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i need advice about my ex
my ex bf knows i still like him so he trys to run my life like he tells me wat i can do and when i can do it he yells at me when i flirt with another guy he tells me who i can hang out with and i dont know what to do and ive talked to him and when i get mad cuz he flirts with this girl named jerry he tells me it aint my business so i was just wondering wat would u do if this happened to you?
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Honestly? I'd ignore everything he said to me!! I wouldn't get mad with him for flirting with other girls because (I'm sorry to say!)it really technically wouldn't be any of my business. But I would ask that he grant the same level of respect to me.
The thing is, it's bad enough to try to control someone when you are in a relationship with them but to try to control them when that relationship no longer exists goes well beyond reasonable behaviour and he has no right to do this. Under the circumstances, the only thing I could suggest is that you carry on as normal, in spite of his orders and if it carries on, talk to him about it and lay down the law. You need to tell him that you aren't going out with him any more and you can do what you like because what you do no longer has anything to do with him. If you can reign in your jealousy then he has no excuse for treating you like this.
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Hi
Knowing what I know now, and having had lots of life experience...I would run, and run fast.
I've been through the controlling boyfriend who was abusive. It won't get any better. He loves the fact that he can control everything you do.
Let me ask you this..."did you ever see yourself living this way?" Or do you see yourself living in a relationship where your opinion matters, and your point of view is listnened to?
No one except your parents (if you're a minor) can tell you what you can and can't do. The fact that he is flirting with another girl tells me (and hopefully you) that he is not focused on you, and you deserve better than that.
Move on and find someone who is worthy of your friendship and possibly your love. Take care.
Brenda
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hmm if it happened to me? Well I know one of my recent ex's who is like that, and he kinda does that when he sees me, which thank god isn't that often. All you can really do is tell him to stop and that he wanted out of your life so he shouldn't be able to control it. But it kinda sounds like to me that hes not fully over you either..
A*xo
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That must be hard to handle, since he's your ex and it's none of his business.
Ex's are a pain... sounds like he doesn't want to be with you anymore, but doesn't want you to be with anyone else either. That's baloney!
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i think that when u flirt wiv other guys and he tells you not to tell him your gonna do what u want and like and that its none of his business dnt say it in a rude way though hope this helpsxx
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