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me nd my baby
okay so me nd my boyfriend of almost 6 months is engaged and we love eachother so much he treats me amazin nd he is my whole world we fight alot but we always get passed them because of how much we love eachother nd everything...but there is one his family dont like me the treat me nice to my face but behind my back they say the worst things i could think of i mean i really love my boyfriend but i am kinda gettin sick of his family alyways talking crap about me like they no me.......i never get to see my boyfriend and when i do its only for like 1 hour......they walk all over him like he is trash and thinks that he is there slave and he is 18 years old and i feel really bad i dont want to lose him i love him way to much i dont kno what i would do with out my baby he is my everything....i could really use some help here
Thank you so much
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What you have to realize here is that this is YOUR relationship. If you love this guy, if you really want to be with this guy, you HAVE to get past his family. Not everyone will marry into a perfect family. You have to take the bad with the good if you want to be a permanent part of his life.
I might suggest that you ask his family to sit down and talk to you and him. If you two are seriously engaged, the lines of communication MUST be opened. Maybe there's some misconception going on, maybe his family doesn't understand your relationship. Or, you could ask him to say something to his family. If they don't know what's going on with the two of you, they need to, and they need to accept you. They don't have to love you - they don't even have to like you (though that would be nice, I feel your pain) - but they do have to accept that you're going to be a part of this guy's life whether they like it or not, because you two love each other. You can't control your heart, nor should you have to.
In a nutshell, open your mouth. Talk to them. Be blunt, be honest, let them into your inner circle. I know his family is important, and what they think is therefore important to you, but you may just have to look past that, and come to some sort of compromise with them. But you have to come to it WITH THEM.
Feel free to keep me updated with this if you want someone to talk to who's been in a similar situation.
If not, good luck!
-Siren =)
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If you speak the way you write, I'm not surprised that his parents don't like you. Nobody is going to respect someone that can't form complete sentences or abide by even the most basic standards of grammar. Stop criticizing other people for "talking crap like they no me" and understand that they don't like you because even from reading this 100 word sample of your personality I can tell you're uneducated, have bad manners, and lack any kind of communication proficiency. Ask an English teacher for help, read up on modern etiquette, and take a good look at how far you have to come as an individual before you even begin to start worrying about what anybody else says about you.
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To be completley honest if both families don't like one another and you both fight a lot then i think you both should hold off on getting married. your young and it doesn't seem like the marraige would last long with the way things seem to be going. first if you really want to be together and get through it, then you need to build a relationship with his family as well as him with yours. take things slow...
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