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Q: out of my whole school there is only once or two boys i like! one of them i have liked for 2 years now! he knows but i dont know if he likes me! EVERY SINGLE GIRL IN THE SCHOOL LIKES HIM! and im sure there are more pretty girls than me! o talk to him but hes one of those immature boys! i dont know what to do! im way to shy to tell him i like him, and i'm SOOOOOOOO tired of waiting to see if he likes me!
what do i do!?

im waayyyyy to shy,
santawillrule

♥ well i think the only way to conquer that is to talk to him..like get to know him ALOTT and talk to him..then hell think of you as like a friend then a close friend then a best friend..then hell start liking you..just flirt non-stop in a pushy way..dont play hard to get but dont be all like OMG I LIKE HIM!! just be cool..and you can make it a LITTLE obvious that you like him..like he knows you like him but then he doesnt know..like make it like that..make him curious about you dont tell hima lotta stuff either then hell wanna know and he willw ant to get closer to you..sry if i wasnt much helpp :)

xOxO--Janee`

Q: Ok so this morning I shaved my legs and i had goosebumps so i kind of messed up my legs REALLY bad and they hurt like crazy. Plus they are all red and bumpy. How can I get rid of this AS FAST AS POSSIBLE. And does anyone have any tips on how to prevent this in the future?

And what is the best razor out there ( i have extremely sensitive skin) and shaving cream.

♥ OHEMGEE!!! all you need is some cold cresm..BUT THATS NOT ALL!!! put it like in a cup or leave it in the container and heat it up in the microwave for like 35 seconds..The razor I use is venus or intuition..venus is really good..but with intuition it has someting in it where like all you need is water and no shaving cream..the shaving cream that i think is really good is white rain..but sometimes when i dont have shaving cream i just use some soap :D they both work well but since you have sensitive skin replace the shaving cream with DOVE soap cause dove is good for sensitive skin...sry if i wasnt much help

xOxO--Janee`

Q: My boyfriend, of almost 2years, just broke up with me. I am going out tonight with my best girl Kate, and we are going bowling. Is that a good Idea?

What should I do to keep my mind off of it? And what shouldn't I do?

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Kelsssss
(K2204)

♥ Bowling is GREATT!!!! the best way to get your mind off of a guy is another guy! a nice guy..so you meet the nice guy and yall wil be havin so much fun you wont even think about the guy..

xOxO--Janee`

Q: My past relationship hurt me so bad, that all I want to do know is be cool with everyone. The only thing is a lot of boys want to go with me and I want to talk to them but everytime I think about the hurt that this last boy caused me that I don't want to go through it again. Can someone help me think of ways to get over it. Thank YOu

♥ the way to get over it is to explore your options go out with the guys who wanna go out with you..i mean if you dont go out with someone your always gonna think about you ex but if you go out with someone then youll think about the guy who treated you well..sry i couldnt help much :(

xOxO--Janee`

Q: hi i like this boy. i want to be freinds with him and talk to him with out him knowing that i lke him.i kno were his locker is (right acrass from mine if i could do somthing with that)help

♥ well..you can always talk to him..and just be cool..pretend like hes your bestfriend..and just start a conversation..boys are pretty dumb..so like they wont know if u like them unless you tell them or if you tells omeone who tells them..so yeah..OR you can talk to his friends and you know..make friends with his friends which will make you be in with him..besides i dont think he will notice unless you say anything about it..so DONT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT IT TO HIM OR TO SOMEON WHO HAS A BIG MOUTH! and youll be just fine when you talk to him..

xOxO--Janee`

Q: okay.. I love the song "somewhere in between" by Lifehouse, and I want to put that video in my myspace but there is no video for it... so I was wondering if there was any way I could at least get the song for it so it will play on my myspace. Like are there any websites for that?

thanks.
ill rate.

♥ at the top of the little myspace page or whatever theres a link that says music..click that then search for bandname and type in Lifehouse..theyll most likely have more than one..and look at the plays..if it says that the page doesnt have any plays that means it doesnt have any music..so just dont bother with those..anyways so click on the ones that have plays and then youll see the little thing..sometimes theyll have more than one song on the list..so just click the song if its there and click add..but like i said you might have to look at EVERY one to find the song..im sure there wont be that many so it shouldnt take you a long time..hope i helped

xOxO--Janee`

Q: I'm 13/m in jr high and I was wondering, how old is an appropriate age for sex? I've heard of people my age that have had sex, but I don't think 13 is an appropriate age, so..... how old should you be to have sex?

♥ I think maybe 14 or 15 is appropriate..but not the MOST but 13 is definitely inappropriate because you like are in the first year of being a teenager..I first had sex like early this past october..but i havent had sex since..im 14..but i turn 15 in january..but most people start having sex at a young age now..but most people start having sex at 16..but i think you should start younger..like im not saying do it now or turn into a slut..but i heard it hurts alot more when you wait..because the hymen (cherry) tightens up or sumthn..and yes it REALLY hurts REALLY bad..even if you decide to do it now..but imagine it hurting 50 times worse when you wait forever..sorry if i wasnt much help

xOxO--Janee`

Q: On the lower part of the left side of my back I have this hard lump. It almost feels like a bug bite whenever I poke it, but it's just really hard. It's shaped almost like an egg. I have no idea what this is, does anyone else know??

♥ do you have sex alot?? it could be herpes..not saying that youre gross or nethng..or it could be from a spider..or a mosquito..or an allergic reaction to food..go to the doctor..they should know haha..even though im sure u figured the doctor part out yourself! haha

xOxO--Janee`

Q: i dont think you is going to get a job with that attitude of yours you are so stupid and dumb now how you like them apples

♥ How bout this sweetie I HAVE A JOB!! i work at kroger up the street..i bag groceries do the carts and sometime work at the register..so learn the facts before u talk shit..BITCH!

-i hope u rott in hell--Janee`

Q: I'm a 17/F, junior in high school. I'm seriously debating dropping out my senior year. Just finish out school until I'm 18 and no longer legally have to attend. I simply hate school, all it does is cause problems and drama in my life. With the things I've done, I wont get accepted into college anyway, so I figure I'll go to a community college when I'm ready because you don't even have to graduate to go to one of those. I already have a job that I absolutely love, so finding a job because I'm a dropout wont be a problem, and I'll be going to college anyway. Everyone I know is a senior this year, so next year will be miserable when all my friends are gone, and teachers suck, and other people are just self centered assholes, that I don't want to be around anyway. What are the pros and cons of dropping out for me at this point? Is anyone out there a dropout? Any experiences to share?

♥ PROS--No drama & no teacher calling your house telling your parents how bad you were being..CONS-Not having a good job..or if you have a good job it wont be better than the many jobs you COULD if u have graduated..i mean i dont see you would drop out..its pointless I mean you're almost finished so just finish..its only a year..and if you convince the dean at the college that you've turned ur act around they will let you in..they did w/ my cousin..

xOxO--janee`

Q: i like this guy, hes 17, and he has a gf. i was hanging out with my friends yesterday and he was there, i new him from lik 3 years a go because i tired to get the hook up with him, but he ended up going out with my best friend, and that was totally kool wit me. and now 3 years lata i see him. and i didnt reconize him. but then i relized it was him and me and him were ahngin out. well him and his 2 friends had to leave, and he asked if i woudl walk him out to his car so i was lik yea. i did and we walked up the street a lil, and he asked for my number i gave it too him and he said that him and his friends made a bet that he couldnt kiss a girl tonight, so he asked for a kiss and i gave him a kiss, and we made out a lil, not people are saying im a slut because i made out with a guy that i liked but i wasnt goin out with him, and they said it was stupid of me because i new it was a bet, well i new it was a bet and i dont really mind bcuz it was a win win situation, i got a kiss and he won the bet i dont understand the big deal is. y would ppl call me a slut ad stuff just because i kissed him? wats the big deal?

♥ Honestly hun..i dont think its a big deal..you like him right..so you gotta get what you want..which is HIM!all those people who call you a slut are bitches who need to get the fuck out of your life..so what if you werent goin out with him..atleast you dont got around makin out with EVERY guy..but the advice im gonna give you is not to worry about them dont let that shit phase you..but when you get the guy..you wont even care about it..because then that'll mean that u kissing him was worth it..

xOxO--Janee`

Q: I’m 13, in the 8th grade, and have a guilty pleasure. I’ve been raised in an intellectual household, with both parents having a Ph.D. Generally, I don’t watch T.V. So I was at my friend’s sleepover birthday party with 7 other girls, and she rented the First Season of the O.C. We watched 4 episodes---and I liked it! I feel kind of guilty, because I know that technically, the show is for advertising and eye-candy with a plot. But I can’t help it. That blonde what’s-his-face that stole a car and set a house on fire is really good looking. And it keeps me at the edge of my seat. Now I’m addicted! What should I do? Am I shallow for liking this?

Thanks

Cheyenne

♥ wtf of couuurrssseeee not!!!!!! the oc is greeeeaatttt..you should try watchin laguna beach..it comes on mondays on mtv at 10!

Q: okay...i luv this guy and he promised me im were ganna go on our first date friday..were not goin out but we did..he moved to cobb. but he alwayz calls me tellin me he loves me and i luv him so were in love:) but...he lives so far away and i knw that i cant keep bien stuck to a guy who is not coming back and stuff...so now i think i lyk this other guy and he lyks me and he was ganna ask me out buti dont no if to go with the one i luv but never get to see or the one ilyk but dot love..help!

♥ this is hard..uhmm..well if you love him..i mean go out with him..but if you never see him that must suck..but you kno they say "never leave the one you love for the one you like"..but I'm really sorry i couldnt help..

xOxO--Janee`

Q: how can you loose wight without taking a pill..and it is easy and it is kinda short but you do it a lot and it works goood.. ok im 13 and my wight is 195 and im 5'6 and i lift wights and stuff but the doc says that muscle ways more than fat but i wanna no how to loose me belly fat and leg fat quick and fun... sooo plzz help me with wat kind of exersises and suggestings that you have to tell me..thank you

i will rank high if you help me out here :)

♥ well hun..playing sports would be a good workout..like soccer..kickball..swimming too..swimming is GREATT!!! or you can just exercise..and if you do it with your friends itll be alot of fun too..well rather than you doing it by yourself..

xOxO--Janee`

Q: My boyfriend and I ask questions to eachother often. I usually have no trouble in thinking of questions, but I need some help today. I want to ask him some questions about the first time he met/saw me and what he thought. Any good ideas?

♥ Well,one good question that will start a good conversation is.."did you think we would ever go out when you first saw me?"

xOxO--Janee`

Q: k well, every guy i go out with i really like him and what ever, well, i have this issue, ive gone out with most of them for at least a month, and every time they ask me to do something with them, or hang out, or come to their house, i always make up a lame freaking excuse, i hate it, the one guy im going out with right now, i like him so much, i seriously think im in love with him this is our second time going out, and he always askes me to go to his house, and i always make up an excuse, i guess im afraid of whats he gunnah think about me, because i mean, im not pretty. at least not to me. i mean i have random people come up to me and theyll be like awe your so gorgeous, i dont think i am, im really self concious because i have ache. like so freaking self concious about it. can anyone help me like.. figure out why im self concious, i mean i wannah figure out why i keep doing this, i wannah spend time with my boyfriend so bad, but i keep stopping myself.
=/ anyone thinks they can help me?

♥ just go and stick it..suck it up..just be fun..dont just like sit there and stare at him..but dont do anything that you dont feel comfortable with just explain to him that you dont feel comfortable..and if he gets pissed..thats a sign of a bad temper..or that hes using you..but i recommend you kiss him..cuz yall go out so you have to do SOMETHING!!

xOxO--Janee`

Q: is it unusial for a guy 2 cry over his girl

♥ not really unless you havent been together long..but if she told you she loved you and you said it back and you were IN LOVE then its not unusual..I think its sweet..if you two were in love..but if a guy who just likes me cried over me i would be like freaked out..

xOxO--Janee`

Q: Okay. I like this kid at my high school. He's a year older then me and I'm 16 so that makes him 17. Well Okay so we were talking online and stuff and I see him at school and one day him and his friends seen me and my friend shooting some hoops so him and his friends came up to us and said, " do you want to play knockout (its a bball game) " and we said sure. So we played and me and him were at the end and of course I let him win. haha! so well I talk to him ALOT online now! And well we seem to be getting closer! And like hes been on every night and we talk to one another but he still never says or asks me out. I have been getting my friends to talk to him for me and they have been saying they think he definately likes me. and my one friend asked him if he would like to hang out with me on a weekend and she said he said he was busy this weekend but maybe another weekend. So sorry its soooo long but I really need your help! What do you think?? Does he like me or am I just wasting my time????? I'll rate high for useful answers!

♥ it doesnt matter whether he likes you or not at this point..he's no good..my reason for saying this is that he says hes busy when your friend asked him if he wanted to hang out with you or whatever..so if yall ended up going out he would most likely always be busy..im not saying he has to suck up to you..but i think if he liked you that he would atleast drop ONE plan to hang out with you..unless it was a family thing..and about the talking online thing..boys are BIG FLIRTS! and sometimes you think theyre leading you on..when their intention is completely opposite..but hey you're gonna do what you want to do anyway..

x3-Janee`

Q: ok...i have a serious boy problem...lets call my jus broke off boyfriend(tyler)and my ex before him (lee) ok tyler and i went out alil over 2 months and i fell so hard for him but lee kept coming in the way...i went out wit lee for about a year and now i just want to be friends with him nothing more but tyler cant understand that.tyler heard that i was with lee the other week and just broke up with me without wanting to talk it out but it wasnt true and i tried to tell him that but he wont listen...he told my bestfriend that we was gonna get back 2gether but he needs time 2 think...should i wait or move on?

♥ ok hun, im not gonna give you that follow your heart shit cuz i dont believe that will help you one bit..if you feel for tyler..wait..but theres a possibility that he may change his mind and not go back out with you..so this is what you do..you flirt with other guys a little..like ya know search for options then youll eventually find a guy you like..besides tyler..JUST INCASE tyler doesnt wanna get back with you ya know..and on the other side still wait for tyler for a little while..wait for about 3 weeks..and if he doesnt come around you wont be lonely because youll still have that other guy..but DONT go out with Lee because from what you said tyler broke up with you because of suspicions about you and Lee so then he will like probably hate you..then he'll wanna get back at you and there will be DRAMA!

x3-Janee`

Q: Hi!! I'm having a Hallowe'en party for my birthday this year as my bday is just 3 days after. We've planned to go trick or treating but if it rains we obviously can't. Any ideas what we can do, other than watching movies, if it does rain?? I want this to be really good 'cause it's my 16th!!

♥ Hun ITS YOUR SIXTEENTH B-DAY!!! have abig blowout party so if it rains you can party the night away..a good party will do wonders for you..and your reputation..so have a biiig party nvite everyone..it doesnt have to be all extravagant liek on my super sweet 16 just have a house party all you need is good food a REDICULOUSLY LOUD soundsystem..and alotta people..and you got yourself a house party..now the price for this may be around a couple of hundred cuz i assume if you have a party ur gonna have alot of people ..and peopleeat alott so your gonna need alot of food..i really hope i helped..

x3-Janee'