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Is it wrong to like alot of people even though you know you only love one person. Saying my brothers girlfriends brother. He is my age but in a grade younger. Late bday and all. Now everyone knows. Including him. See theres this kid who knows him, lives by him, and has the same name. He knows me and he told him. Well like i wrote a note to who i reallie love and like he said he will go out with me but he doesnt reallie know me except knowin im his sisters boyfriends sister. Confusin? anyways My parents say i shouldnt be thinkin about boys at this age when im desperate i mean like everyone else is. But im not followin them. Why try to like sum1? Anyways please help me. Should I go out with him not be shy get to know him and take a risk without the parents knowin. Or be a sloucher no risks ever bein stupid no boy and parents that tease you about it even if u cant have a boyfriend. (my brothers teases me about his girlfriends brother bein my boyfriend, and m parents. but i CANT have a boyfriend) HELP
No it's not wrong it is youth. Have fun, experience life and when the right time comes you will fall in love and live happily ever after and know that this is the guy for you. I wish I had a dime for every crush I ever had in my life. Just remember this, if you marry the first guy that you ever have a crush on when you get older you will always wonder what it would have been like to have just had fun and dated more than just the one. Get it all out of your system now and just have fun. Stick to your morals and just experience life. Kiss those frogs and one day a prince will come riding up and carry you away. Just remember that even the prince has his flaws and where no one is perfect and life isn't easy it is always an adventure and if you keep that in mind you will get that happily ever after. Good luck! :)
At my dance i danced with this guy...im a freshman and hes a junior...he talks to my cousin...i LOVE this kid hes perfect..people tell me he likes me but i dont know... so i wanna go to school and when i walk by he just drops his jaw at me what can i do to make my outside look good..im not changing my personality or ne thing for a guy but what are good makeup tips for a light tan and hair tips for dark brown curly hair with thin blonde highlights?? thanks sooo much :oD
First off realize that no one is perfect or they will disappoint you. As for tips I am not so sure that you need to do anything, he asked you to dance so he must like you. Believe me, junior guys don't dance with girls just to be nice, lol... But, if you want to refine your looks then what you will want to do is get a professional to help you. Go to Macy's or the like and hit the make-up counter for some help. Tell the person that you want a make-over that will make you look natural without a lot of time spent on looking that way but something different. It is free and you can always leave the counter without buying anything and then take what you have at home or what you can buy from Wal-mart and duplicate the same effects.
As for your hair, always keep it simple. Remember that if you have to spend three hours on your hair there will be days that you will be in a hurry and won't mess with it to run to the store and that is when you will bump into him or someone that you care what you look like in front of them. Hit the hair salon and look through their books. Tell the stylist that you want something that you can do in less than forty-five minutes and a cut that you can always fix to look presentable in less than 20 minutes. Keep the curly hair, you can do so much with it in a short amount of time and then when y ou want a more refined look you can blow dry it straight. Look through the books and only look at the cuts that the women look like they have the same type of hair that you have. The best books are the ones that show before and after and they also show casual looks as well as more fixed up looks. Like going out or dinner type styles. Then have the hair stylist work with you to find the right look for you. Get her to show you all of the things that you can do with your new cut and how to make it look the same way when you get home. Then go home and practice with it over the weekend so you are ready come Monday morning to show off your new make-over.
Hope that helps. Let me know if he asks you out. Good luck!
My best friend & I have known eachother forever and tell eachother everything. She has always been against smoking - she thinks it's stupid and it smells horrible. The thing is, all her other friends smoke, but me. Recently, she has started to herself! She has actually given into the peer pressure and she never has before. I used to be so proud of her for standing up for what she believed and not smoking. Now, she's changing and smoking all the time just like her friends. How do I talk to her about this? I'm so disappointed in her but I'd do anything to get my old, brave best friend back.
She knows what she is doing is wrong and she is more than likely disappointed that she caved into peer pressure herseld. The best thing that you can do is simply not cave yourself and continue to take that stand in front of her. As she sees what she used to be in you she will eventually decide that she doesn't like who she is becoming and go back to being who she was. The worst thing that you can do is lecture her it will just drive her away from you. Simply make statements like, I am going over there until you finish that it is burning my eyes and I don't want to smell like smoke. Do it in a nice way that she sees that you aren't going to conform to the pressure. Just keep being who you have always been and don't be so dissappointed in your friend. At one time or another we all give into peer pressure in one way or another. Just remember that she is human and that you would want her to stand by you if you made a mistake and caved to peer pressure. Good luck!
There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?
Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it.
I have found that honesty is the best policy. I don't mean tell her that she is gross or disgusting but just tell her that she is a littl chunky just like you just told us. She already knows she is over weight so you are not going to let this huge cat of of the bag she knows it already. For as long as you tell her that she isn't she will believe nothing you say because you are in fact trying to lie to her even though you are just trying to be kind. Maybe she just needs to hear the truth and then will do something about it. Suggest the atkins diet or that she lay off the HoHos so much. Start drinking a lot of water and/or diet drinks. Try and be supportive with her diet plan when she makes one and then compliment her a lot. You can be honest with people without hurting them. She already knows the truth just let her know that you still like her anyway. Good luck...:)
We have a version of American Idol going on at our school. Only 8 people can be chosen out of the many that have auditioned, and i was one of them. One of my friends, who has an incredible voice, was also chosen, but she came in last place to compete..and she tied with someone else. The only way she could compete was if she sang with someone else as a duet or the other girl dropped out. The head of the competition told my friend this, and they both asked me to sing with her, but they didn't give me any time to think about it so i just said yes,but i sort of regret it because i had my songs already planned out and last year i was in it and got a great reputation as "that girl who can sing and dance" which i like a lot, and i'm afraid that if i sing with her, that might change, or we might not do as well as i would have hoped for...when i sing by myself, i get all eyes on me and i love to own the stage, and no i'm not self-absorbed, its just that i'd rather sing by myself. I couldn't say no because that would just be letting my friend down, but i really wish that i could sing by myself instead of a duet..i'm not sure what to do..please help. Thanx!
Unfortunately you have already agreed to do this and you can't back out now. Next year don't agree so fast and ask if you can have time to think about it. Meanwhile you and your friend need to get together and practice until you have everything down to where you want it to be. Even in a duet you can shine. Through the ages of music some of the best groups have not been soloists. Make it fun and find a song that suits both of your voices. Remember that this means just as much to your friend as it does to you and no matter what happens in life your time in the stage light is minimal compared to your time with your firends. When age shows and our voices fade our true friends are still there.
Just find something that will work for the both of you and shine together. Good luck... :)
ok, fellow advicenators, help plz. ok, i like this guy let's just call him uhmmm Joey. ok Joey. and Joey is so much fun to be around. and everyone flirts with Joey, but Joey likes me. but when i tried to hook up with Joey he starts sayin all this about crap he wanna do with me. and im not a teenage whore. so i wanna know an easy way to let him know i'm not interested anymore. any ideas? 1x3 puppy
The next time that he tells you all the things that he wants to do with you tell him that you really used to like him but when he started saying things like that to you that you really lost interest but still want to be his friend. When he hears this and you prove to him that you really don't want to hear it then he will stop if he really likes you and doesn't just want to sleep with you. A guy wants what he can't have. If you show him that he isn't going to get it he will just be attracted to you more and if his like goes more than physical then he will alter his attitude to be with you. Good luck and keep your morals up... :)
Hello!! Hi i normally give out advice but i need some! bad! Well i have a really bad habit and its biting my nails. It sounds normal but the habit's so bad that when i quit smoking it was easier(!). Now when i bite my nails i bit it down so its just a couple millimerers!! (ouchhiee) Also, when half of my nail is gone a chew and pull my skin around my nail, to like the second layer of skin!and it burns when im peeling it like downward but it..iono its painful but its a habit. i dont realy cut as much as i chew my nails! its turning into something way worse! does anyone have ne ideas how i can stop! il rate u a five..:) help me plz!
Go and get a set of acryllic nails put on. For one it will show you how pretty your hands look when you don't bite them off. The other is that they are really thick and it hurts like heck if you bite them off. Keep them up until you break the habit and then have them removed and start growing your own.
Also, the next time you start to bite and chew remember that there is more bacteria on and under your nails than there is anywhere else on your body. Just from touching things like money, etc we transfer more bacteria there than any other way to our blood stream. And even if you aren't swallowing the nail itself small amounts of the nail gets into your system and is held by the appendix and later on can cause you to have an attack and have to have it removed. Very painful by the way. So, try the acryllic nails they cost about 20 to 30 dollars to have a set put on and about 10 to 20 dollars every two to three weeks to have filled. after about six months to a year of having them on the habit should break itself if you really try. If you don't you will bite them off and that hurts like crazy. Believe me, I used to do the same thing.
Hope that helps... :)
ok here we qo :
i've known this boy josh since 4th grade and from the first day i like feel in love . lol and he's everything he;s hott (lol im not shallow) and he's a gr8 person and the funny thinq is he can qet ANY girl he wanted in a snap but he doesnt qet any . lol srry anywaysz back to my story . i alwaysz help him qet crushes and ii always help him wid his love life lol but everytime i do i fall mroe in like with him (not love im only 13 lol ) . anywaysz me and him are qood friends but i just wnated to know if there's any chance he'd like me one day . if not is there a way to make him like me?
Thank You ,
Ariella*
You can't "make" anyone like you. Aparently he already likes you or he wouldn't be your friend and trust you with so much personal information.
Here is the thing. Right now he values your friendship. He may or may not find you attractive that is what you need to find out. He may just not be willing to give up a good friend in the event that you two don't work well together or he may think that you only want him as a friend. Or, he may simply not find you attractive. There are many ways to find out if he does.
You two are friends, show some interest in a boy, tell him that you like him and ask his advise. He will either give it to you freely or he will beat around the bush. If he beats around the bush that means one of two things. Either he really doesn't like the guy that you are talking about (so I recommend that you pick a guy that he doesn't know at all or know anyone who does) or he doesn't want to see you with anyone because he feels about you the way you do about him.
Ask him questions like, How can I get his attention? Should I put on a little eye shadow? You are a guy am I the kind of girl that guys would find attractive? What do you look for in a girl?
Really listen to his answers and they will tell you a lot. If when you ask him what he looks for in a girl he gives a description that "honestly" describes you then he likes you. Then you just have to say, "Well, you just described me I guess then I need to look for a guy like you." And see what he has to say about that.
Good luck and let me know how it goes... :)
14/f One of my friends is really starting to annoy me. It's not anything in particular that she does that gets on my nerves, it's just about everything she does. Some stupid/odd/quirky things she does that I used to like about her just annoy me. She's one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her. How can I stop being annoyed with her? I really don't want to be.
One of the main things about friendship is that you accept your friends for their fun/stupid/odd/quirky/crazy selves because all of those things make up the person that they are. You didn't go into any detail about what they are so as far as I can tell those things that attracted you to this friend is now annoying you. If we try and take the things that drew us to individuals away then you are trying to turn them into something that they are not. Or make them like you or someone that you admire or want them to be and that is not friendship. You care for your friend flaws and all or you don't. That is a decission that you have to make.
Now, if she is picking her nose in public or something inappropriate or disgusting then I would say that by all means you should talk to her. But, if she is simply doing the things that she has always done and those are some of the things that you used to like about her it is you that is changing not her and you either accept her at face value or you move on.
The good news on the other hand is that if you decide to accept her for her quirky/snnoying self and you chose that the friendship is more important than you dictating to her how she acts then in time as you both grow up and mature many transformations will take place and many of these annoying habits will go away and be replaced by different ones that maybe you can possibly handle a little better.
Remember that the only constant in life is change. Sometimes it is for the better and sometimes it is for the worse but the one thing in life that you can count on is that it will eventually change one way or the other. So will you and your friend and one day you may look back in your adult life and wish that you could go back on day and just hang with your annoying/quirky friend and not worry about life in the adult capacity.
If she is a good enough friend and she means enough to you to keep her in your life you will rarely be disappointed and in time the two of you will look back at some of the quirky/annoying things that you did during this time in your life and have a great laugh.
Best of luck. I hope that you choose friendship over annoying habits... :)
ok well today i found out that my best friend has a third degree heartblock and soon will most likely need a pacer...all her life tho her doctor has been telling her she had a "heart murmur" but wut it realli was, was the echo from her heart not workin right..n me, her, her sister n her parents r havin a realli hard time trying not to cry n stuff bcuz eventually it can kill her...im realli upset cuz shes like a sister to me weve been neighbors/bestest friends ever since i can remember n have done everything..well my questions r
Can this kill her netime soon?
How can me n her sister help her get thru it?
And can her mom sue her doctor for telling her tha wrong information all these years??
Thanx ill rate u a 5~!
First off; and I am sure that her parents are already doing this. She needs a good cardiologist. If she is under the age of 18 there are many different programs for children with special medical needs. There is the United Way, Children Services, etc. Her parents can look into that. Also, hospitals cannot refuse emergency medical services because the family cannot afford to pay. This is America and we have laws that protect ill people and especially children. So, don't worry about that they cannot let her die because she cannot afford needed medical attention.
Anyway, the first step is to find a cardiologist. Then when she gets a disgnosis get a second opinion. She needs to talk about now, talk about later down the road. There are many things that can be done. One of which just may be a pace maker. Others can be minor to major depending on what the doctors say she needs. My father had to have a heart transplant so these things can be handled. But, it is a lot for a young girl to go through.
Here is what she needs from you. 1~For you "not" to treat her any different than you did before. If you joked, argued and such then by all means that needs to stay the same. It is very important that you don't treat her like she is fragile or an invalid. So many things are going on in her body and with her emotions right now she feels like everything is turned upside down and nothing will ever be the same. You have to be that thing in her life that doesn't change. Just be who you were with her before you found out. 2~She doesn't need to talk about it all the time. Be there when she needs to but let her brng it up. There are going to be times that she doesn't want to think about it and she would just rather talk about music or Homecoming than her illness. She needs to be a normal teenager despite her illness. She will have limitations but those can be worked around and for her to be made to feel that nothing is changed and she is the same person that she always was. 3~She doesn't need your pity. She needs you to be her friend. Where I know this is extremely upsetting for you, she is not the person you need to cry on her shoulder. You have a mother to do that with. You can tell her that it hurts that she is sick and you feel helpless but she doesn't need you to be blubbering all the time. A large percent of success in any illness depends on the attitude of the patient and the support system they have behind her. She will spend enough time feeling sorry for herself she doesn't need you to help. She needs you to help her out of her depression not add to it.
These are the things that she will need from you. There will be things that she can't do and that you can. There will be some resentment and jealousy. A friend of mine had open heart surgery in our Junior year right before prom. She was horribly upset that she couldn't go but she had only been home from the hospital for a week when it happened. She was irritable and hateful at times. I made a huge mistake of doing as she asked and brought my dress over for her to see. I didn't think that it would hurt her but it did. A teacher and a wonderful person explained to me and our friends why she was so upset. She wasn't upset or angry with us but at her situation and she was jealous that she couldn't go when we had all made plans for it.
We got together and decided that we weren't going to go. Our dates were very angry with us so we formed a compromise. We bypassed dinner at the restaurant and we decided to go for the last hour and a half of the dance since she needed a lot of rest after her surgery. We started earlier than we had planned and we talked with her mother. We all, including the date she was to go with, showed up at her house an hour before we had originally planned on going to the restaurant and we took foods that was on her diet. With her mother's help we had a very nice dinner with her in a new and very pretty dressing gown right there in her livingroom. We had the Sophomore Rally come over and serve us just like we were at a restaurant. Then we played music and she even got a slow dance with her boyfriend. When it came time to leave she was tired and extremely emotional that we had surprised her with all of this. Her date stayed with her and the rest of us went to the dance. When the pictures all came back those that we had taken at her house were the ones that meant the most to all of us.
Since then she has had several more surgeries and she is much better now. She still has her limitations but has a wonderful career as a clothing designer. She is a wonderful person and that was the best time I ever had at a school dance.
You see, when we can't change the situations that come up in our lives, we simply change life to suit us. We have all the power as long as we never give in to the things we can't control and control what we can. In the end we can work it out with patience and love. And in those times when we feel that we are doing something for someone else we find that we get even more out of it than they do.
Just be the friend that you have alwasy been to her and don't let that change. When she can't go to the mountain take the mountain to her. That in the end is what love and friendship is all about. Not pity, life is to hard as it is to waste our time handing out pity. Make things better not worse.
As for suing the doctor her parents would need to see a personal injury attorney that specializes in malpractice. Your local Chamber of Commerce should be able to give you a list of attorneys in your area. Usually the first visit is free and then they will work on a contingency basis if they believe that you have a case.
Best of luck to you all... I would like to hear how things turn out...:)
I need some help in planning a 21st Birthday Party!!! It doesn't even have to be a party,just something to do with a best friend,or a small group of friends.Please don't say "Go get drunk!!" cuz that's not my style,I mean I may have a drink or two but not get wasted!!Thanks in advance! And I will rate all answers!!
Hot Air Balloon Ride for a small group. 21st birthday and staying sober is a reason to celebrate. Be high on life and take the ride. Definitely worth the money! Really puts you in touch with what is real...
when do girls normmaly start puburty? wat grade
Are you asking when they start developing or when they start their period?
Both vary on the girl. Some girls start both as young as age 9, others may not start either until 15 or 16. Best thing is to look at older siblings and ask you mother and grandmothers when they started. There is your best indicator but nothing is in stone. It just depends on the girl. One way or the other it will happen soon enough and they don't call it the curse for nothing. Just be patient.
My best friend was flirting with the guy i really like. What should I do?
Let her flirt. You will be able to tell a lot by this. One, she is not your friend. Two, whether or not he likes you back. Three, if they wind up together you didn't need either of them.
Meanwhile, start looking for a new best friend. When she asks you why you aren't hanging out with her much anymore tell her exactly why. Reality checks are good every now and again.
Is it rude to tell someone what they are doing is extremely rude/disgusting? For example, a friend of mine chews with her mouth open, should I tell her it drives me crazy or just let her continue?
Next time yu catch her doing it say, "Just so you know that guy was totally checking you out until you started chewing with your mouth open."
That should take care of that.
I work in a cinema and part of my job is to make sure that people don't talk or mess around because it disturbs the other customers.
It would help me a lot if you guys would say how you think I should react in the following circumstances.
1) Group of people talking,throwing popcorn.
2) Two people making out.
3)People walking up and down the aisles a lot.
4) Little kids sitting in the aisle because they're too short too see over peoples heads(against fire regulations)
5)People with their phones on(messes up the sound)
6)Teenage boys wanking in the back row(has happened to me before)
7)People waiting outside banging on the doors to come in whilst a films on.
8)People making obscene gestures/giving me verbal abuse.
9)Having a queue, knowing we are going to run out of seats.
10) Babies crying.
Could continue but I think I've given you the general idea-my job is hard work!
1. Stop now or you will be asked to leave.
2. If it is an all adult foreign romance film leave them alone. If it is Harry Potter tell them to get a room.
3. Pick a seat and stay in it or I will pick one for you outside the theatre.
4. Find the parents and explain that it is a fire hazard and suggest that they take a seat int he front row.
5. Tell them to take the call outside and turn the phone on silent mode.
6. Get up, get out or I will be calling the police and turning you in for indecent exposure and your parents can pick you up and deal with you.
7. Security! Have them thrown out.
8. Security! Have them thrown out.
9. Talk to the manager and give them a reduced ticket if they are unable to be seated and a gift certificate for pop corn and a soda for their inconvienence.
10. Politely ask them to leave and tell them to take their stub to the counter for a gift certificate for the next time they come when they can get a sitter or the baby is feeling better.
One of my best friends is a hacker-gamer who, I suppose, can get anything he wants. He's a loner and a cranky brilliant sort of guy. Thing is, I dont know what to give him for Yuletide giving--it's illegal for me to buy a gun, even though that would please him, and I can't afford a motorcycle. I want to give him something good. Anyone have any suggestions?
Therapy. If he is a loner and brilliant then get him out and take him somewhere. Rarely do people choose to be alone. They usually have self-esteem problems that drive them away from people. Get him out and help him get a life and start living.
I want to start telling people that I'm Bi but everytime I've told someone I can't seem to think of a better way to say it than just to say, really bluntly-'I'm Bi'.
Can anyone thing of a more subtle way of telling people?
Why do you want to announce it? I have never felt compelled to walk up to anyone and say that I am straight. You are what you are, you don't need to take out a banner. Just live...
question. crazy or cute?
kinda pretty girl sees and talks to cute guy at work. (he is a client of hte office, she is the secretary)she does nto htink he will be in again for a long time. so she gets his number from his file and calls him...
is she crazy or cute?
Too forward. If he is interested he will call you. He knows where you work.
Hey
I was wondering - do you think eyeliner looks better if you put it directly under your eye or where your eyelash like is?
It depends on the size of your eyes. If you have small eyes you will want to apply it on the eyelash line and that will give the effect that your eyes are bigger and make them stand out more. If you have large eyes you will want to place it on the inside line of your eye lashes because that will make them look smaller.
I jus got signed with an agent for my voice!! and in 3 weeks im supposed to go to L.A. to record my first cd!! im so excited...but im really nervous and sad ill have to leave my friends in my freshman year. i know i should take the job considering ill be BiG and i really wanna see my name in lights but im so scared ill lose my friends while im gone and all the new friends ill make (celebs maybe :)) will not turn out to be real and ill be all alone! what to do!? HELP!
Just stay real and keep in touch with people that mean something to you. Just be a real person and don't let things go to your head. Sow your friends that fame has not changed who you really are. You simply have a talent just like everyone else. Some people just need to find theirs. Just stay real, don't let it go to your head and don't dump on people on your way up... :)