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Do I have a chance?
I have a pretty confusing situation.
I'm a girl, 15 and a sophomore. There are two guys that are involved, the first, whom I'll call L, is a really nice, funny, and cute guy. I talk to him every day, and I think that we're friends and get along pretty well. He's 17 and a senior, and I've liked him since about the 2nd week of this school year. The second guy, F, I only met less than a month ago. He is the sweetest guy I know, and we talk pretty often nowadays, which is weird, as he has said that he usually can't stand sophomores. He's also a senior, and kindof an artsy, non-conventional guy. The problems? L is dating an AMAZINGLY gorgeous and talented girl, who lives 6 hours away but he has been dating since summer. He's never talked to me about her, but this weekend I saw them together for the first time and I almost had a stroke, which is weird for me. F drinks, smokes, etc, while I am 100% straightedge. L also has a really cool girlfriend, whom he has been going out with at least since the summer, and I know reasonably well.
I don't want to be a homewrecker. Are my hopes way too high? Will I ever be anything than just a friend with either of them? Do I just wait it out and see what happens? Should I even bother with F?
If you could bring any clarity to this situation, I would appreciate it so much!
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First of all i think that if you have other feelings for these guys you should let them know.
Maybe they feel the same way about you?
My personal opinion about bothering with F would be no not if your straight and he smokes and drinks because otherwise you might get hooked on smoking and drinking aswell.
You have to look at it from all angles i mean its not just you and them involved its L's girlfriend aswell.
F you only met less then a month ago you don't hardly know anything about him, i say you wait and see what he is really like then decide if you should make your move.
I also understand that you don't want L's girlfriend to get hurt but if you feel the way you do about him then he has a right to know, he might dump her and go out with you instead.
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L sounds wonderful. Actually, its good that you don't want to be a homewrecker.
The fact that you talk to him everyday and can connect is good; that means he's not annoyed by you.
F I would stay away from relationship wise - your personal values are too different. Don't even bother with F - just be friends.
Hang in there with L, most LDRs don't work and eventually will end.
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There is enough time in your furture for true love. The guys are both older then you are which is not that big a deal but...The problem is they are both in a different place in their life then you are. You sound mature for any age. Keep your heart close to you and just have fun at this point. That doesnt mean you cant fall for guys or just one. Just know they will not nessasarily last for "ever" grow from them the men you date now will be apart of what kind of woman you will become. Find a funny cute guy that is single.Some one who makes you laugh.... Hang out.
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wow, difficult situation, well first, i'd give you a hug, lol, now, you need to realize that the guy that Drinks and stuff, you have to know if he drinks, is he an ass when he does drink because if he is, you dont want anything to do with him, and with the other guy, if you like him and you really think you do, tell him, and maybe he will understand, Your not really being a homewrecker, you can't help what you feel, and who knows maybe he will realalize that he has a beautiful nice girl here, not 6 hours away. long tearm relashionships are hard to deal with, he might concider wanting to go out with you, if he likes you alot, Hopefully i helped
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