I'm a cool chico, and I try to help others to love themselves. It's a rough world out there, but grawr, I can handle it.
Since this comes up so often, let's make this very clear: You can not pick and choose where you want to lose fat. Exercising your abs will make your abs strong - but losing tummy fat is dependent on your body fat percentage and genetics.
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I have been seeing this guy on and off for almost two years now. And I love him more then life itself, but when we are dating, I feel like I am supposed to be with him forever, kind of like being betrothed, where as I know I can never be with anyone else(torture). I want to be with him and only him, but I'm just not sure about my decisiion. I'm too young to be with him like this, I want to be able to explore and see the world before I settle down. I want to be free, I want to be able to live my life to the fullest before I become a 'house-wife.' And I feel like, if I screw up this chance now will he be around later?! I just don't know what to do. (link)
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Look at that second to last line. That's the truth. You see this as a Once In A Lifetime Opportunity. This happens to everyone. We're with someone, and we can't fathom life being any other way.
The truth is that most people aren't with the same people they were when they were young. People grow, people change.
Think about this: If he's really that good for you, if he really loves you, if you're really "meant" to be together, there's no way to screw it up by accident. If you live your life for two seconds and he runs off, he isn't good enough for you. Love isn't tying someone down out of fear they'll run away. What's that phrase, set a dove free and if it comes back it was yours already?
If you want to be with him, be with him. And if you want to "live", do so. There's no reason the two events can't coincide. And if you eventually realize you don't want to be with him, cherish the time you spent with him and move on. Nobody just rides off into the sunset without deluding them first, every step of our life is a moment lived.
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13/f
ok well, a few of my friends and ALOT of people in my school and some even carry around condoms in their purses and stuff. some of my friends havnt done it yet but claim to love their boyfriends so their thinking about doing it. they're afraid they'll get pregnat and stuff like that or they're boyfriends will leave them or something. they say that sex is the most wonderful gift you can give to someone. then why does EVERYONE these days have sex ALL THE TIME?!?!? and another thing why is it the best thing you can give someone? i mean really? i personally dont think its a big deal to be a virgin before your married i mean, whats the diffrence? ok ONE last question for you. i love my boyfriend too and i would consider having sex with him(depending on the answers above) but how would i bring the subject up with him? please answer and sorry for all the questions. (link)
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It's a facade. Nobody wants to be that one person who isn't at least potentially sexually active.
Sex is intimacy. Humans need intimacy to survive. That's why it's a big deal. Unfortunately while sex is the easiest way to gain intimacy, it is not the deepest venue.
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I just updated the windows media player and I'm trying to listen to my music that I downloaded. When time I open windows media to play the songs it plays it and then freeze, but the music is still playing. After the song is done playing it stops. On the top it says that Windows Media (Not Responding) what is happening? How can I stop it from freezing? Please help and thanks! (link)
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If I may, ditch windows media player. It tries to do everything, and as such, it's a bit bloated. I still use a very old version of WinAmp. Good ol` WinAmp v2.8. Small file, no load time, doesn't crash. That's what I want in a program.
...As for WMP, try uninstalling it, then reinstalling an earlier version.
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Okay I don't know if this is sex or something but like i've been getting this white snotty stuff in my underwear. I don't know what it is or what it's from. I'm 13/f to if that will help. (link)
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White discharge - is normal. May your menarche be pleasant.
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Hey,
My main problem is basicaly im just Apsolutly petrified of sex! and anything to do with it really. I'm almost 18 and male, nearly 19 days of now, im in a relasionship of 5 months at the minute and ive lost my virginity, not in this relasionship though.
Through out all relasionships ive always been petrified of doing something wrong, accidently getting cum on my fingers or something, in my first hardcore relasionship i lost 1 and a half stone becasue she told me she was late, ive never had sucha rough week in my life!
People have said its really not possible to get some one pregnant during oral sex or what i just said? but still! Is this true? is my mind just esculating everything i think about that has something to do with babys lol!
I'm a really fun loving guy but it tends to get in the way sometimes and i worrie my self to peices when there probably is no need at all?
My first time, only time, was good , i enjoyed it and dint worrie at all, unfortunitly due to my idiocy i left the packet on the floor and her parents found it, (parents good catholics) and that was the end of that really.
Now i'm gettin up to this stage with my girl friend, im already always paraniod when it comes to simple oral sex, washing hands n all, but i mean? ive had sex before, and i enjoyed it thuraly lol, but if im scared, does this mean im not ready? does this mean i should just hold back?
My gf doesn't believe in abortion either which doesn't help as if something did excidently happen, if im honest i dont think id want to keep it, im for and against abortion but just at this age, i wouldnt be able to handle it!
I think she'd go on the pill, and id still use a condom but id still be stupidly paraniod if she took the pill everyday, and then i'd probably get even more wound up as i new she wouldnt come on her period every month as a relief sort of thing?
I no all this sounds a little blown out of preportion but unfortunitly thats how my mind works, i hate it totaly, i get one small thought, and it develops and grows and can totaly dig me in a hole.
Any help would be so so soooo Appreciated as i just need some reasurance or guidence or even just opinion?
Many thanks,
Tim (link)
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Have you considered not having sex? It's not worth the stress if you're that paranoid. There's a failure rate for contraceptives for a reason. The pill can fail because girls are inept at taking it at the same time. The condom can fail due to improper equipping.
Consider becoming more adept with oral sex and otherwise calm yourself down before you bother with intercourse.
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Hey, we had our algebra mid-term today & there was this question with an input/output table and it said to describe the domain and range! i do'nt ever remember learning this, does any body know? i get to finish my test tomorrow.
thanks for any help you give
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Domain refers to valid input of an equation. This seems silly when you're first learning it, as most simple algebraic equations accept all real numbers. But consider 1/(2 - x). Remember that you can not divide by zero. Therefore, the domain is all real numbers except for two.
Just an example of why the term is used.
Range refers to, well, the range of the output of numbers. For example, the y = x^2 will always be positive. Thus, the range is all real numbers greaters than zero.
That's just the basic concepts. Looking at a table of values involves teasing out acceptable values of x (domain) and acceptable values of y (range). At least, for two variables. *snickers*
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Okay I need help on this math problem!!
Find the height of a triangle with a base of 4 inches and an area of 6 inches2 (the 2 is sopposed to be small and at the top of the S if ya kno what i mean)
thanx a lot!!!!!!!!! (link)
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You're given the side of a triangle, and asked to find the complementary side. You're given the area of the triangle. Except, the area of the triangle isn't all that meaningful. But consider a square. Just complete the triangle. The area would be 12. One side of the square is 4. What's the length of the other side? 3.
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before you get all eww...this is kinda gross...
i lay on the deodorant twice a day: in the morning, and during pe (5th hour). but i still hyave b.o! its not awful, but its kinda gross. what should i do?
btw im a 13 yr old girl (link)
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You're confusing deodorant for anti-perspirant. One covers it up. The other tries to stop it.
Everybody smells. I have a theory that our trying to remove our scents causes our body to kick into overdrive trying to reestablish our scent. I don't use anything, and I smell fine, assuming i shower every other day.
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I have known this girl since kindergarden right. Now we are in 8th grade and for some reason, this year i really seem to like her. I mean she is nice, funny, smart, and very beautiful. How can i not like her. But the problem is, i have trouble finding the courage to ask her out. I am good with girls in the sense of friendship, but when it comes to love life, im a mess. I am 14 and she is 13. i am 11 months older than her but i really dont see that as an issue. But i always get nervous when i tcomes to askig a girl out nd i did it once, she said ye, than rejeted me the next day. (that was a different girl). Is it normal to be that nervous? Oh and one more thing, what do you ask when you want to ask her out. I really am not good with "pick-up" line. Thanks (link)
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It doesn't need to be a big dramatic thing if you don't want it to be. If you feel comfortable with her, and know how she feels, it will feel like nothing. How to get more comfortable?
Spend more time with her. Talk to her. We all get nervous, but you're better off really knowing her.
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would you consider someone who
*tap, jazz, and hip-hop dances
*used to listen to britney spears, went to 2 of her concerts, owns her autorgrpah and danced to her songs on his porch
*loves pretty woman & thats so raven
*and gets excited when going to the mall or shopping
gay? do all of those things add up to gay also he gets overly excited about gossip. . . do you think hes gay? he denies it but it seems like he is, i want to believe him since hes my friend but theres so many signs!! aghh (link)
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Sexual orientation is not based on secondary characteristics. If he likes guys, he's gay. If he doesn't, he isn't. Simple as that.
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Okay welll... 13/f and i am getting a white discharge in my underwear and it does not smell good at all. I have started my period so its nothing like that i mean it might involve it but its not warning me or anything. Never have been sexually active either so i dont know how to clean better down there and have tht stuff stop coming out. also. how are you and what are u supposed to be cleaning with down in tht region?Does it help to shave?
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As far as shaving goes, think of it this way: Pubic hair helps keep all your discharge from going all over the place. Moreover, it's there to collect things from getting IN your Vagina.
But otherwise, take the advice of the lass who suggested Bacterial Vaginosis. As always, no soap IN the vagina. Wash your vulva, so be it, but no douche-ing, or the like.
When in doubt, down yogurt. It has the same kind of "good bacteria" that's in your Vagina, and can help sort of "drown out" bad bacteria.
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How old Should a child be when they start dating? (link)
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When they're emotionally mature enough.
Some people never reach this qualification.
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Ok here is a question that ponders my mind my mind, any ideas about the answer?? Where do the dinosaurs come in the bible?? and also if God existed forever then what was he doing before he created earth?? (link)
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Dinosaurs and god are NOT mutually exclusive. If there's god, it's possible dinosaurs existed.
The concept of deity immortality is not something I buy into, as that's precisely the question to ask. Who created god? Some will say "God always existed", but that doesn't make sense to me, and turns god into just another constant in the universe. There seems to be an assumption that there has to be a First Cause. I don't buy into that anymore.
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I'm 13/f and the boy i'm writing about is in my Lit class.
He sits behind me and constantly pokes me and squeezes my shoulder! It's really annoying and I've told him to quit it...but he persists and says "Come on you have sexy shoulders!!" The thing is...i used to like him, but i don't anymore. Does he like me or is he just being annoying. I've seen he does this to other girls...but he never squeezes their shoulders!!
1.Does he like me?
2.HOw can I get him to stop harassing me?! (link)
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1. Yes.
2. Confrontation will deflate him. If you don't say something, he won't know. Just be honest. "You act like you like me, but it's making me uncomfortable."
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Have you noticed that everything now is sparkly belts, big sunglasses, ripped jeans, granny sweaters, oh and sparkly purses? and those BOOTS? im so sick of it all that is ALL i see in stores oh and those short lil jackets!! UGH!! Does anybody think they know what will be next, i started liking this stuff too late and im getting sick of it cuz i see it on everyone else!! I need some HOT new trends to be the FIRST with it out, i dont wanan follow i wanna LEAD!! (link)
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If you want to really be a trendsetter, ignore what other people are doing. This means simultaneously not doing what other people are doing because they're doing it, AND not being afraid to do what others are doing. Wear what YOU think looks good on you. Wear it with confidence, and others will admire your style.
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Okay, y'all...I am a fellow advicenator. I am just wondering why advicenators who have NEVER had sex or don't know what the hell the are talking about are answering sex questions. These people actually might just TAKE your advice...at least learn about what you're answering before you hit submit. Oh yeah, and for all of you who think wearing TWO condoms is cool...you are so wrong. (link)
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This is precisely the reason I'm around.
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Hello, I'm a 17 year old female. Who is interested in taking boxing class.
I've heard somewhere that if you take boxing classes and get into a street fight, you'll be arrested and charged with weapon possession because they would consider your fists as a weapon. Is this true? Or am I the only one that has heard about this?
Another thing is, I get into a lot of physical fights, so if what I said above is true exactly what do you think would happen to me?
Thank you. (link)
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Jersey's a rough place. Go kick some ass. I've never heard of a body part being considered a concealed weapon. If there were so... Well, I won't say it. *laughs*
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14/f.. alright can I please have some help. i'm really not sure what to get my boyfriend for valentines day (he's 15) so if you can give me some help it'd really be appreciated.thanks. I'll rate you♥ (link)
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How about a framed picture of you, and a stuffed animal scented with whatever you wear? (And if you don't wear anything, sleep with it for a month until Valentine's Day to get your REAL scent on it.)
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Today at school something really sad-mean happened to a friend of mine and we were all talking and thinking about stuff and we were wondering....
Why are guys such jerks towards fat girls?
and why don't they liek to date chubby girls? how come they only like to date girls who are sticks with a drawn on face?
k thanx i rate 5's. (link)
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It's a group mentality thing brought out by individuals being dumb. Consider it a way of them removing themselves from the Potentially Dateable field.
Heh. Most girls I've dated have been fat chicks. Maybe it's my spectrum of friends, but we never make fun of fat girls. No, we make fun of dumb people, who can be all shapes and sizes.
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I'm sort of underweight..I weigh 95-100 pounds and I'm 5'2. But I'm happy with my weight, i dont want to gain any pounds. The only place I wanna gain weight is in my boobs, because they are really small. But everytime I try to eat a lot to gain weight, it all goes to my stomach and not at all to my boobs. It looks like my stomach sticks out more than my boobs do. How can I prevent this from happening, but still gain weight in my boobs? Thanks. (link)
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Your bodies are designed to distribute fat in a certain way. Obviously when you reach that threshhold, your body decides, "Ooop! Time to allocate extra resources to the belly!" If there was a way to make your boobs grow, girls wouldn't be getting implants. Love your body as it is, the belly curve isn't as detrimental as you think - I find it endearing to snuggle up against.
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