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I'm laid back and extremely open minded. I love photography, music, and travelling. I value honesty and good friendship more than anything. My motivational drive in life is thrill. I'm one of those spur of the moment kind of people; always looking for adventure. Most importantly, I'm always willing to help :)
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What do you guys think about MIT?
I don't know too much about it, but it's obviously a really great school. It's extremely hard to get into. A couple of really intelligent kids at my school applied and none of them got in. They were in the top 5 of my class. They look for more than intelligence, they want something/someone unique. It's in a pretty good area and you'll definitely learn a lot if you apply yourself. I've heard that some of the professors are really great. That's pretty much all I know. Hope I helped somewhat.
23/f
Ok I have this friend Terry (26). He is a very good friend and we always have fun hanging out. And yes I do have a crush on him. We flirt all the time but it is always ALL talk. We can about literally anything. I can talk about guys and he won’t bad mouth them and it is the same when he talks about girls. Sure of course there is a twinge of jealousy when someone tries to get in the picture, but I don’t do anything about it. That is just not right. I want him to be happy. I know I have to give it time if it is meant for me and him. Sometimes I feel that it is right there in front of us but neither one of us is blind to it. Well I thought I would make a little effort on new yrs eve. My friends and I were out bowling having a lot of fun. I thought it would be cute and bought this cheesy mistletoe. Last day out of the year to get away with something like that. My friends got a kick out of it. (FYI I am sober throughout this whole thing) I also ran into Terry at the alley too and said he was going to have some people over at his house and that me and my friends were invited to come along. Well I wanted to get there before midnight but my friends just took a little longer then I wanted them too. We got there just a matter of minutes afterwards when everyone is rushing outside to light off the firecrackers. I wanted to wish Terry a happy new yr, just was a little too hard with so many people around. I finally was able to stop him in the kitchen and I had the mistletoe. I thought it was a clever little trick to be able to kiss him. And it did work; also that it was new yrs too. I felt very proud of myself too, that I took a little initiative. And we went on with the evening like nothing had happen.
Well.... turns out, there was a girl that didn't know that was kind of with him. She was almost always around him. At first I figured it was one of these young little girls (teenagers) that do have a tendency to follow him around since he is attractive. Well that was until I saw them sitting on the couch holding hands and cuddling. I felt like such a fool. If I had known they were together that night I respectively would not have tried anything. I know when to not step on toes even when it does happen to me. So I mentally tell myself, “ok I have to back off, and let it be” So the next night I am at our Tuesday karaoke Night which we always go to. Terry is there and the girl wasn’t. But we didn’t do anything out the ordinary. We still continued to banter and flirt back and forth like nothing was different, because it wasn’t. I few of us went up to his house since it was up the street. While most were down stairs, I was alone with Terry upstairs and we were talking and I made the effort to apologize for the night before for kissing him not knowing he was technically there with someone. He told me not to be, since they weren’t actually together and the girl ( her name was Jenny20 yrs old) was very needy, moving too fast and that she lived in Sacramento and had come up to see him for the night. Also said that he thought it was very cute and that he had liked the kiss.
Now what I need to know is what should I do about this? Should I just let things take their course? Should I forget about it? Am I in the right to be feeling like this? This has never happen between us. He is always telling me about these girls that like him but he doesn’t really want to start anything with them, since his last relationship really hurt him, but then he is looking for Mrs. Right and not Miss right now. And he does tell this to the girls and they seem to kind of leave the picture, not even wanting to be a friend, yet I know well enough to keep being his friend. You think he is trying to tell me something and I am not taking it in all the way? I don’t really think he is trying to play me because he does look out for me and has not tried anything. I know this is very silly but it is still something on my mind. Any advice would be great. Thanks for making it through all this.
You two obviously have something great, even if you're just friends. But I personally think that he IS trying to tell you something more. It sounds to me like he has feelings for you. He might want to be with you.
It sounds like you would like to be with him too. If you do, I would suggest taking things really really slowly. Keep at the same pace you are right now. I don't know what you guys do when you hang out, but if you ever hang out alone, ask him to go do something cute like ice skating or something. It's still winter and it's a season that people want to be close with others. You might get another chance to kiss him, and maybe the kiss will mean something more and last longer.
I think that after one more kiss, he might come out and tell you that he wants to be with you.
In some cases, best friends can make awesome boyfriends, and this sounds like one of those cases. I think there is something more there.
I hope everything works out :)
16 f
there is this kid that i know. he will NOT stop touching me. he's had a crush on me for the longest time, and wont leave me alone. he's really gross and perverted...and just an idiot overall..I hate him. I dont know what to do to stop him. I've hit him before..but he continues touching and squeezing me. I tell him stop like everyday, and he would say something along the lines of, "but I thought you loved me" or "dont you love me anymore"
It's like freaking RAPE, I swear! I'm scared he'll rape me one day =(
what can I do to freak him out? :|
If you have a big or intimidating guy friend, ask him to walk with you in school and stuff so the kid might back off. Most boys don't harass girls when other people are around, especially a threatening guy.
If not, just tell one of your guy friends and they might talk to him and tell him to back the hell off you.
If you don't have any big guy friends or you don't feel comfortable with that, just overemphasize the fact that you have a boyfriend, even if you don't.
If none of this works you have to tell an adult or something. I know how you feel. I had a kid that followed me around everywhere and always said creepy things to me. I never did anything about it because I was really shy, but one day an adult noticed and told him off for me.
Good luck :)
Ok well me and my girlfriend went to a casino for new years with her mom and her mom's boyfriend. We were alone the whole time and decided we wanted to have sex. So we found a family restroom there and went in it and locked the door. Well we started making out, the usual, got undressed. Then a little after that someone was banging on the door yelling open the door and shit so we panicked and put our clothes on then waited a minute and got out of there. Well we didnt see anyone waiting to get in so we went back in there. And tried again, we decided to keep most of our clothes on in case someone tried to get in again. Well a little after we got in the bathroom again and i was hard i put the condom on but i couldnt keep the erection for long. so i took the condom off and she sucked me to get me hard again but it didnt last long after that stopped and our only condom was wasted. a little later someone else banged on the door sayin open up and we got scared again, got our clothes on and left. Well i was basically wondering as to why it was hard for me too keep my erection. I dont know if this has anything to do with it but before we went in i really had to go pee. So was it just the nerves of me neing afraid of getting caught and in trouble or did having a full bladder might have to do with it also? idk please help me i dont want my girlfriend to think it was her fault. by the way i'm 17 and she is 16. PLEASE HELPPP
It's definitely because you were nervous. You can't be interrupted that many times and be completely chill about it. Don't worry :)
Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...
Thank you for calling me pretty :)
It's funny because I'm actually really athletic too. I don't play sports anymore because I don't have time in high school because of my job, but I've always been really good at basketball and football. No boys ever believed me when I would say that I could throw and catch better than at least half the guys in the school. The thing is, it's true. But they would never give me the chance to prove it. They're way too scared. They think they have to be all macho and bigger and better than girls. So if a big girl beats them, they'd say something like "Oh well she's not your normal girl". But if a girl like you and me at 125 pounds beats them, they get all upset haha.
But yeah, I've beaten a guy at basketball. Also arm wrestling a couple of times. I dunno why they get so worked up, it's just a thing guys have. He probably won't stop bothering you which sucks :/
And good for you for beating him :)
okay, so this may end up being a tad bit long, but bear with me pleasee :]
ok, so there is this kid at school, and i dont exactly "like him" pursay, but i think i might be starting to.
i dont really have any experience in relationships, but im good with helping friends out and crap. so i really need some help in seeing if this kid likes me or not. i mean i asked my friends, but they usually just assume the best to make me feel better, so it helps to have someones point of view that i dont know.
ok well heres the story,theres this kid, lets call him billy. so me and billy really never talked before, but we knew of each other, you know what i mean? well he was going out with a friend of mine, whos dating him right after billy and her best friend broke up, so i hope you get that shes dating her best friends ex, which is billy. so they were going out and stuff for a while, and me and him started talking.
well eventually they broke up, they didnt last too long. and we kept talking. well we have lunch together, and i sit with his ex at lunch. so we all have lunch together and i walk with billy after study hall on the way too lunch.
well a few days ago, after this school thing, he ended up being behind me, and we started talking. then we were going through a busy hallway and he sort of grabbed me by the hips and led me through. im not sure if thats flirting or what?
we always see each other in the hallway and he stops to talk to me. at another school function, we were talking for a while, and he wanted to give me a hug, i told him i had to go so he said just a really quick hug, and i was like okayy whatever. so he grabbed me and squeezed me really tight and wouldnt let go. it felt really good for some reason, like i wanted it to happen. it felt really nice because ive been distancing myself from guys for a while.
i cant tell if he likes me or not. like i walk down the hallway and see him, but i look out of the corner of my eye at him, you know like not looking at him but seeing him. well i always see him see me, no matter what and he always playfully punches me. its really cute and stuff, but im not sure if he does this with every girl.
so i need some help, do you think he likes me? and do you think his ex/my friend would be really mad at me if i dated him? andd i need something more to talk about with him, now that i think he likes me i starve for words haha.
hes also kind of a player. hes good to his girlfriend when hes dating them, but when they break on he moves on really fast. is that bad?
thanks so much to whoever read that and actually cared :]
It sounds like he likes you! The thing that makes me think he does is the whole hug thing. He sounds cute.
Talk to your friend about dating him if it gets to that point. I don't think she'd mind since they didn't date for very long at all. I know my friends would be at least somewhat cool with it. If you really like him and she's a good enough friend, she'll understand.
It is kinda bad that he moves on so quickly from girls. That might mean that he's just looking for anyone to occupy his time. That might be bad. Or maybe it's not like that. If you genuinely like each other and you started dating, I'm sure he wouldn't move on that that fast. So don't really worry about that.
I can't help you with what to say because I have the same problem. It's always different once feelings are involved. The only advice I can give you on that is to try to make the convos longer. If he brings something up, don't answer with "yes" and "no"s. Elaborate.
I hope things work out for you! You guys sound like you'd make a cute couple.
i stopped going to school about 2 years ago i couldnt stand it the food gave me horrible migraine the other kids bullied me the teachers treated me like a idiot because i had dyspraxia it hardly affected ne exept i cant concentrate, my writing is awful and theres nothing i can do about it i was teated like the one outcast who cant do anything because my teachers didnt understand what my disorder was the only knew about dyslexia the admitted so my history teacher demeaned me in front of the whole class by saying i had lazyitits until i developed a powerfull phobia and got diagnsed with clinical depression. anyway before me and my family discovered home learning it was a horrible ordeal of my dad trying to make me go to school and me literally not being able to we fought and argued and screamed and cried until i was diagnosed with depression i lost a year of my life sleeping until 7 pm and falling asleep after crying all night at 6.30 am. i am really worried that my dad and my friendship has been destroyed my dad never seems happy and and i always seem happy but am very depressed i am 15 but i am sure it not my hormones
please help me
horribly lost boy
I went through a similar problem but it wasn't as serious. My father and I still don't talk as much as we used to, but it's getting better.
I don't know anything about your father, but I would suggest trying to talk to him. Make small talk when you can. If he has any interests, like watching football, watch it with him. Buy him a really nice gift for Christmas. He still loves you, you're his son. That's a strong bond no matter what happens. He'll appreciate or at least notice the effort you're putting in and hopefully he'll try to do the same.
If you live with both of your parents, talk to your mom about it. Maybe she'll subtlely mention something to him for you.
I really hope everything works out :)
My skin looks like it's chapped, why is it doing this? It usually happens when I get out of the shower, and after putting on my make-up.
Should I put lotion on before applying make-up? Please help, it's really embarrasing!
Kym is right. Definitely always moisturize before putting on makeup. Do it after you dry your face when you get out of the shower. Be sure to wash your face as much as you can too. In the morning, when you get home from school/work (if you go to school/work), and before bed. Wash all of your makeup off completely because keeping it on for bed demolishes your skin. This should work and in a couple of weeks your skin will be smooth :)
So i read a website on how to decide where to part you hair. and it said you can tell by [1] if your nose is angled/leans to the right, part it on the left and vice versa [2] part your hair on the opposite side of your "pretty eye." okay so.. my pretty eye is on the right, but my nose leans to the left. according to #1 i should part it on the left, but according to #2 i should part it on the right. so do i go by eye or nose? its like. when i part it on the right, my pretty eye is showing, but my nose is like ew! so if you look at me from center or left, im pretty. BUT if i part it on the left, my eye is ugh. idk! help? hahaha.
Haha you're adorable. This is a funny question for some reason. I personally think that you should probably go with the one that makes you look pretty from the center and left. Thats 2 angles out of 3. That's better than just looking good from the right? Ya know?
I have the same problem. One side of my face is way prettier than the other. I don't understand why haha.
If you don't like it, then maybe try a part in the center?
I am a 16 yr old female
i have pulled [kissed] bfore - once with a close friend - and then the other tim ei was really drunk - i do not really remember how to do it well - i am scared of having a boyfriend or getting close to boys at the moment because i am scared they want something from me - i want to do stuff i really do but i am scared i will do it wrong or they won't like my body, how can i make sure i am kissing them correctly, and how can i be more confident and want to do more htings and not be scared, how can i make sure i do these things correctly?
please help me i really need some good advice
Thank you xxx
You're 16 years old. I don't know why that person said you're too young to be doing the things you're doing. I'm sure you're not a raging alcoholic. Kids drink, it's a natural and common thing. Get over it dude haha.
I understand how you feel. I had been with this one guy for about 1 year and a half and then I had to switch to kissing another boy. I felt weird because I didn't know if we kissed a "different" way or whatever. Basically, you can't be a bad kisser. Well, if you really fuck up you can be, but I doubt you will.
Just make sure you're comfortable in the situation. If you're not, it will be a bad kiss for the both of you. Stay calm and cool, and if you really want to kiss him, you'll do it right. Don't start with too much tongue, that's sometimes a turn off. Start pecking him, then hold for longer kisses. Suck on his bottom lip a little bit, and if he starts sucking on your lips then he probably wants to start getting more intense. Then try slipping the tongue in.
He will like your body. If he wants to do stuff with you, then he already has an interest. Let him touch you, just don't let him get too far if you don't want him to.
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I care about him alot. With the Christmas season here he has been having to work about 60 hours a week with no days off(since about the begining of November). Now all we do is fight. I know it is because he is stressed and exhausted and I never feel like I get to see him; I also know that it will get back to normal after holiday season calms down in about a month. I just don't know what to do to make him not hate me for fighting with him all of the time. I don't want us to break up but I don't know how to calm my mood swings and fighting so he won't get tired of me. Please help... I have been so depressed because of this.
Just try really hard not to fight with him. If you happen to talk on the phone, bring up things you know he likes. Compliment him, make him feel good. Find time to see each other, there must be some time, even if its for 30 minutes before he goes to work. Seeing each other just that little bit will hopefully put some spark back into the relationship and he'll be dying to spend some actual time with you. Once he stops working so much and you can spend a day together, that day will be awesome.
Also, if you talk on the phone constantly,(after he gets home from work or whatever) you should probably stop. I've found that in many cases phone conversations help ruin the relationship. Lots of fights happen over the phone due to misunderstanding or irritability late at night.
Well I've tried shaving down there before, but it came back thicker and darker and grosser. I wanna wax it, but I don't know how.
How can I buy a waxing kit or something? I doubt my mom will buy it for me.
I would NOT reccommend waxing it yourself. I've had many friends try it themselves and it burned forever. Plus, its hard to inflict that kind of strange pain on yourself. I got it done professionally and it worked well, though it hurts.
my boyfriend is obsessed with my tits. he always wants to go up my shirt and see them and everything. we love eachother so it's not like im uncomfortable with it and i honestly dont care, so i guess my question is..why do guys like boobs so much?
Whenever I ask, guys say its because they feel cool and make us look more womanly.
There is also a scientific reason behind this. Boobs make us able to breast feed a baby and shows that we are capable of child bearing. Just like animals, guys look for girls that they can "mate" with. Suuposedly, guys are attracted to boobs for this reason.
Weird huh?
How badly does it hurt to wax your vagina????
Getting the whole thing waxed is pretty damn painful. It's a long process. I'd reccomend a bikini wax. I've had it done and honestly I worked it up so much that it wasn't as painful as I thought it would be. The waxing itself is very shocking; I clenched my hands and sweat a lot throughout the whole thing but it was never unbearable. The worst part by far is, if the waxer even does it, when they go and tweeze the extra hairs. I won't lie, that part was very painful. In the end I think it was worth it though because it made the hair go away for the time being and when it grew back it was much softer and easier to shave.
can any body please explain a typical day as a dermatologist??
Been there many times. He/she basically just asks you a few questions, just like your doctor does. They look at and evaluate your skin and decide whether or not you have mild, mild to moderate, moderate, or moderate to severe acne. Depending on what kind of acne you have and for how long you've had it, they'll put you on some kind of antibiotic pill, as long as your parents agree. I've found the pills to be really helpful - I had terrible acne from about 6th grade to 9th and I went on Accutane (the most extreme acne medication you can get) and it cleared my skin up perfectly. If its not so severe, they'll put you on a medicated cream. They probably will give you a bunch of samples of creams.
But yeah, it doesn't take too long and whatever they'll give you should help. If it doesn't, they'll keep trying to prescribe you something until you find something that works.
Good luck hope I helped :)
i'd like to get opinions and comments on the different types of bikini waxes. i've always wanted to get one. but never really knew anything about it.. any suggestions?
Eeek, well I've had it done once. Some people truly can't handle it. You have to be able to sit still and endure the pain. And it sucks because it takes way longer than you'd think.
For your first time, I'd reccomend that you don't get the Brazilian wax (full wax). Its way too long of a procedure. At least for now I think you should just go with the standard bikini wax. It gets the areas that are exposed when you're wearing a bikini. It works really well; it gets rid of the hair and when it grows back its way softer and easier to maintain. It may be bumpy for a few days, but don't touch it. It will clear up eventually.
I don't know what you've heard about them, but I really didn't think it was as bad as some people make it out to be. Yeah, it was painful, but it was worth it. Its up to you! :)
i am on a birth control pill. not for sexual reasons, its for period issues. i missed my pill the other day, but i took it the following day. i am somewhat on my period now, since i missed that day, like only a little, and i have horrible cramps! i took the pill within like a day and i only missed one. shouldnt my period be going away now? its been like 3 days. and also, i dont remember because i haven't had a period in FOREVER! but i have a lot of gas lately! ever since i missed my pill. its like bad haha. is this part of having your period? thanks!!
Yes, gas is definitely part of having your period. Periods suck. I don't know if I misunderstood your wording, but if you miss your pill one day, you take it as soon as you remember (the next day), then still take the next one for that day. So you'd be taking 2 in one day.
You shouldn't be having horrible cramps, but it depends how long you've been on the pill. If you've recently started, the pill actually causes stomache pains for a while. It doesn't immediately relieve the pain. Give it a month or so.
Also, every girl's period ranges. If you're on the pill, your period can be anywhere from 3-5 days. Everyone's body reacts differently, so don't worry about it.
Hope your crampies go away :)
I want to be captaine of the basketball team at my school
So the thing is, I'm not very good, because I just started like 3 weeks ago, but I have picked up pretty fast.
But the thing isss that there are other people on the team that are much more skilled then me. And I kinda want to be a captain for the team (JV, by the way...)
So how could I become a captain? What kind of stuff can I say/do?
For example, when I turn in my medical forms, I'm going to turn them in a folder. Also, I'm going to say that I've found the team a manager. And, then I'm gonna ask what are spirit days are going to be. And then, lastely I'm going to ask about the sweatshirt designs.
What else could I Do?
THANKSS!
You have to do much more than ask. You should contribute to those ideas. Asking won't get you anywhere.
Most importantly, coaches love spirit. Be the most spirited, pumped up, energetic player on the team. Get everyone pumped up for the games, even for practice. Tell everyone when they do good and vocalize others' strengths. Help others as much as you can and work your ass off! Be as much of a leader and role model as you can. That's what coaches look for in a captain.
As, from the beginning i know he wanted to be bf/gf but i just didnt have that chemistry for him so he said im just treating you as my sister and a freind also. He calls me everyday and lately i had some problems at work and he would
show his concern and yesterday he said ''i've been thinking about you the whole day.'' ''I'm wondering how were things at work and what did your manager say regards to your problem?''
There was some guy i dont know who added to my msn and i asked him do you know that guy who added me? He said, no i don't i won't give out your email address to anyone without ur permission but you should be careful dont let him hack your account just block him if you dont know him. Why don't you just give me his email so i can tell him to stop hacking you. He said can you delete him? I said no,I think your going over board here i might know him. I'll find out first if I don't then I'll delete him. So, I asked him do you really meant to be my brother? I told him straight from the heart that when you said you're willing to be my brother I was pleased and felt thankful to have someone that treats me like a real sister. I always wanted my own biological brother to treat me like his sister although he would beat up a kid to protect me when i was being picked on from others at school and deep down knowing he loves me but he never nice to me. Anyway, ''I'm sorry to say that I wasn't sure why you came in my life.''One thing for sure I know God let us to be friends cuz i pray for whatever the outcome would be plan by God's hand and it seems like God has given another brother to me.'' He said ''You have clearly put where we stand but since then it was hard for me to put it all down but to see you as my sister and a friend
i was a little unhappy at first but its all ok now. I i think you already know or i have shown out to you already.'' ''i had the like feeling from the beginning that is why i kept you as a friend because i didn't want to lose you as a friend and to be my sister.'' ''i had put all feeling down and just put the mean that you are my sister don't misunderstand.'''' Of course i want to be your real brother and replace your brother that does not treat you good i would not do that to my sister i would be there for you anytime you need me but rather you accept me to be your real brother.'' So, after that we changed the topic and he said Its almost x-mas and he would buy me a gift to show just to show a friendly guster as friends. I said, then I must return you a gift too but he stated clearly no i know it makes you feel bad but I have my reason i need to do this I need to show you my apprecitaion that God has given me a good sister. Anyway, he continue to ask for the hangout like from the start of our conversaion. You want to meet tomorrow? I was tired and not in a mood and he was kind of pushing me for a hangout and said ''no i just want to help you to open more up like the first day i met you were really shy.'' ''I would feel happy if I see you talk more.'' ''We should talk on the phone everyday.'' Well, somehow i kind of prospone our hangout and said there would be more time to get together later on when i quit my job and I know he woulnd't hang up the phone until I say so and he respect my way.
?? what is your question?
I was dating this guy who is in college and im a senior in highschool. We dated through out the entire summer and then up until about half way through october. Since we broke up nothing has changed... neither of us really wanted to break up, but it was just hard for the both of us to trust each other. Also it was really hard for me to deal with the distance, i probably got to see him about once or twice a month. So we're broken up, but nothing has changed...but last night i made the mistake of kissing another guy while i was at a party. I told my ex right away, i didnt want to lie.
now he's giving up on us, even though we were talking about getting back together. he's coming home on tuesday...what can i do to show him that i still care? and that i realize that i made a HUGE mistake.
Most importantly, you have to tell him that you love him more than anything/anyone. Tell him that kissing that other guy made you realize how much you still want to be with him. Tell him that the guy didn't mean anything to you, and it didn't even feel right, it didn't feel like a kiss because it wasn't with him, the person you care about. Make sure that he knows you learned from the mistake.
I don't know how sentimental you are or he is, but write him a letter. Hand written letters mean a lot to some people. Write about how much you care for him, miss him, and write your favorite things about him.
If he's not that kind of guy, buy him something nice. Not anything too expensive so it doesn't seem like you're trying to buy your way back into the relationship. Maybe a sweatshirt or something? Or you could give him something of yours that means a lot to you and tell him that he can have it because he's more important and you trust him with it. That'd make him feel loved.
I hope it works out :)