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Guys laugh at me and are really mean to me and don’t treat me well at all. It’s because I talk weird, I’m too opinionated, I have a brutal sense of humor, and I only listen to musicals and Sondheim……
For example, they always snicker whenever it’s time for PE….I’m the most not-athletic person in my whole class. I can’t even run a mile. I was telling my friend about how un-athletic I am, and this guy overheard and goes, “Yeah, you sure are.”
And when we were working in groups, and this guy whispered to the other girl in my group, “do you actually expect her to do anything?”
Lots of stuff like that every day. And more,
And I’m not being paranoid. I gave it the benefit of the doubt; but when I discovered that half of the guys blocked me on AIM, it’s pretty obvious that the guys hate me.
I know I should be strong and I shouldn’t care about what those morons think of me, but it still hurts. I bet they wish they could make fun of my body as well, but fortunately, I’m not overweight, and I don’t have any really ugly features that they could laugh at.
It really, REALLY hurts my feelings. I know I shouldn’t be so sensitive, but it makes me feel awful.
What should I do? I can’t tell a teacher, that would only decrease my reputation. And my school counselor doesn’t know squat.
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I think guys are affraid of you for some reason. They might be affraid that you are going to tell them what you really think about them. that might be why they dont want to talk with you. Or maybe it is cause they are the wrong guys? There is more to life then sports. Join a group at school or church. Band, art, theatre group? find some guys that arent so full of them selves. I bet there are plenty of nice guys at school that feel the same way that you do. they just arnt on the ball field. and id stop AIMing any guy unless they AIM you first. Take a break from the rejection. If you find activities you enjoy the people who like those activities will be more friendly toward you. AND maybe save your opinions for when you become friends.
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ok well...
In second and Third grade, one of my best friends was in my class. She left the school for 2 years. She is back this year. She is in different classes than me and i want to bcome one of her bst friends again...
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I think "best friends" happen on its own. But you can always see what happens. ASk her to come to your house to hang out, study, or dinner. If you become friends great. It is a good place to start.
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Okay im only 13 and i have a neice (or however you spell it) and shes 6, so the other day me and her went to a school dance (we go to the same school) and she likes this guy in my class (little 6 yr old crush...how cute) and she was begging me to tell him, so i go up to hima nd im like "hey josh, my neice here has the biggest crush on you?" she started to burry herself in my stomache and i cant help but feel bad, i mean, 6 year old dont know what they're talking about, and it was annoying so i just went right up to him and told him. Am i a bad aunt? and can you give me advice please.
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It would have been a lot better if you had gone up to him and said "hey Josh ask my niece to dance" instead of telling him all her deepest feelings. The good thing is she will get over it and life will go on. So dont feel horrible for too long. Tell her you were wrong and you are sorry. Even good aunts screw up sometimes.
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My dad used to be really mean to my mom, and would treat me and her badly, and alot of stuff, I wont go into detail, but now he says he is sorry, and how he wants MY MOM bak, not really me. He just uses me to get to MY MOM. Like he willl only take me to the movies if my mom comes, and so on. But i like to be with him .But the thing is that the last 3 years i cut him out of my life, becuase he was so mean to us, and now he wants to a part of my life. I kno it is good to 4giv, but i 4 gave him so many times. I stood up 4him so many times, when no one else wud. Is this the last straw or no? Can you plz give me some advice? (link)
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If you really believe he is taking you out to do things just so your mother will come along then you have two choices. Dont go. Or ask your mother not to. If she doesnt go and he stops asking you out then he hasnt changed. The relationship between your mother and father shouldnt be your main concern. Even if you did forgive him it doesnt mean you have to forget what he did. He needs to prove to you that he has changed. Ask him to do this. If you really believe he doesnt want you but he is using you. Dont let him. It will hurt not to spend time with him. But wont it hurt more if you are right about getting used? You can always stand with someone with out having to stand up for them. It is his resposability to stand up for himself.
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well okay on thursday night my mom picked my sister and i up from my gradmas house at 1am, even though so was supposed to pick us up around 8:30. she was so drunk, and i was scared to get in the car. my sisters 7 and was asleep so i carried her outside with me. i get in the car and my mom goes crazy for NO REASON! she's being so mean, and i asked her why are you doing this to yourself? and she called me names. we got out of the car when we were home and i was on the phone with my gram and she hit me in the face and tried to get my cell phone, but i ran down street until she got inside, then i went in and ran up in my dads room (the attick.) he has a lock in the inside that i locked it. and sooo, she comes upstairs and trys to open in and calls me EVERYTHING in the world. a cunt, she hopes i was never born, ALL FOR NOTHING! as i was on the phone with my gram she heres everything. my dad comes home from work bout 1:45 and my moms passed out in her room and my sister is forced to sleep with her. she hurt me sooo badly, and i got no sorry. i wanna move out more then anything in the world. since then we haven't even talked. even before this TERRIBLE DRUNK DISASTER she was always so rude and treated me so much different then my sister. i don't like her, and i need help. sorry this is longg. (link)
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Ask for help that will change things. You did nothing wrong. unfortunatly when a parent drinks the child (you) have to do what is best for yourself. Tell someone. Tell your Gram. if she does nothing about it tell a teacher. If they do nothing call the police. Do not get in the car with ANYONE who is drunk. And never let anyone get away with hitting you. She doesnt like your sister better. You sister is too young to stand up to her and she knows it. You need to do what is right for yourself. It doesnt matter of your mother is sorry or not for doing what she did.It was wrong. She needs help and you cant give it to her.
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I'm 14/f and my boyfriend is 16/m. We got together pretty recently and things have been going great so far. But I've been having a problem dealing with his past. Sometimes I'll come across a picture of him drunk with a bunch of girls and it bothers me, but I know he didn't do anything with them besides maybe hooking up. (For the record, he doesn't drink at all like he used to and won't do it unless I'm there) Yet it still drives me insane to see those pictures on his friends sites. He isn't afraid to call a girl hot,(example being Tila Tequila) but I know he's kidding because when other guys talk about girls being hot or whatever, I'll go "Oh yeah, shes so hot" in a sacastic tone. Hes just doing it back jokingly to make me sound like a lesbian. Just the fact that hes calling another girl hot makes me jealous though. He knows I'd go insane if I ever foundout he was cheating or anything, but I just don't like thinking about that he probably thinks of other girls sometimes. I just don't know how to deal with that fact that all guys checkout every girl they see. Any advice? :/ (link)
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If he doesnt drink like he used to then cut him some slack. If he has really changed then forgive his past. If he still gets drunk with you and acts the same way with you that he did with the girls in the pictures then you maybe uncomfortable with the fact he hasnt really changed. As for looking at other girls and thinking about other girls...he is 16yo that wont stop for a few years. The fact that he is upfront may tell you he isnt being sneaky and cheating. If he is just being rude about it and it hurts your feelings ask him to not do it. becareful about jealousy. If you treat him as tho he is cheating he will one day think "if she always gives me greef about it I may as well do it" If he has never givin you a reason to distrust him you need to trust him. Try sharing your feeling about it when you arent upset. Talk to him.
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I've gone on 2 dates with this guy who's still in the closet. He's never been in a relationship and we've kissed and made out and did other sensual things, not sex. I asked him if he wanted to go out and do something with me next week and his response was, "maybe" I asked him why "maybe" and he said, "well I could be going on a date next week." I was like, "oh okay that's cool, keeping your options open."
He's like, "yeah" "are you okay with that?" I was like, "not really, but I don't want to act like i'm too attached." then I ask, "would you be okay if I went on a date with another guy between then and now?" he said, "yeah, i'm not clingy." Okay, now analyze this and asnwer this question. What's the difference between being clingy, and acting interested? In my mind, him saying that he might be on a date with another person between then and now, shows that he's not interested in me. And second, isn't it rude anyway to tell the person who you've gone out with two dates on that you might be going on a date with someone else? please help, this frustrates me. (link)
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I believe every relationship can have its own rules as long as you are honest about how you feel and both people agree and are on the same wave length. One person might want an open relationship the next a pickett fence children and a nanny. You two fall somewhere in between. but maybe not in the same place on the scale. I think the fact that he was honest with you is awsome! I think the fact that you were honest with him is wonderful and doesnt make you clingy.
The fact that you have had two dates and want to be exclusive might be a bit rushed. But I also believe when you find the right person he wont want to date around. When you find the person on the scale between pickett fences and open orgies you will both want the same thing at the same time. So you have a choice. Date this guy and others casually. Or move on. But continue to be honest.
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15/f. My best friend (14/f) has a crush on this cute guy. I think I also might have a crush on him, but I haven't told her because I don't want to seem like I'm stealing him or anything, so I've pretty much been ignoring my feelings. Anyway, the bad part is that she goes through guys like oxygen. I'm not kidding. And besides that, it's fairly obvious that he's not interested in her, and he and I share the same interests and sense of humor. Is it bad for me to like him as well, and should I just back off? Or should I tell my best friend and see what happens? I really don't want to mess up my friendship with my best friend over some guy. Thanks. (link)
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You have many choices. Id let him know how you feel by getting close to him. That way you can see where it goes with out pushing the relationship. If he does like you more then your friend so be it. You also can wait to see what happens between your friend and him. most likely she will lose interest in him and move on quickly. You can do both at the same time. If you two hit it off it doesnt mean you are the bad friend. It isnt your fault if he isnt interested in her. Just remember a good judge of a man is how he treats a person he isnt interested in. If he is mean to her. You may rethink liking him. If h is a good guy he will let her down nicely.
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my ex girl is still givin me signs that she wants and loves me still but she has a boyfriend and i have given her enough time so i think its time to repair our relationship and get her back but i dont kno how especially becuz she has a boyfriend(who i believe is jus to get me jealous). what do i do to get her back now?
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Why would you want her back? She is acting as though she still likes you because it is always nice to have a back up. Incase the one she is with doesnt work out. Wont she do the same to you? And when a girl flirts to another boy infront of you. thats just to make your jealous. When a girl is dating another boy and flirting with you. Thats her trying to make him jealous. find another girl.
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I have a really hard time making friends. But when i do make a friend they only use me. I've lost a lot of confidence because of all of the friends that I've made that used me and because I moved across the country. I have like no friends and people don't like me and everyone seems to think that i'm really wierd adn try to avoid me. What can I do?? (link)
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Start with liking yourself. Be a person you would want to hang out with. The more you grow the more self confidence you will gain. People will flock to you. Then you can pick which ones you want as friends. Start by being nice to others with out wanting anything in return. Second do something for your self that makes you feel better about you.
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Hi. :]
I'm a highschool junior, so I'm 16 years old.
I recently went to a "college night" at my highschool & there were like over 100 colleges there. Me & my mom have been looking at the brochures, and she INSISTS I go to a college. Like a live-at-home gain your credit hours, and not live in a dorm. My parents literally have NO money, my dads paychecks go to all the bills and then part of my moms pay checks go to some bills and the rest goes to groceries & living.
I have one brother and two sisters, and they've all gone to a four-year college, lived in a dorm, and had a college life.
I know that they won't have enough money to send me to like University of AUSTIN & stuff, even though it'd be really nice to go there, (tutition is seriously expensive, even if you live in Texas.) I hate thinking that I'm going to have to go to a 2 year college and travel from school to my parents house ALL THE TIME. But, it just feels like since I'm the youngest, I get like the worst shit.
I hate it. :/
Plus all my siblings had cars & their licenses by their 16th birthday.. & I'm almost 17 and don't even have my license yet, and won't have a car for a REALLY long time.
I don't know what to say.
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It sounds to me like your parents are doing the best that they can. It isnt a birth right for them to buy you a car or send you to college. If you really want a car and college work for them yourself. There are ways to put yourself thru and ask your parent to help you instead of asking them to do it for you. I was the youngest of three myself. I put my own way through college. both my sister and brother got their way paid by my parents. right now it feels like your life sucks. but for me i feel i have a better work ethic then my bother and sister. I have more respect for myself and from my parents. And i also feel there is not much in life i cant do. that is a lot to learn. You are lucky they can help you at all. And there is no reason you cant go away to college.
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My first boyfriend and I recently broke up. It's weird being single but I'm moving on. The problem is, there are absolutely no guys that I like. I'm in my senior year of highschool, have a job, lots of single friends and no guys have caught my eye! I know I should focus on me and be independent, but I'm used to being interested in many guys. How can I meet new guys and where? Should I even be looking for someone right now, or let someone find me? (link)
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Find a guy who is more of a fiend then boyfriend. learn how to be friend with a man. this will teach you how important you are. and that relationship will last longer. Maybe it would be easier to find guy friends in your area.
This will also free you up to have fun your senior year! The more you figure out who you are the more attractive you will be come to decent guys in the future.
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I have a pretty confusing situation.
I'm a girl, 15 and a sophomore. There are two guys that are involved, the first, whom I'll call L, is a really nice, funny, and cute guy. I talk to him every day, and I think that we're friends and get along pretty well. He's 17 and a senior, and I've liked him since about the 2nd week of this school year. The second guy, F, I only met less than a month ago. He is the sweetest guy I know, and we talk pretty often nowadays, which is weird, as he has said that he usually can't stand sophomores. He's also a senior, and kindof an artsy, non-conventional guy. The problems? L is dating an AMAZINGLY gorgeous and talented girl, who lives 6 hours away but he has been dating since summer. He's never talked to me about her, but this weekend I saw them together for the first time and I almost had a stroke, which is weird for me. F drinks, smokes, etc, while I am 100% straightedge. L also has a really cool girlfriend, whom he has been going out with at least since the summer, and I know reasonably well.
I don't want to be a homewrecker. Are my hopes way too high? Will I ever be anything than just a friend with either of them? Do I just wait it out and see what happens? Should I even bother with F?
If you could bring any clarity to this situation, I would appreciate it so much!
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There is enough time in your furture for true love. The guys are both older then you are which is not that big a deal but...The problem is they are both in a different place in their life then you are. You sound mature for any age. Keep your heart close to you and just have fun at this point. That doesnt mean you cant fall for guys or just one. Just know they will not nessasarily last for "ever" grow from them the men you date now will be apart of what kind of woman you will become. Find a funny cute guy that is single.Some one who makes you laugh.... Hang out.
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