Hi my names is Samantha and i am here to do what i do best-Give advice. Ive done alot in my short lifetime so far and i hope that the mistakes i made or even the good things that ive done could make an impact on some peoples decisions. When I was 13 I was deeply in love with a 16 year old and went out with him for 2 years-through that relationship i found out what love wasnt and it was not him .After he dumped me I went to an all time low and i attempted suicide-I failed and im here now and i am happier then i ever have been..And through my 10 day visit to the hospital, I have realized what my life is about, and what I would like to accomplish in my short lifetime.Hopefully you will trust in me to give u the most honest and trustworthy advice that I can give and at the same time have a friend that you can come to when you just need someone to talk to, I am always here, and am eager to help. So why dont You Holla at me and I will do what I can to help.
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whats a orgy? how do you get one? (link)
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an orgy is a group of people that all have sex together-how to get into one??-ask around im sure theres some wierdos out there but u probabbly dont want to get into one because that is nasty and u can get alot of different things from having sex the best thing is to stay monogomous-stay with one person. hope i helped need advice post a question on my site!
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This guy that I really like, who likes me too is stationed in Iraq. I am just so worried for him! It scares me knowing he is out there. How can I calm my nerves and not think the worst will happen? (link)
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write him letters b/c hes probbably scared too and all hes doing is trying to do something for out country but all hes thinking about is probably just coming home so he can see you so if u think of it that way-it might help. Also when he comes on leave..will he?? well if he does make everything extra special and dontask ne thing about the war because he probably wants to ge away from it. Just keep faith and pray for him and he will come home to you!!! hopein for the best-tell him thankyou for me because that is truly great what hes doing for us!
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Can you get prenaunt from fingering? (link)
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No you cannot get pregnant bye any oral or figer contact the thing that u can get by figering is AIDS or HIV because if u have a cut on your vagina and he has a cut on his finger and he or u have it it will give the other person it..So some things u cannot get pregnant by are-fingering,touching,giving head-blowjob,69,oral sex,laying together,and ect...
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Ok, My names Mike and I was wondering, I'm a very random person and will do anything to get a laugh from anyone. So. I do alot of random stupid things just to get a luagh, but sometimes the things I do make people think I'm just a retard. So, I'm wondering if anyone thinks that people like me are funny and great to have aound? And what I mean by people like me is, people with no care of what people think and will is unhibited and will act wild and crazy just for kicks. (link)
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Id say that u are a fun person to be around and u shouldnt just let people think of u as a retard. That is like the stupidest thing ive ever heard. To answer your question YES i think that people who are wild n crazy are great to have around and the most fun people to be with (ina relationship) because u never know what the day will hold-and that is the best way to live your life. No plans-just go with the flow, Now i dont think guys would call u a retard?? so maybe its girls??? is that ur main concern or what let me know other then that hope i helped holla back @ me!
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If you use a condom, can you still get an STD? (link)
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Yes u can get an STD because condoms(if u read the label) do not protect against some STD's just most of them. B/c some cells are bigger then others and they can slip through the condom when he cums in it...Im not sure if he can get one but it might be the same story that the condom isnt thick enough and something will pass through-the safest thing that i would do is to go to your local health department and get tested for HIV/ AIDS and major testable STD's both of you should together then u will not have to worry everytime u have sex..hope i help-goodluck!
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ok so there is this guy that 15 and im only 13. I really like him alot and he said he liked me also. Thats not the problem. He is really experinced in doing stuff like kissing and he knows how to be sexy and romantic. i have nver kissed a guy and he thinks i have. he wants to do "stuff" with me like get a blow job an make out and stuff like. I want to but i dont know if its right i mean b/c im soo young. Do you think i should just like make out with him and not have sex or anything? what should i do?? (link)
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Theres never a barrier between people u love of being "too young" its really up to you and how you feel when ur with this guy..giveing him ur kiss is about a big of deal as sex-b/c u want it to be great and special when usually its not!! Kissing is a big thing and if u have doubts about doing it or wanting to do it then dont. If this guy wnts a blow job from you and to make out then he probbably just figures that ull have sex with him if u do all of that with him, u see my point?? Well what i would do is talk it out with him and tell him when the time is right i will but not now-or if u feel it in your gut(a feeling that cannot be described) Just lean in and give him a peck on the lips, just for starters. Then walk away or something so he wants more of what he got-then like u know the next day do it twice (peck ont he lips) and do it until u get comfortable with kissing him and then u will be more comfortable to make out with him-the best advice i could give to u is to be yourself and follow your heart!! hope i help u and goodluck!!
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Hey! your advice was awesome thanks soo much! i'll tell you the whole story,..its started out by they thought i was talkin` to them behind my baq and crap and i use to have a problem with yellin` at my best friends but then i got over it they took it to offensively and we had a meetin` with a counciler. Michelle S. (the girl who hates me now!) told me that her parents thought i was a bad influence and i didnt know why, my other best friend katie said the same thing when i didnt even know what she meant. Andd taylor, she said that i hurt her too much when i didnt at all. I didnt know what to do then after it they michelle and katie said that we could never be friends again so i said whatever your lose and after they all left tay told me that she would always be my best friend and never leave me. THE NEXT DAY,..she told me her mom didnt want me to be friends with her and she never wanted to talk to me again. So i said if they were my real friends they would of forgave me but they didn't.
xoxoxox!
Kimmey (link)
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yeah thats pretty stupid but hay atleast u know who ur friends are-my story is totally opposite. I met a Girl named Jackie when i was 8 years old and shes from Nj and her grandparents live like rigt next door from mine and so we are the same age so they wanted to interduce us so we met and like totally clicked-we were unseperable and everytime she came down i was with her. Well when we hit around 13 we started gettin mischevious lol we'd like sneak out and drink there booze n stuff nothing major really but I snuck out one night 2 summers ago b/c she told me she wnted to get drunk and her grandparents were still AWAKE!! so i was like no n she was screamin so i called a guy friend to come pick me up @ 2 in teh mornin so she called my dad n he came n got me so now her grandparents wont let me around her n we still r real close but they wont even let me see her everytime i go over there there is another story like she has a headache or shes somewhere else when i just seen her b4 i went over there so it hurts to lose someone u care about but maybe its for the best ...and ne time u need advice hit me up im always here!!! and your welcome.
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Ok, Well, my boyfriend is 19 years old and he*s in the military..I*m still in highschool..we write letters to each other often and i think about him every single day, but most of my friends say that i should break up with him, I really love him, but he's going to be gone so long! I have 2 years left of highschool, and if I stay with him that means i have to be faithful for 2 years! I dunno what i should do...
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Hey I was ina long distance relationship for 2 years and believe me its hard u just have to think about yourself and what u want not what other people want-is he worth it to you?? or is he not? If u c urself cheating on him dont break his heart dump him now and dont do it online or in an email or a letter wait till he gets time off and comes to see you because it will severly hurt him if he just reads it, he needs to hear it from you!!! You know that hell be faithful to you so its just a matter of what u think u can take. Do u love him?? Can u c urself with him in 2 years or maybe even more?? If the answer is yes to both of those ?' s then i would stay with him. Also i would wait until he comes back for a holiday or something to decide what ur feelings are like cus once u see him again its gonna hit u and ull either be glad to see him or not!! hope i help ...*Sammi
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i still am lyk totally in luv w/ my ex bf...we've been broken up fer lyk 2 wks...my friend just asked if he wanted to go out w/ me again. he said probly yeah. i wanna kno how i can turn him on wen i c him..helpp!!!
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Hey go to www.cosmopolitan.com and click on the link that says sex tips from guys and read all of that it will give u sum tips and sum ideas also a way to turn him on is to dress in something he likes play music he likes and make the whole day about him if u guys have had sex then u should end the day with that but make it special so he knows hes with the right girl by reading those tips on cosmo trust me girl they work wonders!!! good luck n have fun!! *safe fun* hope i help
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What do i do when i hate my parents???
I have a question about what i should do in a very odd situation. I am moving from Cali to colorado springs with my stepdad and mom whom i both hate for many different reasons. I will be away from my friends and my dad. i will miss my dad but he is not in a situation where i can live with him but if worse comes to worse should i emancipate myself. .if not what should i try to do to make the situation better with no sucking up involved cuz that just is not in my personality. (link)
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Hey ive went through the same thing that you are going through and now i live with my boyfriend.The only thing I can tell you is that if you arent going to be happy moving to a new place (most ppl arent) then i would tell ur mom and ur stepdad that u dont wanna go-tell them like an adult and dont get mad when they dont agree..Tell them that u want to emancipate yourself because u have very strong feelings towards them and u dont want to live with them-maybe u could live with a friend for a while..they prob wont change there mind into moving b.c u want them too but if u stick to it and dont take no for an answer they might let u stay wit a friend or something-u dont have to suck up because that would be a fake side to ur personality i mean after all they are ur parents so tell ur mom that u dont wanna move and come up with key points i mean arguable points why u dont want to go and then tell her and maybe she will listen...Also try to help your dad out i dont know the situation but if its money then maybe u can get a job..hope i help let me know whats going on...
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I am 17 f and my boyfriends friend always wants to talk to me about sex and he always tells me how much he loves me and needs me in his life but he knows that i have a boyfriend and my boyfriend is like his best friend I dont know what to do cuz I like my boyfriends friend but only as a friend do u think i should tell my boyfriend what his friend is saying to me? or should i just let his friend talk to me the way he does? (link)
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My personal opinion would be to tell your boyfriend what he is saying because sooner or later ur boyfriend will find out that hes talkin dirty to you and then hell prob think ur cheating on him with his best friend!!! So come clean and see if theres a way yall can talk this out and make it clear to the best friend that u like him as a friend and that u rnt comfortable with him talking to you like that and it doesnt do anything for you so it needs to stop...hope it helps let me know!!
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there's a guy... we'll call him bill. :D he's 16, and i'm 14. he is the lead singer of my brother's band... he and i have had an INCREDIBLE friendship. we click REALLY well, and i care about him so much. i would do ANYTHING for this guy... and, i see myself married to him and starting a family with him someday. we are both into the same things, we both are crazy, and we both relate to eachother really well. he means everything to me. (sorry, i think we've already accomplished that... lol) anyways, he thinks that 2 years is too big of a difference, he treats other girls the same way that he treats me, (like a princess), and i just wish that I would be the only one that matters to him. forever. If only the arms that he throws around me could be around me forever. i want to wake up beside him every morning for the rest of my life.
i have it bad. help! –jessi
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Hey Jessi I think i can help you in a way...I know what u mean about a guy not liking u b/c of the age difference..Well you are 14 years old and u are in love,majorly in love.but think of it this way if he isnt with you because of the age then does he love you?? b/c isnt love a mutual feeling between too people?if its only 1 person "loving" the other then the term is called infatuation. Sweety i would love to tell u u will be with this guy forever and ever but nobody knows-thats the whole deal with life ,and u are just starting out. there are going to be alot go guys and if this one is special to you then i would tell this guy"Bill" that u would appreciate it if he gave u a try.-talk with him and dont like say stuff to him like i wanna marry u and i wanna spend forever with you because he is 16 and that will scare him,-tell him that u think that u guys have alot in common and u like being with him and the way that he treats you and that u would like to be with him and see what he says if u are rational about the whole thing everything should work out-or maybe he's concerned with u being 14 and doesnt want to hurt you-or maybe he doesnt like you and just wanted an excuse(guys r jerks) but if he treats u right i would talk to him and see if your friendship could turn into a relationship..Also ask your brother how he feels about his sister goin out with his friend and singer of his band-cus if u 2 brake up it could mess up the thing with ur bro and "Bill." Hope I helped let me know and write back!!! *Sammi
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Hey Sam i like this guy named mike but i dont think he likes me @ all sometimes i think he likes me and other times hes standoffish the problem is is i have a boyfriend that ive been going out with for almost 2 years what should i do cus i absolutely love my boyfriend mark but i dont know what to do can u help? (link)
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wow u have some thinking to do if u really like mike and u feel that u r no long interested in mark then i would c where mike stands and if he really feels strongly about you if u love mark but just want to explore with mike i would stay with ur current boyfriend, because u never know that could be :the one: Talk to mark and see how he feels about u and talk to mike and ask the same then ask urself who would make u happier and decide from that!! goodluck let me know(Sam)
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ok im a guy and im 15 and i have sum question i have been in a 14 mounth realtionship wit my gurlfriend and for the past 4 mounths we have been breakin up and just fightin becuz the 1st time we broke up she thought i cheated on her but i didnt and the snd time i thought i wasnt gettin any attention cuz she was over her friends house allll the time for like weeks at a time and so we broke up again its been about 6 weeks since we broke up and now she wants me back but we have been findin out alot about eachother lately like she messed around wit a few boys and i messed around wit two gurls but she cheated on me like the last week or so we were together and got fingured by 2 other guys and me i....had sex wit this other gurl that was her "friend" she says but the gurl didnt consider her as a friend and i have a convo were her "friend" says shes not her friend and i made out wit another gurl the day after i was wit my x-gurl (sex). but i really really feel like im in love wit this gurl and she says shes in love wit me but i cant get over the fact that she cheated on me and i dont want to seem like a punk if i do get back wit her u no wat i mean (lol cuz of my friends)and wen we r togther it feels so right and i was her 1st and she was kinda mine cuz i have to tell the truth i believe that u should wait till u find who u want before u have that great 4 sec ya no so i had sex but "I" never finished till me and her made love and so i consider her my 1st but i never told her that. (should I?)but i love this gurl i really do and she said she loves me and i dont see y its not workin out PLZ HELP me!!!!! (link)
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well if ur both cheating on eachother you dont love her u are emotionally attached to her because she was your first. You feel like you have to make it work but u dont see it workin out in the back of your mind...Just see where she stands she says she loves you but in a week will she be with another guy...? let me know
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what do i do about a controlling boyfriend? my boyfriend is allowed to mess around and talk to girls but im not allowed to talk to guys! i found this so unfair and everyone thinks he has total control over me because when we break up, and he asks me back out, i always say yes. is it because i'm weak or i'm just under his little 'spell'? (link)
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I would get as far away from him as i can guys like that are no good take it from someone like my mom she stayed with this guy for like 5 years and he beat her until she is now paralyzed hes in jail but he controlled everything she did and didnt do it got so bad that one night he beat her until she was clinically dead but she was only in achoma she got better and got over it but she is now paralyzed and has serious depression issues..hope i help and let me know whats going on
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If you gave a guy head and he might have HIV..could you get them too? (link)
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you get HIV/AIDS from blood to blood contact if u did it i would immediatly get tested..
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ok i know this sounds stupid..but i don't know what a hetrosexual is! can some please tell me?
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A heterosexual is a person who is straight rather than gay
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i always flirt with all the guys at school or where ever i go. does that make me a slut bc everyone calls me one
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Flirting is never a bad thing and actually it is quite natural...No that doesnt make you a slut at all the only way that you are a slut is if u are sleeping and giving random acts of sexual pleasure to a wide range of guys in my opinion girls who have sex or whatever with more then 6-10 guys is a slut to me and anything over is a whore...but no you are not a slut!!! dont let them make a reputation out of you stand up for yourself..itll b ok...tell me what happends *Sam
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ok...i admit it,i kinda have a reputation fer being kinda slutty...but i dont do stuff...
even tho i'm kinda slutty...all these guyz expect stuff frum me n they obsess ovr me n it bugs me whenevr they do that(some try to touch me)...how do i get them 2 stop being perves and get them to lyk me for who i am??? (link)
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Well the way you represent yourself could be a problem..it could be the clothes you ware or the attitude you carry-its a good thing that guys are attracted to you but its never a good thing when guys try to touch you or expect too much from you!! Tell them that you are not like that, but first you need to convince yourself that you are not like that, you said it yourself that you have a reputation for bein kinda slutty so what can u do to change that??-be yourself by all means but change the way you carry yourself.Be comfortable in your beliefs-but do not let guys walk all over you be independent and self assured and gusy will like you for who u are..Guys dont get that just because u dress or act like u want it doesnt mean that u dont..so let them know tell them NOOOO and if they continue get up and walk away u could end up getting raped or something and believe me its never a good thing-good luck tell me what happends hope i helped *Sam
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Hey, i had a friend problem, like 2 months ago. All my friends had ditched meeh cause they thought i was a bad influenced and i had hurt them too much..when i don't do drugs i dont smoke,. i dont know why they did that. Now they think that i've made a mistake they can never be my friiend again, what do ii do!?
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Hey Kimmey i have a similar problem with a friends parents-all i know is i was in the same boat that u r- if u really care about your friends then tell them that your not a bad influence i dont know the whole story and if u think i can help tell me the whole thing!! but just talk it out with them b/c nothing cannot be solved in some way or another stick to your guns and everything should work out...tell me how things go!!
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