hey im jess im 15 im from coventry/england im a good listener and so my friends have told me im good at giving advice im here to help anyone that is just looking for some advice,i love helping people out and i try and do so the best i can and i hope my advice will help those in need of some help i have msn if people want to add me and ask me things then thats fine all the best to everyone jessxx
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Ok...my cuzin like loves me a lot and i love her too but she's like really attached to me...i mean shes fun to be around but sometimes shes really annoying....i dont wanna say that to her but wut do i do!?!?!? (link)
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just be honist say to her you love spending time with her but sometimes it just gets to much say there are a few days when you would like to spend time on your own say it isnt her falt it just that if you see to much of eachother then your gonna get really anoyed with eachother and could end up arguing and not liking eachother just say you need your own space maybe a few days a week where you both do different things hope my advice helped
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Everything about my mom annoys me!! When she eats a popsicle stick it looks like she's making out with it, she doesn't wax he bikini and its GROSS, she's so un hip (but thats typical in moms), and she's just weird. How can I learn to live with my mom? I'm only 13 so i have to live with her still!!! (link)
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well your never going to like everything about her cause you both like different things your young like to be in fasion and probly dress abit like your friends and she probly just likes to be different dont keep reminding yourself of the things you dislike about her remember the things you love about her everybody mum is different and thats what we love about them would you prefere it if she was like you, i no i wouldnt it would drive me mad, she will dislike some things about you but she respects you for who you are and you should do the same for her
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well i have a problem... every one at school makes fun of me cuz i have like absoulutely no!!! boobs. i cant do anything about it but everyone makes fun of me like its my fault. i have no clue what to do. and the main reason why i have no boobs is because i havent had my period and its not like i can control that either! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!! (link)
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this is something that alot of teenagers go through somepeople get teased because they have developed early in there teen years and those that do hate it just as much as you i no the teasing must really hurt you and its not nice when it comes to things like late developing but thats the thing everyone develops at different ages so dont feel your alone cause your not and trust me having your period or having breast isnt as good as you think either but i bet it doesnt feel normal not having them well i would just like to say its completely normal im sure you will start developing soon
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ok heres the thing....
im getting adopted and my parents have alot of trust in me...........
well iwent to my friends house and then i was goin with her brother and i did somethings(for the first time)
an now i think i might be pregnant!!!!
i dont want them to find out if i am but of course im gonna get fatter (if i am)
and u kno they will notice.
please help me asap????
:( (link)
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hey lets just calm down for a minute yeh just ask youself these questions
1,did you use protection?
2,have you been sick or been very nervious lately?
3,have you mised a period?
4,do you think telling your parents will help?
if you answerd yes to 2 or more question then there is a big chance your pregnant but just think if you didnt use protection then you could have something more then a baby im sure you will be fine but you cant sit there a keep saying what if or am i FIND OUT go and get a pregnancy test and get checked out and do it soon cause if you are and its to late to tell your parants cause they have noticed then they will be very mad with something this serious you will need someone there with you so find out if you are and if so tell your parents straight away dont leave it till its to late
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Ok, I have a friend my age, she's the best friend I've ever had! And, I've always thought her little brother was REALLY hot! (he's 2 years younger than me, i'm 13 and he's 11, yeah, i know. It sounds weird but he totally looks like he's 14!) So one day we all went to the pool, me, my best friend, and a couple of other friends, and her brother came 2. We were all foolin around, especially me and him. He kept on tryin 2 sit on my shoulders and dunk my head under, We were having so much fun! Then, me and him started staring at eachother for a couple seconds, then we both looked away. That was when i realized that I really liked him!!
I don't know what to do! He's the guy I REALLY like, but then his older sister is my best friend! I am soooo stuck in the middle!! (link)
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well if you truly like him and you feel so much for him then i say go for it to be honist i dont think that age really matters if you love someone and they love you back then it shouldnt matter but remember hes only 11 you have just found out that you want to be with him but him might be confused and might not be sure on what he wants i say leave it for a year or so just be his mate and if you want him to no that you like him then tell him but dont rush him into anything my mate used to like my bro she thought he was 14 aswell cause he does look older then his age and i no it must feel strange but perhaps you could try spending time alone with him a few times a week i think you should tell him how you feel first before you tell your mate but i think you should let your mate no aswell cause if you and him do get together you dont want to be doing it behind her back so just tell her how you feel about her bro she will be abit freaked out about it but she doesnt see him the way you see him, just tell him you like him maybe ask if he has any feelings for you im sure he does from the way you have said what has been going on anyway i hope it all goes well and i hope my advice helped
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ok usually my perios is about 4 or 5 days long .. but last week i got it on wednesday (the 20th) and its still here! heavy as it was when i first got it.. i just want to know.. is this normal? also last month wasnt heavy.. like at all.. i rate high
thank u so much!! ♥ (link)
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yes im happy to say its completely normal its a pain i no with my last period i was on 4 times in 3 weeks i kept coming off and then back on again for a few days sometimes i have really heavy periods through the hole period and then other times im just heavy for a day or so it can vary i dont think anyone can say that they have a normal period cause its different everytime sometimes you can be on for about 8 or more days and then other times it can only be for a few days i no its very anoying and people do worry about it alot but there is no need to cause thats just how periods work hope ive helped
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my boyfriend and i have had sex now. im really worried about if i get pregnant. should i tell my parents about it?
oh im 14 and hes 15 (link)
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for 1, did you use protection,2,were you forced into having sex,3,do you think telling your parents about it will help, will they support you if you are pregant, well first off you need to find out if you are actully pregnent and not just you geting worried if not then there will be no reason to tell your parents unless you feel the need to tell them your having sex incase you ever do get pregnant so they will no you didnt lie to them, if it turns out you are pregnent i think you should tell them yes they will be dissapointed in you but im sure they will stand by you and whatever you choose to do thats what parents are for just go to a chemist or clinic and get a pregnancy test you need to find out for certern hope it turns out to be the answer you want good luck jess xx
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sometimes i get real frustrated with my b/f. and i start to hit and throw things i feel that if i dont get my anger under control that i will hurt him one day and it will jeopardize our relationship. how can i get my anger under control? (link)
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you could try going to arger management or get sum counciling du u no the reason why you get angry is there a problem thats geting you down because u could be very dipressed because when im dippressd i become angry like really angry n i take my anger owt either by punching a wall or throwing things round my room and i become angry at the person that has made me dippressd or is the reason i am dipressd so perhaps you have a problem that your just hiding from or if ther eis nothing bothering you then perhaps you just get very stressd and frustrated easily so you should probly get some medication to calm you down abit
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so i dont know if i was raped or not but there was this guy and like he was behind me and my friend was standin next to me but like... she didnt see it...so like this guy who was like a lot older then me was like feeling my bra and like feeling my back and shit! and i dont know wat to do its kinda embarassin and all!
plz help! i dont know wat to do
I RATE HIGH!
*confused* (link)
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i understand how you feel i get confused aswell because my m8 was raped but she didnt actully have sex with the man he helped her down and pulled of her top and she nwent to court and stuff and it was clasified as rape i think if he done something sextully to you that you didnt want him to then it could be rape there are alot of terms of rape but i dont think you actully were i mean he didnt hold you down and do stuff to you he felt your bra i think it would mean you were sextully assulted but im not sure check out with a friend or perhaps a doctor or look it up on the internet hope ive been some help
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ok well i have stared my period once and that was 3 months a go i have not had sex soo i am not pregnet! it worries me! i havent told my mom that i haent started in 3 months! because she know i have origanly started! is my body going haywire or somthing? and i gett alot of discharge still!
Haywired Body?? (link)
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its normal all it is , is that your body is just getting used to all your changes and hormones you havnt started your period for long so there just not regulair yet im sure there is no need to worry alot of girls go through this and its not something that you should be worried about but if you still think there is something wrong then you could consult your doctor but they will probs say the same as me
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do girls where condoms? (link)
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yes then can if they choose to its called a femidom its rubber just like a condom but its alot bigger and it fits into the vergina and it opens up and when the lad an girl av sex the lads semen will collect in the femidom it will stop the semen passing through
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I have a friend you always says she's really depressed. At first i really was worried and i belived her to the fullest, but now its like she does it only for attention!! I hate it! She wont even eat anymore! I try to get her too but she refuses to! I dont know how to act around her anymore, cause she always takes everything the wrong way, Please please please help!! I'll rate high i promise!! I just dont know what to do! (link)
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well most people would say leave her she's doing it for attention and she isnt being a good friend your probly thinking thats what you should do but i think otherwise i mean from what your saying about your friend it seems like she is very troubled and deppressd people deal with things in different ways and perhaps her geting all the attention is the only way she can think she can deal with things im thinking that it must be very hard for her to deal with so whatever you do dont leave her all alone cause it will tear her appart she will need someone by her all the way through this the only thing i could suggest is geting her to see a counciler or if she has already tryed that then you could try again or try to get her to deal with her problems the thing about her not eating is a very bad idea so you should make her see that it will end up killing her if she decides to get help then you should be with her every step of the way and dont leave her side it will be hard but she needs you and i think you need her to be honist cause if she carrys on this way then it will destroy the both of you so just be there for her
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I have liked this guy since I was in third grade, (I'm in tenth now) and he told all of my friends that he liked me too. But when my friends told him that he should ask me out, (with out me knowing so i was like incredibly embarresd) he said he wasnt alowwed to date yet. But just last Sunday when i was sitting in his car and we were listening to music (Hollaback Girl) he said it was his girlfriends favorite song! I just brushed it off at first and pretended that i didnt notice, but it really hurt! I dont know how to act around him anymore, cause he still acts like he likes me....Someone help me please! (link)
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well if hes lieng to you already and you aint even going out then that doesnt really give you a good impression of him does it? well what i think you should do is tell him straight ask him why he say that he wasnt alloud to date when he has a gf and why did he tell you that he has a gf when he knew it would upset you tell him that if hes trying to impress you then that isnt the way he should be going about it hes upset you once by lieng to you and again by him having a gf tell him you do like him and if he does like you then he shouldnt be upsetting you like that
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i am 13 and i want to have sex but like when it comes to that i get scared like i want to pratice with someone that wont laugh if i mess up ..... i love makeing out and i want some body that i can pratice with....it dosent matter guy or gurl i dont kno who to turn to
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look your feelings and emotions will change all the time your only 13 so having sex at your age is ileagal hope you realize that i no most people not all people do it at that age anyway but you have all the time in the world dont just do it cause you feel like it and your horny you should be able to trust the person and i think you should at least be in a relationship with them its not your falt your scared everyone gets scared on there first time but dont be pressured and that its what you want make sure he wears protection and you should aswell either the pill or cap or femidom or something go to your gp or a clinic you dont wana end up pregnent at 13 and you dont wana catch anything either
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in a month i have to live with my sister because i have no dad and my mom has 1 month left ...im only 14 and i just found out my sis smokes weed and shit wit her ex(father of her kids)....i found that out say last week...now today her kids (1+3) were in the car and she ran in the house because she stopped by for a lil quick visit and out my window i heard my nephew cryin so i ran out there and her car smelled of weed and i know her ex was in the car previously because ..well thats not important but it was horrible and i kno her ex is gettin her into all this shit bc she neva used to be like this til she met him i just wanna figure out a way to like get him away from her like have some of my friends as old as him to kick his ass or sumthin..........plz help me figure out a way to get him out of the picture i cant have my neice and nephew go through this... (link)
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right dont do what some people are teling you to do saying you cant do anything you have to let her realize the truth on her own thats stupid and it could end up killing her kids you cant wait there is no time these kids need to be loved and protected there in a horrible situation and you need to put a stop to this explain to your sis what this is doing to her kids and this isnt the way she should be bringing them up she needs to understand that this so called father of her kids and lover of hers is setting a bad example and is killing her and her kids he is a bad father and she needs to get rid and turn him in she wont do it willinglee or alone so you need to be with her every step of the way she might feel alone without him but she has got a family thats there for her and two lovely kids that need to be looked after she needs to be there for them and to be a strong mum she doesnt need this worthless man she has her family she has you and she needs to understand that tell her your not going to let this go bc its wrong and its harming people and if she doesnt join with you and put a stop to this then you will have to end up calling social services its the best way if you ask me bc if there mum decides to stay with this man and to carry on treating her kids this way then she isnt a good mum she is worthless just like him and she doesnt deserve to be a mum to them kids
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My brother is 26 and is a major drug abuser? Does any one know oof any rehabs we can take him to (also counseling because he wants to kill hisself). We dont have any money and we are in the LA area of Calif.? (link)
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erm well i dont know any rehabs myself but maybe you could check it up on the internet type it in on www.google.com or something im sure there will abe alot of help on there and i dont think it will be alot of money either all i know about the drug rehabs is frank you know the little talk the frank cards you can get but i dont know if you have to pay or not so the best way to go about it would be on the net im sorry i couldnt be anymore help i will try and find something out for you if you like
all the best
xxjessxx
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Okay, I wasn`t really sure what to put this under but okay. I am 13 years old and I have some clear, kind of gooey stuff that sometimes appears in my panties. I'm afraid to get fingered because of it. I'm afraid the guy will get grossed out. Could someone tell me what this is and how I could get rid of it?
Thanks I'll rate fives for good answers. (link)
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its ok its only discharge its not something to worry about and its nothing that a guy will notice or get grossed out its normal and if he asks then just tel him its normal every girl gets its i sometime worry why we get it cause i dont no the full reason why but i know that most girls get it so your not alone n you shouldnt be worrying
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i cant cope. My mom use to be an alcoholic my dad use to beat my mom my mom us when she was drunk adn now i love to get drunk because ut gets rid of my troubles and i dont know where to start. I looked afta my sis and mbro when i was 9 and now my moms clean and moved out of my dads house i dont know where start i love my drink but dont want to go the same way as my mom. I hold a chip on my shoulder but dont quite know to who and dont know wot to do about it. Please please help. Vicki x (link)
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i think youve been very brave so far and your good enough to want to do something about it and im glad of this because its something to say youve got a problem but its another thing to do something about it so well done and well done to your mum aswell for coming clean anyways i think the best way for you if you dont want to go down the same path as your mum is to speak to your mum about it she's been there and she can help you stop or cut down on your drinking maybe you could get some counciling because alot of people drink or take drugs because they are hiding and running away from there problems so counciling is a good way to deal with these problems and not block them out you see if you face your problems then you wont feel the need to drink anymore because you will have nothing to run away from hope ive been some help
xxxjessxxx p.s you can always come to me and talk if you feel the need to
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Hey everyone.. i need names for my older sister she's pregnant again and she wanted some different names that are forgein or just something unique.. well we liked the name Nevaeh which spells Heaven backwards but she dont know anymore names and we also would like middle names and we need both boys and girls names.. so please help ill rate high thanks in advance... (link)
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jamielee,chardey,jasmin,makosi,tasmine,jadey,kaci,peige,alana,blake,clinton,saskia,sheridon,ricky der all da names i like hope ive helped
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mmkay. a bunch of people in my school are calling me a slut & lesbian ND I am so ajainst gays ( sorry to anyone ) and i dont get where there getting a slut. they say "im the biggest whore in school" how do i make it stop. casue i've tried to dress more down & not flirt with guys so much. but they still do it.
PLEASE HELP FAST. casue i think im a bout to bunch somone! (link)
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who cares what they think you know your not a slut of a lez its not up to them what you wear so wear what you feel comfortable in there probly just jelous that you will steal the boys off them so they want you to look mingin just proove to them that your better and your gonna do what you want perhaps they just wish they could wear the clothes you wear so next time dont go home and wear something different the next day wear the sexiest and most glamours thing youve got just to show them that they dont get you down and you dont care what they think hope it goes well
jess xxx
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