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i just recently moved from northwest Indiana to Dayton, Ohio with my boyfriend Brian. We've been together for 3+ years (as of 07/15/01). i am an office manager at a local painting company. I currently drive a new 2004 Black Chevy Malibu LS. I love to go shopping, watching movies, minigolfing, and bowling. some of my favorite music artists are: Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, Christina Aguilera, Hilary Duff, Justin Timberlake, Ashlee Simpson.

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Ok.. this guy... i like him so much, hes the reason i wanna get up for school everyday. I want to show him i like him, but im not sure he likes me. He did at the begining of the year but then he said he stopped. I dont wanna ruin our friendship over this, but i dont know if it could turn into something better by somehow showing him i like him a bunch. He always looks at me in class and smiles FORever and we flirt alot but what guy dosnt do that? what do you think?

well it doesn't sound like you two hang out. you have to hang out to get the guy to know you outside of school. people are more open and fun outside of school. if he liked you at one time then he'll see the real you. he might start liking you again. i'm not saying your fake in school. but people don't act the same in school. you have work to do. can't always talk in class. can't do certain things or you could get in trouble.

I am 13/f
I have a friend. We'll call her "N". Well N is very moody sometimes. And, yes, I do know about PMS but its everyday. It seems like shes nice to me on and off or when she wants to be. I don't know if she is using me or anything but she just sometimes have this attitude when I talk to her. She doesn't listen or look like she is. And thats one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. But then she talks to me about her day and everything. And I listen and set the example. I think my friend is personally full of herself in ways cuz she thinks she can have any guy she wants and can be conceeded at times. And then calls herself the ugliest thing or not that pretty. (and she is absolutly soooo pretty) It bothers me cause she brings me down. I can never talk to her about my problems. But I have to listen to her?
Please help me
What should I say or do? Because she is very nice but the thing I just typed above..I want to stay her friend.
xo0x :)

hmm. well i'm not sure if she's a great friend or just an aquaintance (someone you see at school. and rarely hang out with outside of school). lets say she's an aquaintance. than you are probably realizing how she really is. and that's how she is going to be. you could talk to her but a) she'll either not want to be your friend cause you confronted her or b) she just does it because like you said she's full of herself. if she's a really good friend. someone you'd consider almost a best friend. i would say if you talk to her she'll listen. maybe let her know her shit don't stink. that you'd like to talk to her about your problems and/or day. let her know friendships are give and take..

my boy friend is always calling my bf a bitch..shes like awsome though and i tell him not to call her that infront of me..but he still does..what do i do?

ha .. i have the same exact problem. if your boyfriend is anything like mine then he's stubborn and is going to do what he pleases. my boyfriend cannot stand my best friend and he says the meanest things but in front of her he's sweet as pie. unfortunately all you can do is talk to him about it. tell him how you feel. let him know she's your best friend she's going to be in your life and he needs to respect that and get over his immature reasons as to why he does not like her. i don't necessarily think it's anything to break up with your boyfriend about. especially if you and your boyfriend have been together awhile. hopefully he'll just be understanding and cool it off a bit.

okey dokey, my ex bf's friend asked me out n he never even met me. i said i had to meet him first and we would have to become friends before we went out. all my friends think that if i go out with him he is gonna rape me just cuz he's 15 (i'm 13) n he had sex b4. i will probably go out with him but i already let him know i dont drink smoke do drugs or have sex. he's okay w/ that but he talks about all this sexual stuff online to me. i wanna go out with him but how do i tell my friends he's not a bad person and how do i tell him that i dont really wanna talk about sexual stuff? thx, *PrEssUrEd*-p.s-i did some sexual stuff b4 just i didnt have sex and all my friends tell me to do sexual stuff

well first of all don't do anything you want to do. and he can't rape you if you say no. stick up for yourself. you said he's okay with you not wanting to drink, smoke, do drugs, or have sex. so then there shouldn't be a problem. have fun and meet new people. get to know him like you wanted to in the first place before you take it any farther.

Hey well one of my friends has really bad stretch marks on her legs and she doesnt know how to get themm away or w/e i told her to tell her mom and she said thta she is too embarreseed too..and i am the only one that knows so how can she get rid of them?

i know a way to possibly prevent them. cocobutter lotion. but i guess it's too late for that.. sorry i'm not much help there.

Ok... one of my best friends just left from SC and moved to FL. I miss hime soo much. His parents kicked him out of the house and I loved him but while he was here I was afraid to tell him and now that he is gone I wish I had. He always said he had something for me but everytime we wanted to do something I had a boyfriend. Should I call him and tell him how I feel?

i wouldn't.. he's gone. there's not much you can do. i don't believe long distant relationships work very well. so i think it would be kind of pointless.

I just have to wonder how all of yall bush lovers can actually support him after all the fucked up things hes done?? you really enjoy us being at war?? how can yall continue to support him?? honestly?

well i must agree with you. i do not support bush. i voted for Kerry and i feel Kerry should and deserved to win. he could have a lot more jobs. my dad has been laid off from work (due to lack of work) almost since Bush has started being president. so when they give the statistics on the amount of jobs that were lost since Bush has been president i can say my dad is part of those statistics. Why are we at war ?? I thought it was because Osama Bin Laden (was apart of 9/11 attacks). Then i later find out it's because Saddam Husein has 'weapons of mass destruction'.. which we later found out there were none. So now we're just over there wasting money and lives. Bush must think he's so great cause he caught Saddam Husein...... ONE terrorist in this world,, out of how many ? Realistically there are tons of terrorists in this world, and Bush is not going to catch them all.

mi bf dosnt live in the same state as me but the thing is i know him so its not some guy that i met on the internet he use to live here and he went out with one of my friends but now that he lives in a diff state i keep thinking hes cheating on me. there is this other guy that lives here and we like each other and today i got really stressed and he told me i was cute because i didnt know how to do something and he started to blush i talk to him on the phone all the time but i dont talk to my bf on the phone i dont know if i should break up with my bf or not and go out with the one guy thats close by?

shood i

im realli confused

well long distance relationships aren't easy. it takes a lot of trust and support. since you feel your boyfriend might be cheating on you it's probably not best you stick with him. It obviously seems like your relationship isn't working out for the best. I think it'd be best to break up with him, move on, and possibly check out the new guy your possibly interested in.

I have this friend that one day can be like my best friend and the next day act like she doesn't even know me/ like me. She is someone i want to be friends with but i just can't really take all the confusing things she does. I just kind of need a good friend in my life that is pretty stable since i dont really have to many other friends where i live. 15/f/wa thanks

it seems as though you are in need of some friends. which is fine. but honestly the friend you mentioned above i wouldn't consider a friend. a friend is not going to act like your friend one day then totally ignore you the next. i know it's got to be hard not having many friends and you must really like this person,, if you want them to be your friend. but your just going to get hurt in this friendship. there are so many more people out there.. i wouldn't want to be too close to that friend.

A friend of mine needs a roommate, and I really want to move in with her because she's got a cool place and I'm sick of living on my own. The problem is that she's got a cat and I'm allergic to cats. The duplex has all hardwood floors and I'd have my own cat-free room, but I'm really nervous about moving in because cats really make me sick. Should I risk it?

if you get as sick as you say. i'd say no i wouldn't risk it. my boyfriend is allergic to cats and when we go to visit his parents (they have cats) he starts sneezing within the first hour of visiting. and he seems so uncomfortable because of it. unless you really think you can tolerate it then i guess it's worth a shot. you might be able to find some medicine to lesson your allergies.

My little sister is a freshman this year. We live about 1 1/2 miles from the homecoming football feild, and our parents are going to be out of town so our mom said she can have 5 of her friends sleep over after the game. What are some ideas for them to get home safely (without being egged to death by the seniors) without a car?

hmm that's kind of tough. if there happens to be any parks maybe walk through those. there usually lighted. and there usually aren't any streets with them. i know i've had to dodge some people before and the park was the best bet cause their car couldn't go through the park. if there is a bike path. that might be another option. usually motorized vehicles are not aloud on bike paths. otherwise i would say an alley but that is not very safe if you ask me. also you could possibly contact one of your sisters friends parents (that has a vehicle). they could pick up your sister and her friends.

Umm yea my dad past away on september 25 if 2003 and lately people have been saying how much they hate their dads because they wont give them everything they want and i can't help but flip out on them and i feel bad for it but they dont understand...my dad was never there for me and we only talked like 3 times my whole life and i am 16 years old and, i was in foster care and 2 weeks before my dad passed away he told the judge he would take me and then he got in an accident and died what do i do
*CONFUSED*

i'm sorry to hear about your dad. my boyfriend's dad passed away about two years ago as well. i must say i was probably one of your friends that said awful things about my dad (in anger). but honestly everyone is going to be mad at their parents whether it's their mom or dad. i know it probably hurts you,, when they mention mean things about their dads when you don't have a dad anymore. there's nothing you really can do besides let your friends know they are lucky to have a dad. they may then realize that it's not appropriate for them to belittle their dad in front of you. One day when their older and more mature then they will realize how immature they were being.

i guess this might be a stupid question, but something kind of depresses me. my boyfriend asked me last night would it be okay if he spent new years with his guys this year. he said that him and i spent the last 2 new years together and he wants to hang with his friends. ofcourse i said yeah, because im not the controling type. well, even though i said yes, it makes me a little sad knowing that he doesnt want to spend it with me. its like, why cant i chill with his friends too? its not like i never had. do any of you guys think i should tell him how i feel? or do any of you think that im wrong for feeling the way i feel?

thanks for your time.
18/f

i've felt the exact same way you have. when i first met my boyfriend it was me and him 24/7. he never even talked to his friends. than a year or two into our relationship he started hanging out with his friends and talking to them. that is perfectly fine. but he would never include me with his friends. it's not wrong to feel that way. i would let him know how you feel. ask him why you weren't included to hang out with his friends for new years. maybe it's an all guy thing. who knows ! but you need to find out why. maybe you two could do something new years day to make up for it.

17-F I've hung out with this boy Chris twice this week and we like each other but whenever he trys to kiss me I pull away. I have kissed him but I dunno I don't have any desire to do it again. This past summer I was used by this other kid. Since then I haven't wanted to do anything with anyone. What do you think is the reason I don't feel comfortable with Chris?? I do really like him and I think he's getting frustrated with it.

well it's obvious your not comfortable kissing him. it could be because of the previous guy using you. or maybe you just aren't comfortable kissing him yet. i don't know how long you have known chris but you only mentioned hanging out twice this week.. so it seems like you might be uncomfortable at how soon you two are kissing. you don't want to get hurt. so i would find out if you two are official before you go any further. maybe you will feel more comfortable.

I have had a boyfriend for 2 years on and off, 6 months straight and im starting to like a different guy, we hung out last night and he had his arm around me and stuff and i feel so bad that i did that but now i like both what should i do my boyfriend is the good guy doesnt drink or smoke but the other guy smokes weed and stuff, and my boyfriend is really mad at me right now he says i am a bitch to him but he has no idea about the other guy and the worst thing is they were once best friends, if me and my boyfriend are really broken up should i go 4 the other guy, or not because then he will never get back with me :'( so confused pealse help

well first i would figure out what you like about each guy. and what you dislike about each guy. whatever suits you best you should go for. but it seems like you and your current boyfriend don't have a steady relationship. i don't know what your reasons for breaking up off and on for 2 years. but it doesn't seem like it's working out too well. maybe a new guy in the picture would be a good idea. but you don't need to hurt your current boyfriends feelings. don't tell him about the other guy right away. just let him know things aren't working out. maybe this new guy won't even work out. just take things slow and figure out what you want first.

Ok my boyfriend and I just recently started having sex a couple of weeks ago, and everything went fine. This may be an over share but we took every precaution, using spermicidal condoms and having him "pull out". So this is why i don't understand why my period is late. Not by too much but by a few days. Then yesterday he fingered me and there was signs of blood about a half hour later. (and he had already popped me before that so its not that)I'm freakin out... you don't think i could be pregnant do you? Help me and ill do anything you ask... PLEASE

Honestly i doubt you are pregnant. My boyfriend and i have had that situation a few times. We use protection and my period is late. Once it was late by a month. I was never pregnant. You are probably worried and stressing out that you are pregnant. Therefore it is making your period delayed. I wouldn't be worried about being pregnant until you are a month or more late. Then i'd take a pregnancy test.

ok...im 17/m senior and ive never been n a relationship...ive been on dates with 2 ppl in my life and the last one i went out w/ 3 times...but thats done...i been told a lot recently how good ilook and how hott i am, but this is way new for me....i dont think ive ever even gotten a look from a gurl till now...im a popular guy, not the most, but every1 knows me...im a funny guy...but wats wrong w/ me...i mean i just got my first kiss! wtf...help plz. ha

i was 17 when i got my first boyfriend. (still with him today luckily!). just take your time and don't rush or worry about it. I used to be sad about it because all of my friends had boyfriends. But you can't sit around and worry about finding the opposite sex. just be yourself and you will find her one day. You said you are funny. That is a very good quality in a guy.

Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think?

Honestly i'm not for dirty talk either. Luckily my boyfriend isn't into it either. I would be laughing too. You need to talk to him and tell him your not comfortable doing it. If he's being serious about talking 'dirty' when you are giggling. I'm sure it upsets him. But that's where you need to tell him you are just not comfortable. Maybe there is something else you guys could do for fun that isn't so uncomfortable.

okay, i've been with this guy for a while now and our realationship is pretty good and stuff, but...i somehow want him to show more affection towards me; like more touching or even just talking to me or w/e. He touches me and stuff so its not like he stays completly away, but its always not when i want it. I guess i just kinda hope for the 'fantasy relationship' but i think that maybe his ways could be changed. Do ya'll have any ideas on how i can get him to show more affection or w/e? please help, and dont just say talk to him about it :o) Thanks, i rate!

ha ! sounds like my boyfriend. I believe some guys are just like that. They show affection when they want. It may not be as much as you want or when you want it. That's just how they are. Maybe there's even something wrong, he feels uncomfortable doing it ? If you two talk it out you might find out more, as to why he won't show affection as much. Make sure you let him know what affection you like. If he doesn't know then he can't do it. If he does something you like. Mention that you love when he does that or that he should do it more. If he's not the type to show that much affection theres really nothing you can do but complain and that will just get on his nerves.

my girlfriend and i are sort of drifting apart... so its getting harder to like her when i dont see her too much... but my best friend and i have been hanging out a lot and im starting to like her... but i cant break my girlfriends heart but i dont want to be dishonest with her????

You will definately hurt her feelings if you break up with her for your best friend. Especially if your girlfriend has strong feelings for you. You need to weight the pros and cons. Are you and your best friend better as friends? Or could you see a romantic future with this best friend? What happens if you and your best friend break up? Do you think you could remain friends? If not than you are losing a best friend as well as your (current) girlfriend. So you need to figure out what you think will work and what you want. Maybe you and your girlfriend need to try harder to see each other. Any free time you get, you go visit her, or she comes to visit you. Maybe find an activity you two both like and start doing it more.

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