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My Boyfriend and I got in a fight.
This might sound pathetic. About a week ago my boyfriend of one year and I had an argument. Some hurtful things were said and i packed my stuff and moved back in with my parents. We both apologized and are trying to work things out. I stilllove him and we are about ready to bring a little girl into the world.The problem is I haven't told my parents that we are still technically together and i want to move back in with him asap. They dont like him but i dont want to upset them either.any advice?19/f
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Contrary to the person below, I'm going to say that parents are usually predisposed to dislike guys that date their "little girl".
I know that I'm going to be hard on any guys dated by girls I might have. I'm not going to choose her guys for her, but I'm definitely going to make joining our family an intimidating prospect, if only to make sure that a guy is really willing to go through some shit to be with her.
I can't say your parents share my specific perspective, but my desire to be hard on and tendency towards immediate dislike that I already know I'll have is rooted in the same feelings your parents have.
First off, you've got to be more mature about your relationships. Your parents aren't going to greet this news with happiness. But theres a point here, you lived with a guy, and you can't move out based on a fight and anger. People lose their shit. It happens, and everyone has the capacity to be an asshole.
Thats something you're going to have to accept with almost anyone you date who has a backbone.
Whats not acceptable is lack of control over those negative qualities, you both have a right to be angry with each other for being hurtful, but you also have a responsibility to realize you can get pissed off like this and stop yourself from making rash decisions. You two need to have a long talk on this subject if you move back in. If you're going to move out, it should be thought out, and there should be enough reasons that there is no way in hell you'll be rethinking the decision within the next 6 months or more.
Next time, go sit down alone and calm yourself down, take some space and give him some, and when you're both ready to talk calmly, reopen the discussion.
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Well I used to live with my ex boyfriend by whom my parents did not like at all. later on i realized that parents have this sort of intuition about people (that deal with their kids, like you) and later on i realized that my parents were right about my ex and i regret ever living with him. i mean if you love him and ya'll don't fight a lot and you have a baby on the way then you should try and work things out and just sit down and talk with your parents about the situation. but with me i was moving back and forth from my ex's to my parents and it kind of got tiring to my mother. but i would try and work things out at first. but get things situated before the baby comes! good luck!
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