hey my names christina from katy
and i love to help people ,, i will tell you things tht i would do if i was in that situation .. you dont have to take my advice and if you do , i hope i helped you out .. ♥christina
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okay; my boyfriend of eight months likes
this girl& we have been going at if for
two days now about this. im not really mad
at him any more! but i just dont understand
what he is thinking. he says he loves
me& that im the one he wants to be with
she is just some " slut ". if she is such
a slut then why would he like her ? im having
a friend or myn& his find out why he likes
her. for her or for her looks. but i dont know
what to do ! I DONT want to break up with
him cause that would just be harder. but i
dont want to live with the pain of knowing he
could possably cheat on me at any moment.
he did say he wouldnt but her is a guy
and well there not exactly to trust worth in
my exsperiance. PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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ok well maybe hes just confused
he loves you but he likes her
alot of people do the same thing
i used to and it sucked but
he will get over it
just let time pass
and keep enjoying ur time with him
♥christina
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ok so, i know there are a lot of questions out there like what do guys see in girls, or the opposite. well thats sorta what im getting to here. im 15/f and im having so much trouble here, and i need some real advice, not just a stupid answer. i know this is wierd, but ive only had one boyfriend, and it was elementary school for a long time but i dont really count it, because we didnt kiss and stuff, i mean come on i still thought boys had cooties. but i feel really out of place at my school and with my friends. they all have had boyfriends and i havent even had my first kiss. i dont think im that pretty but im not like hideous. im friends with guys but when i start having feelings for them, they like my other friends and it hurts everytime. guys see me as more of a friend, not a girlfriend. i give such good advice to my friends on there relationships, but i dont get why because im not experienced at all. and it just hurts me so much because im helping other people and not getting in return. i try to tell my friends, but they go oh your pretty, youll find someone. they dont give me any advice at all. and i dont know i think theres something wrong with me because no guy really likes me, theres nothing really special about me or anything.
my real question that needs to be answered is what can i do to make guys want me, like what do guys look for in a girl. how do i catch guys attention. ijust feel like theres no guy at my school right for me, even though i know i dont know them all. i just dont know what to do, i feel so bad for myself because im a sophomore and i havent even had my first kiss. and i dont know anymore. i get so sad because my close friends know, and they make fun of me behind my back. i think they feel bad for me but they dont know what to say. they invite me to movies but they always have guys there and there all make out and stuff. and i just sit there.
some please help me i dont know whats wrong, i need to change so guys like me. sorry its long, thank you so much if you read all of it (link)
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girl you dont need to change
just be yourself but dont give all your feelings out
if a guy cant accept you for who you are then f*** them
nice guys look for a relationship someone truthfull and funny and sweet
which girls are naturally inclined to being [lol]
but jerks come along every so often and you know what they want [sex] just be your self and keep talking to guys one will come along trust me i know cuz i was in your shoes not too long ago =]
good luck ♥christina
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yeah all this advice has helped.. But I can't meet up in the day with him because he is grounded. So Meeting at night is the only way I can see him and he is un grounded when i go on holiday and I want to see him before I go.. So What can I do?.
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sweety i know what it feels like to not see some one im leaving to colombia for almost an entire month and i wont get to see my bf because my mom works. sometimes the safest and most wise choices are choices we dont like. but im just giving you advice you dont have to take it good luck ♥christina
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I'm female and 14 years old. My Boyfriend is 15, nearly 16.
Okay, this is quite a weird question bt i need help as soon as possible. Basically, he wants me to sneak out tonight and meet up with him. The problem is there has recently been a pervert around who grabbed a girl in my school near to where i live. I am scared that he could grab me when i go tonight, coz it will be around 1 in the morning and dark. It will take about 5 - 10 minutes until I will meet my boyfriend. So i have a 5 minute walk or even a bit longer on my own in the dark along some roads to him. I don't like the dark much as it is and I am petrified about this pervert.. I can't get my boyfriend to come to my house, and this is the closest I can meet him but I hate walking on my own in the dark. I want to go.. But i am really scared about what could happen.. and then my parents may wake up and realize i have gone and i will be in lots of trouble.. so then i won't be able to see my boyfriend coz I will probably be grounded. So what would you do? Would you go? Or what could I tell my boyfriend why I can't? or should i talk to him about it? I want to go, but just my parents could find out and then there is the walking on my own for 5 minutes in the dark knowing a pervert could jump out.. I am scared stiff, but i do want to go.. Help? xx (link)
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if i were you i wouldnt do that
something bad doesnt always happen
but your basically setting yourself up as bait
and then your parents would be very mad if they realize you sneaked out
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hi, i was just wandering, what do you call a male matriarch, as in a family leader? thanks (link)
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patriarch =] lol
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I'm a junior now. I've gone through at least one guy/relationship each year. One really hurt me.
I'm in a new relationship now. This guy is amazing, so sweet and funny. We are really open with each other and it's so different from my other relationships. I can't believe it lasted to 5 months. It's almost 6 months now and it's scaring me. I don't know how to get rid of this.. feeling..fear. I'm so scared that it's going to hurt really badly if this ends.. because I feel as though I'm too attached already. And since this relationship is without any abuse of some sort [verbal] it's the best I have ever had. I'm just worrying over things and trying to prepare myself. But I'm tired of doing this. One of my past relationships lasted over a year but I was still "with" the guy for another year or so, just not official, if you know what I mean. :/ 8th grade to the middle of 10th grade. And he hurt me so bad throughout the years and I'm afraid it's going to hurt worse in this relationship.
I don't know why I'm suddenly having this fear. I've dated 7 people and he's the first guy to actually treat me right.. and listen to me. He's patient and kind, he's actually willing to watch disney/chick flicks with me .. he doesn't make fun of me. He tries to make me smile and laugh.. and he tries to see me as much as he can.
It just seems too good. We haven't had any fights either. I'm not one to fight and in my opinion, I don't think it's healthy. For my relationships I guess. Others? Sure.. My friends always push the idea on me that fighting is a must in a relationship. They try to make me feel like our relationship is somewhat flawed.. and it makes me think that they are jealous sometimes.. because they always pick fights with their boyfriends.
How do I get rid of these worries? (link)
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girl that is soo cute
im going throuhg the exact same thing
and went through the exact same thing with my other boyfriends also
there really isnt anythhing you can do to stop fear, sorry , but its something that all people are naturally inclined to doing. and not fighting is a good thing its healthy and it shows alot
all you can do is have fun and enjoy every moment you spend with him. this reminds me soo much of my situation im not even kidding good luck and best wishes to both of you ♥christina
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I have the, what people would call "jewish nose". It's seriously myth. lol. But yeah, "it's" very obvious. And today, I was just randomly talking to a guy friend...and he says that my "Jewish nose" is very ...well, it shows a lot. I feel extremely offended. Should I feel this way?
[By the way...sorry if this offends anyone :O. I don't believe in it myself] (link)
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aww dont worry about it
it should offend you but no one can choose what theyre born with but every one looks good in theis own ways,, just tell your friend tht it really hurt you even if he was joking around or not.. =]] ♥christina
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hey everyone, im not really new to advicenators, but i havent been on in a while. i made a new account, and im trying to upload a picture, but it says everytime that it is too big over 15k. does anyone know how to fix this. it would be a hugeeee help :] (link)
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right click on the picture and edit it it will take you to paint so just cut out the parts you dont need or resize it if you have a program for that goodluck ♥christina
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Hey,
I am 13 years old. Female. And I have like this guy.... he is 12 right now but his birthday is only a month after mine.. he is going in 7th grade while I am going into 8th. Any way.... he has liked me but i didnt like him at the time, and I have liked him but he didn't feel the same at that moment. But now I am pretty sure that he likes me but he just doesnt want a girlfriend right now... actually he does want one but he is afraid of ruining our friendship. But I mnoticed the song on his myspace.... it really means alot that he put this on.. you see... everyone has said that we make a cute couple and that they think that we would always end up getting married... LOL:) Please tell me what I should do... I really like him alot and I he likes me (pretty sure) but how can I convience him that he should go out with me??
check out the lyrics
song:Must have done
Artist:Relient K
lyrics:
We should get jerseys
Cause we make a good team
But yours would look better than mine
Cause you're out of my league
And I know that it's so cliché
To tell you that everyday
I spend with you is the new best day of my life
And everyone watching us
Just turns away with disgust
This jealously
They can see that we've got it going on
I'm rackin' my brain for a new improved way
To let you know you're more to me than what I know how to say
You're ok with the way this is going to be
Cause this is going to be the best thing we've ever seen
If anyone could make me a better person, you could
All I gotta say is I must have done something good
You came along one day and you rearranged my life
All I gotta say is I must have done something right
I must have done something right
Maybe I'm just lucky
Cause it's hard to believe
Believe that somebody like you'd end up with someone like me
And I know that it's so cliché
To talk about you this way
But I'll push all my inhibitions aside
It's so very obvious
To everyone watching us
That we have got something real good going on
I'm rackin' my brain for a new improved way
To let you know you're more to me than I know how to say
You're ok with the way this is going to be
Cause this is going to be the best thing that we've ever seen
If anyone could make me a better person, you could
All I gotta say is I must have done something good
You came along one day and you rearranged my life
All I gotta say is I must have done something right
I must have done something right
If anyone could make me a better person, you could
All I gotta say is I must have done something good
You came along one day and you rearranged my life
All I gotta say is I must have done something right
I must have done something right
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girl ive been through that
over and over again
and just tell him that you like him and that a relationship will not ruin your friendship
a relationship will make your friendship grow
the song might mean something , but boys dont always chooss songs because they relate to it like girls do =] i know it sucks but hey theyre weird.. good luck ♥christina
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16/m
so i dated this girl Ashley about 4 months ago and we broke up. We went out for a little longer than 4 months and i even told her that i loved her which is a huge deal to me. She was my first really serious relationship and i thought that we were perfect for each other. We then broke up bc we went to different schools and we realized that i wasnt working. I thought i had moved on since then but i havent had any serious relationships just like hook up kind of things. I recently found some pictures we took together (just normanl ones) and all of a sudden i cant stop thinking about her and i keep thinking that i made a HUGE mistake breaking up with her. Im scared to call her again but i really want to talk to her. Is this normal? should i feel this crappy? (link)
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aww thats sooo cute
you should feel crappy at all
its a very normal thing
who knows chances are shes going through the same thing
call her up and let her know how you feel
and going to diffrent schools doesnt affect anything,in fact its better
so every time you see each other it makes you more happy and you can focus on school also
wish you luck ♥christina
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17/f
okay i have a problem talking to adults. i'm fine talking with my friends or with my parents but for some reason whenever i talk to other adults i choke. like i studder and can't think of the words to say. it's very frustrating because i don't want them to think i'm dumb i just get nervous talking to them. but i'm not nervous of them or scared of them or anything like that it's just talking to them. please help!!! (link)
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haha dont worry
im like that too but in spanish
i dont know what it is but ichoke on every word i say
usually what i say is im sorry i just get very tongue tied when i talk to other adults.
and they usually say its ok and they understand
hope i helped ♥christina
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ok so i like this kid [k] and everybody has been telling him that i like hiim. he told my friend that i was pretty but he thinks of me as a really good friend. and thats fine, if friends is the only thing we could be then its fine for me. but a while ago, during a b-ball, which him and i were in. [different teams of course], but before his game we would flirt like crazy, we would sit next to each other, take pics of each other, and i loved it, but i didnt like him then. we dont see each other anymore, except for occationally like at a pool party that is possiply coming up, or a party which i was going to go to but cant anymore, im so disapointed. anyway, my friend told him that i really dont like him like that just as friends ya know? and hes like "yaaa i know" you could tell he was trying to talk to his friends, but that he rreally acnoledged it. now [k] isnt the kind of boy that blows ya off, hes sweet and really caring, hes the kind that cares about you, what your doing, and compliments you alot. but when i commented him on myspace, for the first time, he never replyed back. its been about 3 weeks and i dont know, i dont want to comment him again, bc i dont know, it will look like im trying to hard. but i jsut really want to know you opion and can you just put yourself in my shoes to see what to do haa sorryits so long. neway, thanks for reading! (link)
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sweety maybe he has alot going on
it could be anything no one knows how a guys mind works as much as we want to lol .
and maybe when you said you were flirting he just meant it as a very friendly way .. i have a guy best friend and thats the way we are , but its not comsidered flirting.
it maybe too late for him to respond but if he dosent reply then talk to him in person like nothing happened on myspace.
hope you the best ♥christina
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well my friend,lets call her sam, had told me that she was anorexic after i kept asking her why she wouldn't eat. (This was like during the last 2 months of school.) Then surprisingly she kept being that way and if she ate she would purge.
She now has a confidence about it and scince all my other friends where gone (i only have 4 3 whr gone) she would actually take food away from me saying i was FAT and that i should be like her. At lunch i would go get food and sit down and the second i would look away she'd take my food and go throw it away!
so i had to start sneaking food in during class. I was practicly starving and was getting tierd really easly in sports. It sucked. Then she goes up to my coach and said that I(me) quit! i didn't even want to quit!!!!!
Well my question is how do i get her to stop? she just won't stop! even in the summer she finds ways to keep me from eating.(my parents are often gone so she comes over,i don't want her to but i am just to gullable i guess)
HELP ME!!!!! (link)
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girl if shes really your friend
tell her that you dont like what shes doing to you, and that you are perfectly comfortable with yourself and your body
and that it really affects your health
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To Start with I am Female and 16. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and he has brought up having sex quite a bit recently. Me and him are both virgins and he seems pretty keen to get it over and done with. I am worried however, not because i don't think i'm ready, but because i was wondering whether I should shave down there because he would prefer it or should i just leave it? I keep getting told different things. Some of my friends says it shouldn't matter, but then a majority of people I have spoken to said that guys prefer it to be shaved. Does anyone know what guys prefer? (link)
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some guys like it shaved
some guys dont
but your friends are right
if he really likes you
it shouldnt matter at all
remember sex is a big step
and 2 months isnt that long
so try and tthink about it more
=] ♥christina
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15/m
I'm good friends with a girl and she told me she'll go out with me eventually but not now. What I want to know is, what do I have to do to get her to go out with me sooner. She calls me like almost every day and we talk, but I don't know if she's hinting about anything. (link)
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maybe she wants to get to know you a little more, well about the boyfriend you could be
just give her time to know what you would treat her like but dont wait so long because chances are she couldnt be hinting.but anything is possible.just ask whats going on between you two. it wouldnt hurt. goodluck ♥christina
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OK im a 16/f and ive only had sex twice.. i know for sure that neither of the people ive had sex with has an STD. But ive been having stomach cramps lately, and it burns when i go to the bathroom. Could that be an std? (link)
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i hate to break it to you but it very well could be, there is free clinics for that to be checked just search for one near you.hope you the best ♥christina
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in your opinion should a good night, or goodbye kiss be with open mouth and a little toungue, or just a little peck??
And if you have any makeout advice, please tell me. Like tips and stuff.
Thanks so much (link)
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well it depends on what you did if you constantly have an open mouth kiss goodnight should be a peck and if you usually have a peck then maybe open mouth thats the way i see it
and i dont really have tips sorry =[ goodluck =]
♥christina
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Okay so heres the deal.. Ive been talking to this guy for a month now.. its going great.. he lives in Virginia.. he came down on Saturday night to see his family and see me too.(hes here for a visit for a week). We met on Sunday.. Had a great time.. and the next day I asked him if he wanted to do something on Tuesday.. he said he dont think hes doing anything but he will let meknow.. ok.. day goes by.. next day I ask him.. wondering if u still wanted to do something today.. didnt respond to that but he tells me that hes soo tired went to the border yesterday(monday) and had to renew something and that he came back at 4 in the morning..took him 7 hrs to get there and that he is exhausted.. I had mentioned that he shud rest so that tomarrow he will be refreshed.. and he agreed.. and then went offline. My question to you is....do u think its wise to ask him if he wants to see me again.. honestly speaking? or am I jumping the gun too quickly.. (link)
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ok if the guy really likes you he will remember
just talk to him as if its not on your mind and if he brings it up say yeah that would be great
hope you the best ♥christina
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i went on vaca for a week with my best frioend and i had so much fun and we met this boy justin he is 15 and i really liked him and we thought he liked me at first and then we found out he liked my best friend, julie. she liked him alot so i let her have him caz usually guys like me more.
but then when we left the beach we stayed at. we still talk to him on aim and texting. she said something to him and he got kinda mad but she thinks its worse than it is. but now he wont really talk to her but he talks to me so much. and he tells me alot. now shes convinced were going out. but i wouldnt caz she really liked him.
so now i dont know if i shpould stop talking to him to make it so we dont get in a fight.
urgh! i need help. please someone answer this.
thank-you.
and if it helps 14/f (link)
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honey you have a lot more guys coming your way and even if you were just friends with justin understand that she feels hurt and maybe a little jealous.[or alot lol] but if you want to keep an amazing friendship it may be better you and justin not talk im sorry for the bummer goodluck ♥christina
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okay, so there is this girl who claims to be one of my good friends, you see she has been talking to my ex boyfriend and he brought up to her about going out. He recently has broken up with the girl he went out with before and after me, and i had been moving on ward and started to become interested in someone who happened to be his friend(i had no idea)Well he heard about this and imed me asking how i knew him, then later if we hooked up. I think him asking my friend out was because he was jelious of the fact i like his friend. Anywho, the girl calls me and tells me this and she goes oh how about i date him to get back at him for what he did to you (he took my virginity and completely manipulated me) I said i suppose. But i think she is just doing it because she has feelings for him, she always has even when we were dating. And we were talking and somehow sex got brought up and she asked if i would be upset with her, i told her i would be upset because she says she is my friend and she knows what he did to me. I think she has feelings for him, what do you think? Should i just cut them both out of my life? (link)
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sweety its up to you
i know i would but heres something to consider
if you really moved on then why does it still matter?? goodluck~christina
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