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Breaking... Up?
Okay, well, I've dealt with my boyfriend long enough and it's not getting anywhere and he hates almost everything that I like. His sister and I are also best friends and when I tried to ask her advice on what to do, I think she hinted that she would hate me if I broke up with her brother, so now I'm freaking out on what to do. I don't want to lose my friend, but it's simply not working out with this guy. We're just too different... Any tips on breaking up?
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Well you know it's gonna end and either way it's gonna happen. Go talk to your best friend. Tell her that your gonna break up with her brother because it just isn't working out and it would be way better if you were just friends. Tell her you still want to be her best friend but it just wasn't working with her brother. If she gets mad, she'll get over it. If not, then it wasn't a very good friendship. Just simply tell him that it just isn't working out for you too and end it. I hope everything goes well for you!
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if there's one thing that i've learned in relationships... its that you sometimes have to be selfish. not too selfish, but just at the point where you do something for yourself. for example- you wanted to buy a cute tshirt but your friend says it doesnt look too great on you, but you really love this tshirt. would you still buy it even if her opinion is different than yours?? do what YOU want to do. dont let anybody influence your decision, especially when it comes to serious things like relationships/big decisions. follow your heart.
why would you put up with him just for the sake of your friend? yeah, she did give you her opinion.. but you need to do what you think is best for YOU. not for her.
good luck :)
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Oh man, that's a difficult situation your in. I sympathize. Well you have to do this very delicately. Sit your boyfriend and best friend down separately.
To the best friend say something like.
"Look I have to tell you something. And you may hate me for this. But I have to let you know (insert's boyfriend's name) are not working out. We tried, and we are not heading anywhere. And as my best friend, I want you to be here and support me and the decision I am making. What happen between me and him, is our business and is between me and him. I just want you to support me...... Something along those lines.
And to the boyfriend say something like:
"Look, I have to tell you something. And it is hard for me to do it, because you are my best friend's brother. But I have to do it. We have to break up because I feel like our relationship is going nowhere. We are just too different. I want us to be friends.".... something along those lines.
My advice to you is to be honest as possible, and be gentle. You can't keep being with a guy and a relationship that is going nowhere. And if she is your best friend, she will come around, she will understand. If she is your best friend, then she would want you to be happy.
Best of Luck. :)
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