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where to live
my mom and my step dad(who is like a second dad) may be spliting up and my mom may move away from my school my dad has been offerd to buy a house which is a great deal for him because he dose not make aliot of money. but he also is thinking of moving down to where i live which would be good so i wouldnt have to switch schools but i want him to have the chance to buy a house. i want to live with my dad either way but my mom says im the only person making her not want to kill herself and i dont want to hurt her. so please help. where should i live?
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You want to live with your step father basically no matter where he lives but your mom says that she needs you and that you're the only reason why she' still alive.
She shouldn't be saying that to you and it may be a sign of severe depression. The best to do to help your mom is to tell someone this. Your dad or your school counselor.
You might have to stay with your dad for a while and your mom may have to attend some therapy. But don't you let her or anyone, even yourself, feel guilty, because you may have just saved her life.
You might also want to read up a bit on depression and suicide so you know what you can do when dealing with your mom.
Good luck
Durga
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While I can understand your mom's distress, I don't think she should have said that to you. She should realize that you're not an adult and you have problems of your own without having to take responsibility for hers as well. Since it sounds like she's depressed, and possibly even suicidal, I would suggest letting someone know what she said so they can get her some help.
Once you've got your mom taken care of, then you can focus on determining the best move for you. While I understand you want what's best for your parents, you need to remember that as parents their focus should be on what's best for you, even if it means they have to make a choice that they don't like.
I know this probably isn't the exact answer you were looking for, but ultimately the decision comes down to what's best for you. If staying at the same school is what's best for you, then you should stay.
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