Life is good, people just need to learn how to get to that point..
Hi! I'm Tiffany and I am a 19 year old college student in Florida. I have had an older accounton advicenators before, and was actually a moderator, but I forgot the password. :(
I believe that there aren't any 'stupid questions' out there and that everyone deserves the right to know whatever it is they want to know. I'm very open minded and like most people, I have underwent my share of tribulations in life. I'm aware that things happen and consequences are unbearable and sometimes people just want to vent about it in frustration of not knowing what to do.
I can be very helpful so ask me whatever is on your mind :)
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i thick i am gey but i dont know how to tell my mom i am onlly 14
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I think you should pursue grammar & spelling before you pursue your sexuality torwards people. :)
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ok so i started workin out and lifting weights and running at shit like that but i was wonderin if it would make me loose my boobs or my ass beacuse last year in track when i did that shit it seamed like my boobs shrank!! and my friend said that it did....does it??? (link)
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Your breast are made out of some skin fat. So is your ass. So when you run, you burn calories which eventually leads to losing fat. Yes, you will lose some mass but be happy about it :) As long as you don't start looking manly, you're good!
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I am in seventh grade I am going out with this girl that really likes me and I like her but alot of stuff has been going on and her friends make fun of me behind my back Say stuff to her about me and I have heard other stuff but. How do I break up with her!? Through a note or something? HELP! (link)
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Don't break up with her just because you hear some rumors about things. They might not even be true, and it would be purposeless. Although 7th grade relationships aren't typically as serious as they seem, feelings are still involved. I think you should talk to her.
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ok so im getting an mp3 player today but i need to know i keep seeing something about having certain hours to listen to it so do you only have a certain amout of time you can listen to it?
ILL RATE ALL 5'S JUST GIMME THE ANSWER AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!!!! (link)
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I have never in my life heard of only having a certain time to listen to your mp3 player. Unless you are getting one heck of a ghetto thing. Don't worry about it until you get it, and if you get it and it says that somewhere- return it ASAP and go ipod.
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im a 15 year old male.
need quick tips on body building, details.
any advice? (link)
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Google is the world
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16/m
i was very curious for the past month. my teacher brought this up that had me going crazy about it. i am so curious.
but do you think there is science behind depression? besides the normal problems people
have,
my teacher said that about 75% of humans never get over depression. She said that scientists wondered that if there is something imprinted in the brain that makes humans depressed and can never become perfectly happy.
any comments? any answers? (link)
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Some psychologist believe that depression is hereditary. Whether that is true or not, I don't know. I think that people don't FULLY get over a depression phase. Say, your mother died (God forbid.) For a while, you would be severely depressed. After a period of time, you learn to SUPRESS the depressed feelings about the death, but they never really go extinct. Fully getting over something, and pushing it back into your subconsious mind are different things.
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Okay I'm an 18 male, My boyfriend had recently told me that i make him feel like a nobody, cause Everyone whos anyone fonds over me like i'm celeb! and cause i have friends who are celebs! and talk to them on a daily basis. how do i make him see im just a normal person and i don't like ppl being at my feet 24/7!! I told him that, but he doesn't understand when im with ten million ppl, thats when i get lonely! What should i do? (link)
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Well, it's a jealousy thing. When these "ten million ppl" are at your feet, tell them that you want to spend some time with your boyfriend so it would be really nice if they leave you alone, just for a little bit. I think that would make any guy or girl feel special. :)
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should i spell mii name:
Becca
Bekka
Becka
Beka
Beca
Bekca
Beki
Bekki
Or anything else?
my names is really rebecca but i've went by that for so long, im bored of it..
and suggestions??
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I like Bekki..
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Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good? (link)
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Tampons are wayyyy more discreet and easier to handle. Tampex pearl is the BEST! Make sure you read the precautions thoroughly though because it is better to wear them when you are active. Pads are better for the house and sleep. Hope I helped :)
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i have been with this guy who is in a wheelchair for two years (almost 3). when we first got together things were wonderful. but now that we have been together we kinda dulled out and became one person. Its my senior year in high school, and all my friends say that i shouldnt be in a serious relationship now and to find myself. which i agree but i dont want to just break up with my boyfriend for that reason. cuz what if there is no one else out there like him. i dont know im so confused, i need serious help.
so stressed. none of my friends are getting along, so much drama. everyone is mad at each other. my boyfriend dont like my friends anyways.
please someone tell me what to do.
i dont know how to tell him if i am going to break up with him, he is very temermental. (link)
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I see where you're coming from. The first-dating chills and feelings can diminish with time but it's up to the both of you to keep it alive. I know it has to be difficult dealing with a boyfriend who is physically disabled, I mean-it's hard enough dealing with one that's physically fit, haha. All I cann say is, please don't listen to your friends and their opinion on high school dating and serious relationships. Because- what I have learned from people- is that they DON'T really care what you do. They offer advice, but if you were to break up with him and feel heartbroken, they will display some care but not really give a damn. I think you should stick with your boyfriend, like you have been doing. I know it means SO much to him that you are still here despite his disability. Just talk to him about how you really feel. I hope I helped :)
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Hi. My name is destiny. i am 14 and i started cutting a few months ago. i know its not right to hurt myself but i cant help it. I am homeschooled. My mom teaches me. My brother has a traumatic brain injury. i am adopted so that is how he has the brain injury. He gets on my nerves, he critisizes me and if i do something wrong, most of the time its something so simple like forgetting to do something, my mom yells and i feel stupid and worthless. My mom has avery stressful life and i try to help all i can but i feel like i always screw things up. i feel soooo stressed out and to top it off there was this boy in school was about to ask me out, i reallly like him, and now o cant even talk to him. im hurting inside and out. i feel hopeless. my mom almost caught me last night and know i need help but i am shy and have a hard time showing my emotions. i can usually talk to my mom but with this i cant. (link)
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If you don't talk to your mom, talk to someone...talk to me :) lol...I know life is hard and everyone has their problems that they are faced with. I think either counseling would help, or a really good friend. You don't HAVE to explain the whole cutting thing at first, but let problems get off your chest; Let someone else feel the emotion you are feeling. Build up your self esteem and forget about what everyone, even your brother, is saying. Live life- happily :)
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im a teenage guy.
i masterbate alot, probably once a day. sometimes twice a day.
i dont know if i should stop, but after i masturbate, i feel great and i feel like nothing can distract me. and doing it before i sleep is good for me to fall asleep faster.
i dont know if its bad for me...i feel guilty when i do it. should i stop? and how?
please dont give me a simple answer like "focus on other things"
i want details. please help! (link)
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You shouldn't be ashamed that you do it. My boyfriend admitted to me that he does it sometimes. haha, it's natural andnot as horrible as you're making it out to be. It IS a great stress reliever. It's better to get rid of stress SOME WAY, rather than to hold it in and let it build up.. (literally)...
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okay so my girlfriend is pregnant and she dont get her period does that mean the baby is like drinking the blood? (link)
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haha, you can't be serious..
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is it okay for a 19 year old to date a 24 year old? just curious to everyone's opinions :) thanks! (link)
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I'm 19, dating a 25 year old :) It's actually the best dating decision I've made. Yeah, people will make their comments but whatever, maturity plays a big role. :)
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I met this girl 5 months ago in texas, and we hit it off and I like her alot. The other day she told me some things that really made me think twice about being w/her and if I could ever trust her. She told me she's had a 1 nite stand, she's cheated once but, felt bad afterwards. she then tells me she believes in the saying "what he doesnt know wont hurt him" 2 make things even worse..she told me she was raped not once but Twice!! b/c she passed out. then she goes on and tells me shes loyal, trustworthy & only has sex if shes dating. Is it me or is this girl confused? she says 1 thing and then says the complete opp. Don't get me wrong, I give her alot of respect 4 being honest, it meant alot 2 me that she was. Not many females would have been. But how can she be trustworthy and loyal if she's cheated? I just cant trust her. and if she only has sex while shes dating then how can she have a one nite stand? Some 1 Please!!explain 2 me how in the hell she could put her self in the same situation Twice? You would think if you were raped you would have learned your lesson the first time, right? It tells me shes careless. God only knows what was done 2 her and by how many. I Cant!! look pass that! Am I wrong in doing so? I should mention..I live in Chicago. One more thing she told me.. was that she didn't mind me sleeping w/other girls, and she understood I needed 2 get mine. I've asked family what I should do and they all told me the same thing::get rid of her, she'll give me nothing but problems. Shes told me that her loyality and love are w/me in a major way, I've already told her I thought it was best if we just stayed friends b/c I could'nt trust her. Should I give her a chance? how do I get over everything she told me? Thank you to everyone who responds to my ?. I really need other peoples opinion, and B Honest. (link)
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If she cheated and her ex was an in-town boyfriend, then I don't think she deserves your trust because you won't even have that advantage of being close by. You would have to live with assuming this girl, who is hundreds of miles away- (I think, I'm not too good in geography..) will treat you with more respect than others she has been with. A positive outcome is unlikely, I'm sorry..I know you have/had hope in it but I doubt that she will change unless you and her really start a serious ritualistic, tremendous relationship that will isolate her from her past life. I do commend her on being truthful but actions and words are two very different, important things. Let her go...
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my mom is thinking about getting a divorce with my dad. but my dad doesn't want to and he is trying to make sure my mom won't. my mom has been crying and she can't eat or she might puke and she can't sleep. she jus read a book called the the divorce express . she won't even sleep in the same bed as him. she sleeps on the floor in the living room. they don't even talk to each other anymore. i dont know what to do cuz i really dont want them to separate. (link)
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It really takes a lot to finalize a divorce. Mom may just need some space right now; She might just be going through a phase and doesn't feel the support and affection she may have once had from your dad. If this is the case, then maybe your parents really need to have a long discussion on the consequences and tolls this will have on the family. If your mom is just being, for the lack of a better word, selfish- then there really isn't anything that can be done if she has really and truely made up her mind about it (which I doubt). She just may need more convincing right now. I hope I helped :
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Okay, so here's the story.
I'm 15/f and my ex boyfriend is 15 too. When we were about 7 months into the relationship, I became pregnant, I decided to keep the baby. This put a lot of stress on the relationship. We went out for just about a year. I decided it was time to breakup with him because I was feeling like that was the right thing to do at the time. I regret it extremely, but it's something I have to live with. I do still believe we have feelings for each other.
(With the pregnancy thing, please don't judge me, I used protection, and I still don't regret having sex with him.)
The problem is, I've had 4 boys in my life before, and each was different, and I learned sort of how to compare one to the other and realize if I loved or not. He's never had another girlfriend but me, so he thinks he loves me, but he really has no prior experience and it can be hard to tell with your first.
This boy, my ex boyfriend now, I believe is the absolute love of my life. I just simply can't get over him. It's been about two weeks now, and I think it's best to let him just move along and date again because then he may be able to just get a little bit more of an idea of who he likes in a girl. It's really hard. I can tell that I'm having a harder problem with it than him, because I'm constantly thinking of him ect.
He still calls every once in a while, and we get along. He will text me occasionally, and we have yet to hangout, but he told me that in the next few weeks we will.
(he will still be here for me and the baby, he has made that very clear)
So I really don't know exactly what I'm asking here, maybe for some advice, and if you agree that by him going out with other girls, he will gain more experience and knowledge about what he wants in them/life/expectations etc.. and he will really be able to tell he was in love with me or not.
Because with my first boyfriend I swore I thought I was in love, but in the end, realized I wasn't.
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Hey sweety,
First of all, I want to say CONGRATS on keeping the baby. I was 15 years old when I had my baby and everyone gave me hell..So I know how that causes stress not only in your relationship, but friendships and social networks too...Im 19 now and the baby's father and I have been broken up a while and it took me until a couple years ago to know I didn't love him like I thought I did. KNOWING when you love someone does take experience and a lot of trial and tribulations. However, even though you want to know if by him dating other women will make him realize if his love for you is stronger, I don't think it's a wise decision. I think you two should try to work it out now and try to make it a trial and success rather than a trial and error. I hope I helped :)
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Early on in our relationship, my now live-in boyfriend of 1.5 years admitted to me that he had cheated on almost every girlfriend he had ever had. But since we fell in love a few months later, he swears up and down that I am different - that he would never cheat. He says he loves me, respects me, and that we have a long future together. To my knowledge, he has never given me a reason not to believe him.
Despite all this, I find myself becoming more and more suspicious of him as time goes by. I secretly look at photos of his old girlfriends on his computer, I google them, and I am especially obsessed with one old flame in particular - a girl I know he has cheated with in past relationships. I look at her blog, dream about them together, and have even started doing things in the bedroom that I remember him saying she used to do. I know that he isn't seeing her right now, but I am obsessed with the fact that they might have cheated on me in the past, or might again in the future. Things have even gotten so bad that even I search through his email for her name.
I hate what I am doing, but I can't seem to stop. My friends say that I am worried about getting more serious with him - closer to marriage, etc. - and that it makes me worry more about his cheating. But I don't think this is an excuse for the kind of behavior that I'm engaging in! I need advice to help me trust my loving boyfriend, and to stop these awful, snoopy habits. Please help! (link)
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He wouldn't have been truthful with you about playing other girls if he was playing you. Men, and sometimes even women, tend to hide little facts like that because of the consequences that it might take in their relationship, (Especially if they are still messing around.) I think you shouldn't worry at all. The only thing you can really do is keep trying to convince yourself that you're the one he wants. I admitted to my boyfriend the other day that I used to talk to other guys when I dated my other boyfriends. That right there could give him automatic rights to be suspicious because he thinks, "Well, why am I better than her exes?" Don't worry and trust him. That's the foundation of relationships. If that goes, you may give him a reason to stray away. I hope I helped.. :)
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Well i'm 16 and i have this boyfriend and we've only been going out for about a month and a half but we've been really close friends and not the lil yeah yeah we were close friends whatever type of deal, like we really hung out played video games talked on the phone had classes together, everything, for about 8 months. I know him really well and i get to see him a lot. Like practically everyday, we've done everything from going to the movies on a double date to takin naps together. I'm comfortable with him in public as my boyfriend and comfortable alone and intimate as not so much crazy making out but more opening myself up to him. I've let him get to second base already but i'm not sure if i should let him get further, you know like let him put his hand down my pants or if maybe i should do it to him. I really feel close to this guy, should i wait or would it be ok just to take things a lil further? (link)
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You're 16, you have a lot of time to make mistakes and learn new lessons. I think if you really feel that you are ready, and you really trust him, that you should have some fun and make careful, but responsible decisions. As long as you are aware that there are consequences for every action, you will know what to do. If you decide not to move further in the relationship yet, (and he is a halfway decent guy)..then you two can continue to build the foundation of your relationship- until you know you are ready for sure and no one else's opinion on here will matter. If you do decide to take it further, #1 make sure you're hoping for the best and expecting the worst and #2 BE CAREFUL!, Follow you're mind and not your feelings at the moment :) I hope I helped
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so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. we live like a half hour away and go to different schools so we only get to see each other like once, twice a week if we're lucky. we've made things work cause we love each other. buuutt i have one problem:
he used to text me all of the time like pretty much everyday during the first 5 months we were dating, after that he barely ever texts me, like im the one who has to text first and sometimes i dont even get a reply or he replies like a day later or something..idk...he says he just doesn't like texting, but i like to talk to him and stuff during the week. some nights we talk on the phone but we do that once a week, if that. i've told him i want to text and stuff but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other and he says if i want to text then to just text him but thats not the point you know? im positive he cares about me alott but i just don't know...im jealous of my friend who has a boyfriend that texts her every day. andd they've been going out for as long as we have. what should i do?
thanks 17/f (link)
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It's hard to break away from a ritualistic thing, something that you're used to-or something that you really love to do. I was in the same boat as you, and yeah- my boyfriend got pretty aggravated that I keep pestering him to text me on a daily basis. His excuse was- "Why cant I just call you- it's easier." Yeah, it is easier, but that's not the point. Texting is a way of communicating, a sweet gesture, and a tangible thing that the two of you share. All I can suggest is try to talk to him about it. Tell him it makes you feel better being able to read and have what he is saying. Not only does it mask any sarcastic tone, awkward silences, or stupid comments, you two can take time and think about what you really want to say and send each other digital messages. Well, I hoped I helped- at least a little :)
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