life, but again, they can sense a nasty spirit and a friendly one, a few barks and looking in a general direction is probably just someone standing or walking about with no intention of hurting anyone, if she begins to growl/cower at absolutely nothing then you may want to talk to your dad about blessing the house by the local priest.
Equally, your grandmother and all the others that just want to keep you safe, if you ask them to leave you alone, they will do so just say
"I know you don't mean me harm but I am scared when I hear you move so please leave me alone" or whatever you truly feel and they shall listen. X
Good luck :)
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Why do people have sex when there pregnant with no condom or anything when they know they can get more baby's in there and they don't even want this one?
Why do that?! (link)
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Hi, like the person below said, the only time more than one child is born by the same woman is when they are twins/triplets etc and that happens in the exact same way as a single child is born.
Basically the sperm penetrates the egg in the woman's womb and that's when a baby begins to grow (if the sperm never does this a woman won't be pregnant) I don't remember how twins come about exactly but I believe the two options are the egg splits which creates identical children or the woman has produced more than one egg (this is why twins/triplets are common with IVF). Anyway to summarise once you become pregnant no amount of sperm will make you have another baby until after that baby is born and a new egg is released (this is why periods stop when you're pregnant, the body detects a baby and stops releasing eggs).
And as for the later part of the question as to why people don't use protection, sometimes a mistake led to a pregnancy and they don't believe in abortion in which case there is no harm in continuing to have unprotected sex (other than gaining STD's) since some people believe it feels better. Sometimes people wanted children anyway so obviously that's the best way. And finally some people are plain stupid :)
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She's crying because she had a nightmare last night that her husband didn't love her anymore. She's been married to him for 10 years and they love each other very much. But she's scared to talk to him. I hate seeing her so sad. She's 9 months pregnant too. Due to have their first baby next week. What can I do to make her feel better ? (link)
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Start by explaining that at 9 months she is probably quite hormonal and that really will play havoc with her emotions, also with it being their first child she is probably very scared and one of the greatest fears I'd have personally is if my husband/boyfriend left me to raise a child alone, so that's probably where the bad dream and emotions are coming from. Tell her that you can tell her husband is madly in love with her and is over joyed to be having a family with her and let her know you'll be there for her as well :) If that fails tell her you'll help her talk to her husband about it and then he can tell her himself that he would never leave her :)
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So when it comes to my boyfriend and I's sex life I'd say it was amazing. I like to keep things new and fresh coming up with different ways to turn him on BEFORE even getting to the sex. The one that always works is when I trace my tounge on his lips and exhale, even he tells me "Babe I love when you tease me like that", but I feel like it's getting old and I wan't to try something new. ONLY TO TEASE THO! I don't think I need any help in the "sex" area. (link)
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One of my favourite tricks is to gently play on his ear lobe with your tongue and suck on it now and then, works a treat on my man, equally if you have fairly decent length nails, slowly drag them up his back when he doesn't expect it, that also works for me :)
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I have a family member who has been having an issue with abusing pills. Her doctor continues to prescribe her medications such as Fioricet and Ambien even after she had a 48hour watch done at the local mental hospital for taking a large quantity of Lortabs and having hallucinations. My question is this as a very concerned family member what can I do? The doctor knows about her stay at the hospital.But I think she is lieing to the doctor about what she uses the meds for. Just recently her boyfriend said she would not allow him to go back in the room with her at the doctor. She also is in major denial about what she is doing. As far as I am concerned the doctor is enabling her to continue to abuse meds. Any suggestions about how to handle this would be greatly appreciated. We are very afraid that she might overdose and her behavior becomes very erratic. (link)
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the trouble with this is the Hippocratic oath doctors must take which says they can't share personal information with anyone really. But i believe you can request a consultation with the doctor about your family member and explain your concerns.
But you should remember, there's a difference between your beliefs and the doctors medical knowledge so it could be that these medicines are actually going to help her psychological issues. If she is abusing pills the other option is try to get her into a therapist, it costs more and takes time but is proven to have more long lasting effective results and will help her control her medicines better.
equally, there is corruption in every part of the world, this doctor could simply be preying off insurance, in which case a bit of self investigation may pay off and if you find out this is the case you can contact the head of the hospital immedietly and threaten to sue them if they do not help your family rather than manipulate them. good luck :)
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In the past I went threw this stage where I thought the only way I could get guy's to like me was to send nude pictures of myself, and I'm over that now.
I made a mistake of doing that and now my boyfriend's grandmother has my photo's with her.. so in case I screw up, she'd have them.
I don't want the past ones showing up later on in my life, I want to become a lawyer some day and I've matured. I still have low self esteem but I won't ever do anything like that again.
I just don't want my life ruined down the road ;/
Any advice? I know what I did was wrong, I don't need a lecture.. (link)
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Hey sweety, I've been there, I think what you should do is talk to your boyfriends grandmother, don't lie at all be genuinely as honest as you can tell her that the only reason you did this was because it was all you could think of doing and you regret that decision. Tell her also what you want to do in the future and tell her how if these pictures got out it would destroy your chances, and try to prove you have grown out of this phase and would never do anything to hurt her grandson.
she is just trying to protect him after all, (remember back when she was young the only men who saw you naked would be you father when you were a baby and then your husband) so she probably doesn't understand why you would do this and has her own idea's set about what kind of girl you are, so you may have some work cut out to prove her wrong.
If this all fails, you have two options, hope she is not the kind of woman to do anything to spite you or tell your boyfriend. If you have been together a while and trust him entirely I would go with the second option, and tell him the exact same things you told his grandmother, he may be mad of course but if he loves you and knows you have had issues in the past he should forgive you, and may help you talk to his grandmother.
I'm afraid this is a bit of a pickle but hopefully you're with the right man and his family will forgive you. I honestly wish you luck as I know how you feel right now :)
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