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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
He is not being honest and no relationship will work without honesty. It seems to me that you have 2 options here. Either end it now or stick it out and see if things get better. I know ending it now is easier said than done, but chances are, if he cant be honest about something small like facebook, and continues to deny it even tho he probably knows you know, he will lie about bigger things and the relationship will probably not work out.
If you dont want to end things, you need to confront him and say I know about the facebook page, I saw it even tho its private now, i know its you, and you have this one chance and one chance only to come clean about it and if he cares about you or your relationship at all he needs to be honest. If he still denies it hes clearly not worth your time and he thinks your dumb enough to believe him. If he comes clean tho, things might not be doomed and there might be a chance you can work things out. So confront him and see what he has to say, and either way, make it clear to him how much what he did hurt you and how much him lying to you hurt you.
I hope I helped and let me know how things go.
Good luck!!
i smoked weed last night, about a bowl's worth. and my parents just informed me that i need to get a job, asap. so how do i clean my system quickly? thanks.
if you have to take a drug test just drink allooottt of water. Start drinkin water the night before and as long as your pee is clear your good! Ive done it a bunch of times.
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My school went on a field trip to bush gardens(an amusement park)last Friday. wen we were in the area called jungala, my group and i were playing around in the nets. we were talking to almost everyone who passed by saying "hello whats your name?" and stuff like that. this one kid we said that too was like "my name's Dylan" and then he left. then a few minutes later he came back and sat with us and we were all talking. He's 14 and in 8th grade. He also gets his permit next month. then we exchanged numbers. then after talking for like an hour, he had to leave to go back home in Fort Desota. i live in Tampa, so we don't live far away. (only about a county away)then when he left he was texting my friend and he asked her if i liked him. i said no because hes not real cute, and we don't live near each other. So then he texted me. This was our conversation:
HIM: i have something to tell you
ME: What?
HIM: i like u A LOT.
ME: how we just met like an hour ago
HIM: because your pretty, funny, and cute.
(*then my friends told me to tell him*)
ME: wow that was cheesy
HIM: fine....you be hawt
ME: sorry but i have a boyfriend (when i dont)
so what should i do
If you dont like him, then there should be no question. You said yourself you dont live near each other so its not like you'll see him. So just dont talk to him anymore. Dont lead him on if you have no interest in him. But since your asking maybe you are thinkin you might like him. If that is the case, just get to know him more and then you can figure out if you like him or not.
My family situation is pretty crazy and embarrassing to talk about, and I'm still having trouble coming to terms with it. My parents divorced 3 years ago. Basically, what happened was that my dad said he was going a business trip, and then never came back.
Since he disappeared he left a lot of loose ends. He has never let me talk with him about what happened in an honest and open way (he didn't bother seeing or calling me until one year after he left), the divorce process lasted a year and was really ugly, he left my mum to pay the bills and take care of me, he remarried without telling me, bought his new family a house and settled down on the other side of the atlantic with them etc.
Now he's saying he wants to talk to me and reestablish a relationship, by sending emails full of either sentimental bs, or unreasonable demands, or long explanations of how everything wrong in his life is my mum's fault. He finds it perplexing that I don't respect him or listen to him at all. He expects me to be perfectly fine about the fact that he never showed any interest in my life before, left me to fend for myself, and that he was never honest with me about anything before either. A part of me would like to just ignore the fact he exists for the rest of my life because he is such an idiotic, annoying and selfish b*****d, but he is my dad and I can't ignore that fact, so another part of me wants to give him another chance. At the moment I'm ignoring his messages by not talking to him. I blocked his email addresses for a few months too. I just didnt know what to think about him so I gave up thinking about him for a while until now.
What can I do now? I tried many time in the past to reestablish communication with him and trust him, but all that happened was that he ignored my attempts and pretended like there was nothing to talk about and that I was a yabbering whiny little kid, which really hurt me. Now he's trying, and I'm tempted to do to him what he did to me. He's so useless. Obviously if he wanted to make things right he'd do more than send emails.
Sorry this is such a long-winded and nonsensical question but I just need somewhere to vent my emotional steam. And btw I have seen a counsellor in the past to sort out my thoughts but it really didn't help... at all. Thanks!
Your dad has done alot of things that a parent shouldnt do to a child. I completely understand why you would have issues with him and I dont blame you. I also commend you very much for realizing that he is your dad and wanting to give him a chance.
Try to remember that your dad is human. Humans make mistakes. All the time. Also, despite the fact that he went about it in a totally wrong way, your dad wants to be happy too. And it seems like maybe he wasnt happy with your mom and theres no one to blame for that. Especially not you. Its his actions that were negative, not him.
It may take a while but eventually you will be able to forgive him. Just try to everything out in the open with hi. If you hold something in it could turn into resentment so it is just better to get it out now. If he didnt care about you, he could have just never contacting you again and wrote you off. But he didnt and that means something. So try to remember that. I hope you are able to work everything out with him and rebuild your relationship. Good luck.
i think i have a connection at logan's roadhouse. this guy who lives down the street is a manager there. anyways, i'm going in either this thursday or wednesday, because those two days are half days off school.
now to my question, could anyone give me any tips? I've applied for jobs before but have never actually had one. i reaally need this job. so can anyone tell me any questions they might ask, what i should wear, say, how to answer the questions? thanks in advance.
Let me start by saying Good Luck! One very important thing to an interview is act confident. Not cocky, but confident. Walk in there with good posture and you head held high, smile, and give a firm hand shake. Wear something professional and not too gaudy. For example, a nice pair of black slacks, a nice white blouse or shirt, and nice black shoes. Keep your hair off your face a neat ,and if your a girl keep makeup simple. Give as much eye contact as possible because that makes one appear trustworthy and honest. I dont know much about the position your going for but some general questions you might be asked are about any experience you might haveand if your in high school they might ask what your plans after when you graduate and what you like about the company or business your applying to. I have been to interviews for many different types of jobs and I have been asked questions like what I think my greatest personal strengths and weaknesses are, why I think I am a good candidate for the position. It all depends on the person doing the interview as well. Some people are easy to be around and humorous where as others are more uptight and professional. For example, my first interview was for Subway and I was in high school and it was my first job. The manager was easy going and not uptight. Since I didnt have any job experience to go off of he asked me if I keep my room clean. Also, you have to be likeable. Be a people person. Be friendly and polite. Be comfortable with yourself and even if you are, try not to appear nervous. Think about the type of person they would want to work there, and be that person. Hope I helped a little and good luck!
Okay, so I know that I am bisexual. Well, kinda. I am sexually attracted to girls, but I would never date or marry one. I guess you could say I favor guy, but I get really aroused when thinking about girls, or having sex with a girl. My question is, do most girls think like this but are afraid to show it ? Nobody really knows this about me, and I feel like.. how could a girl NOT feel this way ? I know that there are some girls who are completely straight and would think that is disgusting.. but I go to a large school and out of all my friends, all of them claim to be "stright". Is this true ?
I am a bisexual girl myself. The only difference between me and you is that I do date girls. I always thought about girls in a sexual way, even before I realized I was bi. I have since I was in second grade. I just always thought growing up that I was just "curious". But in regards to your question, I do think that most girls are at least "curious" about hooking up with other girls, even if they dont aadmit it. It is becoming more and more socially acceptable to be gay and more and more people are coming out as gay or bi. But the isnt %100 there yet and people's fears of how they are viewed prevent them from talking about or admitting their sexual preferences. Im not saying that I think everyone is bisexual, but I definately do think that everyone has their curiosities, whether they admit it or not.
P.S. Maybe you should come out and let others know that you are sexually attracted to girls. Other people might feel more comfortable to do the same if they know they arent alone. Plus it makes it easier to hook up with girls. Just a thought =)
17 f. Hey guys so. Me and my best friend we go to a different high school and every since we were in the 6th grade we vowed to go together to prom. So I had this BF who I really cared about and he happens to go to her school. He said he was going to take me. We had everything set when we got into this huge fight and he said a lot of hurt things to me. Like Ex. "I was always embarrased to be seen by you" "you're a who*re " and a lot of other things. So basically he also told me that he wasn't going to take me to prom he was going to take another girl. And he said "I bet you're going to look ridiculous that day" so now I don't know if I should go to their prom. My friend already got me someone to take me and everything. I kind of want to go to show him what he lost. And that day I'm planning on looking gorgeous. He knew how important it was for me and my bff to go together. I even offerd to buy a ticket from him but he said he doesn't wanna help me out and doesn't care. I wanna go to show him that I didn't need him to take me to prom I went without his help. But at the same time I also don't want to becuase I'm thinking he's not worth it. But I feel like I NEED to go becuase then he will be thinking that it was becuase of him that I didn't go. Plus I need to show him how well I can clean up. Haha. So advice? Should I go or not? Wat would you have done? I'm so lost. -michelle , MN
I think you should go and have an amazing time with your best friend. Forget your boyfriend, he's a jerk. Go and show him what he lost!!!
Im fifteen year old male and she is twelve.Well me and my girl friend have been dating for two days we started out at a school dance and we have already made out and and she has told me that she will not go any farther no matter what but i want to change that not soon but in the future maybe in a few months maybe in a few weeks but we really like each other and i want to atleast get a handjob
SHE'S 12!!!!! Im sorry but your being a creep and you really need to let her make her own decisions. You should'nt pressure a 12 yr old into doing sexual things that shes not ready for. And you have only been going out 2 days. That makes it even worse. Give her time and let her do what she wants when shes ready. If you are saying in the future not now then there is no reasdon for you to even be asking this question. Sounds to me like all you care about is getting sexual favors for her. You need to stop and leave her alone about it.
About two years ago, a friend and i made up a fake facebook acoount as a joke. We are girls. We were junoirs in high school and now I realize it was dumb. It was made solely to creep on ex boyfriends. This one guy messaged the fake account and gave her his number. We started texting. I wasn't interested in him at all. I didn't even think he was cute!
Slowly, we started to like each other. I broke it off because I knew we could never meet. But, I cried so much because I missed him. We were in love or atleast thought we were. He messaged me again and told me he wanted me in his life still. I don't want to keep this lie going.
I have self-esteem issues because my older sister is so beautiful. I'm not ugly or fat. I'm 19 now and he is 21. I know I should tell him the truth. But I don't know how to. Please help me.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I feel that all these details are necessary.
Tell him the truth. Its at least worth a shot. Just explain yourself to him and tell him why you guys made the account and that you never expected to meet someone. Tell him you were scared to tell him before but you dont want to keep living a lie with him because he means so much to you. Tell him about your self esteem issues. Yea, he might cut his ties with you thats no worse than you just cutting him off because its all a lie. In my opinion, if he really does have serious feelings for you, he will get past it. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you!
can u get birth control without ur parents knowing?
I guess it depends on where you live but I live in PA and here you can go to planned parenthood and get it free if your under 18 and they dont tell your parents. If your over 18 you have to pay for it its like 30 a month. Hope I helped!
waht are puppymills? becasue i read a sign in a petstore that sayd they dont buy from them :\
Puppy mills are basically large scale dog breeding operations. They are usually held in more remote places to avoid attention. The dogs there are usually held in tiny little cages that they dont even have enough room to stand. All they can do is lay. They cages are rarely if ever cleaned so they are forced to live in their own feces and filth. They are not fed properly and are usually very skinny and sickly. Alot of these dogs have diseases because they never recieve vet attention and usually do not even have the required vaccinations. The sole purpose of these dogs is to breed. Their well being is not cared about. Money is the only thing cared about. They are often bred with their sibling or children which cause the offspring to often have deformities or diseases. They are often mistreated and abused.
I dont know if time has changed things, but in the past, many commercial petstores got their puppies from puppymills because of the cheap price. So it is not recommended to get a puppy from a petstore either. Puppy mills also sell puppies over the internet so if you come across a website that says they will ship the puppy to you, chances are it is a puppy mill. Reputable breeders would not ship a puppy. Puppy mills do it because they cant allow you to see the conditions of where these dogs live so shipping the puppy to you takes care of that.
Here is some more information on puppy mills
http://www.aspca.org/fight-animal-cruelty/puppy-mills/what-is-a-puppy-mill.html
Hope I helped and be cautious of puppy mill operations. Do not help them continue this horrible business by buying from them. Go to a local shelter or find a reputable breeder.
I know there's a way to change your email name.
for example; mine is lookitslorin@yahoo.com
Its not very professional & I'm going to be going to college soon where I have to email my professors. Is there any way I can change it to something different such as lorin@yahoo.com without actually changing the email?
thanks in advance :)
You cant change your email name. You will have to create a new one. Use the one you currently have for whatever you already use it for and just make a new one that is for school.
Alright well a about a year ago i expieremented with a girl and ended up dating her then we broke up and i hooked up with a few other girls and i actually love it haha but im not super open about it like i try to hide it as much as possible cause im in highschool and you know how people like to judge. And then there is the whole my mom thing. My sister is a striaght up lesbo and my mom knows and is cool about it but if im gay too she is gonna shit herself and feel like a bad mom. she even told me like jokingly that i wasnt aloud to be gay or she would kick me out. So know i have to date boys and not let my mom know. But im pretty sure ill im intrested in is girls. what do i do?
You have to do what is going to make you happy. I'm sure your mom wouldnt want you to live an unhappy life just to make her happy. I am bisexual and came out to my mom about 3 and a half years ago. I came out because I was with a girl and now have been with her ever since. She wasnt happy about it and first but now my parents fully accept my girlfriend and look at her as part of the family. All any parent wants is for their child to happy. Yes, it may not be the life she would choose if it were up to her but thats okay. She will love you either way. On the same token though, before you tell her, be sure you are really interested in girls in more than just a sexual way. Alot of people are unsure if they are actually gay or curious. Im not saying thats you, but Im just saying make sure before you bring it up to your mom. Good Luck and feel free to message me anytime.
My boobs are different sizes, ones a b and ones a d, WHAT DO I DO? i can never find a good bra and i look lop-sided in all shirts!
The only way to actually fix it would be to have a breast augmentation and either have the bigger one reduced in size or get an implant in the smaller one. That can be costly though and may not fit your lifestyle. Aside from that the best I can tell you is get some type of pad insert to put in the smaller cup to even them out. I would go with a gel insert because it would look and feel more natural than one of those foam ones. And regarding a bra, go for one that fits the larger side comfortably. Dont worry about the smaller size not fitting because as I said you can make the smaller side appear bigger whereas you cant make the bigger side smaller. Hope I helped!
Ugh it's so annoying; my ears have been all blocked up since a school trip on Wednesday. We took a plane and my ears, of course, got blocked up. Really bad. It's getting pretty hard to hear.
And on top of all that, I have a cold. My mom says it's from my cold, I think it's from the plane....anyways...owN
How do you pop your ears? Other than holding your nose and blowing, cuz that hasn't helped. Also, a way to decongest yourself.
I apreciate all comments :]
-M
That happened to me a few weeks ago and my ears were blocked for like 3 weeks. It was horrible. I was told that i had fluid retained in them. I tried popping them a million times but it didnt work so i went to walmart and got this stuff called instant ear-dry. You put it in your ears after showering and it makes them feel all warm inside. It worked for me after like 4 days of using it and I could hear again. Try it.
Good Luck!
I have a german sheperd(if i spelled that right) and he doesnt digest food right and i very skinny what could be the cause of this? Please what should i do i've already went to the vet and they dont know.
If the vet your going to doesnt know, then he cant be that good of a vet. Find a different one. In the mean time, is it possible that he might have worms?? When a dog has worms the worms take all the nutrients and the dog doesnt what he should be getting which can make them skinny. Try giving him dewormer. And even if its not worms, the dewormer wont hurt so I say give it a shot.
i have this rash that is covering my whole body its called pityriasis rosea. i have been to the docyor and they said to take benadryl but that just makes me sleepy. is there any thing else i can do so kill the rash and make it go away.
21 F
There is also Benadryl sprays and creams. Maybe try putting that on during the day and take the Benadryl pills at night. That way you wouldnt be sleepy during the day and you would also be treating your rash. Good Luck!
about a year ago i moved back in with my mom in her housing complex, she ended up getting into some legal trouble involving a dwi and drugs and now she is getting kicked out of her apartment because of it, she doesn't work a normal job and says that she can't because of "mental issues" she says that she is bipolar and who knows maybe she is but i think she uses things as an excuse to not change her life a lot. right now we live in a 1 bedroom apartment, i sleep in the living room which is also connected to the living room and she has this guy that she sees on and off again over all the time. When they wake up her boyfriend immediately comes out and sits on the couch right next to my futon and today i told her that i thought it was a little disrespectful since i don't have any privacy as it is for him to give her, her space by invading mine and she totally flipped her lid on me. I am 22 years old and every time i have ever lived with her it seems like i can be sacrificed in any way needed for her to still be comfortable so today I told her that if that is how its going to be then when the eviction is final that maybe we should go our own ways, the only thing is that I know she can't afford to live on her own and i dont know what she would do without me. I feel like a horrible person but if we moved in together she'd have to rely on me for a long time anyways. Am i being too selfish?
no, you are not being selfish at all. Number 1 she is a grown women and needs to learn to take care of herself. It is not your responsibility to live with her because she cant afford to live alone. Number 2 if she did need you around that badly then she should treat you with a little more respect. It would be differrent if you were 16 years old. But your not. Your a 22 year old adult and therefore you have a right to be respected just like she would want to be respected. So do what it is that you need to do, without worrying about what she needs. You dont need to be a parent to your parent. Good luck!
Ok well im 16/f and i cut my self . On my wrist and dont tell me to use a rubber band cause it dosent work ive tryed or write in a jurnal cause ive done that to.. IT DOSENT WORK. my friend always asks why i have cuts on my wrists and i say oh my cat cut it. and if he finds out he will think im doing it for attention but im really not my mom passed away 3 weeks ago. and my dad abuses me. I have no relatives. so i have no one to talk to . so i turned to cuting . It really helps me but i need to stop . Because of what i tryed to do. Commit suicide but i stoped because my one and only friend caught me and grabbed me and took me home. I have had a really screwed up past . i was raped at the age of 13 and took drugs at 14 so now all of that made me really depressed . I really am loseing faith so someone please tell me what i could do to help i dont have enough money to go to a theropist so dont tell me that. im really scared of my dad so please help..
I am deeply sorry for everything that you have been through. But what you need is help from trained professionals, not people on this site. The person who answered before me gave excellent advice which you should try to follow through on. I know asking for help is hard, one of the hardest things to ever do. But at your age, it is hard to make things better without doing it. You cant really move out or get out of the situation. You have to find the strength in yourself to ask someone for help. A guidance counselor at school, a teacher, basically any adult that you trust. Dont worry about costs of things. At your age, its not important. If you go to the hospital or call 911 because you think you are going to hurt yourself or are being hurt at home, they are more concerned with helping you than getting money. So let that be the farthest concern from your mind. Just please, try to find the courage to ask for help. It could be the best decision you ever make in your life. Good luck and God Bless.
19f.
so last sunday i was at my two cousins birthday party. one is in 6grd and the other is in 8grd.. it was at a hotel. so i went out in the pool area to talk to my two cousins and ended up sitting down and then one of my cousins friends who is in 8th grade came and sat down w/us. i started talking to him, just being nice. well then i ended up leaving and everyone tells me how he thought i was so hot and how he wants to marry me .. hahaa young boys!! well now it's my other cousins birthday this saturday and we're going over to his house and my aunt texted me today asking if i was going and i said yeah are you guys? and she is like yeah we are! and i think we're going to bring mikey too! (the boy who has the biggest crush on me) i told my parents and they think its the funniest thing but i know i'm going to keep getting crap for it.
my question is .. how do i act around him? he texted me, because my little cousin gave him my number and was talking dirty to me .. 8th grade pervs! and so now i feel as though it will be awkward when i see him! i don't want to crush the poor kid and just ignore him but i also don't want to give him the wrong idea. suggestions? thanks!:)
Just be mature about it. I dont know how you handled the situation when he texted you dirty stuff but if you handled the situation then and told him you are too old for him and it is inappropriate then I would just act normal around him like you did at the last party. If you ignored the text messages I would politely tell him or your cousin that him doing that was very inappropriate and cannot happen again. Just be polite and mature. And dont feel akward, if anything he should feel akward, not you. He is the one who made a fool of himself to someone how many years older. Just dont lose sleep over it. He's just a kid. Good Luck!