Hello my names Lili. I am 20. I am college student. I honestly love people. I am a communications major. I am the go to girl for advice among my friends. You need help ask me and I will do my best to give you advice. We all need advice every once in a while. My goal is that the advice I give you will help you with whatever problem you have. I cant guarantee a perfect answer. But I can guarantee that I will try to help you.
Gender: Female
Location: California
Age: 20
Member Since: June 12, 2010
Answers: 65
Last Update: September 16, 2012
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Who Should Be The First One To Say "I Love You" first? The guy or the girl? (link)
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well there is not rule for this. Honestly, I was scared to tell my boyfriend I loved him. I was scared to tell him thinking it was too soon and that he might not feel the same. I was gonna wait a few more weeks. But however, he told me he loved me. And I was relieved because I felt the same way. I told him, that if he wasn't gonna say anything than, I would of waited. So it doesn't matter who say it first, what matters is if you both feel the same way. In this case with me, my boyfriend said it first.
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How do you make a boy notice you? (link)
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The best answer is be yourself. My boyfriend noticed me because I was myself and didn't do anything to impress him. lol. He said, I like you and knew you had to be my girl because you never did a thing to try to impress me. All you did was be yourself, and I was impressed. So be yourself.
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Okay so i am a belimic and my mom lives poor just me and my mom and we live in a trailer park im am 13 and a girl in the 6th grade. And My mom thinks that i am beautiful but Alittle bit over weight and so that is why i am a belimic. And she is doing whatever she can to make me a model. She is an achohalic so doesnt really know or remember alot so she sleeps alot and her abusive boyfriend is the one in charge. He always hits me and make me end up crying under my bed as he looks for me. And i think that i am transgender and i hate hOw my mom makes me look so pretty. I have no chance of standing up fOr my self or telling anyone because i will get beat up. People think that just because i am taken away from them that i will be fine but somehow they always have a way to find me. I know this because it has happend before. So please i need help. Thanks (link)
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Awww I am sorry, you have to go through all this. Since your mom is an alcoholic, I don't think your mom could be around to help or be there emotionally to help you. Is there anyone else you can ask for help?? Like a good friend you can trust, a school counselor, or anyone else you really trust?? My advice is go to someone you really trust to talk about your problems. At the last resort you should go get yourself away from them. Because if you are hit and your mom is an alcoholic you would be taken away.
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What songs are good for singing at talent shows
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well it depends if you're a boy or girl. Well let's start of with the list. If you're a girl, these songs would be good: Rolling in the deep by Adele, Love story by Taylor Swift, A year without rain- Selena Gomez, Jar of hearts by Christina Perry.
And if you're a guy you can do, Just the way you are- Bruno mars, first time- script, good life- One republic.
Hope this helps :)
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My best friend is going through a hard time with her family. Her mom is a homosexual, her father is going through a divorce with a bitch who was always mean to her. She is very protective of me and our other friend. She said that she " will enjoy every scream and every drop of blood someone spills that she causes after they try to hurt us. I've been really worried about her,and I insisted that we take her to a couseler since she won't let me help. She began cutting herself saying she "aches to see blood." She got mad at me for "thinking there was something wrong with her" but I'm just worried. She starts to go toward someone to hit them then stops. She always tries to help everyone else saying she comes last. She won't let me help, and she hates attention so why is she doing this? Whats wrong? Please help- Worried friend (link)
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I think the things she are doing are calls for help. She needs to see professional help. That's the only way you can help your friend. It don't matter if she dose or does not want professional help. If last resort maybe stage an intervention. She needs help as soon as possible.
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So I almost feel guilty that I don't feel guilty about cheating... i've been in a relationship with a guy for like 8 months and i've had sex with two other guys. Why don't I feel guilty about this, and how can I make myself feel guilty about it. I really like the guy i've been seeing and he's a great guy but the sex is not as great. I'm not looking for your judgement, so if you're gonna post that I'm a heartless slut or something you can just save it. I know what I'm doing is wrong I just don't know how to be better. 19/f (link)
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The reason why you do not feel guilty is because you do not love the guy. There is something in the relationship you are not happy with. I think you need to sit your boyfriend down. If you are not happy or feel satisfied with the relationship you're in than you should let him know, and maybe cut the strings loose. You can not string him along. It's good for the both of you to be honest. The truth is if you are happy, and you love him and care about him, you would not cheat.
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What is the most painless way to commit suicide (link)
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The painless way is to not do it. I am serious. Suicide is not the answer, no matter how hard life gets, no matter how tough life may be. It always gets better. I would know. I been depressed before. Three months. But it lifted. I gotten better. And sure life is difficult and life has it's problems. But I toughed it out. I am a tough girl. Things that happen to you, make you a tougher person. And I know you can handle the difficulties. I know life may seem like a dead end now. But let me tell you it is not. Do not commit suicide. Get help. Don't do it.
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im really young (about 8th grade, im 14, female) and i really REALLY like this guy named Jordan.
hes kinda semi-popular i guess you could say, and he asked me out a while ago and i said no, but then i started to REALLY like him.. and i really DO like him.
i have absolutely no courage to go up and talk to him at ALL. hes super funny and outgoing and he doesnt really talk to me either.
i really want him to like me, are there any ways i can do that without communicating with him?
thank you!
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Sweetie, there's no way you can get this boy to like you if you don't talk to him. I am sorry, but there's just no way around it. You can maybe try to go up to him and make very small casual conversations.
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I am currently a senior in high school, and I am taking a special program in college. It's where I attend college as a high school and a college student. But when I graduate, I graduate with my high school diploma and my associates degree. So basically, I would be two years ahead. I am a college student since I attend a college campus, but my attendance still counts and I still do not have the choice of choosing my own schedule and professors. I am taking 27 credit hours (again, no choice). If any of us fail a class, we would get kicked out of the program. I am barely passing any of my classes, and I recently took my biology test which is one of the classes I am failing. I studied hard for this test, and when the test appeared in front of me. The things I studied for wasn't on there. I was frustrated, but I still tried my best. Later today, I found out that a lot of students in my class cheated on their test. You know, they went on Google, and searched for the answers. Some were smart, some did not even study because apparently it was their "last priority". They all cheated. I find it unfair. It gets me angry, it explains how they are passing with a high B, and I am barely even passing with a low C. I get so tempted to cheat, but I know that would be bad so I choose not to. But I can't help but let it bother me, I don't try to vent or blame God or anything. I mean, he knows what's the outcome on everything. But I would just like an answer or some sort. I don't want to get kicked out of the program, I'm trying to save my butt even though I have ADD and I am brain dead, I have a low grade. While everyone else who has a phone that can Google or doesn't exactly study as much, tries to cheat off of other people that spent their time studying. How can I get over this?
Everyone keeps saying, "it won't benefit them later.. Because they don't learn anything." But it benefits them on staying in a program that is hard to stay in, by cheating. They get good grades, their GPA goes up. Those who study and doesn't cheat, they can get kicked out, and their GPA drops. What exactly is the good in this?? Can someone just point something out to me about something that can benefit me in some way?? (link)
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I think you should meet up with your professor in their office hours. I do that when I am having troubles. I go during their office hours listed on their syllabus, and I try to talk to them, ask for help on the materials I do not understand. Most of them, the approachable help me out in passing the next exam. They go over material again on what I do not understand.
don't cheat. Cheating is against college rules and if gotten caught, the consequences can include expulsion. The people who cheat are going to get the consequences. One day, they are not going to be careful, and they will slip up and get caught.
Do your best. :)
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I am in a gay relationship with a guy who is 37 and i am nineteen. He's a great guy, and I really like him a lot. We have been dating for only three months but I knew him for over a year now. He gave me the key to his house. Is this too soon? When is the normal time to know that you love someone? (link)
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wow big age difference. I am the same age as you are. And in my experience as a girl, if I am dating a guy who is that much of an age difference people will tell me, you better be careful. He's experienced, etc. So yeah a guy with such a huge age difference is probably much more experienced then you are. I think it is a bit too soon. But if you feel that way, then why don't you talk to him. And the answer to your last question is there's not a time frame to when you can love someone or when to like or feel deeply for someone. It just happens. When you love someone, you just know it in your heart deep down. There's just this emotion you feel.
But if he is giving you a key to his place, then he is pretty serious in this relationship. So the best thing to do is, if you feel that this going too fast, then best you talk to him. Make sure that you two are on the same page. There's nothing worse then one person wanting more out of a relationship than the other one does. Hope it helps. :)
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cuz if so im orderin 80 years worth (link)
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lol. I don't think there's such a thing.
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is it ok to go out with a guy after my best friend did?plz answer need help fast!! i rate high! (link)
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It depends on your best friend. And also depends on how long they had broken up. So if your best friend and the guy broken up a month ago, she may or may not be over him. So the best thing to do is, to talk the best friend. Tell her to be honest with you about how she feels about you dating him. Warning, she may say/ insists she's fine with it. That may or may not be the case. She may still harbor feelings for him. So you might want to be careful. You should give it some time before you make a move. So if it's a longer time since they have been together, she might have a longer time period to get over the guy. :) Hope it helps.
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I'm 16, the age where most jobs can hire you. It seems like every job i try and apply to is under a "Hiring Freeze." I will be getting my license soon, and my own car and I will need to pay for gas and insurance. I have yet to go around my town and scope out where I could work. Anyone else have any suggestions? I'm so frusterated and stumped on what to do. Also, my mom doesn't want me working in a Union, so that limits grocery stores. (link)
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Jobs are hard to come by now because of the economy. My advice to you is to keep looking, keep asking around and keep filling in applications. Eventually, one will call you back for an interview. Good luck finding a job.
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Ahhh OKAY. This is a laptop question.
My parents are buying me a laptop for college, but neither of them know anything about laptops. Neither do I. I'm majoring in JOURNALISM.
What would be the best laptop for a journalist/digital journalist?
And is there any good software for journalists I can buy that will most likely help me? (link)
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I am a journalism major too. :)
Well here's the thing, I don't know much about lap tops either, but I had help from my bro who knows quite a bit about technology. My best bet is to take someone who knows a lot about computers and have them help you. My opinion is since we are journalism majors, we just need a computer that we can type and web page. And all lap tops have those covered. So I think the basics would be a word processor, maybe a computer that has more space, since we do a lot writing. For digital journalist which works with more technical stuff, maybe install photo shop, etc. I personally believe any lap top will do, as long as it is equipped word processor, and of course wifi so you can access the web for research. :) hope that helps.
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Hi I'm a 20 yr/F. the problem that's occurring in my family is that my sister is neglecting her family. she is 21yrs old and in love with this guy who is 19 yrs old. i have no problem if she likes him or not, but she is totally obsesses with him. she cant stop thinking about him. the main point is that they're just friends. she always tells everyone that oh we're just friends. she always calls him 24/7 and always goes to visit him. she lives with me and our parents and doesn't give our parents respect. she always tells them lies and she occasionally steals money from them. just for this guy. and whenever she would go out to see him she wouldn't come back till 4 in the morning. i know u guys think that oh shes 21 and that she has her freedom, but she's dependent on our parents. and our religion does not allow smoking and drinking which she does and lies striaght to my parenbts face while shes drunk. i really need your help...please help me solve this problem. how can we keeep her under control cause shes totally out of it..?? (link)
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Well to tell you the truth, since she is 21 it is harder to control her. But since your sister is dependent on your parents, your parents can cut her off if she does not change her behavior.
hope this helps. :)
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Ok! So I'm a junior and i like this freshman kid (please, no comment!. I didn't really like him until I started thinking he liked me. Of course, now that I do, I'm not sure if he likes me or not! I know this is very juvenile, but when we're on facebook chat he never says hi, and I texted him one time and he said gave be an enthusiastic hi but then that he was busy and he never texted me after that. Is that a definite no (that he doesn't like me)- should i try and get over him? I just dont know because he flirts with me like crazy in person...So frustrating! (link)
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Hi. I remember what it was like in high school. Gosh, guys are confusing. Now in college, guys are still the same. Gosh, I wish they can just tell us what they want, so girls don't have to do the guessing game of: does he like me or not? Well I think he may like you. But, some guys don't like talking on facebook chat. And when you text him he gave enthusiastic hi, than that may be a good sign.If he didn't text back it probably he was really busy and forgot. Sometimes that happens. But you should try texting him again and see what happens. If he flirts with you like crazy, sign that he likes you. And also look for other signs like, does he always offer to walk you to class, etc. The guy who likes me always want to be around me and all his friends always tell me he can't shut up about me. and if it comes down to it and you are still confused, then come to him and say, "Hey, can you be honest with me? Like be honest with me. Do you like me?"
Best of luck. :)
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 20 months now. We havent had sex yet, but we have been talking about it recently. I love him to death but I am really upset right now and am not sure how to talk to him about it.
More or less, our relationship is great. Hes everything I could ever want. However, it seems whenever he goes out with a few certain friends that he does whatever he can to upset me. Last night, as a joke he randomly texted me (after not talking to me all day) "So Im going to go get drunk with A and B and go to a strip club. Love you. Bye" Hes just started university so I understand he may want to try new things (drinking is fairly new to him too) but I was just a little hurt by the blatant wording. A half an hour later he told me it was a joke, but by that point I was already a little upset, and I feel bad for getting so upset over something so stupid.
Then around 1am, I get a message saying that he was sorry he couldnt talk at all cause he was playing video games and watching movies with his friends. I was a little annoyed, being woken up for that, and replied back that i understand but with some sarcasm.
He then swore and said he fucked up enough tonight. I was kind of confused, and just asked if he was simply refering to the lack of communication and the mean joke. All he replied was "Ive been a terrible boyfriend tonight..." So I asked him again, and for the next 3 hours I pretty much ended up being worried and upset, asking him to explain. Everytime he did text me back (about once an hour) he sort of changed the subject.
I love him, and I very much doubt he cheated on me or anything. Im more hurt that he could tell I was upset and scared and seemed completely unphased and couldnt be bothered to tell me he just meant cause of the joke and such. I feel asleep around 4am or so, I didnt really hear from him after about 3am, and I told him to let me know when hes awake so I can call him.
I dont want to get into a fight, we dont fight very often, but Im just really angry that he let me stay up and be upset for so long and still hasnt answered my question. How do I tell him this without getting into a fight? I just feel as if when hes with those friends, he tries to say things to upset me, and its getting to the point I really cant take it.
Sorry if this sounded really stupid and childish, I just dont know what to say to him...
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There's no way around it, but to openly talk to him about it. You can word things differently, to not sound so accusingly. Make sure when you talk to him about it, it doesn't sound like you are accusing him of things. Because if he feels like he walking into a battle field, he might most likely back off and not answer your questions and start a fight. But you do deserve an explanation. His friends does not seem like a positive influence on him. But, please whatever you do, do not start a sexual relationship with him now. It seems like your boyfriend do not know what he wants. He seems like he is confused.
I hope for the best. Best of luck. :)
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i need hellppp and i dont know what i do
i work at a place that i realllly enjoy and i love all my coworkers. i've been working here for about a month but last week i got offered a job at another place where this guy that i have always liked works. We have always been friends but never anything more, and i was really excited to work with him and see him alot more. But the job is really boring and pays alot less. its not about the money but for so many other reasons i want to stay at my first job but everytime i think im going to turn down the second, i see the guy and imagine how fun it would be working with him, i dont know what to do, should i stay at the job that i love? or quit and work with the guy who i have always had a crush on???
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I would say, stay at the job you love. You know waking up and going to a job you love is better then go wake up to a job you don't like doing, especially for a guy. And like you said, you guys are nothing serious. I would say, stay in your job. Anything can go wrong with you and the guy you have a crush on. He could get a girlfriend, etc. And you would definitely regret it in the end.
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So , I met this guy , well I seen him before , and so we ended up texting right and we were suppose to hang out. Good thing I didn't develop strong feelings for him. So anyways, we talked and I asked were you ever in a serious relationship before, and he is like no, next day he told me he had a serious relationship and I said I thought you didnt , so he said he tried , but she cheated on him. So when the day came when we were suppose to hang out , he told me oh sorry can't hang out I have to go to toronto... so I was like okay.. later on , he told me if I knew this guy , this guy I knew we only went one day and went to the movies with him and his three girls and another guy , and this guy was like okay.. because he said something. So , I got mad and I said that im not up for any kid drama.. you know? its nice talking... so he didn't reply really after he said well I didn't say I believe him right.. so later on I confirmed him on facebook LITTLE did I know he has over 900 friends mostly girls , talks to every girl , lied to me about saying how he doesn't text anyone , until finally it came out he asks girls for his numbers.. im definatley wasting my time right?
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You are definitely wasting your time. Trust me, you would meet better guys.
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Okay, well, I've dealt with my boyfriend long enough and it's not getting anywhere and he hates almost everything that I like. His sister and I are also best friends and when I tried to ask her advice on what to do, I think she hinted that she would hate me if I broke up with her brother, so now I'm freaking out on what to do. I don't want to lose my friend, but it's simply not working out with this guy. We're just too different... Any tips on breaking up? (link)
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Oh man, that's a difficult situation your in. I sympathize. Well you have to do this very delicately. Sit your boyfriend and best friend down separately.
To the best friend say something like.
"Look I have to tell you something. And you may hate me for this. But I have to let you know (insert's boyfriend's name) are not working out. We tried, and we are not heading anywhere. And as my best friend, I want you to be here and support me and the decision I am making. What happen between me and him, is our business and is between me and him. I just want you to support me...... Something along those lines.
And to the boyfriend say something like:
"Look, I have to tell you something. And it is hard for me to do it, because you are my best friend's brother. But I have to do it. We have to break up because I feel like our relationship is going nowhere. We are just too different. I want us to be friends.".... something along those lines.
My advice to you is to be honest as possible, and be gentle. You can't keep being with a guy and a relationship that is going nowhere. And if she is your best friend, she will come around, she will understand. If she is your best friend, then she would want you to be happy.
Best of Luck. :)
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