I'm not nice to everyone. I'm honest. I see too much B.S. on this site where people try to make people feel better instead of telling them what they really want to hear. Go ahead, rate me low. Try the advice that girl who told you to "just stay positive" gave you. Just know that I'm laughing at your failure. I speak Spanish and Portuguese, so if you are a native speaker of either of these languages, feel free to ask in your native tongue, I'll do my best to respond in them.
Hablo español. Si prefieres mandarme una pregunta en español no hay drama. Te respondaré en tu lengua nativa.
Falo portugués. Si você quer enviarme uma pergunta na sua lÃngua nativa. Está bem.
my profile goes crazy whenever I try to post letters that aren't english. The spellings are correct, just try to figure out what they are. Sorry in advance.
I speak these languages, but if there are problems with my grammar, please let me know. My experience comes from:
Spanish-Argentina
Portuguese-Brazil
Member Since: February 10, 2009
Answers: 38
Last Update: August 9, 2009
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five knuckle shuffle? what is it? (link)
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It's when guys jack off. Five knuckles moving up and down. It's a shuffle. Sorry if it gives you bad images.
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When i was younger something happend to me but i really dont view it as a big deal. I remeber it very well but i think to everyone else its like nothing so i view it as nothing also. When i was 8 years old i had some friends they were all older than me but not by much. There were a couple girls who were 9 and 10 and there was a 14 year old guy. When i was 8 all i wanted was to be friends with these people and for them to like me so they started a "club". One of the girls looked and me and said he says if you show him yours he will show u=you his of coarse i just thought there were joking but they weren't. They really wanted me to but i knew better and i said no at 8 years old i knew i wasnt supposed to see a boy like that or show myself. So the girls did it after the guy showed himself they showed there selfs and he touched them with his fingers and grass the whole time i was just sitting there not knwowing what to do. They made me promise not to tell anyone but i left and told my parents we got a restraining order and he moved. I know it's not a big deal from my point of view but they wanted me to go to the hospital to get checked out and childrens survices came to my house. I never thought about it much until i got older and now i have an obsession with rape and sexual abuse I feel descusting for it and i have a huge fear of sexual abuse. But i had a dream the other night it was about this and i also have a sleeping disorder so i woke up crying and i kept waking up. When i woke up the next morning i was quiet and i was sad for a huge part of the day. I feel like im just being dramatic. was it even a big deal? and what does it mean? I want to talk about it but i think my parents have no idea how hard it was for me or that i still think about it. (link)
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What you have is a problem with distinguishing a reasonable threat with a serious threat. Yes, sexual harassment and rape do exist, but you need to be able to figure out what are probably situations in which it could happen and those when it probably won't. I had a good friend that was raped and was scared of guys for a long time (about 7 years) and we ended up dating. You just need to start trying to trust people. I feel what you went through, just try to understand that not all guys are like that. Most men will respect you completely. That situation was partially due to age, and partially due to that guy being a creep. Try making just one friend that's a guy and build from there.
That being said I will warn you. In highschool most guys are extremely sex-oriented. You may feel awkward in those situations. Just back away from them. Remember, if anything bad happens, you can take legal action. I hope you see that most guys aren't bad. It's not a gender issue at all. It's an issue of some guys having mental problems. Good luck and stay in touch.
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Hey im 17/f i got my belly button pierced like two months ago.. its still a bit red at the top where the ball screws on. Then today i looked and on the bottom is like a blood blister that just showed up. What do i do? Is this normal? (link)
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Any new damage probably indicates an infection. At this point I would take vitamins and try to live healthily as much as possible. If it turns green or blue or anything close to those colors, I would go to the doctor to get an antibiotic ASAP. It's possible you have an infection now, so if you have insurance and don't have a problem going, I would go ahead and check it out.
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what is something that a girl does that just really turns on a guy and makes him like her? like not like dirty things .. but you know what i mean? & besides like smiling .. im just curious as to what they find naturally appealing to them (link)
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This is hard to answer, but I'll give it my best go. I really like it when a girl shows interest in me, but not too much. For instance, try to act like you're attracted to a guy, but don't give off the vibe that you're going to be a stalker. Showing interest in a guy is the number one thing that gives you a chance. Also being fun and personable is important. Guys want to talk about personal issues, but social stigmas make talking openly about these things unacceptable. The whole "friend" zone thing doesn't exist with guys, so try to get close to them in any way possible.
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im 16, and never had my first kiss yet. even though im pretty sad that i still never had one, i love to hear stories about other peoples' first kisses! it makes me excited for mine :) so whoever reading this, hopefully youll share your story! thank youuu:) (link)
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Mine was in a half-built building with my first girlfriend(not that magical). I don't consider it an important moment in my life. I was chewing gum and I asked her if she wanted a piece, but then I implied that she would have to take the piece in my mouth without using her hands (I'm a master of implication).
If you're wondering if yours will ever come. It will. Just be honest with yourself and pursue what you want relentlessly. If it doesn't happen soon, you're best chance is college.
Good luck
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im 16 & im a size 32A bra. im not by no means flat, but im not exactly a B. im pretty self conscious about it .. but do the majority of guys not like small boobs? (link)
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Big boobs are definitely good, but they are not the end all for most guys. Also, remember that at your age they will still grow, you will probably hit a B by the time you start growing. Believe it or not, confidence and personality does play a lot in what guys think of you (I'm a guy, so believe me on that note).
On a second note think of this. Girls with big boobs end up being girls with saggy boobs. Girls with small boobs end up being girls with big boobs. Just have confidence in yourself and it won't matter, guys will like you regardless.
19/m
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what do guys think is the sexiest feature on a girl? (link)
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It varies from guy to guy. Some guys will say butt, breasts, legs, (I've even heard feet). Most guys like one thing and then everything else is just a bonus.
In the long run, confidence is the most important aspect in a girl. A girl that projects her importance will get noticed. I have a friend that's like that, and every guy in every bar we go into hits on her. Be confident in yourself but not cocky or condescending and you will attract people. I'm not lying about this I promise.
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do guys think its weird that girls have periods? like do they laugh about it?
ik its a dumb question, but ive always just wanted to know! haha (link)
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Guys think it's weird until they're about 16, and then they accept it as a part of life. If you mean weird as inhuman then no, it's never "weird". For me, it's just a sign that things are working as they should. Don't be self conscious about it. What you can't control, doesn't matter.
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im 16, and not to be concieted, i am a pretty girl. but i am SO shy, & pretty innocent. (i dont smoke, drink, swear) i am really outgoing with myfriends, but when it comes to talking to guys or making small talk, i freeze. ive never kissed anyone or had a boyfriend. idk maybe i am doing something wrong? because obviously if someone were to really like me, they would not care if i was shy, and they would try to get to know me better. i know sometimes i might give strange or dirty looks to people, that i dont even know im giving. like honestly im a truly, goodhearted, kind person. but sometimes if im not smiling and i look one way instead of the other it can be percieved as me being mad or stand-offish. which is so unfortunate because i really dont even know im doing it unless someone says something. but i try to smile as much as possible. i dont know what else i can do to make myself more approachable. i try being as friendly as i can with as many people as i can.. but idk what is something that im doing that isnt letting guys want to know thereal me. they talk with me and joke around with me .. but nothingreally ever goes farther than that. can anyone help me ? (link)
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If you're innocent, at that age a guys are looking to "get lucky". If they don't perceive you as being a physical item, they may not pursue you romantically.
On the other hand, you may just be giving off a friend vibe. If you aren't smiling and you don't look directly at a guy, he won't think you're giving him a bad signal. Just try to flirt (touch, give hints that you're interested, even look at and smile). When I was that age, I was scared to approach girls, as were most guys. Just understand that guys are facing possible rejection whenever they approach a girl, and that can be tough until they get used to it. Stay in shape and be friendly and it's virtually guaranteed someone will take notice. Just try to understand the pressure guys feel when they first start "playing the field"
I know this isn't extremely constructive, but hope it helps you understand the situation in some
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I'm 19/f
Looking for any sad/depressing books to read. Something that made you cry. Any suggestions?
Or maybe any movies? But I would prefer books.
Thankyou in advance (link)
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The only movie that has ever made me cry was "In the Pursuit of Happiness"
Books..um, the Dragonlance series is fairly sad. If you're into fantasy/fiction etc.
Oh, of Mice and Men is really sad. Just remembered that. It's a classic as well as being really sad. Bonus with lit teachers!! but that's a really depressing book.
Best of luck!
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Okay so I am a 20/female and my life seems to not be going to well. i never graduated high school (i got my GED) and just decided to do the work thing and not go to college, but i have realized that that was a total mistake!
So I am really wanting to enroll in school, but don't know what to do! I mean I know you are supossed to have your SAT's and stuff like that which i don't have of course.
So that is my main question. what do i need to do before i actually apply to schools if i only have my GED??
Another thing is I used to live in texas, but moved to california about 10 months ago and want to go to college here, but will it still be out of state for me because i'm not sure if i am a resident here yet and if i am then does that mean i will pay normal tuition or out of state??
Also, i have no help with money going to school. I know there are scholarships and stuff like that and was wondering where can i go to look up that stuff??
thanks and hope to hear from someone soon!! (link)
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I'm a student in a fairly good public university in my state, so I think I can point you in the right direction. Firstly, try to apply to some lower end colleges. That's not to say you can't get into the better ones, but they typically have lower tuition. Also, about 25% of students drop out of school in their first year of college, so you're chances of getting in are much higher after your first year, especially if you do well.
I don't know whether you are considered a resident of Texas or California. I would go to city hall wherever you live and they should point you in the right direction.
70% of all scholarships are never given out because nobody applies for them. Some of them are strict on requirements, but others aren't. I receive two scholarships that most people didn't apply for. Search FAFSA (Free Application for Federal Student Aid), and if that doesn't work your academic advisor at any university should be able to point you in the right direction.
I hope you do well. If you need any help finding anything, feel free to ask me. I'm warning you that it will be hard, but completely worth it. I'm from a low income family and I work to pay my bills, but someday things will get better. Remember, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, you can do it. Stay strong. SJL.
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im 15 years old, female, 5'5, and about 105-110 pounds. im pretty thin, actually really thin, but i have like a little pouch on my stomach. i dont get it. i dont eat a ton, and its always there. like extra belly fat. i have small love handles too. does anyone know why this is, and how i can get rid of them? thanks! (link)
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People store fat in random places, it's genetic. I'm a little overweight and I store it all in my stomach and my chest, but my arms are defined like a body builder or something. You can do exercises that focus on those areas if you want to define them a little more, but you will always struggle with those areas (sorry to be the one to break it to you). At your weight and age, I wouldn't try to lose weight. Try doing side and regular crunches. Side crunches are just when you put your legs normal but your body sideways and try to do crunches sideways. Let me know if you don't understand and I'll try and find you a link.
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okay so me nd my boyfriend of almost 6 months is engaged and we love eachother so much he treats me amazin nd he is my whole world we fight alot but we always get passed them because of how much we love eachother nd everything...but there is one his family dont like me the treat me nice to my face but behind my back they say the worst things i could think of i mean i really love my boyfriend but i am kinda gettin sick of his family alyways talking crap about me like they no me.......i never get to see my boyfriend and when i do its only for like 1 hour......they walk all over him like he is trash and thinks that he is there slave and he is 18 years old and i feel really bad i dont want to lose him i love him way to much i dont kno what i would do with out my baby he is my everything....i could really use some help here
Thank you so much
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If you speak the way you write, I'm not surprised that his parents don't like you. Nobody is going to respect someone that can't form complete sentences or abide by even the most basic standards of grammar. Stop criticizing other people for "talking crap like they no me" and understand that they don't like you because even from reading this 100 word sample of your personality I can tell you're uneducated, have bad manners, and lack any kind of communication proficiency. Ask an English teacher for help, read up on modern etiquette, and take a good look at how far you have to come as an individual before you even begin to start worrying about what anybody else says about you.
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okay, well there's this guy.
we went out for four days.
i wasn't sure about going out with him, he asked me out the night we met.
at first i was like uhm i don't know really because i didn't know him very well.
my friend kept encouraging me to go out with him, and kept telling me how much money he has. . so i gave in. . .
first i said have no expctations, i don't know you very well. . .
i tryed to make it work. . . and by doing that i really led him on. . . by saying things he said to me, but i didnt feel the same in return.
we broke up tonight. . he went to my game and brought me flowers. . $50 flowers. and my favorite candy.
i didn't react the way i he wanted. . . i felt guity and didn't want to keep leading him on because i really felt the need not to proceed with being with him. . . because truely inside, i don't like him back.
i suck at relationships. . i flirt with every guy i meet.
i just don't like this guy. . . i hate it when he touches me, he's too clingy, he makes me feel weird.. icky weird, he gets easily upset, and has a bad atitude, i am not attracted to him at all, and we have no chemistry.
so i ended it.
now i feel bad because hes upset and he went all out and got me flowers and candy. . .
that was really sweet of him, and he is a really sweet guy, i didn't want to hurt him. i gave him a chance because he was so generous and chiverous.
he told me we can still be friends if we went out and it didnt work out, but he's really sensitive and i don't think he meant it.
now i just need help with what to say to him.
i didn't give him a really good excuse, and i didn't tell him the entire truth.
i told him we were movng to fast. . .
i don't know what else to say, i want to stay friends and i don't want him to feel bad.
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Don't feel bad. Do you know what the term is for girls who provide companionship to men they aren't interested in for money and gifts??
(Insert Jeopardy Song Here)
And the final answer is....
Prostitutes!!!
You made the right decision. The best way to convey the message to him would be to play the Beatles song "Can't Buy me Love" while you walk off slowly into the sunset. If you don't get it, look up the lyrics.
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This guy I like/liked [i don't really know anymore] told me before christmas break that he liked me alot, asked me if i liked him, i said yes. and i SERIOUSLY liked him alot. And then we didn't talk much over xmas break, and I got pissed at him and we got in a fight, didn't talk for a little. and then i come home sick one day and I see that he is IN A RELATIONSHIP with his ex girlfriend [whom i might add always complained about him and said how annoying he was AND she just got dumped the week of christmas break by some guy] so rebound much? I didn't even SEE this one coming. So now ... its been like 3 weeks theyve been togehether or something, and it's like they are haunting me. [he's in one of my classes] I see him and her at the movies. in the hallway. before classes. at lunch. I just don't know what to do. AND it's always like he's wanting me to see them together. Because when he hugged her today, he looked at me and it was like intense. but i broke away from his stare. and like, they sai i love you to eachohter on the second day they were going out. YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY LOVE SOMEONE IN A DAY. it's just not RIGHT. and she picniks all of their photos on facebook saying .. i love you (link)
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You weren't in a relationship, so he had every right to get into one with somebody else. It sounds like you're jealous. The only reason he would flaunt it is if he's:
a)angry with you
b)trying to make you jealous
Either way, he doesn't sound like a really great guy. Try to avoid him and stop and think if he's really trying to rub it in your face. I mean, it would be pretty difficult for two people to coordinate a constant show like that. Just try to start getting over it. It doesn't sound like it was really ever that serious anyway.
And to answer your first question. Yes. You could be without food, clean water, school, proper housing and health care like most of the world. It can get worse.
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ok so im 14 and i just got a work permit and i want to work at the library and now that im 14 i can so what do i say to get the job do i just hand them the permit and say i would like to work here or something (link)
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Ask for an application and then learn how to use correct punctuation so you have a chance.
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14/f
Is it normal for 12-14 year old boys to smell kind of.. weird? When they're not wearing cologne? Like not really bad or anything, just kind of... I don't know, weird! I've been noticing lately that more than half of the boys I sit next to kind of smell the same... lol! I know it's a weird question, but I'm just curious?! Thanks!! (link)
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Kids don't smell great. Male kids don't smell great until a later age. Bathing and hygiene in general just aren't a priority. So the short answer is...
yes.
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14/f -- Sorry this might be long! :(
So there's this guy from my school that I've never really talked... but Friday night, I was on Facebook and he randomly just started talking to me. So he was nice and all, but then he really started to suprise me...
-Friday night: First he kind of casually slipped in that I was really pretty. Then we talked for awhile, and then he asked me for my number, so I gave it to him (I lost my phone about a month ago, so explained to him that I probably couldn't talk on it for awhile). Then he started saying (after we had talked for maybe a half an hour) that I was really cool and it felt like we'd known each other for awhile. Then I had to leave, and I told him so, and he said, "OK bye. And I know I didn't say this before, but you're really beautiful :)"
-Over the weekend we didn't talk that much, just mostly told me I was beautiful and etc.
-Monday night: He greeted me with "Hey, beautiful :)". Also, I've been beginning to notice he talks a lot about how he treats his girlfriends (ex., holding their hand, listening to them, etc...). Then, kind of randomly, he goes, "If we knew each other better, would you go out with me?" And I just said it depended. (I like a different guy MUCH more than I like him). He started saying that he wished my phone would turn up so we could text because he had to leave soon. He was really starting to rattle some nerves... Then when I had to go (it ended up I left before he did) he says, "Ok, bye :(. I would tell you I love you, but I'll wait until we know eachother better." I just kind of laughed that off a little.
Tuesday night (Tonight): Greeted me with "Hey, beautiful" again. I didn't want to start going through teh usually ruintine where I can't even joke with him cause he's giving me so many compliments, so I tried changing the subject (Social Studies). Then randomly he goes "So, how far have you gone with a guy?" Now I was seriously getting either mad or freaked out (maybe both?) So I just said, "Uhm, not very far." and he just says, "So just kiss, and that's it?" and I said, "No, not even kiss. lol." (I've never even had a boyfriend, but I wasn't going to tell him that!) and he just says oh. So after a minute of not saying anything, he goes, "Maybe I could be your first one?" And I was thinking, OK, HOLD IT WISE GUY!! But instead, I said, "....lol??" and he goes, "I'm was being serious... so could i?" But luckily I didn't have to answer cause one of my best friends got on and I told him I couldn't talk.
Ok, now before I go on, I think I should let you know that I am 99.999887% sure this guy is a player. He has asked three of my best friends out, calls my OTHER best friend beautiful, and just broke up with this other girl. My friend also asked him if he liked me, and he said I don't know. Who knows what else he could be doing? I asked him awhile ago if "he is usually like this with girls" and he said no. Then I said "are you sure?" and he goes, "yeah I'm sure. What do you think I'm playing you or something?"
So I really need help. It's not that I don't feel safe around him or anything... no, not that at all... it's just he kind of... creeps me out a little? I mean I would really want to be friends with him, he seems like a nice guy. I just don't want to be...whatever he wants to be. I can never be, just, friends with him--I can never joke or say anything about myself (like, wow, I'm dumb!) without him rushing to my defence, or talk about anything besides my ex boyfriends... the thing is, I've never had a boyfriend!!
My main questions are:
1.Do all/ most boys act like this when they want to seriously go out with a girl?
2. How am I supposed to tell him I don't like him in a way that won't make things akward between us?
3. Is this a really bad situation that I should avoid at all costs?
Thank you so so SO much for taking the time to read this and answer1 Any kind of help is appretiated!!!
THANK YOU!! (link)
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1. No, but a lot of guys get a power trip out of hooking up with fairly "innocent" girls. We call them child molesters once they hit age ~20.
2. Just tell him to back off. He sounds like a pervert and are you honestly worried about whether you'll be able to retain a sustained honest friendship with this guy?
3. No. Not all costs. Avoiding nuclear holocaust would be worth it. I would also probably say anything over $200 would be worth it. Other than that, yes, this is a bad situation.
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