|
13/14?
13/f
ok well, a few of my friends and ALOT of people in my school and some even carry around condoms in their purses and stuff. some of my friends havnt done it yet but claim to love their boyfriends so their thinking about doing it. they're afraid they'll get pregnat and stuff like that or they're boyfriends will leave them or something. they say that sex is the most wonderful gift you can give to someone. then why does EVERYONE these days have sex ALL THE TIME?!?!? and another thing why is it the best thing you can give someone? i mean really? i personally dont think its a big deal to be a virgin before your married i mean, whats the diffrence? ok ONE last question for you. i love my boyfriend too and i would consider having sex with him(depending on the answers above) but how would i bring the subject up with him? please answer and sorry for all the questions.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
about your first question, most people don't have sex around 13, (less than 25% of 13 year olds are not virgins) but it is always safe to be carrying a condom around, just in case. about your second question, i would try to bring it up to him casually, but not randomly, for example if you were having a convo about sexual related things then it would be ok, but not during a convo about sumthing random like the weather.
]
It seems that your just considering sex cause your friends are starting to consider it. i know the world we live in today people are having sex alot younger, but when it comes down to it you should never have sex untill you feel ready, and you actually want to, you'll know when the right time comes. being a vigin should make you feel pure,innocent and blissful, not like a loser. think about it you dont want to have sex and later refgret it,just think about it hard core before you do anything ask your self do you wanna have sex cause you really want to or cause of your boyfriends/friends?
syireen
]
Personally I think the girls who carry condoms with them are doing the right thing, because you never KNOW what's going to happen and it's best to be prepared. I don't think anybody is having sex more than usual, but when the 1970s happened people had a big sexual revolution. They were having sex with everyone, even total strangers. Maybe I'm exagerating. I wasn't alive then. This is just what my parents and favorite teacher told me. But anyway, since then, people have been way more open about sex. Before that, it was really bad to have sex before marriage. I'm not talking about the few religious people who preach abstinence now, I'm just saying that every parent said this to their kids. But teenagers will always be teenagers, and teenagers do two things: lust after each other, and rebel against their parents. Put these together and you get lots of teen sex. I think the idea that sex is the most wonderful is because you are not just giving them a pretty little gift--you are giving them YOURSELF. Obviously this is not a thing to be given away casually, and I'm sure that most people realize it. However, many times they think that they are giving themselves to someone that they love who loves them back and they turn out wrong. That said...at thirteen, most people are not emotionally ready for sex, though you may be physically ready. I'm sure everyone your age is thinking about having sex, and that's perfectly normal. If they are actually having it, well, that's really too bad. I think they are way too young. But that doesn't mean you have to do it as well.
]
Your friends are lying.
]
I don't think you should be worried about what everyone else is doing, just try to think realistically about this. FACT: you are only 13, and are in no way emotionally ready for such an intimate encounter.
We tend to forget that sex is a profound emotional experience; we're baring ourselves to another person in every way with full trust that the other person won't double over in hysterical laughter pointing at us, or give way to uncontrollable nausea, or just make a face and say "Never mind, your'e not what I had in mind anyway." Casual sex is never as truly casual as some people would have us think; it triggers emotional as well as physical responses, and it has a fallout.
That's why, because so much is at stake when it comes to sex, it's always a good idea not to have sex or to make love, which is what sex really should be, until you feel ready. I don't mean excited or in the grip of hormonal surges (guys get them too)-- I mean ready as a human being with a heart and a brain and a soul as well as a body.
I'll tell you something else about people's talk about their lives and pasts. Much of it is BS. Lot's of people, girls and boys alike, present themselves as more experienced about sex then they really are. They do this because they are feeling insecure, and try to dispel that insecurity by puffing up their pasts.
One other that I know about sex- honesty is always important. As I said above, you are baring yourself to another person in all sorts of ways, not just the clothing optional way. If the guy is experienced and you're not but you say that you are, he will figure out tht youre not pretty quickly. And then the lie will be between you, and you don't want that there.
I hope this helps answer, your question, and take care.
]
Your friends just carry around condoms to be cool. seriously love you guys are only 13 in the 7th or 8th grade. People that young thikn they are ready for sex but you guys are not ready. If younger people had sex with everyone they thought they loved it would be insane.
In other words you don't need to be hacing sex that young. Do you really think that boyfriend of yours will stick around that long for you. As in the rest of your life.
Sex is no the best thing you could give your boyfriend atleast not at that age. Having sex for the first time should be with the guy you want to spend forever with.
Just wait.
bye
]
It's a facade. Nobody wants to be that one person who isn't at least potentially sexually active.
Sex is intimacy. Humans need intimacy to survive. That's why it's a big deal. Unfortunately while sex is the easiest way to gain intimacy, it is not the deepest venue.
]
First of all your way to young to have sex. Im sorry but your in 8th grade? Maybe 9th? Sex is supposed to happen between two people who love eachother and to have children. For a lot of teenagers though its almost like a game. Most dont think of what could happen if the condom breaks or if the person they are having it with has Aids and lies and says they do then you have it for the rest of your life. These are things teenagers need to think about. I guess people think its such a big deal that your a virgin till your marreid because your 'supposed' to have sex now at like 15 and 16. I think that is stupid and I respect people who are saving for marriage. I dont know if I answered all your questions but I hope I helped.
]
okay whoever told you that is the wonderful gift you can give to the one you love is definetly wrong...especially for being that age. dont do it..you never know your friends could be carrying around s in their purses maybe just to try and get you to do it. i dont know though because i dont know your friends so i cant really judge but its possible.i suggest you dont do it. good luck ♥
]
don't have sex. you're only 13. you might love your bf & all but the best thing to give someone isn't sex!! its love. thats ridiculous. sex is juss a pleasure & it's meant for people who are married er wanna have kids. not for teens in relationships. if you ask me, all the girls carrying around condoms are probably juss doing it for talk. i think if it came down to really having sex er not, they might not even do it. condoms aren't 100% effective & you probably already know that. you can get pregnant & that would be really bad for a hs student. you can't take care of a child. no matter how responsible you are. there's so many stds going around that it's ridiculous too. you should wait. what if you & your bf decide to juss be friends. you had sex with him & now you're juss friends?? do you think that's even worth it?? it's like a minute of pleasure & years of regret if something happens such as you get pregnant er get an STD. i don't mean to scare you but your virginity is something you don't get back. also it's a sin. idk if you have a religion er not. i think sex is a poor excuse of love when you're in hs. it's almost like you have sex with your bf/gf to show love..so does that mean you can't show it any other way?? is your relationship not strong enough?? if you want anything to do with that then i guess that's up to you so you juss have to talk to your bf about it & start up the conversation about condoms.
-hope that helped!♥
]
More Questions: |