Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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My mom was mad at my dad because a few days ago he went to New York without letting my mom know (he works there he didn't run off). Then like a day later my mom went to go pick up my brother somewhere and my dad thought they were just going to the highschool to pick him up but then they went to another town to another town. My dad didn't know that and he had a meeting to go to so he told me to tell my mom when she came home. Well a couple hours later my brother calls and is like "Tell dad we're coming home now and that we're sorry we were so late," and I'm like dad is not here why didn't you call eailer. Well anyway I got mad and my brother put my mom on the phone and I'm like "You can't be mad at dad anymore for not telling you where he was going," and she got mad and didn't say anything so i apologized and sahe just said bye. Now I think my mom is mad at me and my question is how do I get her to forgive me? Thank you I'll rate fives just for reading this. (link)
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your parents need to go to someone to learn how to communicate...ok they get a zero for not telling each other where tehy are.
this is not your fault..you are the child..it is up to the PARENTS to inform each other.
I think your mom is really mad at herself. Both your parents are relly childish in the way they do things.
She should have called earlier and he should have told her he was going out of town.
Listen..i think there is more going on in your parents life than they let on..hello they are married TALK TO EACH other.
it is not OUR job to carry messages...
show your mom this..i am a mom...call your husband..it is only polite and caring to let your PARTNER know things. Dad...never EVER go out of town even on business without telling your wife.
and KEEP YOUR CHILDREN out of this..they are kids..not a messenger service.
am sorry for being so harsh..but your parents need a wake up call..to each other!!!
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Well, about four years ago, my father divorced my mother. It took a little over three years for the divorce to go through. During that time, my father treated me like crap. He was constantly yelling at me, picking on me, and just making me completely miserable. On time, he told his family that I should go to fat camp, and they all laughed at me. He's called me "fat, ugly, stupid, and a piece of sh**." I tried running away, but he caught me, and dragged me back. He also dropped me off on the side of a highway in the middle of winter, and drove off. He lead me to become so depressed, I would hurt myself.
Their divorce was finaliazed, but we had to move our of our house and move in with my grandma. I still visit him on Fridays and Sundays. He's been making us look at houses for him, which makes me really upset. He won't support us at all because he claims he has no money, but he owns his own business, and I've done some detective work, and found out how much he makes. I hate going with him because all we do is look at houses, and it bothers me because we had to move out of our house. My 16th birthday was in September and not one person from his side of the family realized how old I was. My father didn't even have a cake for me. This was one of the most important birthdays for a girl, and he totally ignored it. He just left yesterday to go with his girlfriend to Florida, and didn't even invite us, and also waited until the night before to tell us he was going. He doesn't plan on seeing us when he moves to Florida in a couple of years. Should I just stop goign with him? I'm 16-years-old, and I would rather spend my Friday nights with my friends. I want to have a father, but not one that makes me feel so crappy. What should I do? Should I continue to visit him for the sake of having a father, or should I just forget about him? Thank you so much for helping! (link)
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YOUR dad is a sob( son of..)!! I am sorry..but for him to PUT you down when he is a super HUGE loser..man..would that I could go beat this crapola DAD down..
sorry..kids are gifts..and i am thinking I totally know why your Mom decided to dump this guy.
No I would not give him the time of day...besides the fact that he verbally ABUSED you, does not support you either financilly or emotionally...this guy is so SELFISH he cannot even remember your b-day. Sweet 16 is THE most important day in a teenagers life..grrrrrrrrrrr
Do not visit him..if he or your mom ask..tell them that you dad is not emotinally there for you and that you want to save yourself by keeping the pain he INFLICTS on you..to a minimum.
But remember..you are awesome. Any father but your stupid LOSER of a father would be proud and grateful for a girl like you. You hold your head up high and realize that your dad is losing out on the GREATEST gift that God give us...children.
Print this out..send a copy ot your dad with a it's been nice to know you..but i am ASKING SANTA FOR A NEW DAD!!!!!
Sorry...but to me..he really has no redeeming qualities to continue down this path...
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okay well i have been talking to this guy online and on the phone almost every night for about a year and 1/2 and even though i have never actually physically met him i think i have fallen in love with his personality. we only live about an hour away and i am friends with his cousin who lives near me, so its very possible that we could meet whenever we wanted to. well i do want to meet him to maybe try to start a relationship, but the problem is that i sent him a fake picture of me. not just one fake picture, but i have sent him websites..TONS of fake picures saying that they were me. so now he has this image of a beautiful girl in his mind. its not that im afraid he will think im ugly at this point, but i am afraid to admit that i sent him alllll those pictures. its extremely embarassing.. and i didnt do it just once, ive done it ALOT!!! i dont know what to do..if i never meet him then it will break my heart and i think i will be missing out on something really great...what should i do? i know this is pathetic..please dont be rude i just need help!! (link)
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oh....man..ok...how far way from the pic are you?? was this a model picture...i did that once..but it was an old picture to some freind(and I haad changed a lot!!)...so i feel for you.
Ok..fess up..but it may be that the cousin has said something..send a picture...have a friend take one..chin slightly up, flattering clothes good makeup..and tell him..that you just did not want to disappoint him..but you could not do this anymore...
did he send a picture to you?? If not he may not be the cover boy either(most guys in newspaper ads like about their looks too!)
so fess u..find a really good picture of you..and cross your fingers....have faith...ok..am totally hoping this all works out.
Ps lots of people do what you do..does not make it right..but really undertandable...
Pss i wuld never be rude..this is serious to YOU!
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hey umm i really want to wear a thong and it is not like i want to b/c its cool but b/c i really need to w/ the pantylines. i havnt asked my mom yet and i need to help find a way to ask her! pleas help and thanks!! (link)
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hey mom..i really do not want panty lines..got any suggestions..but there are panties that have no lines...how old are you??Is that her problem..or is she lik me and do not like the way they go ..um up your..back end...the feeling not the llok
So go shopping with her and maybe you can reach a middle area...
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My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me? (link)
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well you have toadmit..that most guys ar after one thing...but am thnking that they went through somethng to make them super strict...
Ask them about when they were teenagers...what kind of rules they have.
They are going to ahve to learn to trust you.
Mom and Dad..limiting boys..will just make them seem even more special.
Trust your girl..she is YOUR child..surely you imposed your morals on her.
now as to you..do NOT give them ay reason to doubt you.
Try a test date...but screen the guy forst..the more you know..the better you are informed.
She is going to grow up one day..you have to let her go.
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okay so my mom smokes and i hate it.. like all my clothes smell like smoke b/c our house always smells like it and my teachers look at me evilly b/c i smell like smoke but i cant do anything about it do you know any way to either get my mom to stop smoking or to like at least have my house not smell like it all the time?! (link)
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my husband smokes..
i guess your mom will not mind being HOOKED up to a oxygen machine when her lungs give out.
She needs to talk to people who are living with cancer...
But..to me..
Does she KNOW that second hand smoke cause more CANCER than the person who are smoking??
When i had kids..i told my mom and my husband that no smpking was allowed in the house..period..he can smoke in his car as long as we are not in it.
If she will nto do that for you..then get some of those ashtrays thaat suck up the smoke..
but I urge you to show ehr this..
My mom had THREE heart surgeries..she topped COLD after the docot told her..she would not live..for a another one...
it is..a matter of life and death...
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Before I begin I want to say that I am not complaining, I absolutely love my mom and my life.
So my problem is my mom's yelling. It's almost like she feels that she cannot get anything across to my siblings and I unless she yells. Sometimes she is even too busy yelled that she doesn't realize that we have already done the things she's asked us to do. I've tried talking to her about it several times. My younger sister once told her that sometimes she doesn't listen to my mom because of her shouting at us all the time. Talking to her never works. I can understand that she is very stressed out at times and wants to come home without any trouble. But instead of asking us to do something, she'll say something like “GET OFF THE TV/COMPUTER AND CLEAN THE GAME ROOM NOW!!!” I'm even embarrassed by it at times because she does it while we have friends over also. I don't think she's simply asked us to do anything in a year.
I want to know if anyone ones anyway I can get through to her. And once again, the talking about to her does not work. I can't even talk to her about anything any more. It feels as if she just does not like having us around even though I know it's not true.
My parents are divorced so it's not like he can help. He lives in Iowa while we live in Texas.
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I am betting your mom's parents yelled just like mine. I yell too..i wish with all my heart I could cahnge it..it is hard..when all your life..your paretns yell at you...
so show her this..and your question..tell her how much I WANT to change..and how damaging this is to you.
Did you kow that yelling hurts kids self esteem..and causes them to get inot trouble..later on in life.
I am betting she has had trouble at work..just like my Dad..and jsut like me
maybe we all could count to 100 before ww yell..
It our kids..we need to CHANGE for them....
please...
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To try make a long story short, (I doubt that'll happen) I wanted to put one of my teachers on the show "What not to Wear", and another teacher & her sister (great people, I know the teacher well, and I've heard a lot about her sister) on either "A Makeover Story". or a show on lifetime, "Head 2 Toe". One of the teachers has terrible taste in fashion, and the other teacher heard what we wanted to do for the first one and told us about how her, her friend, and her sister have always tried to get on "A Makeover Story" and/or "Head 2 Toe". Well I was wondering, do any of those shows travel? We live in North Carolina, pretty close to Charlotte. So I was wondering what are some requirements, and where can I sign them up if it's possible, and are there any websites with information? Please help!!! Sorry it's long, I just wanted to put in some detail. (link)
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ok..before you do this..are you sure..that this is something that your teacher would not find..um offensive..??
Some people like their their style..regardless of how it appears to us.
And did you ever think..that since most TEAHERS mamke NOTHING..that mayber she could not afford clothes??
I would re-think this..
but if you are determined to do this..type in the show's name on a search and go to their webpage..i am sure they have all the info on them...
ps maybe she spends her MONEY on her kids to be fashionable...
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ok, here's the scoop, i asked one of my friends to talk to the guy that i like....she said that he hates me and thinx i'm ugly and stuff. i don't know whether or not to believe her and i don't know what to do. i don't really think he'd say that, but should i ask him or what? please help if you can. thanx
~ArL0* (link)
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ok..my question is why did you send her over..and does SHE like him???That is really harsh sounding from a guy...
His behavior will tell you how he feels about you. if he is totally avoiding you..and making snide comments about you..she was right..but if not..i wonder..what kind of friends tell YOU this??
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how do you know if a girl is devirginized based on her physical outlook and socialization??
does it easily show?
thank you......... (link)
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ok..no offense..but why is it ANY of your business??Are you a guy and hoping to score..so let me tell you just becasue a girl is not a virgin does not make her easy.
So...NONE of your business..and no you cannot tell..
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2day my family and i(14) found out that my older sister (27) has a tumour down there, and is supposed to be haveing surgery in a week. after that they will be putting her on keimotherapy(sp?) and well if none of those cure her, she will then only have 1 more year to live..im so scared of loosing her! (link)
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ok..this is scary..take a deep breath...
Now..cancer does NOT always kill..do NOT event hink that.
you have to be strong for YOUR sister. She and your paresnts ned you. Having these doom and gloom thoughts does no one any good..especially her.
Read up on the tumor...go to WEBMD and find out what you can.
be there...for everyone..make sure that YOu are living your life as weel as you can..your paresnt will be focused on her..so you have to be the bst you can.
But..KEEP THOSE death thoughts to yourself..do NOT give up on your sister...ok
Be strong..ma thinking and praying for your family!
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I have been with my boyfriend for three years n still havent got pregant n it is really scaring me because I want a baby now.What shounld I do. (link)
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are you really ready for one..i mean..diapers, clothes, formula...rent, insurance for the million doctors visits?? No sleep for the first few months..no social life as all you do is take care of the baby..
if you are so ready to committ to a LIFELONG baby..with your b/f..why not marry...?? I mean if you can think of this..why not pool your resources..make it legal so you can have insurane then try.
If you are ready both mentally and fiancially...try the ovulation precdiction kit..to tell when you are fetile. Woman are only fertile a few days a month..so it is a small window.
If you are taking medicine, under stress or have irregular periods..those are all factors in having a baby.
I would go have a checkup (boht of YO0 to make usre all is working correctly.
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i've been kinda cutting myself...it was kinda stupid at first but now it's serious. my life is kinda like crap rite now. grades, family, friends, and love...all that jazz. sometimes i feel like i just randomly wann cutt myself. i hate it. i know there is other ways to work it put but i don't wanna talk to my family and i've already talked to my friends. please help me and don't just pick on or make fun of me...really answer this question.
signed,
confused and lost (link)
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why did you cut in the first place...what was the feeling behine it..see..something happened to make you pick it up..and something is keeping you doing it.
you have to one figure out what is making you do this..and what is making YOU still do it.
This is hard..your emotions are behind it.
can you please go see someone...you might jsut need to talk to a person..someone who is on YOUR side....
Pleasse...if you cannot quit todya..can you stope it one..cut a day??Until you are not doing it at all?
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i have one friend that seems to be mad at me and my other friend and we have asked her if she is mad at us and she says no. My friend and i dont know what to do. We really want to be friends with her but i just dont know what to do (link)
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well if she does not want to hang or if she does not return your calls..i am thinking she is mad..and is done with you guys. You cannot make someone be your friend..trust me..have tried this year and this lady does NOT want to have anything to do with me..if you can get her to get mad at you to at least find out what the reason is behone her feelings..but that could bakcfir.e
maybe she just needs some space..
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one of my best friends is really going down hill. lately she has gotten really deep into drugs and drinking. it is not like her at all. lately it seems like she wants me to be mad at her and she gets really mad when i try to help or tel her i understand and am not mad. has anyone got a suggestion or have gone through a similar situation? (link)
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yeah she wants you to get mad at her..so she can hate herself even more..and get YOu to hate her too.
She needs help..it may not be within your power to help her except to listen to her.
She needs professional hlep to dry her out..ok...if you can get her to at least SEE somoneone that will be the first step.
But she may want to drive you away so she can sink deeper despair....
So..do NOT leave..her ok..be her friend
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Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!! (link)
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see she wants to be your sister..for she has grown up a bit.
but be careful....she may be trying to get you to open up so she can squeal some more..so play nice..bur realize that SHE might be playing YOU!!
so be careful..and maybe play her a bit bakc...
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my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job? (link)
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Monster.com..look for some managment places first..i can only imagine how that job..seeing so many people hurt..would be so hard..so..go to monster plu in your town thn high his mamagement jobs..athen print it out..YOU may be geting him a REALLy good one!!
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hi i love my mom but every day she always yells at me for no reson like if i write sloppy. and she loves to get me in trouble with my dadi need some help what can i do to be a better daghter.
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so...have you figured it out..that it is TOTALLY your mom. Something must be going on in her life to yell at you.
So..what do you think it is..are things ok wiht your Dad,,,maybe she has an anger issue....
So start a conversation..(during a good time) Tell her you love her but wan to know what is going on..why is she so angry..that her anger is totally affecting you...
Youa e a GREAT girl...believe me most kids would not ask the question..how can i be better...wihs you WERE my girl..
so it is NOT you...ok
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i used to go out with this guy. he wasnt exactly a loser but some ppl thought he was. so i got really insecure about it and stupidly dumped him. this happened about 4 weeks ago. lately i have started to regret dumping him and i miss him so much!! should i tell him this? (link)
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Yes no matter if he takes you back..you owe it to him..to soothe his hurt feelings..that YOU let peer pressure rule you..that you are VERY sorry and even if he does not take you bakc..that you still care and are very sorry...DO it!!!NOW!!
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I love my boyfriend very much, and he is just the sweetest thing to me. I wouldn't trade him for anybody else. My parents don't think he's a good influence on me, and want us to break up. If he doesn't change soon they'll keep us from seing each other and talking.
He's 2 years older than me, in high school when I'm still just a middle schooler. I met him through my younger brother's theatre group, he is a wonderful actor and an even better singer. I knew who he was for almost a year, but never talked to him since he was older, and I wasn't even in the play. some time in september he noticed me at the theatre group. We began talking on the computer and on the phone for several weeks until he asked me out. my parents had been sorta skepetical about the whole thing with an older guy from the begining, but let me go out with him anyway.
There have been a few times that I couldn't do or go places with him because he was older, or because my parents didn't think I was ready to do things. He takes things rather personally and got really upset with them, being extremely rude about them in his online diary. Later, after the problems had been solved, my dad found the website, nad was really disappointed in what he saw. That was about 3 weeks ago. My parents have never let go of the fact that he and I made out in front of my little bro, something both of us will never do again. They also like to rub in my face that he is very emmotional, and materilistic and they point out all his bad traits. They fail to mention how sweet he is to me, how well we get along, how he calls me every day no matter what, and comes to watch me ride horses when any other guy would be bored to death.
Last friday one of our friends told him that I was cheating on him with my ex. Which so didn't and will never happen. I told him so on saturday, and he believed me until he talked to her again, and on sunday he was mad at me. I felt so bad, being accused of something that he knows that as a person, I would never do that. Anyways, he hugs all his friends that are girls. I told my mom, and she almost had be convienced to break up with him.
Yesterday, I was talking to him on the phone, and I told him he needed to be more respectful to my parents. He replied with "I dont give a what your parents think" I then told him that why my mom was letting me use the phone before I was finished with homeworkd and chores was because I was supposed to break up with him, but that I didn't want to. He got all upset and got off the phone.
I dont know what to do, I want him to be able to get along with my parents, and I want them to see all the good things I see in him. How should I let him know that my parents thnk he is a bad influence, emotional, rude in his diary ect. ect. without making it sound like thats how I feel, and that they still like him well enough as a person. I agree with a few of the things they say, and I want him to know and to fix those things, but I dont want to sound rude, or demanding. Sorry about the question being so long, thanks so much if you can help me! (link)
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ok..unitl you are older..yeah they are not going to like him..middle schooler high schooler..right now..i am like woahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
But...he does need to be respectful of your parents...see everytime he is ugly to them..he is making your paresnt say to themselve..see..i was right..dont you get it..paresnt LONG to be right..prove them wrong tell him to shape up..any guy sho is NOT respectful of your paresnt..in a few weeks, months or wahtever..will be DOGGING you too...
How would you like for YOUR middler schooler to be dating a rude older high school guy??(dont tell me you will be ok..for teh kids that give their paresnts the MOST troubl..become the STRICTEST paresnt..ever..lol trust me...an expert here)
So..here is the converation..you know.._____ you are making them REALLY not like you..so unless you are willing for them to forbid me to see you..fake BRING nice ok..love me..love my paresnt..
Come on..he can do this..ok..FOR YOU!!!
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