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Hey, i had a friend problem, like 2 months ago. All my friends had ditched meeh cause they thought i was a bad influenced and i had hurt them too much..when i don't do drugs i dont smoke,. i dont know why they did that. Now they think that i've made a mistake they can never be my friiend again, what do ii do!?
Kimmey
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If they've progressed into the silent treatment and won't tell you what you did wrong, then move on. They probably just like drama and got bored and thought they should stir something up. It's kind of vague for someone to say "you're a bad influence and you're hurting us too much" and also odd for an entire group to say to one person. If you ever read "Odd Girl Out" you'll understand what I'm saying. It's kind of like a power struggle. If you're the one that's sort of in charge, they'll resent you for it. Realize that they're being lame and frankly immature (granted, I don't know the whole story so I'm taking your word for it) and you should move on to people who will actually give you reasons for why they're angry. That's so gradeschool to say you're mad at someone and then leave them in the dark about why.
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gurl maybe u needa find some new friends who wont care what kind of mistakes u make everyone makes mistakes and ur friends must not no that if their getting mad at u for a mistake u made then u should find new friends who will be there to talk to u when u need them most
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sorry to hear about this .. i had the same problem not too long ago - all my old friends thought i "changed" and they started talking abotu me behind my back and ditching me .. i kept a low profile for a while and tried to start hanging out with a new group of people .. soon my old friends finally realized i was the same person i used to be and i am doing much better .. as long as you didnt hurt them or do anythign wrong in the first place you have nothing to be ashamed or sad about .. if they are your true friends they will realize reality and you will all be friends again ;) hope that helps xoxo
<33 alyssa
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Tell them that one mistake hasn't changed who you are and why they were friends with you in the first place. Ask them if they wanna start over and maybe they can help you stay on the right track even though you plan to from now on!
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Hey Kimmey i have a similar problem with a friends parents-all i know is i was in the same boat that u r- if u really care about your friends then tell them that your not a bad influence i dont know the whole story and if u think i can help tell me the whole thing!! but just talk it out with them b/c nothing cannot be solved in some way or another stick to your guns and everything should work out...tell me how things go!!
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argh! sry this is going to sound bad but, i have stupid friends like that! they all of a sudden said that i hurt them too bad and they ditched me, but i did NOTHING! well what worked for me is, i tried talking to all four of them, and then one of them actually listened and we're buds again! the rest of them, im just going to give them time from me, like a month or more, and then just start slowly chilling with them again... try talking to them one on one and try what i did! i hope i helped!:D good luck
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have you tried talking to them about it to get a reason for why they're ditching you and not wanting to be friends with you anymore? talk to them, communication really helps
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