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my best best friend Vs. my boyfriend!!!!!
i have been friends with these 2 for 5 years. he finally ask me out a couple months ago but broke up with me like every month and i kept going back out with him. well this time he said that hes not gonna break up with me again and that hes really dumb for breaking up with me. and now shes pissed off at me because she doesnt want me to cry over him again. which i havnt the last 2 times. why would i start now? shes also mad because i dont stand up for her when her brother(my bf) picks on her. all i do is laugh. i wanna say something but yet i dont. how can i get her not mad at me but stay with him. she wants me to break up with him but i dont want to. and also. when i go over to thier house to spend the night i always slept in her room. but now that shes mad at me i probably wont get to. i cant sleep in garys room cuz his dad would freak. how can i stay over there? ok this is 2 long. thanks everyone! bye
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Friends are the most important things in your life. You're only 13, something is probably going to happen between "gary" and you from now until the end of highschool. Make sure that you're aware that sleeping in the same room as "gary" is not going to get you anywhere in life and it's probably a better idea to just to think about what you're doing before you hurt someone, including yourself.
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I am 13 too and I can totally relate. What you have to do is ask yourself am I going to pick my boyfriend over my friend? Remember Boys will come and go but friends are forever.
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I have to agree with alpha! This guy sounds like he doesn't care about you. He enjoys keeping you on a string. As for as your best friend is concerned, stick up for her. You can always get your point across with out being a jerk to you bf. Trust me good friends are hard to come by and when you do have a good one, hang on! When you do get a descent bf, he won't mind you hanging out with your best friend at all, and won't always make her the butt of a joke!!
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Two issues here: are you in a bad pattern with Gary, and are you being a good friend to his sister?
Your friend might be frustrated because she doesn't like to see you hurt, and she knows her brother well enough to know that he's likely to keep being kind of a jerk. I think it's okay to give Gary one more chance, but if he breaks up with you again, you've really got to give up on him for good. Tell your friend that's what you're planning to do, and then stick to it.
If you know that it bothers her when Gary picks on her, then do something about it. You're his girlfriend -- you shouldn't be scared to ask him to lay off. If he doesn't, that should tell you something about him.
At your age, boyfriends come and go, but best friends can last forever. She's probably upset because she's scared she's less important to you now than her brother, so talk to her and try to reassure her that she really matters to you.
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you need to make sure that your relationship with gary is what you both really want, and if it is talk to you friend and ask her to put herself in your shoes and get her to realise how hard it would be for her. still stay over, spend time with her like you used to and then with him, its like with any friends, when one gets a boyfriend, they get jelouse, shes just extra mad because its her brother, which in some cases its better, would she rather you go out with someone else, which will end up with you 2 spending less time together as friends?
the best tool friend have is communication, talk,listen and understand each other, it may not be all good, but as friends you learn to deal with it because its worth it.
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Umm, that was qute confusing. Who is 'she'? I think what you maybe need to do is maybe stick up for 'she' and repair you frendship[?] with 'her'. As for the guy, I think he sounds a bit confused about his feelings, and maybe you should break up with him untill he has got his head sorted. I'm just wondering, but how old are you?
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