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I'm Eightteen Years Old. I'm Still Living With My Mom, At Least For Now. I Am A Training Licensed Cosmotologist. I Have An Amazing Boyfriend. :]

My Friends All Come To Me For Advice So, Apparently I'm Really Good. That's Always Been Something With Me. I Read People Very Well, And Sometimes My Advice Sucks. I Wont Lie About That. Sometimes It Just Is Not Good At All. But I Do My Best, And I'm Extremely Good In The Relationship Department. Kinda Funny, I Can Help Everyone Else, But I Can't Help Myself.

Anyway, If You Need My Adice On Something, And Don't Really Want To Share It On Here, You Can Get In Touch With Me On AIM.
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ok i was wondering what are some good tips to do with your hands or mouth while kissing, and like where to do it and stuff to make it more enjoyable for her

grab the back of her head - gently. pull her close to you, don't kiss her yet, but let your lips stroke hers, and look her in the eyes, play with her hair caress her neck and slowly kiss her.

that gets me everytime :]

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How bad is it to cheat? I mean we always hear about it being the lowest of low, but I have friends who've had sex with other people and their boyfriends forgave them. Is it really all that big of a deal? My boyfriend is in Europe with some attractive girls that are always crushing on him, I've pretty much accepted the fact that he might cheat because I know how flirty he can get without realizing it. How bad would it be if I cheated, just kissing or so? I would like to know, so I'll be prepared to react in the right manner if anything happens by either of us.

Thanks.

Cheating is stupid, if you want to kiss other people you're obviously not into the person you are with. I'm not being rude, I am simply voicing my opinion.

And boys who forgive silly girls who cheat should really look at the big picture. If they were really sorry for cheating, because trust me, you will be sorry one day, they would have thought about it.

Plane and simple, if you cheat, you obviously don't care about the person you are with, or their feelings.

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Do i really need love? I mean all my friends have at least kissed one guy and I haven't kissed, hugged or made physical contact with any of my past bf's. My first bf only touched my leg. My 2nd one was too creepy to do anything. My 3rd one never talked to me. How can i get a good boyfriend? HELP. I'm not enjoying being single much anymore. Please, i need emergency dating tips! PLEASE! I want ot date again. Sure my first experiences sucked, but still... Not all guys are shallow, right? HELP!

oh honey haha.. :] you're so young. you have a lot of life ahead of you and plenty of time to start kissing on boys. and to answer your question, no you do not need love, and at your age you probably will not find love anywhere, because boys still have cooties.


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PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ!!! SORRY IT IS SO LONG!

Hey everyone I just had a few questions about fashion.... Well everyone is telling us at this age to be yourself and all that. Well, last year {8th grade) I did just that. I was pretty happy with it. As far as fashion goes, I mostly wore t-shirts and jeans. you know, the kind of tshirts you get from sports teams or from school events. One problem is, you can't get those ANYWHERE but from things that you join and teams that you are on. Like you can't buy them from a store. I have this really small comfort zone and t-shirts are all that I will wear. I am not exactly sure why but I wont touch tight fitting shirts or baby doll type spaghetti straps, skirts or dresses. I wear makeup, but usually no jewelry. Actually, I do
sort of know why I dont wear these. A few years ago, (7 grade) I had a run in with the really popular girls. This was a time when i didnt have a good group of friends yet, I had a lot of friends from home but they went to different schools or they were in different grades. So anyways i was kind of starving for popularity, like most girls this age are, and i befriended this girl Katie. She is VERY popular, predjudiced,and basically doesnt like anyone who doesnt wear hollister or abercrombie. So I joined the club. I got into hollister and all that stuff and was mean to people that didnt wear it. Note- I feel absolutely HORRIBLE about this now and have gone back and apoligized for how stupid I acted. Anyways. While I was friends with Katie, I realized how mean some of these girl are. I dont know about your school, but they are Horrible. So at the end of that year She and I broke up our friendship because she was calling me names all the time and then she started acting REALLY mean to me. When I talking to the girls I had gotten to know through her, they completely ignored me too. So basically, that is why Im not comfortable wearing those kind of clothes. I dont want to look or act or have ANYTHING to do with them. two years ago I came home crying every day. last year, after my style change, i came home with friends and I was happy and everything was good. (even though some of my friends wish I was a little more GIRLY) I am actually really athletic. Okay anyways. Here is the problem. AM I NORMAL? I want to be more feminine. I dont really feel girly. I mean I look nice enough, I dont look like a slob, but lets just say Im not on top of the latest fashion. Its not comfortable for me and I just feel more comfortable in tshirts. I also really need some other clothing options badly. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!? no offense but for some reason I got it in my head that everyone associates that type of hollister/abercrombie clothing with being snotty and rude and rich and spoiled. Like if i met a kid wearing rags and smelled I would probably side with him over a girl that was wearing this kind of stuff. I have had a very bad experiance with these type of people and need to get over it. In the meantime, I need some help... PLEASE!!!

wear what you're comfortable in. i have my moments were i'm really girly, and then i have my days where i go hang out at my ex's house and wear his clothes home instead of whatever i was wearing when i got there [this usually only happens when i cook or if i was wearing a bathing suit, we dont do anything more than friendly]

you are normal dear, don't worry about that at all. i understand the rude girls who think they're shit doesn't stink, those are at everyschool.

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whats a hand job? im sooooo confuseddd! help?!

where you place your hand on the guys dick and do what they would do when they masterbate. how old are you? have you been living under a rock or has your mom and dad not givin you the speach yet?

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I'm a teenage girl.


I work out whenever I can and I eat between 1200-1800 cals per day. (normally around 1350)

Why am I fat?

I'm 5'2" and 158 pounds. is it just that I have a crappy metabolism? so what should i do just stop eating altogether and run 20 miles a day?

you can cut your diet in half, and eat healthier when you do eat, and getting up early in the morning, say 6am. and running two miles or so a day helps. i'm the same hieght and i weigh 106lbs. i run to stay active. and being active helps with the metabolism.


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Short story:
My bffl. let's call him Joe, and I have been friends since 6th grade--we're both in 9th grade right now. His sister and my sister were on the know each other friend kind of basis? Anyways, let's call his sister Jane. Well, Jane finished her 2nd yr of college and she came home for summer break. Well, Joe and I were joking around in Biology about drinking hand sanitizer [don't ask]--this was last Friday-- and then he said "My sister drank nail polish remover" and I thought it was like a dare, joke thing so I laughed. And then he said "No, it's nothing to laugh about. She's hospitalized. She did it on purpose" And the only thing I could think of was "Oh." So that wasn't at all supportive. I don't know exactly when this happened but it was sometime last week and she was trying to commit suicide. I'm pretty close to Joe and I know he's going through the "I hate life" stage and to add on to that, his sister tried to commit suicide. I haven't been able to talk to him much after that [exams screwed up the schedule]. I see him tomorrow tough and I can probably catch him on AIM tonight. I just don't know what I should say. I want to tell him that I'm always here if he needs to talk to me but then I feel like I shouldn't because I don't want to bring it back up [it's been like 5 days since]. I don't know what to do. But I want to be a good friend and be there for him.

tell him that if he has things on his mind that he really wants to let out that you are there to listen to him.

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14/f

I want to shave down there but im afraid Ill mess it up. I have never shaved down there before but i do shave my legs. Any tips on shaving? Also if there was an alternative (other than waxing) I wouldn't mind finding out. Thank You

don't shave slow.. and don't shave opposite of the hair growth, like don't shave up. i shave all the time, i don't like hair down there. you may get bumps after shaving, but its just razor burn and irritated folicles

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okay. im 14/f, and i have a huge problem. my boyfriend is really shy, and i dont know what to talk about around him.(im kinda really shy too.) like, what if i want to start kissing him? how should i do that?(im obviously not experienced)thanks.

Just do it. You'll be happy you did. And so will he


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My guyfriend, ronny has literally A ZILLION nicknames for me, haha. [we're just friends] Well I want one for him but i can't really think of anything for his name. Any ideas && or suggestions?

think of an animal.. for example, i call my guyfriend jordan, jojoduckieface.

it started from me trying to call him a fuck on the internet and i spelled duck instead, and so he is my duck - duckie - jojo duck - jojoduckieface

its fun to make up names

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14/f

Today and yesterday I've been feeling like I can't breathe as deeply as I want to. It's weird.


is this asthma or what?

if it helps- i'm not out of shape. slightly overweight, but in fairly good physical condition.

i've had the same problem for years.. i don't know what it is but it's not asthma. i'm 106lbs, and when it started i was less than 97. this was five + years ago. I have skoliosis, if you don't know what that is, its a big curve in my spine, and the top curve goes over one of my lungs so i've just always thought that's what is wrong.


i've been wrong before so don't take my word for it. i'm just letting you know you're not alone.

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so my b/f was on AIM and he's at the movies with his sister and my bf`s friend katie . anyways, he IMed me & said "hey im with people who hate you" and i`m all "wow thats nice . because they thing i`m a pansy , right? just because i wear hollister doesn`t make me a prep . get over it"
(i get really annoyed because he is on the punkish-emo side & so are his friends) anyways someone goes "this is his sister & katie we hate you go suck a penis you pansy!" and idk what i should do , he was being really rude && idk what i should say to him the next time i talk to him . any advice ? what should i tell him ? break-up or not ?

sounds to me like your boyfriend is entierly immature and isn't that into you if he is going to let that happen.

i agree entierly with your friend and i do believe you should leave his ass. he is going to either try and make it look like he didn't know what was going on, or he will be even more rude because he's pissed you're leaving him.

either way, you're wayy better off without him.


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every day i run two miles around this park. my mom drives me there and reads a book while she waits. well, i have this friend annie. when annie's mom heard about me running, she wanted annie to do it with me. but annie's mom works, so she asked my mom to pick annie up whenever i go running. now here's the problem. annie doesnt want to do this. she doesnt say that, but i know her mom is making her. so we get to the park and she runs for like 2 minutes and then she walks. and i mean she walks slowwww. it takes me about 20 minutes to go around the park, but it takes her an hour. and me and my mom have to sit there waiting for her for 40 minutes. my mom is getting really mad about it cuz we have other things to do. we dont want to bring her anymore. but if we tell annie's mom what the problem is, she'll get really mad at annie (she's really mean to her). we can't lie and say we aren't going becuz everyone knows we are. so we dont know what to do!!

simply have your mother talk to annie's mother and say that ya'll have a very busy, and tight schedule and it's getting hard for ya'll to pick her up and take her back all the time. its not a lie, but its not the whole truth either

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IS it odd that whenever I orgasm I don't tremble or shake or anything? I just tense up a lot while the feeling spreads throughout my body.


Whenever I read sex stories it always is so elaborate about how the girl shakes a lot when she comes.


Am I just weird or something?

nope. i don't usually tremble or shake, but the last sex i did, probably because we tried a lot of positions. be creative and make up your own positions with your mate. have him go hard and fast a lot, but then slow down every so often, and you have to get on top and really be into it.


but i thought it was weird that i didn't do anything either. i'm right there with ya girl


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19 f
ok so im not sure if im pregnent or not. i took two pregnancy tests which both came out negative but im a week late on my period. should i be worried or not?

No, having sex can and most often times throw off your period. Don't be worried it happens to me all the time.

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so i guess.. four years ago my family life just.. messed up.
i dont live with my mom and im a teen so its really hard.
she doesnt even live in usa with us
she lives in south america.
and so, i tried getting a job thing here but i cant because im british. they said i had to renew my citizenship, and i had to make my birth certificate american.
wtf?
so since its the summer
i cant get a job
so i have to go to south america
and stay with my mom
for 2 months.
thats the whole summer..
i hate it there, i hate paraguay.
my mom is always busy she has no time for me.
she got all these surgeries and never told me.
like my whole relationship with her blew up.
with my dad he just threatens to make me live there, or kick me out because i dont have a job
BUT I CANT GET ONE, SO SERIOUSLY WTF?
my question is.
what do i do
i feel so like alone,
my life just screwed up
my parents hate me.
how can i make them stop hating me?
how cna i make them trust me, and listen to me for once in my damn life?

You can't make them realize what they are doing. Parents are stubborn and I'm sure they think nothing of this. That is kind of silly that they need you to do all of that [renewing] but if you have a car you might be able to go do it yourself?

As far as feeling alone... if you need someone to talk to, I'm always around. I'm on AIM all day. xobabyycakesox is my screen name if you ever want to talk to someone :]

Good Luck

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Okay I saw my friend wear this really pretty skirt. I can't ask her where she got it because she's the type that would say "NO! DON'T COPY ME! IT'S MINE! BLAH BLAH" so I see no point in asking.
:/

It looked similar to this :
http://www.bombayharbor.com/productImage/0206223001144133162/Skirt.jpg

but it was a light red-pink color. A bit shorter. Dark shades going to lighter shades to the bottom. I think you call it a "tiered skirt" ?
It was also a bit frayed. [That's why I want it. I like it]

Has anyone seen it? I don't go out shopping much so I don't know what store would carry that kind of style of clothing.
Websites? Or have you seen anything similar to what I described? Maybe not exact color or length.
Thanks

i agree with the girl under me, and i also think you should look for a new friend..


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my cat is constantly killing things, bringing them back on my deck, and eating nothing but the BRAINS. while i know its a cats instinct to kill, thats not normal to eat just the brains. in the past two weeks, shes brought back and eaten the brains of 5 chipmonks, 3 baby rabbits, 3 birds, 4 mice, and a mole. and thats only what she brought back. my mom is completely fed up with it becuase she has to clean it up. she told me today that she is going to get rid of her. i begged her not to, and came up with the idea of getting her a collar with a bell on it to warn the animals that shes coming. my mom said that we'll give that a try, but if she finds one more dead animal on our deck, we have to get rid of her. that is the last thing i want to do. what else can i do to cut down on the amount of animals shes killing? i want to try keeping her inside 24/7, but she is outside most of the time when it is warm out, so i dont know how to go about doing this. shes been an outdoor cat for 3 years, so i dont know how to keep her inside. any ways to stop her from bringing the animals back or ideas for keeping her inside will greatly help becuase i realllyyy dont want to get rid of her.

thanks!

have you tried feeding her? the collar with a bell would be a good idea, but its not. outside cats shouldn't really wear collars because they get stuck on things in the woods, such as branches. I hope you figure something out, i know i wouldn't want to give my cat up either

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13/f
my bf and i have been going out for over a year. during the school year we're both really busy, so we only see each other at lunch and on the weekends. but now that summer is here, we can see each other all the time (he lives on my street). the problem is, we can never agree on anything to do. he never wants to do anything i suggest (swimming, bike rides, bowling, etc). all he wants to do is hang with his friends and do stupid guy stuff, and he always wants me to sit there and watch them blow things up, do crazy stunts or play video games. i want to be with him, but its soooo boring! and whenever we're alone together, all he wants to do is make out, which i don't *always* feel like doing. so we've been getting in fights because we're bored and we can't find anything we both like doing. i dont want us to get bored of each other or fight all the time... so what can i do to keep things exciting?

Try and join into what he is doing with his friends. I personally love to blow things up, so it would be easy for me to fit right in, I don't know you or your personality or things you like to do, but I do know, that guys love it when girls do crazy things or join into whatever they're doing.


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so my best guy friend i went out with for like a week a month ago. but we broke up, and now i REALLY like him. like its crazy. and my semi is tomorrow and i really want to kiss him. (dont worry im not a slut). so how do i do this? and i am REALLY not the kinda girl to just take his hand and go into the bathroom or w/e. like i wouldnt even me like "you wanna go get somethin to eat out in the hall" ( we have snacks at our semis) pleasee help
14/f
thank soooo much %%

Just do it. I promise, you'll be glad that you did. Sometimes you just need to push yourself.


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