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Q: One of my best guy friends who calls me all the time (like literally every 2 minutes) well my best friend told me that he likes me but i didnt believe her and then he told me he did and i just thought of him as my friend so i was like no and then he got a girl friend and it hurt me and i think i'm just in denial cuz i do have feelings for him. Do y'all think I have feelings for him?

yes, I think, no...Im sure you do. If you didnt have feelings for him then why did you get hurt when he got a gf? Right now yu cant go tell him you like him cause it would be selfish. If he breaks up with his gf, wait for the right moment to tell him that you have feelings for him.

Q: ok well i like this guy. i dont know if he has a girl friend. he always says hi to me and gives me hugs. and were both like involved with singing adn stuff at school so we like sing songs together and stuff. and he kissed me on the cheek once when he was leaving somewhere. and he asked for my cell phone number. and once he tried to hook up with me. stupidly i didnt know and didnt even open my mouth! ha ha. anyway i wanna know if he likes me. and if he does then what should i do? should i ask him out, or wait for him to ask me out, or ask a friend to ask him to go out with me? i am really confused and i really like him. please help!

He obviously likes you, then why did he try to hook up witchu??? You didn't open your mouth so he probably backed off a bit cause he thinks you're not interested.
Heres what you should do, when you're having a conversation, say "hey, wanna go grab some coffee (or whatever) ?" casually. Then you'll find out if he really likes you or not.

Q: I have dark brown hair, it kind of looks black. People say I can't dye it blonde, but I kind of want to since people believe they can stop me. My skin has a natural tan, if that matters. My friend said I could dye my eyebrows to match. What do you think?

Well, I dont think you should do it yourself.
Stylists are the ones you should go to cause your skin has a natural tan. He/she's probably gonna die your hair a lighter brown and do some blonde highlights which would look awesome. If the eyebrows are too dark they'll dye 'em too.
I wanna dye my hair too, but I really cant afford the stylist. If you can, what are you waiting for? Get your butt over there!

Q: I need to get in shape for this summer-like so bad..I've tried almost everything..Dieting and crunches didn't help..eating less and less didn't help..Not eating for almost a whole day didn't help..and I couldn't really keep up with the eating healthy thing..I just want to look greeaattt in a bikini for this summer..Does anyone know any ways to get in shape? Thanks

EXERCISE!!!!! The best sports that would get you in shape are : swimming (the best), tennis, dancing , aerobics and jogging. For your abdomen, do sit ups. For other parts, search the internet for moves that would get you in shape cause I dunno what theyre called.

Q: Ever since I've injured my knee, I've been feeling like I can't do much... and sort of jealous of the kids that can. I usually play with a tennis ball at lunch, but i want my knee to heal! Does anyone have suggestions as to what i can do?

It depends on the injury. I have a knee injury too and Im getting surgery at the end of this month. It's really bugging me too cause I cant run like I used to and I cant play in the basketball games anymore cause I'm scared of hurting my knee. I'm not trying to scare you, but a doctor should know what to do. As I said before, it depends on the injury. Maybe you need a special workout to get it to work as it used to.

Q: ok i just moved away from my old skool and before i left, i didnt say goodbye to some ppl because i didnt have time and well i didnt like this girl back then who like me back then and well now im falling for her bad and she does like me but shes i dont kno shes kind of mad at me and i just want 2 let her know i like her and i want to go out with her, how do i do this(srry so long)

Well, of course she's mad, you switched schools without even saying goodbye to her. I suggest you go to her place with a rose, or maybe even a bouquet if you can afford it. Then when the smile crosses her face, ask her to a movie.

Q: i wana go on a diet and iv tried alot and im just going by my own rules so i just make it up as i go along. has n e 1 been on a diet and lost alot of wieght?

yes, I have. Dont starve yourself, just eat healthy. Eliminate junk food and sweets from your diet and you'll do fine. Check my advice column. Somewhere there's the diet I'm using to lose weight. Im sorry Im in a hurry and cant type the whole thing

Q: Are you suppose to pop your pimples or not? And the same with Black heads? What are you suppose to do. I use this blackhead scrub stuff and it makes my blackheads bigger. Is that giving me a sign to pop them? I seldum get pimples with white heads. And usually I accident pop them. Is that bad?

yes, its bad because it will leave scars. We dont want that, do we?
the scrubs making your blackheads bigger because its enlarging the pores, causing more oil to come out and all the dust will make the pore become clogged.
heres what you should do:
1- For a great skin, eat a lot of fruit, pimples means you need vitamin A. Why not also take a multi vitamin?
2- wash your face with a cleansed everyday twice. (morning and before you go to bed)
3- After using the cleanser, use an astringent , its will minimize the pores. Or use a tonic, it will clean the stuff that the cleanser couldnt clean.
But be careful, do not use a cleanser for oily skin if your skin is a combination. There are special products for that cause non-oily areas might get dry.
I do what you do but I try my best not to play with my face. Whenever I pop a blackhead, some hard oil comes out . Then I wake up with a white headed pimple. Ive stopped doing that, and I eat more fruit and Ive noticed my skin is getting better. The question is: Do you have ACNE or are they just regular pimples?
You havent specified where you get te pimples and blackheads. For the nose, dont use the "biore" sticker that unblocks the pores, use the "nose pore mask" from the body shop.
Use a scrub once a week (with tea tree oil) to get rid of the dead skin that might be still on your face.
I suggest you go to a doctor so he can see what exactly is the problem.

Q: ok i have this friend and well he rlly wants to loose his virginity cause he feels weird at his age...(peer presure) and so he asked me if i would do it with him...im scared of wht ppl wouldthink (ive alraeady lost mine)...but i dnt wanna sound like a slut or anything
pleasee help me!! thnks!!

what the hell? Just say no, you dont just go and do it with anyone! Tell him he should at least loose it with someone special like his fiancee or keep it until he gets married. Im muslim, so we dont do it unless we're married to the person. Why loose your virginity to someone you're not sure you're gonna be with your whole life? I know you're gonna rate me really low, but Im sorry, this is the advive Im giving you.

Q: Okay so I am the one who I like the guy in my drama class and was nervous to talk to him, well today I told my friend who is good friends with him. She called him and his answering machine picked up and I was like "you're hot" like just kidding cuz I thought the phone was still ringing and it wasnt!!! She was like that was.. me (she said my name) I was so mortified!! Well I have to go to 1st period Drama w/ him in it!! I begged my mom not to make me go.. lol of course my mom said I HAD to go! Anyway I am so nervous he'll find out I like him!! What do I say tomorrow? I really don't want to go up like right when he walks in the classroom and be all like oh by the way I was kidding around yesterday. Oh and also he called back but he didn't hear the message and our other friend was like "erase it" and the one who is good friends with him, was like "ya she was playing around with my phone, and she said my name again!!" I'm not mad at her, just sort of.. mortified of what he'll say tomorrow!! Does anyone have a suggestion of what I should say to him if he comes up to me?!? THIS IS URGENT!!!

I dont think you should say anything tomorrow. Just let things pass. Maybe he likes you and wasnt sure you liked him back. Just play it cool, if he asks you about that "you're hot!" (if he found out bout the msg), say "I dunno whats gotten into me yesterday, hyperactive maybe"
And play flirtatious while you say that, hopefully he'll get the hints.Just smile,maybe wink, but wink only once!

Q: Okay my little sister asbolutely refuses to go to school she wants to drop out thing is shes not 16 is there anyway she can drop out before shes 16? My parents and I have tryed everything even bribing her to go to school and it doesnt work. So is there anyway she can drop out before shes 16? If so please explain in details. Im really worried for my sister and its hurting my parents bad because they dont want to get in trouble. Thanks!

Well, your parents should find out "why she doesnt want to go to school". Maybe she's facing a problem there. You can't quit school just like that, talk to her about the consequences. But first find out why she doesnt wanna go. Im sorry to say this, but if she wont talk to you, you have to take her to a counselor and it better be a good one.
My school councelor was facing the same problem, a girl refused to go into the class. I dunno how she handled it, but the girl has no problem with the school now.

Q: What do you guys think of a 18-year-old(f) dating a 24-year-old(m). And don't give any of that "age doesn't matter crap" bcasue it does. What do yall think of the maturity levels?

The biggest problem I see... The 18-year-old is still a freshman in college and the 24-year-old graduated 2 years ago.

Well, no offense to guys. But girls mature faster than guys, so an 18 year old girl and even a 16 year old girl is as mature as a 22 or 24 year old guy. I have a friend (m) I know from the internet. We get along really well, he's like a brother to me. We talk about a lot of things. He's 22 and I'm 16(f).

Q: ok well im 15 and in 9 grade and theres this boy that i like but i dont really know him. Well ever since the beginning of the year i always caught him staring at me and smiling but never anything else, then we gradually started talking but only in class (we have one class together)well this semester i sit right next to him in class and we talk all the time but only in class. if we see each other in the hall we never say anything. yesterday our class was in the computer lab & we were only allowed to sit by 1 person at a table. well i got up for a minute to go look at another computer that no one was at or by and he came over and sat right next to me and we just sat there talking and then he put his hand on my leg. then the teacher looked at us an he got up and went to sit next to this girl i hate but hes friends with her. so what the heck?! im so confused so if u could just tell me if hes hinting he likes me or if he just wants to confuse me? plz i rate high!!

Well, you just answered your own question! He's either confusing you or he's hinting he likes you. You can't really tell what guys think, but if he likes you he WILL make a move. So just wait, maybe this girl you hate will try to hook you up or something. OR, theyre trying to pull a prank on you or something. So watch out and be careful. If he makes a move ask him hard questions like "why the sudden interest?" or "what do you like in me?"

Q: I've gotten a couple ridiculous questions in my inbox lately- disgusting questions and some that, i just don't have any idea what to say to them. but i feel bad just not answering these people. does anyone else have this problem?

No, not really. Im new here and I just got 2 questions. They were both good questions and one of them was really serious. Nothing disgusting. I really don't care, if I can answer the question I'll answer it but if I can't I'll be honest with the person and tell them I don't have an answer for their question.

Q: hey yall ok i give great advice to friends about girls but i cant give me any. so... i like this girl she nos it i told her she imed me and said i like u more as a friend but i wrote a letter to her saying i understand but should i give it to her and after i give it to her should i ak her out plz help

You should definately give her the letter, to let her know that you're taking it like a gentleman. And she already told you she likes you more as a friend, so you cant ask her out cause her answer is obvious. Really sorry, I dont think she's playing hard to get or anything.

Q: 18f
situation: my best guy friend has invited me up to his farm to go horseriding... i will have to sleep over there.

Problem: last time i went to his place we got totally blind and ended up making out. he got my top off before i came to my senses and stopped.(it went no further) i told him that i thought it was wrong and i didn't want to ruin our friendship. he said that it was okay and we worked through it and saved our friendship. i know he still likes me - he told me so - but i dont like him. i told him that i would only go if he behaves himself. he said "i wont do anything, dont worry." but i'm not sure.

question: do you think he is being honest? he has tried to kiss me since 'the incident' but i backed off and he apologized. i said i'd go... should i try back out? or just go to his place?

you know craig David and Stings song "rise and fall"?my favorite part is "so let me have...just one more chance, Im not the man I used to be".
So give your guy friend just one more chance, if he makes one move, you're outa there.

Q: Pfff.. I just realised how BORING my life is!!! I wake up at six, go to school, come back at 4, do homework, go on the computer, sleep. What a nice life eh??? NOT!! its just soooo boring! i have nothing better to do. Any ideas?

Well, I think you and your friends should go to the movies on Fridays. During school days, instead of going on the computer, go to a dancing club. I dont mean disco, I mean go take dancing classes for example. If you like reading, join or even start a book club. If you dont want to be around a lot of people, just grab a book or CD player and hit the nearest hangout! Who knows? maybe when a guy sees a pretty girl sitting by herself, he'd join her And if you're a guy, its the girl who might join you. My guyfriend met his gf at burger king!

Q: All you girls out there...
I am kind of shy, but am trying to be more outgoing, which I am finding easier and easier. Usually when I like a guy, they have no clue, but I would like to change that. What are the best ways to flirt? If you could tell me some of your favorite flirting moves I would appreciate it. Any little flirty gesture or something that always works for you?

And for you guys out there, what kind of things do you love when a girl does? What is the best ways for a girl to flirt in you opinion? How do you like a girl letting you know she is interested in you?

Please keep in mind that I am kind of reserved, so please don't tell me to go up and grab his butt or something, thats not really my style. Thank you so much in advance for your advice!

alright grasshopper, I will teach you everything I know... bows first* :p

1- eye contact: always make eye contact with target
2- make the target feel comfortable around you by rolling stuff in your fingers,like a pen, twirling your hair on your finger. That way you look less threatening, you look nervouse even if you're not.
3- whispering: if you wanna get a guy flustered, whisper in his ear, like "I like your jacket" for example.
4- touch his arm or shoulder lightly, like brushing off dust. Heres a great excuse "you got a piece of string on your shoulder" you pretend to get it off then"there" and flash him your best smile.
5- posture: when a guy is talking to you, dont cross your arms , its like saying "GO AWAY!" so you can lean on the wall or something, its like saying "welcome handsome" and smile, dont 4get to smile!
6- Drop it! Say youre carrying a book, a guy you like is around. Drop your book and see what he does. If he helps you then maybe hes interested too, start a conversation. If he doesnt, he doesnt care.
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Q: I am 14 years old, and i like a guy that goes to my school. He is going out with the biggist slut ever.. & I like him alot! Everyone thinks they are wrong for each other. I need a way to win him over. I donno what to do cuz me and the girl hate each other. He won't listen to any of his friends and i know he wont listen to me. We would be the best couple ever! So if you have any advice please feel free to give it!!

ok! I'm free! anyways, I dont think you can sorta force this guy into liking you. You like him and you think you make the perfect match, but does he like you? He likes the slut hes going out with, thats his problem. All you can do is give him advice. When you do, your job is done, it doesnt matter if he listens to you or not.

Q: my best friend is mad at me because i wont break up with my boyfriend because moves really slow and weve been going out for a really long time and weve only kissed once and he is the type of guy who gets nervous to do those types of things. i like him alot so im willing to wait for him to be ready to do whatever. she doesnt think he is the right guy for me. he is a great guy and the only bad part about him is that it takes him forever to give one single kiss. do i break up with him if we dont even kiss? or do i just deal with it and stay with him? and ive already talked to him about it a few times and he says hes trying his best.

Well, first of all, you shouldnt dump someone because theyre too nervous to kiss you. That means he really likes you and is afraid that maybe you wont like the way he kisses you. Guys in love always have doubts. He kissed you once, so now its your turn! Why dont you kiss him? Its not like theres a book of "dating rules" saying that its the guy who should always kiss a girl.

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Hi, I'm Sarah and I'm 16 years old. I really like to help people and give them advice, so never hesitate to ask me any question about guys, crushes, friendships, ANYTHING!
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