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I have a politics essay tomorrow, and we haven't been given the topic. However, I made up a few of my own topics so I could practice.
What I want to know is, if you have a essay topic like "Australia is more democratic than the USA" Can you give reasons why it is and it isn't? Or is it better to argue from one point of view? I've just been arguing from one point of view, but I'm not sure whether teachers always expect a comparison.
And in cases like "To what extent to both countries uphold democratic values?" do I have to argue one point of view too? i.e. they both don't, or they both do? I just want to know the right way to do it so I achieve the highest possible marks.



I will rate. Thanks for your help. (link)
you should definitely look at it from both points of view. but at the beginning of the essay you should make a stand. Whether Australia or US is more democratic, in your opinion. And then the reasons why both are democratic then why one is more democratic than the other in the conclusion.


You should definitely work on a few outlines, so you'll know the content and how you're going to structure the essay.
And this may take more time, so work on at least 1 essay itself.

Good luck for your test,Durga


14/male

There's this girl I really like. We'll call her "B." I know some people said "true" love isn't real for teens, but I can feel that I love her. I have since I met her.

Well, she's a few years older than me, and she's dating this guy I haven't really enjoyed being around in the past. I wrote B a letter, but I signed it "Your Secret Admirer." It basically says stuff about how I love her, and things like that. But, I haven't had a chance to sneak it into her backpack or whatever.

The thing is, I think she might sorta like me, but I'm not sure. Should I sneak the letter into her backpack?

Thanks,

-Fyce

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Well she might be flattered or she might think that someone's stalking her.
If you think that it's actually worth it, what is the purpose of your letter? You are telling her you love her, do you want to go out with her, or do you just want her to know someone likes her then later on tell her who you are?

she's got a boyfriend and , this might suck, but that probably means that she likes him, and she thinks you're a nice guy she doesn't really know.

The letter might wreck a number of opportunities especially if your letter gets out, and maybe her bf reads it.

think about it,
Good luck


hey my name is frances i am 19 i recently broke up with my boyfriend, and i did the most stupid thing in the world when i met him to give back his stuff. i slept with him and all my feelings came pouring back just when i thought i was going to be able to move on. i told him i felt used so that he could get what he wanted he told me that hurt him to think that he would use me. but that is how i feel because when we met he told me i was beautiful and that he never for meant fo this to happen( we were b/f g/f, for two years) and he said everything that he has always said to me so i gave in and we had sex at his place now i feel used and he says that he did not use me that he does care about me. how can i get over him. i dont have alot of friends becuase well that is another story so no one to hang out with and i am always at work and constantly thinking about him it gets bad at night when i am at home alone. please help i just want to be happy again. (link)
Hi Frances,

Whether or not he was using you, it already happened. And you don't really want to blame either him or yourself too much because then you're ging to be wasting a lot of energy and keeping in a lot of pain.

It's going to take time for you to get over him. But now, you've got more time for yourself and it's important that you don't use it to be sad only. You can make more friends now, at school or work. Go jogging, walk in the park, or do some kind of excercise- it tends to make you happy.

Everytime you get over a particularly bad day, do something nice for yourself, you earned it.

And at night, burn some soothing candles, like lavender or something you like, and snugggle in and if you're sad it's ok. But you can bet that it will get better. And the excercise could make you so tired, you'll be asleep before you know it.

Good day to you, Durga


ok heres the problem me and this girl was datein and i really cared about her,but i broke up with her because i felt like she was cheatin on me,she was always callin other guys hot,she was talkin 2 them on phone all the time,and constantly talkin about them. so i broke uo with her and now im startin to realize that i made a mistake but then it turns out this girl i have liked for a really long time starts to like me and she wants to date me but she has some1 that treats her bad but she still cares for them.can someone please help me out on what i should do.. (link)
Well, maybe you might first want to give it a bit of time before you got into another relationship, since you're still wondering if you were right to break up with your ex. And this girl you like, she still cares for someone else roght but he treats her badly? So you might want to be a friend to her for a while, don't rush things and you may be clearer on the girl you want and she'll know you're someone you can depend on and what's better than that when starting a new relationship?

Cheers


Hi, recently an extremely attractive guy moved in next door to me. I didn't see much of him as he is relatively quiet. He speaks to my mum sometimes and they even lend books to each other, but I've never gone pass saying "Hi"
Thing is, I can't stop thinking about him. Like constantly. He's 27 and I'm 17 and I know with that age difference we could never be, at least not right now. I've even started looking through my windows snooping at his house hoping I can catch a glimpse of him. I'm starting to think I'm getting a bit stalkerish but I don't know how to stop myself. I don't even know this guy. Does this seem like a harmless crush, or is it getting too far? Should I get over him? If so, what's the best way to do it?

Thanks advicenators.
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This kinda happens alot especially when you've got a pretty major crush. That's why you feel so 'obsessed' around him.

The best thing to do, is let it be, but when you do see him, work on saying hi. And then whenever, you're like really thinking about him or you catch yourself going over to the window, you might deliberately want to do something else, like call up a friend or go to where your family is and talk to them for a bit or do other stuff you like.

But you, everyone tend to obsess a bit over Earth's gorgeous specimens, so don't worry too much about it, just make sure you do lots of other stuff and don't let it get out of control.
Cheers


well i wrote the other day saying i like my bestfriend some of you replyed i should tell him well my friend told him. He also liked me to.. and later that night we was talking on here and he told me he hope we go out and then i didn't say anything cause i was totally unexepting that and now he won't talk to me what should i do?

help i will rate high (link)

Well then you go talk to him. Tell him that you were surprised when he asked you, flatter him a bit. Then ask him out ( you want to go out with him i assume?) Maybe that's what he's waiting for, to know that you're still interested

Good Luck,Durga


i ve been in this situation too many times i notice a girl , she does too we keep looking at each other day after day after day and i d keep asking my self wt should i do? should i talk to her . . . .or act a fool and say do you . . .whatever. . . so here s my question to all girls (what would you like a boy to come and say in this moment ???) ideas plzzzzz. and remmember now body wants to get rejected or insulted .so have a little mercy on us :) thanks 19 m

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Hey,

If I had a connection with a guy like that, i'd like it if he came over and intro'd himself and asked me for a drink or do some kind of laid back activity like just sit and talk or go for a walk.
Complimenting is a pretty good conversation starter too.

Good luck



I just got back together with my boyfriend after 11months separation, now the problem is things are very different to the way the used to be, We dont spend much time together like we used to, we used to do everything together but now we living seperate lives the funny part We seem to be Ok with the way things are but my question is, is it a right way things should be? sometimes I normaly tell my self that may be it caused by the fact that now we nolonger staying close to each other as we used to by that time because we were at the same University and now we working different places, so do I need to just let things as they are or should we try to go back & mantain the standard that our relationshirp used to be. (link)

Hey, after 11 months things are bound to change and the fact that now the both of you are even working separately, you won't be spending as much time together.

And that's alright as long as you are comfortable with the time you're spending together and you don't think that you're missing out on anything. And if you guys have different interests and friends, that's cool, maybe you can even try these different interests together.

If you're comfortable with your relationship you should let it be, don't change it to what you think it should be.
Cheers, Durga


My whole life I've been striving for a goal and working really hard in school, and ive been doing good. But lately, the last two years to be exact, ever since i changed schools, i have been doing worse, and I feel that all my hard work is lost because the last two most important years of my schooling have stunk. I feel like i lost my dream. (link)

What was your goal/ Why was it so important to you? Do you still believe in it?(maybe your goal's changed)


You may be feeling stress or disconnectedness because of your change in school. or it could be somthing else, like depression. You might want to go talk to your school's counselor if you can.

I know this is not what you think now, but it really is OK that you these 2 years haven't been helping your dream. Take some time off, do other things especially physical activities,and think of other extra-curricular activities. Youknow your dream, it will always be there, maybe you just need to go about a different way of getting there, or it may take a bit longer. It will still be there. (maybe your goal's changed)
But not if you are not alright. Not if you're tired or depressed, so take care of yourself first.


I get extremely nervous about everything. like if i was trying out for a team in school, i get extremely nervous and i can hardly focus. or even something stupid like going to a teacher for extra help. sometimes im so nervous about something that I cry about it and cant gain control. it makes me sick, literally, like if i was about to do something nerve racking. what should i do? (link)

That happens to me all the time. I sometimes evev pace in front of the door cos i'm too afraid to go in.

What i do is especially when i know i am going to do something i'm nervous of, i wake up earlier than usual and i just sit down, in the dark and breathe, and i imagine how well it's going to go.

I also work out. I got 2 dumbells at home and an excercise ball. Running too. When you've just done some good hard excercise, you feel much more confident.

For now, see if you can get a friend to follow you along, but you do most of the talking and then slowly you go to these places yourself.

Cheers


I am in Middle School, and as you know there is alot of drama. And I have this guy friend who I used to have a crush on..and my friend told him. So it got really awkward between us and then I told him that I only like him as a friend. Well we started talking again for a little while, and then it faded into just saying hi every once in a while, and now we dont even talk. I try to talk to him but he either gives me short answers or just pretends like he didnt hear me. He isnt acting like he is all mad at me because at first I didnt think he was. But then today my friend asked him why we never talk anymore, and its because he said that its all weird because I keep looking at him. Which I looked at him once and that was because i thought he was talking to me. But anyways so then I was really upset and so I told her that I hated him. And she told him and he said "Oh that sucks" and then walks away. As if he doesnt even care. Please, I really want some advice. I want to be friends with him more then anything.

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Well for one thing, you could tell your friend to not repeat everything you say or do about him to him.

And it seems to me like he's not into you as a friend or anything, and he's not really acting like you're a person who deserves his attention or respect, so why are you wasting your time?

Ignore him and do other stuff, find other friends and you may not want to talk to him unless he talks to you.

It might really help your self-image to ignore him rather than go after him and let him treat you in such a way,
good luck


im in grade 11 , im 16. ive wanted to be a vet since grade 7 , but it seems so boring ya know , now i think and research careers, i look at exiting jobs , or so i think , ive looked at pilots, airforce , army , cop , i want to go to university but what courses do i take if idont no wat i want to do in life? How do i find out wat to do? is there a rush? i just dont want to pick a career spend 10 years of schooling and hate the evryday stuff ya no, i also dont no wat im good at honestly, i have no hobbies i like to hang out with friends , tv , ect... i feel like i have no talent, wat should i do? (link)

I'm at that stage right now too. The best thing to do is to get a personality test and then see the kind of jobs that you could do. then see if you might think of doing it.
Another thing you could do is try doing part time jobs or volunteer at where you think you might want to work,see if you like it.

And you know, in the future, if after 10 years of schooling you find you hate what you are doing, you CAN changge it. You can quit and upgrade your skills and find another job. No reason to stick with one forever, scary but think about it.

Cheers


well i have this friend, and like most people ive made new best friends. and whenever i talk to them and not him, he "feels left out" i told him that there are a lot of other people that hang around with us, who you can talk to. but he says "he feels left out" of the conversation im in. i mean, i cant stop talking to them just so he's happy. nor can i run around making sure he doesn't feel left out, or make him be involved in the conversation's. if he feels that way, he should involve him self right? well i told him that, and he just isn't having it.

thank you, please give advice, need it badly

p.s then when he feels like that, he goes and tells everyone so that i look bad. (link)
Hey,
I know what you mean, i've got friends like that too and i still feel guilty when my friend feels excluded. But it';s not my fault and it's NOT yours either.

If your friend can go out and tell everyone that when he feels bad, he can also talk to other people without your you. And you should tell him that.

Maybe for the first few times, if you want to help, you could deliberately include him in the conversations you're having, then let him go on by himself.

After that it's up to him. And it's not your fault if he isn't making friends and don't let him make you feel otherwise.

Bye


Okay, I had a cellphone but then my parents didnt let me pay for it no more because I did something totally wrong and they found out. Now I want to get my cellphone back but they keep on saying no because I might go and do it again. What can I do so that they can trust me again and I can get my cellphone back?
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Trust takes time to regain. If you had a friend who'd just done something you're totally against behind your back, you're not gonna be totally ok with her immediately are you?

give it some time, think of what you did wrong than think of other ways of making it right. And stop asking for your phone, it's more effective for getting it back.

Cheers


I'm 17/F
I have had a boyfriend for 2 steady months
and I used to like this guy and he saw me kissing
my boyfriend. He gave me a rather hurt look. Does he finally like me? I'm so confused what should i do? (link)

I guess the question kinda is : Do you like this guy? Because if you don't then who you kiss is your business. If this guy has a problem with it, he will deal with it, it's not your fault.

good luck


I've been working with this one company for about 5 months now. My 3 month probation is over and I'm in the union now. It's quite a large store; it has grocery and clothing and everything else. Anyways; I havent been very happy there for a long time. For one thing it's only 20 hours a week and pays minimum wage. My supervisor can be extremely moody. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around her. In the past she has yelled at me. She also gave me crap for signing out 1 minute early once and warned if I did it again she'd deduct 15 minutes off my pay. She was being nice to me yesterday but then threw in a dig. She told me she had been hearing I havent been putting my garbage away after putting out stock. This wasnt true. She was really mean about the way she said it too.
I don't think anyone in my department is happy; everyone has been really grumpy lately. All I know is that I show up for work and give it my best. I've never phoned in sick; have covered for others, and I'm pleasant to everyone. I think for the ammount of effort I put in for a minimum wage part time job far exceeds the ammount of respect I'm getting. I'm sure I could find a better job that treats me nicer.
Does anyone have any advice for me? (link)
I guess the only question now is what are you waiting for? if you are worried about how long it might take before you get another job, you might want to start checking out other places soon. Thi internet can also halp get you the job you want.

Find out how many days notice you must give before quitting, and if you feel it's right, tell your boss you're thinking of finding another job.

And you might want to get some recommendations if you can, and work on your resume for your next job.

Good luck,
Durga


my mom and my step dad(who is like a second dad) may be spliting up and my mom may move away from my school my dad has been offerd to buy a house which is a great deal for him because he dose not make aliot of money. but he also is thinking of moving down to where i live which would be good so i wouldnt have to switch schools but i want him to have the chance to buy a house. i want to live with my dad either way but my mom says im the only person making her not want to kill herself and i dont want to hurt her. so please help. where should i live? (link)
You want to live with your step father basically no matter where he lives but your mom says that she needs you and that you're the only reason why she' still alive.

She shouldn't be saying that to you and it may be a sign of severe depression. The best to do to help your mom is to tell someone this. Your dad or your school counselor.

You might have to stay with your dad for a while and your mom may have to attend some therapy. But don't you let her or anyone, even yourself, feel guilty, because you may have just saved her life.

You might also want to read up a bit on depression and suicide so you know what you can do when dealing with your mom.
Good luck
Durga


ok, so anyway, i was going out with this guy that i absolutley loved and supposedly he loved me, anyway he broke up wiht me cus we never really saw each other, and he felt like there was no spark. And he said that he was more hurt than I was cus he really loved me, it just felt like there was nothing there at the time. And then in a couple days he had already gotten another girl friend that he supposedly love. And he hated me, like I would try to tlak tohim and he would ignore me. Which made me mad cus he said he still wanted to be friends. But then he broke up with this other girl today, and he already had a girlfriend in a matter of hours. And he said the same thing to this girl, but he said, that they faught most of the time, and he felt liek they should be together at a later time. So what should me and this girl do, should we warn his girlfriend about how he acts, or just leave her alone and let her figure it out? i will give all 5's to whoever answers this.
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seems like you've got a real jerk of an ex. You know it but the girl he's dating now doesn't. it's nice that you want to warn her, but it's just going to seem like you're jealous and you wanna break them up. Have some faith in the girl, she'll figure it out and she'll cope the way you guys did.

Do you want to still be friends with this guy?? he doesn't seem worth it. You should do some ignoring yourself and truly i think you already know, but i just have to say it,
you are going to be much happier without him.

Durga


ok so recently i've found someone that i really do love and he loved me too. But this other girl came into the picture and he left me.i still have this feeling that he loves me, but its not enough for him to leave this girl. so how can i show him or make him remeber, everything that me and him had before this other girl came?.ill rate all 5's

13/f

please dont say "ur to young to be in love and be worrying bout guys". cus if you even believe in love,, you know that you can be in love at any age. and this isnt just some stupid teen love. its the real deal. so please none of those replys, cus i really do love him. (link)

Hello! I'm 17 and i faced the same problem you are now. i was really into this guy, and i had so many things about us planned in my mind then a girl came and he left me. And i did whatever i could to get him back. i talked to him about how we were together and i would smile at him and be really nice to him, but he liked that girl.

Then the best thing happened.i usually write stuff in a diary and i was reading through it and this is what i saw.

1. my boyfriend likes another girl better
2.i am still hanging on to a love he no longer believes in
3. i'd probably take him back if he realises soon that the girl was not to his taste, but what if it happened again
4. i don't want his pity or anything cos i'm a great person, that's why he liked me but i'm not that person anymore!

My advice: He didn't believe in your love, are you sure you want to have him back? Ignore him and try to do other things to take your mind off it. You'll think much more highly of yourself after that.
Cheers
Durga


ok here s my questoin , i come from an arab society and its not like we dont have girls in my college . . .its that i dont know what happens to me when i m with a girl i wanna get
when i am with anybody else i keep on talkin and talkin i mean that i m not shy and i have lots of casuall friends
what can i do , whats your advice for me 19/m (link)
you wanna get ...what?
I'm assuming that you wanna be friends. if that's the case, when you're with your other friends, try talking to the girls.

maybe try chatting with girls online, if you have the time, or if you want a deeper connection, maybe you can get a female penpal.

being around girls a bit more might help you get over whatever problem you've got.
Good luck
Durga




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