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i'm a 16 yr old wo has been bullied for 9 nine years. Mostly fopr the pure reason of my apperance. I live in a family of five in a one parent family. I arn't the kind of kid to ask for everything maybe coz i no we cart afford it. At school i have at least 90 kids bullying me about my appearance and teaseing me. We i started igh school i had a group of friends but now the popular person in the group lost a bit of weight and turned into a bitch saying i could never get that size because im a size 16. Sjhe is aware i am being bullied. Now i have no friends at school cart go to half my lessons coz its so bad. I arn't jelsous of them i just no why people say be proud to be different if ppl just bully u. Ive been to the doctors about depresstion and the school nurse. A man who deals with suidal people sat in on one of out conversations but i guess i wasnt that important. I cart look ppl in the eyes anymore i have so much pain in my heart and feel so unhappy for something i cart change. I no the bullying wont stop but i just want to no why i souldf be the one feeling lonely upset and made to feel different coz i have ginger hair and dont wear adidas.
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Dude, they tease you for stuff thats out of your control, they should be the ones who feel bad, not you, but I guess things don't always work out like that, huh? But I know what its like being bullied. When I was Nine years old, I was a size 16, but then i lost weight. i'm not encouraging you to conform to their standards, Goodness no, that goes against everything I stand for...But instead of worrying about what your not, worry about what you are. What are you talented at? Let that shine through, and then maybe they will see you in a different light. Don't be afraid to look people in the eye, you can't let these bullies know thta they have beaten you! theres still life in you yet! These people are materialistic and probably won't get far in life, but little do they know, by them teasing you, they are making your will a bit stronger, and preparing you for the road ahead. If you ever need some more advice, email me at mephisto_queen@hotmail.com
Mad love,
Victoria
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i'm really sorry. I think you should transfer schools and start a new reputaion. good luck.
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Do what I did. Agree with them or ignore them and don't let it get you down. The only exception to this is when it gets physical. If that happens then the only thing you can really do is hit them back.
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I was bullied right up until I left school for college, because I always get good grades and study hard, and also because I'm overweight. People used to poke fun at me all the time, so I know what this feels like. The difference is, I didn't let them get me down. I stood up for myself. If someone starts teasing you, just walk past like you didn't hear them. Listen to music while you walk into school if you want to ignore them. One of the popular girls in my classes always used to pick fun of me because I have a particularly distinctive laugh; and now she's working down at macdonalds serving burgers while i'm studying psychology at college. Size 16 is the average size for women, so DO NOT think that you're alone. Tell someone you trust; your parent, an older sibling, a teacher. You SHOULDN'T be the one feeling lonely and upset, and you seem to be realising that. Try not to let them get to you, concentrate your energies into your studies. If you need to talk, just drop me a note.
Oh, and by the way, ginger hair is ADORABLE :)
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It would help if you could make at least one friend to confide in. Have you considered church? Sometimes you can find friends there because they are not as critical (not always, but sometimes.) It may not be so much your appearance (although that may be easy to pick on) but your lack of self esteem. I am sure not everyone wears Adidas in your school. If you can find something you're are interested in or good at to help your self image, that would be a start.
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Don't be depressed that people bully you around all the time. I know that it hurts a lot. I've been through somewhat of a similar situation before. Just try to avoid the people who bully you and try to move on and make new friends. Try to make friends outside of school and do activities such as church and outside sports. Don't be sad chief. There are a lot of people out there who I'm sure love you.
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ok u know that sayin i maybe fat ur ugly i can loss weight. well if it is a weight probly the similarize ur eatin portains. also if u shop for pants around july 23 there the cheapest,, u can chan ged ur whole look and then u may feel betta. im the same but no one bullies me. i hold my head up high a nd just say hi to people who look nice then u make the greatest friends tha t way. if ya wanna cgat and trade storys email me at issa88@msn.com or give me urs uif ur shy
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hello, i really feel for you, because i know how you must be feeling. what about out of school, are there not many people your age who live in the same area as you. the people at your school who bully you, they are the ones who need counciling,they are the one's who are so shallow that they need to pick on someone, there the ones with insicurities that they feel they have the right to hurt someone. hold your head up high, trust me, you are a wonderful,beautiful person, hold your head up high, dont show them that it gets to you, because then they will be the ones who look and feel stupid. people will see the confidence in you and will get to no you for who you are and not what u wear, an adidas tracksuit does not make sum one a better person, you need a personality, a life ect to make who you are and by the looks of it the people that feel they have a rite to bully you dont have one, they need to grow up and relise what life is all about, dont worry. we should treat others the way we want to be treated, so you can imagine what they've got to look forward to, you will come out tops, it always happens to nice people, its what they deserve.
any ways ive babbled on enough, i just hope ive helpd. if you want you can e-mail me at Angelsp84@yahoo.com and we can keep in contact as friends if you want, im selina (19yrs) bye..
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