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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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13/m I know I'm going through puberty. I just know it. I'm starting to feel the true emotions (love, rejection, jealousy, etc), and I'm starting to be cleverer (I'm starting to beat my dad at chess, which I haven't done for 8 years.) But despite these mental changes, I'm still physically the same. I mean, sure, I've started to get erections, but it's not like I'm showing that off at school! It's really annoying, how I have the highest voice in the school, and I'm the shortest guy in all my classes. Facial hair, I really don't give a damn, but now a few people think my high voice is annoying, and it annoys me too, and also my parents don't believe that I'm in love because I haven't shown any physical signs of puberty, and thusly I can't have had any mental either. What should I do? (Note: Smartasses get 1s and WILL be reported) (link)
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In matters of puberty, you have absolutely no control over; it comes when your body is ready. In this case the Mental and Emotional side are just now begin to come forth, so the physical side will come soon. So the only thing to do it let it ride.
Also in your voice being too hide, don’t worry it will deepen when it is ready to, just don’t try to rush your body, it could do more damage to your body than you might think.
I hope this helps, let me know if it does.
Best of luck to you
~Teen Guru~
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If God gives humanity purpose and meaning, what gives God purpose and meaning?
Is God meaningless and purposeless?! If so, wouldn't that mean that humans are just meaningless and purposeless, and that their "meaning" and "purpose" given by God is purely arbitrary? (link)
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well very important question to ask, I do know the answer (or at lest part of it), however, it is not my place to tell you the answer, so I will tell how to reach it. If you want to know about the nature of God, you must first know God. I don’t mean like “I know believe him” or “I put my faith and trust in him”. I mean you must strive to know God personally, one a one-on-one lv.
How is this done, you may ask? Well when we talk to God, it is done with a prayer, (now depending on what you believe in at this time, will depend on how this is done). I suggest that you talk to him, don’t not try a rehearsed prayer but a meaningful one, and believe you will find an answer.
Now that you that are doing this, what’s next? Now comes the hard part. Listen to words of those who give religious talks, read Holy Scriptures, and find the truth. Once you think you have the truth, pray to know if it is true.
Buddha once said that everyone can receive enlightenment. I know it is true.
I hope this helps you, let me know if it does.
~Teen Guru
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I cold always talk to my cuzin. About everything. but one day she just broke down about everything. Now i dont think i can talk to her anymore what should i do (link)
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Well depending on the age of you and your cousin and what you mean by “Broke down” will depend on what can be done.
The younger the both of you are the longer it will most likely take to correct.
With what you have been given me, I believe your cousin has what is called a overload, or as you called “break down” both describe that the mind can’t take much more info at that time. It is nothing to serious, it usually happens to those who are young who just learn something monumental. All you can do is to wait till they process it, and are ready for more.
Talk about it, as your cousin, see you maybe put too much on her plate to handle. I know from experience, that if it is a overload/break down then she’ll overcome it. However do not try to confined in her until she is ready.
When you do finally start confining in her, be front with her. Say “I don’t want you be overwhelmed by this, so it starts to get too much, than tell me and we’ll stop for a time”.
Let her make the pace.
It is important to confined in someone. But sometimes we choose the wrong person to confine in. If it something serious, then you may need to talk to a more mature mind (someone who is older and had more experiences, like a parent, teacher, etc.)
Best of luck to you, and maybe you may be able to have your cousin confined in you to help her get through this.
I hope this helps you/let me know if it did.
~Teen Guru~
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can someone help me out why do good things happen to bad people ? (link)
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Like you I have also wonder such questions. I spent a great deal of meditation and pondering on such matters. I have researched on the subject for a long time. I could never accept the fact that the good things happen to bad people more and bad things happen to good people more often than bad things to bad people and good things to good people. And after of years of searching and experience it finely hit me, you are only seeing a small part of the picture. The evils of the world would like us to give up hope surrender ourselves to their will, and enslave us to our misery and bind with the wretchedness of our own depression. As I was younger, I saw only what you are seeing right now, Pain misery, unhappiness for those who tried to live a good life while those who enjoyed inflicting such dark gloom on others. As I grew older, my eyes begun to open I started seeing the full picture of life; that those who seem to have it all, actually have very little, those who seem to always get away and get off the hook are in reality enslaved themselves to the very Evils which I spoke of.
And example I have seen kids whose parents would buy them their young heart desires anytime of day/week/year, and it made them very spoiled and jerkish to everyone who wasn’t their friend; they seemed to have it all except one thing. Consider where would the parents get the money to buy such things, they would have to work longs hours and, all to often, in very stressful jobs, so the parents are either always working and rarely ever see their kids, the kids are either raised by a nanny or to fend for themselves. So to have things of the world, they had to pay a terrible price, they never really knew parents, they were treated no differently then the family dog, and worst of all they saw people who had a family, who were happy but did not have the things of the world, and they hated them for it. There were times they thought those who were poorer were the lucky ones. So, out of jealousy they picked on and tormented those kids, who in their eyes were more fortunate that them.
Now tell me who has it better; one who gets all the things of the world; things that will fade with time, or one who have very little of the world but has an unimaginable treasure?
I also know a kid who lived a very charmed life, he got in allsorts of trouble but it was always lesser than his friend that he did it with. He was smart, resourceful, popular, and well admire. But he also paid a very terrible price, he was utterly forgotten by he parents when his younger brother was born, I don’t mean the normal older/ younger relationships, his younger brother always got everything he wanted (just like the kids I mention earlier). Now he basically lost his mind through drugs and misery caused by his parent’s oversight and his younger brother has really no concept of reality.
Sounds wonderful doesn’t, the point I want to make is when you think someone has it all they in all reality do not. So those who do bad things have their share of bad things happen to them and in the end, it is they who are in the losing end of things. It is “The grass is always greener on the other side” thing.
I sincerely hope this helps you out/let me know if it did.
Best of Luck
~Teen Guru~
P.S. sorry if it long but I don't think I could have shorten it that much. also if u has any more questions, please feel free to ask.
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can someone please help me with some math problems because my teacher didnt finish the lesson but still gave us homework and no one in my math class is online
(-6) to the negative 1 exponet
4(10) to the negative 2 exponet
7 to the zero exponet + 6 to the negative 2 exponet
10 to the negative 2 exponet times 10 to the 5th exponet
(10x + 2y) divided by 5
(tr - r) divided by r
if you can help me with ANY of these i will be so grateful (link)
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All Right I will show how to do exponents (though I will not give you the answers to your problems. an exponent is saying how many sets there are of an certain # so if you have a problem that states 10 with an exponent of 3 it would look like 10 x 10 x 10 = 100 x 10 = 1000.
these are basic problems.
1) 5 to the 2nd power (or exponents) also can look like 5^2.
• 5 ^2 = 5 x 5
• 5 x 5 = 25
• So 5^2 is equal to 25
2) -9 to the 5 power also is -9^5
• -9^5 is the same as ( = ) -9 x -9 x -9 x -9 x -9
• -9 x -9 x 9 x -9 x -9 is equal to ( = ) 89 x 89 x -9
Because 9 x 9 = equal 89 and when u have two negatives they become a positive so -9 x -9 = 89
• 89 x 89 x -9 = 7921 x -9
• 7921 x -9 come to ( = ) -71289
Here are some tips on exponents, is your base number (the big one) is negative and the exponent is an even number then your final answer will be a positive. If your base number is negative and the exponent is an odd, then your final answers will be a negative
Sorry I can’t remember how to do negative exponents. Try looking in your math text book they may be able to offer some help.
For division
It works best if you lay it out right.
For an example; Divide [4a] and [8b] with 2b
You should first lay it out right. It should look like this.
now your 1st step is to remove all alike variables from the problem
4a + 8b
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2b
So it should look like this 4a + 8
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2
because 8 and 2 both had the same variable (b)
Now you can ignore the last variable for right now, and just divide.
It should now look like this (2a + 4) which is just 2a + 4 ______
And that is your final answer. 1
Here is a similar one with no numbers but just variables; don’t worry it is easier than it looks.
(ab – dc)
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bce now cancel out all able variables, (u can tell if it able of not if they in both the top and bottom)
so it will look like (a – d)
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e
I hope this helps you out (let me know if it did) if you have any more questions just drop a line. I’ll try to answer the best I can.
Best of luck
~Teen Guru~
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can you be in love when your 13? (link)
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Depending on your definition of “love” will depend on whether one can or not. If love is the “infatuation” or “liking of each other” between two individual, then maybe. However if you go by the definition that states (as I call it True Love) “…Love is the bond the binds two individual together that grows though all of life’s hardships and beyond death’s grip….” Then I would say no for one reason, for one to find “True Love” you must first do the key word GROW. I know everybody wants to believe they will find “True Love” early in life; this is due to the large impact in our society one trying to grow up too fast and try to find that PERFECT mate. Well I hate to be the deliverer of bad tidings but that is not how it works. True you may be smitten by someone, and have a liking to them, but “True Love will not come till you actually know them, not just the masks everyone puts on for others to see (or in others words; in almost everything we do with other people, put on our best front.)
I hope this helps you out. Let me know if I did.
And don’t worry, you will find this “True Love” that I have spoken of, if you be patient.
Best of luck.
~Teen Guru~
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hey, i just came across your column and i love what you have to say. you say a lot of the things that i believe, or would say. i just wanted to let you know that i appreciate your advice you gave to others and i made you a "favorite columnist". my first one, actually, because i haven't seen any other columns that deserve it yet. my username is iSpEaKsPaNiSh.
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thank you for ur support. I can't take all the credit; I have seen many things and needed much help in my quest for true understanding. I am who I am because of their influence on me.
I hope you will continue your aid for those in need.
Best of luck and if you need help go head and ask away, my door is always open.
~Teen Guru~
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What are ways to boost my self-esteem? (link)
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Well 1 way you can boost ur self-esteem is to develop you talents. Find what you are interested in, and see if you can do it. It can be anything from sports (such as baseball, football, etc.) art, to public speaking, music. Once you have it stick with it. Remember the salmons that make it back upstream to nest their eggs, swim the entire way against the current the whole way. If you want to succeed in anything you must become like the salmons.
I hope this helps/let me know if I did.
may you find what you desire.
~Teen Guru~
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i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me too but somtimes i feel as though he s lying to about little simple things like why he couldn't come over , y he couldnt call back just little things, i trust him and i love him,sometimes i feel like his love for me is fading away he said he still cares and he loves me but he makes things so difficult between us, hes changed a lot but not in a way that i would want him to change i talked to him about it, and he said he was going to make things better and that was days ago. but there hasnt been a change yet. what should i do? please help i dont want to lose him (link)
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First of all you must understand, all too often people don’t change in a relationships (unless there is something drastic to change it), it is most likely you are see the real him. All too often when we date we put on are best front, and there is nothing wrong with that but that is why one should start slow and work your way up; in other words you are not going to marry someone who you’ve only dated once or twice {or you shouldn’t}. You are most likely seeing the real him, it appears different but he has become more comfortable around you.
Now whether that means you should stick with it or not, I can’t say. That is yours and only yours decision.
I hope this helps you in your dilemma. Let me know if it does.
Best of luck
~Teen Guru~
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okay well me and this guy, well i guess hes my bf.. he never really specifically asked it, only said "i see myslef as your boyfriend" so, im not sure what we are... but we went out to a nice dinner and did some 'sexual' stuff before and after, and alot of times when we talk he asks what i want to do with him (sexually)... im mostly just curious about whether or not he sees me as his girlfriend, and if it seems like hes only in it for the action.. thanks a bunch!! (link)
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it sounds if he is only using you for “Action”. All too often when someone talks about “sexual stuff” they are just wanting the “Action” and it doesn’t matter who it is with. as long as it creates the sensation for their sick minds.
If you really want to find the best kind of bf, find one who will be with you when you both are not sexual active. When you get married and use sex as it meant to, reproduction, then you have a stronger marriage, a better relationship with your spouse and your kids, and you will find a happiness you never could imagine otherwise.
Think about it if you date someone who wants 2 have sex with u. all 2 often they done it before and will do it again once you break up. So you are nothing but a number to them. You’ll be like a trophy of theirs like those mounted heads on the walls.
I hope this helps u in your quest 4 happiness, Let me know if it did
Best wishes.
~Teen Guru~
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hey! i need some sayings, quotes, poems for getting back together with your boyfriend that you love. THANKS! (link)
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well one of best things to say in such a circumstance is something from the heart. write a poem, or saying, or whatever.
but if you are have troubles try http://en.thinkexist.com/. They have many quotes on many different subjects. I sure u will be able to find one that you like there.
I hope this helps, let me know if it did.
~Teen Guru~
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is it wrong for a 13M to have been never been kissed. (link)
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I know a guy who is 19 and has never been kissed, he is ok with. He wanted to save it for a special moment with a special girl. True he dated, but nothing was too series. He had fun and enjoyed his childhood, like you should.
Trust me you will want to save it for a very special young lady.
I know that the media try to tell everyone that they need to find love at a very young age, or you won’t find it at all. That my friend is a big LIE! No mater what there is always be someone out there who you can love.
I hope this helps/ let me know if it did!
~Teen Guru~
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well my cat is scared of me everytime i come near him he'll hiss at me.i don't know what to do someone please help...
will give 5 stars... (link)
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Well the best way to breach a scared cat, is to get down to his/her level (wether it is the floor, chair, or where ever he or she is at), speek softly to him/her, and be paticent, most times it will take a lot of effort and time, but it is worth it.
I hope this helps/let me know if it does.
~Teen Guru~
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can any one suggest me songs
i like techno//pop//a little bit of punk/rock but not much and a little r&b
also some songs i can dance too
and sad/love/breaking up songs
thank ya i rate high (link)
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here are some cool songs that fit those cads.
Punk
Guster - 99 Red Balloons
Bowling For Soup - 1985
Bowling For Soup - summer of 69
Green Day- Holliday
Techno
Darude - Sandstorm
Ian Van Dahl - Castles in the Sky
Rednex - Cotton Eyed Joe (Techno Remix)
I hope this helps, let me know if it did.
~Teen Guru~
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Hey im gunna move next door to this hot guy and im gunna put in a pool and so i wanna make sure i have a nice body incase he sees me swimming so if you have any diet tips or workouts for stomach, legs, or butt i would appreciate it very much
**THX** (link)
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if you want to lose weight/get in shape some good excises are running, lifting weights, and push-ups, pull ups, and so forth.
it is also good to cut back on the extra stuff (Candy soda, fried food, etc.)
if you want to lose weight/get in shape some good excises are running, lifting weights, and push-ups, pull ups, and so forth.
it is also good to cut back on the extra stuff (Candy soda, fried food, etc.)
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hey! I love to read! Im a sophmore, female! I Love a great book! the kinds that you cannot put down! I (link)
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Well to the wonderful books, they are so many. Depending on your fav. Readings, will depend, so I’ll give some of my fav. That I’ve read recently.
1) Lord of the Rings by Tolkien (for advance readers)
2) The Dragon and the Thief by Gillian Bradshaw
3) The Egyptian Game by Zilpha Keatley Snyder (only if you like history; mainly Egypt)
4) C S Lewis’s Narnia (all ways fun)
5) The Warriors series by Erin Hunter (especially if you like cats)
I hope this helps you. let me know if it did.
Best of luck
~Teen Guru~
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how do you spell
supercalafragilistickexpeeallidoeshis properly?
i rate high if you arent snobby when you answer (link)
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I looked this up just to make sure, it is spelled, (according to Mary Poppins)
Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious.
I hope this helped
~Teen Guru~
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"Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage." Just wondering what you are commenting on in this instance. I see it in a few different ways, could be political, personal, or simply wisdom for life, so I was wondering in which sense you meant it. Also, I like to Dr. Suess qoute...I recently found the same one scrawled across a podium, but I didn't know where it came from, so I'm glad I stumbled upon your profile ;) Thanks!
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To answer you’re first question; the message refers to the “wisdoms of life” as you put it. I took how the ancient wise people spoke (in parables), so those who can understand it will fully grasp it, those who can’t, no-harm done.
And no problem about the quote, I’m glad you found my profile, feel free to drop by and ask for some more insight.
Best luck in your voyage,
~Teen Guru~
PS the winds, I feel are coming soon.
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hi my name is jess ive been going out with my boyfriend for days so far. But today when i was at my friends house a kid in her neighborhood said he was going out with this other girl to. How can i find out with out hurting our relationship if hes cheatin on me.
Ps. he does have a history of cheating when he was going out with my friends.
luv jess (link)
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Well in your case, I would ask the kid who told you this info. Ask him/her who they where going out with. Once you have the name; try to find out if she is dating him. Be careful when doing this research, sometimes such things can backfire.
May you find the truth, what ever it is.
I hope this help, Let me know
~Teen Guru~
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to lose stomach fat, is walking the same as running? im not very good at running and i really want to lose my stomach fat so can i just walk? will walking help me lose my stomach weight? (link)
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Walking is a good exercise; running is also good. If you want to work on the stomach muscles running the same speed for a long distance is good, sit-ups & pull-ups are both good too. Since you’re not good at running, try power-walking, it not quite running but not quite walking ether (or in other words a fast walk for a distance). The trick is QUANTITY and QUALITY. With power-walking you can base it off how long you go for (for example 20 power-walk), or how far you go (for example 2 miles).
Also what will help is eating right, cut back on fast-food /junk food, and go for a salad or something. Also if you’re doing some heavy duty work out have Carbs, they give you energy. If you’re doing light work out do eat quite as much as you would on the heavy-duty ones.
I hope this helps, let me know if it did.
Best of luck
~Teen Guru~
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