hello, my name is selina and i was advised to create my own column due to the fact that i just cant help giving out advice and helping people with any questions that are on their mind. i know what its like to be botherd by something and not no who to ask it is alot easier to log on and ask a stranger who is willing to listen and help because you get no bad comeback,no spreaded goossip, no judgment,ect, so if you have something on your mind that is bothering you ask me and i will do my very best to help you out!!!!
thank you for reading........
E-mail: angelsp84@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: south london
Occupation: nursery nurse
Age: 19
Member Since: March 9, 2004
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I've liked a certain guy for over a year, and finally let him know. I had my best friend tell him, but she told him in front of his friends. So, his friends started saying all this totally untrue stuff about me (like that I'm a slut & that I'm easy, even though I've never had sex w/ anyone!) My friend also told me that my crush likes someone else. I know I should get over him, but it's soooo hard. Any suggestions?? (link)
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YOU talk to him, his friend are just jelouse thats why they feel the need to spread fake rumours, talk to him more let him get to know you for who you really are so he can see for himself instead of having to go by the stupid rumours. dont let other people put you off each other.
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I have a question regarding my ex-boyfriend...we broke up in December of 2001 abruptly after a horrendous visit to meet his parents (it was all just bad timing) he broke up with me because he felt our disagreements during our visit made a bad impression, thus he broke up with me on the plane...it was all very quick. We had only a very passionate 7 months together mind you. Yet, we had this awkward year and half afterward of not being together yet still feeling so much and having a sexual relationship. I really stopped being close with him around April of 2003. I graduated that year and have since moved. He has been emailing me every so often wanting to know what is up with me and how my life is. He is the type to always have a motive in doing something...why is he bothering?! Yet, most of me is over him..I am curious..and still heart broken. Should I avoid anything really personal when emailing..I dont want him to hurt me again, yet sometimes I wonder about the possibility...I am 24 female he is 23.
Thanks (link)
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try and still stay in contact with him as a friend since you have moved, its probably the fact that he still really likes you as more than a friend but doesnt know how to go about it without hurting your feelings, it looks like he that now that you have moved, that awkward sexual relationship has gone and he just doesnt want to lose you completely. if your emailing each other he wont be able to hurt you as much as if you were still kina seeing each other.
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i am 35.ihave three children. i am still with my youngest two children father.we have been together for 15 years. we have been trying to really make things right for a change. will we ever get married? (link)
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do what your heart tells you, get married for the right reasons.
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Dear Angel
im 15 and i have a really small penis and have
trouble keeping an erection is there anything
you can suggest that would help. (link)
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at 15 y should that be a problem, things like that shouldnt bother you at that age, get on with your life instead of worrying about things like that, when you get older and u still have this problem, then ask for help.....
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O.K...i knew my friend liked this guy at our school & he had wanted me to go down on him & i was like no i cant do that..then 1 day i was walkin home & he had asked me again...i was thinkin & i asked him did he think my friend wouldnt mad & he said they werent talkin..(mad) & i was like well O.K.so after i got home i felt bad & told my friend..she said she was very disappointed & that our friendhip was frozen! So she got all mad & i was like whatever.see i had also did 1 of her other friends guy too. but ive done him before & them goin out didnt change nothin.(he said)They simply told me i did somethin they wouldnt do! So whats the big damn deal!!..what should i do??? (link)
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put your friends b4 a guy, put yourself in their shoes and look at it from their point of view...
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Okay, I like this boy named Joe. We went out for a day but then we broke up because he claimed he didnt know me enough. I still like him but he doesnt like me anymore, well he is saying that atleast. and i sorta believe it because i called him, he knew it was me, and he hung up... ON PURPOSE! how can i get his attention and maybe go out with him again? (link)
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mayby he's just a bit shy and doesnt no how to be around you, or sadly he may not like you in that way which isnt the end of the world, there will be someone else. tex him just to be sure, tell him how you feel and ask him to tell you truthfully how he feels about you.
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i have a problem with my weight. people in my school make fun of me. what should i do? (link)
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their just shallow, try and ignore them.people always try to find faults in other people their just sad, dont worry bout it, start building confidence in yourself thats what matters most.
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Is it good to be dating or having relation ship with a class mate of yours (link)
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it depends on your feelings for each other, its more or less the same thing, dating may move up into a relationship any ways, so try dating and see what happens.
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Anyone care to explain why so many dumb***es insist on having sex before they turn 18!!!!!!!!! It's bad enough they don't wait until after marriage, that I can live with easily, but COME ON PEOPLE, it's illegal. SOMEONE TELL ME WHY!! (link)
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simple... when you tell a teenager not to do somthing, there at that age where they think they are big,cool ect if they do
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my boyfriend has erectile disfunction. i know this as we have only had sex once in four yrs .
he wont go to a dr, i have tried everything to stay faithful to him including masturbation . it is not working that great. my question is how patient am i to be i do love him we have been together for 4 yrs so this is no passing teenage thing. we are well past our teen yrs anyhow he says he is trying. we have talked about it. but he can prove it by me.that he is trying. well please someone tell me what to do short of leaving him i have done everything i can think of,i do not know what else to do
sincerly, going insane. i know everybody thinks this is not a big deal but i have a very high sex drive. (link)
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i really want to know what he does in replacement for sex, he probably feels embarresd to go to the doctors, as its his manhood, a very precious part of him.he probably is just scared of people examining and proding his bits, wouldn't you be? try talking to him about how you feel about all this, and for the love between you, he may gain the confidence to go to the doc and find a solution.
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Hi my friend katie is a little over weight... but the thing is i dont think she realizes it and its not a big deal that she has a few extra pounds but its the clothes she wears. She wears really tiny mini skirts and tight shirts that do not flatter her at all. Everyone makes fun of her behind her back for it and she doesn't realize it how can i confront her about this without hurting her feelings, she is a really sensitive girl and she cares about what she looks like more than anything.. very superficial so i don't want to hurt her feelings, I think that it would hurt her ore if she heard what people said about her.. please help (link)
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go shopping together and pick out things that would suit her, as friend always listen to their friend opinions on things like fashion, ask her how she feels when she goes out and if she is fine and feels confident enough then let her be, as the people who say things about her will look silly when they no how much confidence she has in herself.
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There is this boy in my class.I like him as a boyfriend and he likes me as a girlfriend.That means we are girlfriend-boyfriend right?Anyway I ask him if he likes Tara as a girlfriend.(if i get mad if he says yes he dosen't like tara as a girlfriend.I fi say i won't get mad he'll say he does like her as a girlfriend.he is just trying to make me happy and give me wat i want.he just want me not 2 be mad at him...
should i stay his girlfriend or dump him.Even though we love each other infinity plus two...
wat should I dooo??????????????? (link)
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y do u ask him if he likes tara as a girlfriend? he probably says yes just to get on your nerves because its always being brought up, he's with you and if he's not showing any proper signs that he likes tara then i think you should just get on with your relationship and stop bringing up the questions about her.
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Should I run away from home? (link)
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what a short question, what is the problem, what can be so bad that you would want to leave home, poss end up on the streets, or struggling to cope on your own, i hope nothing serious has or is happening that would make you want to leave your family ect and try and make it on your own. its easy to say you want to leace home, everyone has sed it, trust me, but doing it is a completely different thing it takes alot more than you think. i hope everytyhing is ok.
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I am a 16 year old female whose having some boy trouble. The boy I go with now, used to have a big crush on my bestfriend. But she never liked him like that. So we started talking and eventually he started to like me and here we are going out. Now, i think this other dude is cute(not saying I like him), but he likes my other friend, but she doesn't feel him like he's feeling her. Plus, she's moving to Hawaii(we live in Virginia). I just want to know what might be one reason why I like the guys that like my friends. About the unsatisfied part, no matter how sweet a boi is, he always seem to fall short of being "my type"...or maybe my expectations are too high. Please help! (link)
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sorry for taking so long to reply, internet trouble. n e ways its like with all groups of girlfriends, boys will come and go and like 1 or more out of you and your friends, its normal, and now that you are going out with someone other boys will no youir taken and show feelings for your friends and it is also very normal to think other guys are cute even if they like your mates or any one else for that matter
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i'm a 16 yr old wo has been bullied for 9 nine years. Mostly fopr the pure reason of my apperance. I live in a family of five in a one parent family. I arn't the kind of kid to ask for everything maybe coz i no we cart afford it. At school i have at least 90 kids bullying me about my appearance and teaseing me. We i started igh school i had a group of friends but now the popular person in the group lost a bit of weight and turned into a bitch saying i could never get that size because im a size 16. Sjhe is aware i am being bullied. Now i have no friends at school cart go to half my lessons coz its so bad. I arn't jelsous of them i just no why people say be proud to be different if ppl just bully u. Ive been to the doctors about depresstion and the school nurse. A man who deals with suidal people sat in on one of out conversations but i guess i wasnt that important. I cart look ppl in the eyes anymore i have so much pain in my heart and feel so unhappy for something i cart change. I no the bullying wont stop but i just want to no why i souldf be the one feeling lonely upset and made to feel different coz i have ginger hair and dont wear adidas. (link)
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hello, i really feel for you, because i know how you must be feeling. what about out of school, are there not many people your age who live in the same area as you. the people at your school who bully you, they are the ones who need counciling,they are the one's who are so shallow that they need to pick on someone, there the ones with insicurities that they feel they have the right to hurt someone. hold your head up high, trust me, you are a wonderful,beautiful person, hold your head up high, dont show them that it gets to you, because then they will be the ones who look and feel stupid. people will see the confidence in you and will get to no you for who you are and not what u wear, an adidas tracksuit does not make sum one a better person, you need a personality, a life ect to make who you are and by the looks of it the people that feel they have a rite to bully you dont have one, they need to grow up and relise what life is all about, dont worry. we should treat others the way we want to be treated, so you can imagine what they've got to look forward to, you will come out tops, it always happens to nice people, its what they deserve.
any ways ive babbled on enough, i just hope ive helpd. if you want you can e-mail me at Angelsp84@yahoo.com and we can keep in contact as friends if you want, im selina (19yrs) bye..
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when i met my partner things were great, we had sex as new lovers do, then i got pregnant with our daughter, and after the birth i gained some weight, our sex life flopped and it was about once a month if i was lucky, anyway weve now split up and ive tried my vibrator for pleasure, can you tell me if the gushing of fluid i experienced is normal i thought it was wee but it was a different fluid from that, i know women orgasm but ive never known this, can anyone help, also i didnt have pain when this happened it was pleasurable
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its just you coming, just like a guy does when he's reached his peak of pleasure.
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i have been friends with these 2 for 5 years. he finally ask me out a couple months ago but broke up with me like every month and i kept going back out with him. well this time he said that hes not gonna break up with me again and that hes really dumb for breaking up with me. and now shes pissed off at me because she doesnt want me to cry over him again. which i havnt the last 2 times. why would i start now? shes also mad because i dont stand up for her when her brother(my bf) picks on her. all i do is laugh. i wanna say something but yet i dont. how can i get her not mad at me but stay with him. she wants me to break up with him but i dont want to. and also. when i go over to thier house to spend the night i always slept in her room. but now that shes mad at me i probably wont get to. i cant sleep in garys room cuz his dad would freak. how can i stay over there? ok this is 2 long. thanks everyone! bye (link)
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you need to make sure that your relationship with gary is what you both really want, and if it is talk to you friend and ask her to put herself in your shoes and get her to realise how hard it would be for her. still stay over, spend time with her like you used to and then with him, its like with any friends, when one gets a boyfriend, they get jelouse, shes just extra mad because its her brother, which in some cases its better, would she rather you go out with someone else, which will end up with you 2 spending less time together as friends?
the best tool friend have is communication, talk,listen and understand each other, it may not be all good, but as friends you learn to deal with it because its worth it.
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my partner and i love our sex life, but she won't give me head like she used to. before she would try to deepthroat all the time and now she only sucks enough of it to shut me up. how can i bring out the animal that she usd to be? (link)
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i used to be just like your girlfriend, i used to hate giving my boyfriend head,however now when it gets to sex we add more forplay and he does alot to satisfy me, so its only fair to do the same for him cus it actually gets me in the mood. try doing giving her a bit of oral pleasure and she'll almost want to suck the life outta you, but if not and she's still uncomfortable then try and live without for a bit there may be something else she can do for you that brings on as much pleasure.
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if guys like u how would u know, or can tell? and well they try to make u jealous by hanging around with other girls.
if someone likes u wat are they going to act like with u and how would u know!! (link)
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guys that like to play games are just wasting time,they do it to show off, someone who realy likes you will let you know by showing simple sign like shyness, compiments towards you ect and before you know it it will become obvious.
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I've never used an advice forum b4 but i guess i'll give you an over view of my situation first. I've been with my boyfriend for about 18months, he moved in to my house about 4 months ago, which was his suggestion. Everything was pretty good for a month or so but then we started to notice certain bits about each other, which is obviously going to happen. Silly little things like how we cleaned a room or when the washing up was done...silly little things. I, at the time, was going through a bit of a rough patch with my job, quite stressful and wasn't super happy or bubbly. My other half started to moan that I frowned too much or that i left the room in a mess etc but after doing a 12hour day i was tired and wanted to chill out. He works away on weekends so every weekend i did a full clean of the whole house, but this isn't the way he'd likes it doing. he is very particular about the way he likes things to be done and i'm trying to adapt to these ways but i know, he doesn't, that this isnt going to happen overnight.He's never been in a serious relationship b4 and seems to get very impatient when our relationship doesn't seem to be getting anywhere (where he wants it to go i'm not sure as he doesn't agree with marriage or kids and we're already living together) he's very good at pointing out my faults but can't take me pointing out any of his, he says he won't change for anyone and doesn't believe in comprimise. We're getting to the stage where we either do something about the situation we're in or we spilt up. I really don't want this to happen but I'm running out of ideas on what to do. He's got himself in a negative frame of mind and i don't know how to get him out of it. Please help?
Ps. I'm female and 22, hes 26 and obviously a guy! (link)
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hiya, i am in a similar situation as you, i have moved in with my partner (in his house) which was his idea and just like you said it was all fine at first and then we also started to notice small things about each other that were starting to get really frustrating, however i was the one that is like your partner,and after a while we had no choice but to relise that no relationship is perfect and if its only things like these that we are begining to find hard, its not the end of the world or the near end to the relationship, we were able to talk to each other properly and both give our opinion on what was bothering us and to be in a long term relationship both people may have to make small changes to make it work. tell him everything you feel about the situation, and ask him if the relationship is worth it and what he really wants he has got to try and make some changes, and that your relationship isnt all about him, he needs to understand what being in a relationship is all about and stop being so selfish. he should be grateful and understanding that you let him move into your house, if he isnt willing to change for no one who does he think he is making you change so much for him. tell him if he cant try and adjust to your life, you wont stain your guts out to do so to his, and then see what he says. its the year 2004 not 1900 so men need to stop trying to be so overuling,it dont work like that any more. talk about the future and what you both want and are both looking forward to, do what ever makes you happy!!
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