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Q: I'm 21/F. I'm getting married in two months, and I love my fiance very much, but I am so nervous. I'm having second thoughts about the wedding, and I feel incredibly guilty, and horrible. I know he's not at all nevous. I want to talk to my fiance, but I'm afraid he'll be mad or think I don't love him, and I don't want that. I really do want to be his wife, I guess I'm just scared. Is it normal to feel this way? Or am I being a horrible fiance.

Yes it is definitly normal - almost every bride to be feels this way before thier wedding. so dont feel as though your a horrible fiance, your not, and talk to him!

xoxo.

Q: the skin on my armpit is darker than my normal skin color, so when i shave it theres still a dark spot there. how do i get rid of it so that my underarm skin is the same tone as the rest of my skin?

youuu could try waxing? i think that might helpp

Q: Ok so this is pritty personal.My mom is abusive to me sometimes,not really bad or anything like lets say on average she hits me once a month.not like crazy hard but enought to give me a mark for a day or 2(at least a couple hours)...and is (in my opinion) uncontrolably angry.My dad drinks wayyy too much as well (in my opinion again)a least once a week I hear him puking at night kus he's drunkin so much.almost ever nigh he gets drunk.Also when he's drunk he gets verbally abusave,(calles me things like bitch,ect...)....My question is-what should i do?Do they have a problem or am i just making a big deal of there problems.

It's driving my crazy,also i have a brother and sister alot older then me 10 and 13 years older you be exact,(i'm 14) and they have talked to me about this "problem",i still wanna "fix" it but it seems to me they'v givin up.i don't think they really care anymore and just take it.that also really bothers me.

hope you can help

hey sweetie -

i have a friend who's parents are very similar. her mom hits her every once in a while, but it isnt just her as the bad person, my friend can also be a brat to her mother. I think that if you feel that you can talk to your mom, talk to her. but if you cantt and it still is really bothering you, tlak to a friend or a counceler. As for your dad - i agree with the person below me, and you should be a little bit more worried about him. once again, talk to an adult about it.

im sorry i couldnt be much of a help. i hope everything gets better. stayy strong.

xoxo.

Q: im really scared. i get my period regularly every month. exact time, exact day. i got it today a lot. you know when you start and it spots a bit?? no not at all. it was flowing really heavy & idk what it is. i have SOME cramps, barely anything. i'm scared because i don't know what it could be. you have to understand that my period is so regular. i'm 10 days early. any ideas??

thanks!!

that happened to me last month! i got it 2 weeks early and i just went along with it and then it came regularaly after that. i dont think you have much to worry about.

Q: does anyone have any tips for breastroke? i have swimteam tryouts in a week and and need some exercises to shape up too. i rate high.

ohhh a question i can answer =]
last year when i was on my old swim team i had a lot of trouble with breast stroke. remember to make sure your head doesnt go too far under, and your hands shouldnt go past your shoulders. "take in the cookies and then serve them" reach out far and you should do greattt.. good luck ♥

Q: When you`re friend is mad @ you, is it best to say sorry // talk to them online, in person 0r does it matter? also is it best to give them time to cool down so they`re not as mad or what .. i will rate for answers. anything`s useful. thanks!

whenever me & my friends get in fight, i think its easier to talk to them online cause personally i can say more of how i feel and be able to talk to them. it dependso on the situation if you should let them cool down. give your friend maybe a day or two, but dont wait too long because then you might loose your friend. I hope i helped. ♥Ally

Q: I have a samsung phone (if that'll help any) and I dropped it in my toilet. It was only in there like a second and I tried drying it with my hairdryer but it just keeps vibrating and says it's charging. Has this ever happened to anyone? Will I need a new phone? What should I do? I'm like freaking out! I'm expecting an important call and I don't have their number and all they have is my cell number!! I'm really freaking out about this. Help Please!!!!

Oh that happened to me with a swimming pool. We took apart my cell phone and dried every part. After it would turn on, but it wouldnt send out calls or anything. Best thing to do is to just buy a new cell phone, because there really isnt anything else you can do.

A*xo

Q: http://www.focusas.com/Depression.html
That's the site that I found the depression symptoms on! I've had all except the last 3 and the running away one. I'm relly scared and I don't want to tell my mom because she has alot on her plate right now and I don't want her to knoe. My mom has depression too I think and they did say it could run in families. She had it when she was 28 or 30 and now I have it wen I'm 14! I don't want to have it forever and I would relly appreciate any possible help!! Please because I don't want to grow up morbid

Tell your mom, if you don't then you won't get help and it could become worse and that wouldn't be good for you or your mom. Dont worry about growing up morbid, just tell someone you trust and you can get help now.

Q: how much money should i charge for babysitting 2 kids. they are 3 and 7

sweetkthanksbye =]

Around 5-7 bucks, it kinda depends on the kids.

Hope I helped ♥Ally

Q: my ex bf knows i still like him so he trys to run my life like he tells me wat i can do and when i can do it he yells at me when i flirt with another guy he tells me who i can hang out with and i dont know what to do and ive talked to him and when i get mad cuz he flirts with this girl named jerry he tells me it aint my business so i was just wondering wat would u do if this happened to you?

hmm if it happened to me? Well I know one of my recent ex's who is like that, and he kinda does that when he sees me, which thank god isn't that often. All you can really do is tell him to stop and that he wanted out of your life so he shouldn't be able to control it. But it kinda sounds like to me that hes not fully over you either..

A*xo

Q: i sorta have a complicated situation here. well, not really, but it involves boys, what else.

13.f
i have this really good friend named sarah who's dating michael. michael & katy are really close. well, they're going out, aren't they? its just that, michael's in my art class, and hes really nice and reminds me of this boy i totally fell for who moved away. today in art class this one girl said, "you two should get busy," but she didn't mean it like, you know, she meant it like we should start our project. and he just smiled at me. whats going on?

I've found that having something for a taken guy doesn't always turn out too good. Yeah he could like you, or he could just be a nice kid. If you wanna risk your relationship with Sarah, go for it, but do know that if anything happens with you and Michael, theres gonna be consiquences.
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So if you like him, talk to him more and maybe get his screen name or call him? Just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea. ;]

A*xo

Q: does anyone know where i can get the acrylic stuff and all the supplies they use at like profession nail places. i love getting my nails done but i hate playing $30 a set and i know how to do it and would like to be able to find a kit and do it myself!

please dont tell me to google it because ive tried but i dont know what to trust and what is real or whatever and what isnt!

CVS, Brooks, places like that.

Q: hey since my school has a half day on friday of this week, and the movies is right down a couple of blocks, my mom is letting me go with my friends. im 15. she wanted to know who was going and i told her all of my friends (they are girls) and i didnt tell her i invited my bf and hes coming too. she said she doesnt want me going on a date alone w/ him because she thinks im too young to date and she doesnt trust him. how do i tell her that my boyfriend is coming too with out her saying something like "oh well he cant go"?
Thanks.
I rate 5s

this happened to me 2 weeks ago..
i just finally told my mom caz i didn't wanna do it and get caught.. and im glad i did it cause now my parents trust me more with him. if she has never met him then tell her about him. my mom let me cause even if shes never met him, she liked how he sounded and he wasn't "a punk ass kid who calls at 10 and doesnt say who it is". if your mom still doesnt give in, don't go with him, because if you get caught then that could ruin the trust with your mom and at least for me i wouldnt be able to go out at all. keep on talking to her about it.

A*xo

Q: ok i want to know how to get a heart like on aim. I know you do alt then some numbers or something and you get that copyright sign or...but what are the numbers and what do you do after that?

On AIM, you have to chose the font Webdings and type in an uppercase Y.

Q: what can happen if u suck helium out of a balloon?

ok all my guy friends do it and its not good for your body.

My science teacher told us that helium is not supposed tobe in your body annd once one of his friends sucked a whole tank of helium and he instantly died.

Q: so my best friend isn't talking to me anymore.
and shes been asking her three best friends to do really nice stuff like go to a nice far away mall n horseback riding but she hasn't asked me to do anything with her((its spring break))i feel really left out cause she never does stuff wiht me anymore. why is she doing this to me?

Call up your friend and talk to her. Obviously something is bothering her. If she won't talk to you wait a while and then maybe talk to her face to face. If you think that she is hurt because you did something give her some time, but if make sure you know if she's worth waiting for in the end.

A*xo

Q: hey im 15/f my boyfriend just broke up with my last night and im not in school today because i cant handle all this pain. We were going out for four months and i really thought that this time we could work you know. Because i've went out with him in the past. He says that he just doesn't want anybody to love right now. And i dont know what to do i cry every single minute of the day. I need to be with him. We still talk and we're still friends but i want to go back to the way it used to be. Please can somebody help me out!!! i'll rate high!

-Ashley-

Oh I've been there.

Eventually you will get over him, it may seem unbelievable now, but it just takes time. It took me 3 months to get over my ex boyfriend and I really liked him. But remember, everyday you spend missing him, is a day you'll never get back in the end.--

A*xo

Q: Okay im trying to find a few songs that are like.. based of friendship if you get what i mean?

i dont want rocky music something kinda soppy.
can anyone suggest a few please :) rates all round.

Graduation (friends forever) - Vitamin C
I'll be there for you - The rembrandts
Here's to the night - Eve 6

Sorry That's All I Can Think Of.

A*xo

Q: Hi. I have a 3 day weekend and I was wondering what are some fun things I can do with my two friends this weekend. My parents work on Monday so we can't do anything at my house. Any ideas?

-Depending on where you live -- you could go outside & tan
- go to the movies with some guys.
- sleepover with friends & do girl stuff like dress up in weird clothes, makeovers from hell, thatkinda stuff

A*xo

Q: I have really long (Mid-back) hair. Its frizzy, but not as bad as it could be. I was wondering if theres any really (REALLY) good conditioners or shampoos i could use to un-frizz it, lol. I don't really want to do gels, hair spray, or anything like that, cause it clumps my hair and looks nasty. and i just don't like it. haha. also, any everyday hair style ideas would be good! thanks!!