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what if im not ready?
I have been seeing this guy on and off for almost two years now. And I love him more then life itself, but when we are dating, I feel like I am supposed to be with him forever, kind of like being betrothed, where as I know I can never be with anyone else(torture). I want to be with him and only him, but I'm just not sure about my decisiion. I'm too young to be with him like this, I want to be able to explore and see the world before I settle down. I want to be free, I want to be able to live my life to the fullest before I become a 'house-wife.' And I feel like, if I screw up this chance now will he be around later?! I just don't know what to do.
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Look at that second to last line. That's the truth. You see this as a Once In A Lifetime Opportunity. This happens to everyone. We're with someone, and we can't fathom life being any other way.
The truth is that most people aren't with the same people they were when they were young. People grow, people change.
Think about this: If he's really that good for you, if he really loves you, if you're really "meant" to be together, there's no way to screw it up by accident. If you live your life for two seconds and he runs off, he isn't good enough for you. Love isn't tying someone down out of fear they'll run away. What's that phrase, set a dove free and if it comes back it was yours already?
If you want to be with him, be with him. And if you want to "live", do so. There's no reason the two events can't coincide. And if you eventually realize you don't want to be with him, cherish the time you spent with him and move on. Nobody just rides off into the sunset without deluding them first, every step of our life is a moment lived.
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I know what you mean. It's a perfectly reasonable way to feel. Take it one day at a time- if you're still enjoying the relationship, stick with it. If you find one day that you're not, end it. In the meantime don't make him any promises of forever- stick to telling him you love him right now and hope you'll be together still in x years time but you've both still got a lot of growing up to do.
If you do break up he may not be around when you are ready to settle down, but he's not the only great guy out there- you will meet many more on your travels.
I'm a pretty firm believer that one ay or another things work out as they're meant to be. Either way, you'll be fine.
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I understand we’re your coming from… because I’ve been in a situation like that.
But you have to understand… does This guy feel the same way you feel… does he love you more then life itself? Would he doing anything for you? (If I can that is)
If the answers to these questions are yes, then you found Mr. Right! Or prince charming!
& at this point there is no need for u to explore over seas! If this guy is everything you’ve ever wanted… Then stick with him! There might not be someone better waiting for u!
And make your judgment intelligently!
I hope it helps!
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