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friend + peer pressure = not good
My best friend & I have known eachother forever and tell eachother everything. She has always been against smoking - she thinks it's stupid and it smells horrible. The thing is, all her other friends smoke, but me. Recently, she has started to herself! She has actually given into the peer pressure and she never has before. I used to be so proud of her for standing up for what she believed and not smoking. Now, she's changing and smoking all the time just like her friends. How do I talk to her about this? I'm so disappointed in her but I'd do anything to get my old, brave best friend back.
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aww! im sorry, my friend has done the same thing.......
you should seriously consider talking to your friend! no matter what, friends stick up for friends!!
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tell her just how proud you used to be about her standing up to peer pressure, get tough, tell her you thought she was more than that and you really looked up to her. Then tell her all the harm smoking does and the longer you do it, the harder it is to stop. Offer her some help if she wants to stop, tell her you'll help her stop if she's willing. Unfortunately, alot of this is going to be her decision making and if she chooses smoking theres not too much you can do about it besides look down on the fact that she does. Life's not easy.... especially in these areas, but im sure you'll get through the tough times.
GL!
xoxo
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Hi my friend smokes but its some times hard to get though to her try tell her its bad for her and her health, ask her why she gave in and try talk it though roxie xxxx
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tell her how you feel, she needs to know that this is bad for her. If you really want to put a stop to this talk to a guidacne counsler or a parent or smeone. She could get some guidance somehwere which would lead her to stop. Tell her how u feel and that u usta be so proud of her that she didn't give in the to the pressure, and that u loved her hte way she was and now u feel like u don't know her anymore. Mayeb you can tell her that u don't wanna b friends wit her if she smokes..(if ur willing to do this..)
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She knows what she's doing is wrong, if she wants to stop, it isn't as hard as most people make it out. I used to be against drugs and all that, and I know it can kill you. My teacher found out about me and alcohol, and was telling me about how her friend died from it. She knows the risks she's taking. Just even if you can't drive, take the 'metaphor' out of this. Always be there, and be her designated driver, or be there for her when she needs to get to the hospital, just let her know that you're still there for her. I again will say, she knows what she's doing, and as long as she's careful it's going to be fine. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but it's true.
If you have trouble doing this, then tell her how you feel, and that you can't be friends with somebody destroying their lives, but most likely, saying that would make it where you 2 would no longer be friends. Tell her what you told us... I used to be so proud of her for standing up for what she believed and not smoking. Now, she's changing and smoking all the time just like her friends. How do I talk to her about this? I'm so disappointed in her but I'd do anything to get my old, brave best friend back.
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well remind her of the times she went on about not smoking and so on.Tell her how u feel in most cases that works.OR u can tell her all the bad things about smokeing and the disgusting things and hopfuly she will change u mind.I'm not trying to be mean but she seems to be a hypocrite(sorry if i spelled that wrong) but she is how can you talk bad about it then do it.Well i suggest you to talk to her.GOOD LUCK!
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She knows what she is doing is wrong and she is more than likely disappointed that she caved into peer pressure herseld. The best thing that you can do is simply not cave yourself and continue to take that stand in front of her. As she sees what she used to be in you she will eventually decide that she doesn't like who she is becoming and go back to being who she was. The worst thing that you can do is lecture her it will just drive her away from you. Simply make statements like, I am going over there until you finish that it is burning my eyes and I don't want to smell like smoke. Do it in a nice way that she sees that you aren't going to conform to the pressure. Just keep being who you have always been and don't be so dissappointed in your friend. At one time or another we all give into peer pressure in one way or another. Just remember that she is human and that you would want her to stand by you if you made a mistake and caved to peer pressure. Good luck!
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It`s most likley just a phase. If she doesnt get over it in a mater of time you need to sit her down and tell her that what she`s doing is wrong. Your smart, dont give into peer pressure its terrible!!
xO.Carrie
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