I have a boyfriend and he is really nice. He is always very sweet and considerate of me. He has made it clear that he really likes me alot and I like him too.
He sounds really outgoing on the phone, but then at school he is so nervous, he can barely talk to me. My friends and I get the feeling that he thinks I'm really popular and experienced which actually, I'm not. So on instant messenger he kept saying, "Were going to make on on Monday and school" and he always calls me "babe" on the phone or computer. But then at school, he is so nervous around me.
So, is he a jerk, or just one really nervous insecure kid?
I would say that he is just a really insecure kid. All you can really do about that is convince him into talking to you the same ways thyat he does on the phone and let him know that you arent that popular or experienced so he doesnt need to be nervous. Just tell him that he should act like himself not someone that hes not.
hope i have helped-kate♥♥
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Ok, so theres this guy, let's call him Cameron. I've been literally in love with him for over 2 and a half years. He's liked me that long too, but the problem is, one of his best girl friends (who is also my best friend) says that he likes five girls. Two of which are halfway across the country. Then there's me, and two other girls that must go to my school. On a scale of 1-10 he rated me a 9, and a girl in another state a 10. I'm getting really jealous and I'm not sure how to react to all this. He says he really likes me, and he even gave me flowers on Valentine's Day, but I'm just not sure what to do. Should I still keep my hopes up for him, or try to give him up since he likes 5 different girls? Any help is appreciated. Thanks.
Well giving up would also put his hopes away because when there is another girl in another state i am sure that they really cant do ny harm unless they talk all the time but if would like you better than you two would probably go out makin him stop talking to all these other girls all the time. Being in another state is really hard to have a relationship and a lot of the time if they havent been aroound each other a lot like in person then their feelings for each other will be different because they are different in person so lets just hope that happens!
Kate♥♥
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Well today i basically got ditched i mean i met up with the people but they just left right after. it was the first time meeting. They just walked away after like 5min.
So i need a good way to get back at that person.
But i dont want it seeming like i really care.
& nothing with meeting up with them again.
Any ideas?
well it all depends on who these people were ...but you could always pull a prank call from their school to their parents telling their parents that they were doing drugs behind the school or something just mess em up if they go to your school then you could pull little tricks on them that would really embarass them in front of the school and they wouldnt know it was you
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Okay, so I'm currently dating this guy for about 2 months now. He has a problem with drugs and I realize he's trying to stop. He also has a girl who lives in CT (we live in DE) and he had dated him over the internet for awhile. She stopped talking to him for months and now all the sudden she's trying to get back with him. He recently broke up with me because "he had to get his life straight" (which I know was true because i can tell when he's lying) but he gives into easily and the day after he broke up with me this girl called him back and they ended up going back out. Four day's later this guy asks me back out saying he knows he's made a mistake and that I'm the only girl who has cared about him like I do and I'm the one he wants to be with and I know most of it is true because he was crying when he told me this and he NEVER cries. I don't know if I can trust him...I love him but after that I don't know...I know he cares because he told me after he had done it and realized he made a mistake and the whole time he was going out with her he told me he loved me and never once told her he loved her (which IS true bcuz I talked to her) I just need help with this trust issue. Does anyone have a way I can learn to trust him more and if not do you think I should just break up with him and find someone who wont do this to me? I know this girl is just using him because she's lonly because her b/f just broke up with her and she'll be gone as soon as she finds another but I just don't know...I just need some advice. Help me out...I'll rate you high.
okay well when you are in love you do silly things like breaking up with the one that you really love and when you love someone it just wont go away whenever you want it to be gone...you will ALWAYS love someone and when you arent with them you know that there is something wrong. But with your situation your b/f is pry having some difficulties sorting out this whole drug thing. Since you know more about what this girl is doing then you should let him know about what t his girl is really doing so that he knows who really does care more about him so he wont make that mistke again. To trust him again you need to let him know that you are trying to regain that trust and that he better try and get your trust back. You probably shouldnt break up with him because if you both say you love each other as you say you do then maybe it could go farther than just b/f and g/f but you should also try to have him not fal into that trap of fallin over that girl again.
Good Luck - Hope i have helped
kate♥
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I am quite small and don't have much fat on my body. I weigh 90 pounds and i'm about 4' 10.5'' I have very muscualar legs, arms, and shoulders. My problem area: my lower stomache. I have a minor pot belly. YUCKKK!
I'm in 7th grade and have a really busy schedule. The only time i could fit in some excercise would be when i get home from school, but im usually famished and need some rest. I'm not fat and i will never think that EVER no matter what. I accept who I am completely, but I do think staying healthy is important. I need help motivating myself to leg lifts and that crap. i don't like it! It hurts! What can i do to motviate myself and fit in an excersise schedule?
well i am in seventh grade too and my life is busier than busy but i always make time for excersising at home even if its only for 30 minutes you should still try to get some exercise in but even if you arent fat maybe you should get ypourself on a healthier diet.
kate♥
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ok so i have a friend (joann) who loves to sing, and wants to be a famous singer for her career and she works really LOVES to sing. i also love to sing, and know a great deal and music along with many of my friends. The problem is joann cant sing fo rthe life of her. everytime she starts to sing people laugh. shes ac=bsolutley awful. shes known in my school to be an awful singer. being a friend i cant tell her, and her parents tell her shes good. what can my friends and i do to help her see that maybe singing isnt the right thing for her? thanks!!
you could do karoake with your friends and when she goes up record her and then give her the tape so then she will find out for herself and you wont feel bad for telling her that she cant sing!\
Kate♥
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ok, i really like this girl at school and shes the only girl ive like at my new school. i told a couple of my best friends that i liked her and it slowly spread throughout the class to her. her friend asked if i am going to ask her out or not and im really not sure because she has been known to dump boys after 2 days(thats the record for her) some of her friends said that shes interested in me but i dont want to get my heart broken like i did with my last girlfriend. should i take this chance
well you need to live your life to the fullest and you dont want to go to college and regret never just doing what you want like asking her out. So i think you should just ask her out and then if she says no well then just try to get to know her as you grow older and maybe she will regret not going out with you first. So just go ahead and ask her out and if she says yes grreat but if she says no then become really good friends and make her regret her mistake
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okay so i'm really flat, but i feel like i need to wear a bra, but i donn't know how to tell my mom that without making it awkward! what should i say? when should i say it? i am kinda uncomfortable with the whole idea so i just need some ideas of what to say! thanks! i rate 5's!
well its okay to want to wear a bra. But its also okay to tell your mom. your mom knows that you will wear a bra someday..so why not todayJust casually ask her and im sure she will understand because someday you will need one and you are going to want to be used to it by the time that you really do need it because otherwise you will want tp take it off.
kate& hearts;
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okay i need some new hairstyles (not haircuts styles but hairdos) does any one know any websites which you dont have to log in to or download and does anyone know how to have scrunchy curls (or whatever) without using gel and how do you do it with a curling iron because i tried and they are just like ringlets! okay i know i asked alot but thanks!
you can get this certain type of hair bryer that has a round nosel at the end and when you dry your hair you blow it up instead of down
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well my hairs naturally wavy/curly so after I shower (at night) I usually scrunch it with some gel. But when I wake up, my hair flattens out and I lose my curls. I cant stand curling my hair and I was wondering if theres anything I can do to not make it flatten out or what to do in the mourning to fix it? thanks
all you havve to do in the morning is get it wet but not to wet and oout the gel in and scrunch it up OR you can get this certain type of blow-dryer that has a big circle piece and you blow your hair up and then it stays like that and you dont have to use gel but it would work better WITH the gel but you dont have to use it
Kate♥
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'k, sorry if this gets long winded. i'll try to keep it to the point.
18f, had my bf for about a year, & its pretty serious & we care alot about ea. other. sounds good, right? 'k, but theres this guy friend (call him Greg for now) that i used to have a crush on, and i was about to get up nerves to ask him out, but then my current bf asked me. It's not as if theres anything wrong, and i love my bf i guess, but lately i'm thinking alot about Greg, and what it would have been like to go out with him. i had that crush for a long, long time, and now school is practically almost over and i'll never find out.
I don't think it would really be possible to dump my bf for him anyways, but now Greg has a gf of his, for the first time ever.
'k, sorry, lots to explain this, but after learning this, i've felt really depressed and jealous. I know i shouldn't be, first he never was mine and second i feel guilty thinking about in the first place. But the feelings don't go away. i feel like i'm being torn apart. i'm so confused. what's wrong with me? what should i do?
When you are in high school you always have dreams and when you dont achieve them you will still feel something along those lines. If you had liked him for a long period of time then you would have gotten used to waiting. So you feel like you are still waiting for him to ask you out because this is what you had been dreaming of for a long time. And now that he has a girlfriend you feel like he is over you and he doesnt like you anymore....making you feel depressed and jealous. The only thing you really can do is takw some time off. If your boyfriend right now likes you and possibly loves you then he should wait for you, but then you would also be a free woman so then "greg" would also be thinking of you. So you never know what will happoen just make sure that your boyfriend and you stay close friends so if nothing happens with greg then he will be by your side.
GOOD LUCK!
Kate♥hearts;
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Ok well i like 2 girls they are best friends,i dont think either one likes me and one of them has a b/f...her b/f is my best friend i really like them both and i dont know what to do please help!
13/m
Well first of all how do you know that niether one likes you? EXACTLY! you dont know that!!! So dont lose your hopes because i am sure that one of them will like you as more than a friend. Well you could always wait until they break up so that they would know. You could also tell them because then they might make more of an attempt to get to know you better and become more than friends.
Kate♥
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k so i've had a major crush on this guy brian but his best friend davis has a crush on me and now its ruining everything... its like a competition because i'm pretty sure my crush likes me too, i wish davis didn't like me and wouldn't care about me and brian.. haha so basically i don't even know what to ask besides how do i fix the problem?
this is a really hard question i know but seriously ANY advice is worth hearing
*i'm a 15 yr old girl if that matters
umm well in this situation there are many different solutions that would REALLY help you. Well 1 thing you could do would be to wait for one of them to like you or wait until you get over Brian (maybe you wont)
You could also talk to Brian because if you think he likes you and you like him then you should let him know because if he is friends with davis he should be able to handle it
Kate&love&hearts
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Ok well i really like this girl bout i dont think she likes me and im afriad to get turned down by her....shes a real flirt and she plays guys alot. What should i do? has this happened to you??
help me please
OKAY well first of all if this girl that you like is flirtin with you well then maybe she likes you but it could also be that she is just flirting with you like she would be with other guys. But usually if they would like you, you would be abe to tell.Well when a girl is acting like a payer most of the time she isnt ready for a relationship. Well this has sort of happened to me but the guy wasnt a flirt well he kinda was and i thought he liked me and i had liked him but then when i was talkin to him he said we was JUST FRIENDS and i got over him but if she is a "player" and you dont want to get hurt then i would recommend staying away from her for a while
Kate&hearts
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ok so im 15/f and i think i might have some mental health problems, not like crazy but i have anxeity attacks, alot of people say i have OCD, i think i might have ADD, but also my family thinks im a hypochrondriac so its hard to convince them somethings wrong with me. i want to get tested because i feel so different from my family. i cant concentrate when i do hw and study, i have a hard time retaining information, i can get moody really easily, i have panic attacks like monthly about school, life, anything can set it off, theres just so much that i feel that theres something wrong with me otherwise i wouldnt have all the problems. how do i get help, tested, and how do i convince my parents that somethings wrong with me? please help, i tried asking them for getting tested for ADD and they laughed and said i always think somethings wrong with me. please i rate 5's!
Okay well... These kind of mental problems are hard to face, but they wont go away so you need to learn to deal with them before they start to take over your whole social life. One of my good friends, Nate, was diagnosed with this disease and he acts much worse than you. But he tries to make the most of the life that he has. all he does differently is gets moody but everybody does that. This mental problem is like a nonstop period time because all that happens is your emotions get wired and which causes panic attacks. And my friend Nate has like major problems he can barely even go an hour without throwing something at somebody but believe me that you are one of the lucky ones because many people have it a lot worse than you do!
Kate&hearts
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i have been single for over a year now and i feel that no girl is ever gonna like me what the hell should i do?
How can you say that no girl likes you after being single for a YEAR! i was single for like 11 years strait. I didnt feel like no guy liked me. I am sure that there is a girl that likes you somewhere out there. You cant ever say that there is NO girl that likes you because there will always be that girl that is there but likes you, there is always that girl who is afraid to say something, there is ALWAYS a girl that likes you no matter where you are. They may not know it but they do. And what to do about it... well there is really nothing that you can do about it except if there is a girl you like you have got to try to make her like you as more then a friend. Anything can happen; but always remember that everything is right there they are just lying behind the clouds
Good Luck
Kate&hearts
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i hate fake people. i can't stand them. my freind is kind of shy around people. but when she gets online she talks to everyone. liek to all these guys who she would NEVER talk to in person. and the only way she knows these guys are because of me. she had a myspace and talkd to all these people and acts so fake! how can i get her to stop?
Well sometimes it can be that your friend is just shy but a lot of the time it is because they feel like they need to be social and over the internet there is a world of people and if she made one person think she was shy or something that they didnt like then she can just go to the next person and talk to them. It really relieves a lot of emotions to sit theere and talk to a bunch of people because then they arent afraid of what they would say. In person they WOULD talk like that its just that someone else talks over them so they cant or that they are scared when they see someone that they have talked to on the internet for a while then she will mellow out. You dont have to get her to stop you just need to talk to her about it and try to make her more confident so that she can bring herself out in front of all those other people
kate&hearts
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hey i need to know how do you become such a good columnist
well all you have to do is become very involved with problems at your school and learn how others have dealt with them and what to do and what not to do
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okay, so like, this is really weird. I have fantasies about doing things with my best friend...we'll say her name is Sadie... (i am totally sure I am NOT a lesbian), things like kissing and stuff. I really don't know what I should do about it. She already knows, we talked all night about this problem. She says she totally understands and she's not grossed out or anything. Is this normal? She is very pretty, and practically every boy that lays eyes on her is in love with her. I have another friend who is younger than me and actually does this stuff with her friends, but i don't feel comfortable doing anything with her. Everytime I am alone with sadie, I get that urge to want to do something. I have done that stuff tons of times before, but my parents always found out. One of the things is, I am really trying to be moral and clean. I really wanted to practice kissing, I am saving my first kiss with a guy, and I want it to be good. I want to do something with her more than I care about morals. I think it is kinda weird how I want to practice with her, but I know 100% that I'm not a lesbian, or bi. I don't have a crush on her. Can anyone explain to me how to deal with this, if it's normal, and what I should do about it? (by the way we never did anything together) I rate, PLEASE HELP ME!!
okay well this is a hard problem to face. This has happened to me before. Well what this urge to do something is, is just like a feeling of being deprived of intimacy with a guy or anyone that you really like. And you always love your friends as sisters or like really good friends that you wouldnt go out with. But you would pry go out with these people if they were the opposire sex. To deal with this all you would really have to do is just take some action and get involved with a guy before you do feel a really strong urge to do something with your best friends. but dont worry this is perfectly normal!
Good Luck
Kate&hearts
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ok im 13/f 110lbs 5'3 and i look so fat!! people say that im skinny but i wanna lose weight the only problem is lyk i can stop eating like i can even stop eating junk i tryed not eating and it just made me so hungry that i ate even more then i normally would have so what should i do and if you are goin to tell me to exercise than just know im not goin out and gettin stupid machine things.
why do you think you are fat? 110 Is the correct weight for your age! So dont worry! If you would lose weight then people would say that you are TOO skinny! Believe me on this one i am 13 and i weigh 98 pounds and all i ever hear is why dont you eat something it looks like you starve yourself but when people get to know me they see me and i am like a fricken eating machine! Dont worry about it! At this age we just need to forget abut how much we weigh and go on having as much fun as we can! And if you still think that you are "fat" then just try to sit there and while you are eating this "junk food" think about what you are putting in you or try eating an apple or something that tastes good to you! It will hopefully fill you up and give you the right nutrients in your body that will help with your problems
Kate&hearts
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