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Becoming more outgoing
18/f
I'm going to college in the fall and want to make a lot of friends. I'm generally shy but I'd like to push myself out of my comfort zone and become more outgoing. What can I do to be a more outgoing person?
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well i am also shy myself and i could relate with you with making friends. making friends is basically going out and being confident and of course being you because if your not you.You will never be able to find the kind of friend you would like to have as a friend also if you would like to be more outgoing is mostly showing the people your ideas and your passion towards whatever you like to do like art,music etc activities.Remember to be you and you'll be fine(:
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i think you just have to be yourself and find out who'll like you for that. And try to talk to people so you could get to know them better.
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I know exactly how you feel! I started uni this year and was very shy and very nervous that I'd not make friends because of it!
But, I met my flat mate and we had those greeting chats, you know
"DO you have any hobbies?"
"Where are you from?"
And as the conversations continued it became easier to talk to her and now we got a house for next year together!
Also, making the first friend is the hardest step in many ways, once you have one friend you won't be so nervous to go out and explore your campus and get involved, you'll meet people in your course and there is probably a club that is just suited to you
EG Chess or a film club and theres usually every sports teams going including dance/singing groups. Joining these is going to help you meet new people and have one thing to bond over straight away!
as far as pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, you just have to take a plunge. Don't force it if you really don't want to, maybe take a lil step away from it before you take a leap, it just takes some confidence and trust in yourself
Goodluck! x
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There are going to be a ton of events in the first few weeks. Go to all of them. Get involved. Faculty events, residence events, school-wide... all of them. You'll be exhausted, I can guarantee it, but you'll have a ton of fun and lots of opportunities to get out there. There will likely be a clubs fair, so you can get out there and find something that you're interested in.
Make an effort to be involved. Force yourself to talk to people. In my first year at school, I made it a rule to talk to whatever new people I sat next to in class. Made some great friends that way!
How not to do it? A lot of people compensate for their shyness by using alcohol as a social lubricant. It's true that you feel like everyone's your friend when you're drunk, but you're not actually spending quality time with those people. Your best bet for making friends is to meet them in a non-party atmosphere. It's also safer to steer clear of binge drinking situations, because you put yourself at risk.
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