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when that person is arguing,yelling and crying with someone? just to comfort them and to calm them down.
I hug all the time. Hugs are the greatest way to show someone you're there for them, literally. That you care and understand. When I'm upset and crying, if my friends would give me a hug and not say one word, I wouldn't care because I know that at that moment they are there for me and only me to help me heal. But agreed with the other answer, if the person is violent, maybe talk to them a little bit, calm them down and then at the end of it all, hug it out.
I don't know why it's bothering me so much, but does anyone know, or can guess what this song means in all seriousness? I've been pondering for days.
It's called "The Kids Don't Stand A Chance"
A devastating backstroke
All the way from France
With shiny, shiny cuff links
A shirtsleeve to enhance
The pin-striped men in mourning
Are coming for to dance
With pure Egyptian cotton
The kids don't stand a chance
You criticize the practice
By murdering their plants
Ignoring all the history
Denying them romance
The pin-striped men in mourning
Are coming for to dance
Forty million dollars
The kids don't stand a chance
I didn't like the business
But that was at first glance
Your pillow feels so soft now
But still you must advance
The pin-striped men in mourning
The partners in the dance
The paper's shot to pieces
The kids don't stand a chance
Help?
Vampire Weekend, love them. My guess is that the song is about life at Columbia and the struggle put fourth to choose a career. There is a great pressure to take a job in finance which is symbolizing the men of morning with expensive shirts and cuff links. Jobs are dangled in front of millions of college students who "don't stand a chance" but to suck it up and take a job.
Now that I think about it, some lines can be perceived multiple different ways. Another line that I read and thought of was a drug trade, mentioning opium fields and "ignoring all the history" that drug has been around for quite some time. Maybe the song is portraying that kids don't feel like they have a choice "the kids don't stand a chance" and only fall back on the choice of doing drugs with the intention of getting money by selling or trading "forty million dollars"
Hope this helps you out.
My bf doesnt really seem to be on point as far as being professional in the future i know i deserve better its not that i have a self esteem issue because i know i can get anyone i want so why is it so hard for me to leave my bf and find better, is love really that blind
My friend has the same problem with her boyfriend. She is going to her first year of college and he is going into his senior year in high school. He isn't the nicest person, especially to her. One time her phone was messed up and she couldn't answer a text from him for about an hour and he got mad at her and didn't talk to her for two days, he tells her to eff off and to leave him the hell alone. She just doesn't get that he is rude and she deserves someone so much better. I believe her problem with not leaving him is because they have been together for three years and she knows that he is madly in love with her and wouldn't want anyone else. So, is that it? Do you know he loves you so much and you'd feel bad to leave him? Do you just not want to go out and find someone else worth your time and love? Maybe you are just as off point as he is when it comes to the future. There are a lot of things when it comes to this and to answer your question, yes. Love is very blind. It can make you do the craziest things, like staying with a guy who you know isn't worth it. Do what's best for you, do what makes you happy and will make you want to be in love.
Good luck.
Imma girl. I like this boy. He likes to looks at me. We often look to eachothers eyes. My friend told me she thinks that he likes me too. But then when I tried to chat with him on msn, he was like "oh." He only read my msn and didn't reply it. Now, I'm confused, did he really like me like my friend said, or what? Please answer
When a guy looks at a girl, it normally means he is attracted to her. When you think about it, it makes sense, if he thinks you're pretty and likes what he sees, he will keep looking. If he doesn't like what he sees, he will look away. Guys, no matter what you think and despite what you heard, most of them get really nervous when it comes to a girl they like. Hence him just saying "oh." And pretty many guys likes it when the girl makes the first move as well. I would say he does like you and odds are, he was just nervous. My friend was the first to think that this boy liked me and turns out, she was totally right! Friends are good with that kind of thing. I would say, get your friend to maybe talk to him a little bit, he may open up more to her because it isn't you and he won't be as nervous or shy.
Good luck!
This morning my phone fell in the toilet...it happened before too and I had to get a whole new one. Luckily, this time my phone still works. However, the screens to my Env3 looks like they still have water in them. The front screen even has the color fadding in at the bottum. I was just wondering if the water will either dry up and go away or this is permanent damage?
The same thing happened to my mom and her blackberry, she stuck it in a bag of rice and it cleared away after a few days!
is bella and edward are dating in real life ?
Yes, they are dating in real life, but the person that answered before me said the kiss on live television, if that was in reference the the MTV movie awards, the couple that wins best kiss has to reenact it, so they didn't kiss willingly on the movie awards. However, yes, they are dating.
15/f
so i really like this guy and i am trying to hint to him that i like him. well i wanted to put a cute quote on facebook for my status, cause i kknow he goes on my faceobook profile and i want him to think about who the quote is talking about. so i was wondering if anyone knew a cute song that i could put on. not a love song really, but a song sayign "hey i like you or something"
like you belong with me by taylor swift, i would use that but i put that as my status for the last guy i liked. thanks.
Feeling This- Blink 182
First Day of my Life- Bright Eyes
Falling in Love at a Coffee Shop- Landon Pigg (best)
I Want to Hold Your Hand- Beatles
Happy- Nevershoutnever
When I Look at You- Miley Cyrus
Vanilla Twilight- Owl City
No One Can Touch Us- Sing it Loud
Most of these cute songs are found from the 60's era, hoped I helped, I know it's not a lot but these writers have written multiple love songs, much like what your looking for!
im a 14 year old girl and i overeat.
im not fat or anything. actually, everyone says im skinny.
however, everyday, when i get home from school, i cant help myself but to finish a whole pack of oreos, cookies, chocolate, or potstickers. usually it's something sweet, but some of the other types of foods have the same effect on me.
my mom says that it's normal for girls my age to want to eat a lot, especially around the time of my peried or if im stressed about schoolwork. but it's not just CERTAIN days for me. it's EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. i don't overeat because of stress or hormones. i simply have a major sweet tooth. i love food.
i dont want this habit to continue. i may be skinny now, but in a couple of years, that certainly may not be the case if i continue to binge.
im not the type to become anorexic or bulimic either. i simply love food too much to stop eating altogether. and it doesnt have to be what i like. i hate peanuts, but when there's no other food around, i could eat that until i empty the can if im in that mood (which is pretty often).
anybody have any tips on how to control this habit?
(without buying pills or anything. just natural, home remedies that i can practice to make myself a have more self control when it comes to eating. i really dont want to have to resort to professional help.)
I'm like you, I used to eat when I'm bored. It seems like you have a high metabolism, meaning you can burn off everything you eat but later in life all the calories will catch up to you. What I did to kick this habit is when I can home, I would eat something healthy like an apple and go on my wii fit. Seeming as I don't know if you have a wii fit, I would say that won't work. So, just go home and when you see yourself going into the pantry, think "am I really hungry? do I really want to be 200 pounds by the time I'm 20?" picturing myself in the future if my excessive eating continued got me to quit over eating as soon as possible because I don't want to be over weight and grow up alone and unhappy. So, that's what I did, whether it worked for you or not, I don't know. This isn't a problem that can be medically fixed with medicine, you just need to practice self control.
-Good Luck
I have sprint and for the past 36 hours or so, people are only receiving about half of the texts I have been sending. My roommate said its happening to her phone too. Has this happened to anyone else? Should I call customer support or is it a widespread problem that they will take care of?
I have sprint as well and let me just put this on the table, I hate it. There are always problems and everything and anything goes wrong with it. Recently, my friends have been getting all of my texts but really late. I think the worst one was when I sent my friend a text and she got it the next day, literally. I just waited it out, I know that's probable worst but the company itself can't do anything to fix this problem unless a lot more people are having it. Just wait it out and soon it will work again. Hope I helped <
heyy i recently got a bf and my best friend is now acting all weird. i think its cos i have a bf now and she doesnt seem to like it or is jelous.
everytime i ask her to hang out she always blows me off by saying
"i dnt know i cant plan that far aheacd" or if i say "when can we hang out" she is always saying "i dno"
i try and i try and she just keeps being really cold towards me. i think she has given up. i dnt know what iv done.
she hasnt met my bf and thats becos he lives an hour away and i only see him a few nights a week so i have plenty of time to hang out with her.
im confused, wat should i do? i miss her. but she doesnt seem to care i just look stupid the more i try. help!! :(
Hunny, this is hard but you just need to walk up to her, look her in the eyes and say "Listen, I don't know what I did to get you mad at me, I don't recall doing anything wrong yet you're giving me the cold shoulder anyway. If you have a problem you should tell me so we can sit down and talk about it like civilized people".
If that doesn't get her to realize you care I'm sorry to say that I don't think anything will. If you really care about her, you will go up to her, face her and tell her how you feel.
However, maybe you should give her a few days to think, maybe give her two before you make your move. Just let her be alone and think about everything. Deep inside I think she wants to be your friend, maybe she just needs to be reminded you still care even though you have a boyfriend.
Good Luck and God Bless.
I bought two Mollies (one orange, the other black) about two days ago. I've performed all the tests the store clerk has told me to, the tank is clean...but for some reason, my black molly seems to stay on the bottom of the tank. It can swim; If I put food in, it eats normally, and if it's approached by the other fish, it swims away. But most of the time? Just sitting there.
This happened to my fish, I had goldfish though but I went online and googled that kinda thing and found out my fish was diseased. He didn't like being around other fish which was why he stayed at the bottom, he ate and such but most of the time he would just isolate himself. After about 3 weeks he started growing weird white almost like fluff on his fin and he died. Again, I had goldfish so it may be different. I would maybe look on the computer and see what you can find. Good luck!
Ok so here's the thing. I'm 18 and I go to college.. I've had a few boyfriends here and there it's never been anythoing too serious. But lately I've been thinking about girls. I mean I'vr never been with one and all the girls i know have only been my friends but I'm so intrigued. I want to see what it' like to date another female. But I'm nervous. And confused? Am i bi? Or am i just curious? Geez. I need help..
alright hun, this is perfectly normal to have these feelings. most girls will admit to wanting to be with a girl at one point or another in life. but when your with a girl and you have sudden "urges" to want to do more or anything like that you can consider yourself bi. hey, you don't know, maybe you will be with a girl and hate it then you know for a fact that you are straight. again, there is nothing wrong with thinking about being with another girl and there is nothing wrong with liking the same sex, everyone is different. just play the field and listen to your heart. God bless!
THIS WILL BE LONG.
I guess I'll start at the beginning.
We met in year 7.
Her computer wasn't working so she was seated
next to me. Neither of us wanted to sit together,
I though she was a total nerd(she had glasses)
and she thought I was a total FREAK.
But we got talking and we became best friends.
Lets call her Kelly.
She was in all my classes, we slept over each
others houses a fair bit(well mostly I slept over
hers - I have A LOT of family issues which I'd
rather not get into)
We hung out all the time.
Then year 8 rolled around, we were still friends,
cause we were in all the same classes together.
I started getting into drugs REALLY badly, I was
off my face just about everyday of school. I got
really into sex. I was such a slut, I slept with
soo many people...
I could tell she was trying to distance herself
from me, but how could she? We were "BFFL" We
spent so much time together...
I spun OUT OF CONTROL in the holidays between yr
8 & 9...
I was high everyday. I had so much sex, I drank,
and I shot up, and I snorted... Nothing and no
one could stop me.
I didn't realize how much I was hurting Kelly...
Until year 9(this year) came around.
We're in one class together.... and we never
hungout together at recess and Lunch anyway,
because I don't like her friends and she doesn't
like my friends.
We just kinda of stopped talking.
I miss her so much.
She's tried to help me, but I just shut her out &
everyone says she's being a control freak & I
think I may have said that too.
I want to be friends with her.
I love her, she's my BEST FRIEND int the whole
world, well... she was.
I'm quitting drugs for her.
one by one... but I'm going to do it.
When I told her I was quitting drugs for her, she
was just like "Oh yeah? that's nice" And walked
away. Like she didn't even care.
What can I say to tell her that I'm getting my
life back on track to be friends with her again
when she wont even talk to me??
Please I'm so desperate for help.
I'm really, really sorry this was so long.
xx
well, I'm not sure if your a boy or a girl but it seems like you had a lot of problems in life and that's what steered you towards drugs and sex? coming from a girl we don't believe words until we see the actions that follow. so, show her your going to quit them, don't just tell her. she is distancing herself from you for reasons i can name left and right. maybe she's afraid you'll try and get her into them too. maybe she doesn't want her parents seeing you like this. maybe she just doesn't want a drug addicted/ sex addicted friend. there's so much to be said and done. i give you applause for quitting for one person. that takes serious will power and shows so much about your character. i wish there was more people out there as strong as you to quit something cold turkey. now, my solution, do everything you can, find a counselor, a therapist, anything. you need to do this. i see how much you care about "kelly" and how much you want her back, so you need to do everything in your power to do this. be strong, think about the life you have ahead of you being clean, think about the life and relationship you can have with your friend and that should make you want to do this all the more. I'm praying for you and God bless.
My mother has been acting noticeably different for the past few months...she has a shorter fuse when it comes to things she would normally be very patient with. She is also forgetting things very easily anymore. I can't seem to ask her for help with anything anymore (something small, like "Have you seen this?" or something like that) without her getting irritated with me and saying hurtful things to me. She is constantly belittling me and making me feel like someone who is just invalid and an annoyance to her. I feel this coldness between the two of us, like she resents me somehow, and it's like I don't know her anymore, and it's hurting me more than you can imagine. I'm crying right now even as I type this, but quietly, because I'm afraid if she see's me crying she's going to get irritated at me and lecture me. This isn't some angry "nobody understands me" teenage rant. If it were something stupid like her grounding me, I wouldn't be asking for advice. I am at wits end, and I miss my mother so much...
Maybe its just some mid-life crisis. However, you need time to tell what will happen, you can't push the subject "mom, can we talk" "mom, let's talk". Your mother loves you, that's a guarentee. She just needs to cool down and realize that she is hurting you or maybe you can talk to her. If you have an older relative like an aunt, talk to them. There are really good counselors out there to help with all sorts of things. If your mom has any siblings talk to them and see if they remember her being like this before. You don't realize it but maybe your mother has a lot going on, I know it's no excuse to treat her own daughter this way but there are always two sides of a story. If you ever need to talk my email is xocrazy4monkies@aim.com
My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive?
Alright, I am a firm believe in my Christianity and right now I feel God speaking to me telling me to help you. He always give us obstacles to face in life, that's a part of living. He however, gave you a bigger obstacle not because he doesn't love you or because he doesn't believe in you. He let this happen because He knows you can HANDLE it! People who make fun of you aren't worth your time, show them you are better than that and just walk away. You need to trust God and let him know that you love him because with all your faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, nothing can go wrong.
< God loves you with all of his heart!
(my life is somewhat like the twilight series. so dont sue me for copyright if i use the characters names) right, so i have this friend, jake. we met 3 or 4 years ago, back when he was in fifth grade and i was in seventh. we talked on the phone a lot, and he annoyed me somewhat. but hes a really sweet guy and he eventually asked me to marry him, (its a middle school game-type-thing. obviously, we're not really married.) but i still call him my husband and he calls me his wife. its cute.
anywho, i met my current boyfriend, edward, 2 years ago. he broke up with me twice, but now we've been dating for 5 1/2 months, and as far as i can tell, we're not breaking up anytime soon. back when i was going through a really rough patch with edward, (because he had broken up with me abruptly and didnt talk to me for 6 or 7 months,) jake was there for me. we hung out a few times, and i always talked to him on the phone. he was my rock. and then when i got back together with edward, he was pretty upset, (he had allegedly fallen in love with me during that time). so anytime i vented to him about getting into a fight with edward, he bashes him. at first i didnt really care, then it started annoying me, and edward too. one time, he texted me while i was at edwards house, asking if i would cheat on edward with him. and edward saw the text! he was so pissed. but he called jake and tried to make it clear that he didnt want jake saying things like that anymore.
for a while, jake stopped. then the other night he was on aim, and i had just had another fight with edward. i vented, and he was bashing, and i finally told him to stop, but he wouldnt. he said i needed to "ditch the vampire, because the wolf is better," and i needed to "change the ending in the book". i yelled at him, and he got upset and logged off.
jake is a really good friend of mine, but he just gets so annoying! hes bashing my vampire and trying to get me to cheat on him or dump him, and just says so much shit it gets on my nerves. but i miss him! i dont know how to convince him that i will NEVER leave my vampire, and that he just needs to stop already! what should i do?????? please help!
Hi there,
This whole thing seems very cute to me. You are only looking at the negative, instead look at it in the way that you have two amazing guys always there for you. Now, Jake needs to realize that you are taken and that he needs to wait his turn or move on. If Jake really is a friend he would come to the conclusion that you and Edward are very much in love. If he can't see that and he tries to break you and Edward up then I see it as he only wants you so Edward can't. That may be hard to believe but if he can't be happy for you and Edward then he isn't a true friend and you need to see through the niceness he has supplied during your rough patch. He will keep acting like a jerk and using you if you just keep forgiving him. Romans 12:9 says "love must be sincere. hate what is evil and cling to what is good" take those words as you will but that is my favorite verse ithelps me through everything and makes me realize that clinging to what is good (Edward) is really great advice. Hope everything works in your favor, dear.
< Good Bless
um i was wondering,well i have two questions my straightening iron is an andis 1 inch and i noticed that there is brown redish buildup on my iron can you give me some tips on how to get it off,using houseold stuff not like oils, scrapers, or rubbing alchohal somethin simple.
When it hasn't been turned on in a while (making it cool and wont burn anything you put on it) just wash it in the sink. It sounds to simple to be true but I had that in the creases of my old straight iron and i used a toothpick to pry it out then i just washed it with soap and water.
< God Bless
I really messed up. My friend told me that my crush, let's call him J, said that i need to leave him alone and to never talk to him again. I did the wrong thing and told him that he was a jerk without confirming that he indeed said what my friend said J said. When he messaged me back, he sounded really mad and ready to press harrassment charges on me if i wrote back. I wrote back saying sorry and that i am misunderstood at home and mistreated at school and i dont think that he will believe me.
What can i do now?
The first thing on your agenda would be to talk to J. You shouldn't try to fix anything with your "friend" if she was a true friend then she wouldn't have told you what she did. If I have to pick one valuable life lesson learned in my years of jr high it's who my true friends were. I learned alot of them are back stabbers and those kind of people need to realize that what she does is wrong, she will never realize that spreading rumors and lying aren't wrong if you just keep forgiving her. First things first you need to get your relationship with J squared away, think of a unique way to apologize if he doesn't listen face-to-face like write him a note, or email him. Anything would work and be great becuase you thought of it.
< God Bless
Hey, do u no how 2 do messy buns 4 short hair?
With short hair for a messy bun, you curl/scrunch your har then with boby pins you section off hair, bring it back and pin it starting at the crown, you can do a 'bump' or a 'poof'. No rubber band included you hair should be short enough that the pins hold.
I apologize in advance...this might come out somewhat unorganized because I have a lot on my mind and will probably type it out as it comes to me. But anyways, for starters, I'm fifteen years old and I'm a girl. There's this guy named David who I've been going to school with for a while now and we're really good friends. I was thinking about him the other day and realized that I've liked him as more than a friend for a while now but I just didn't realized that I did until now (if that makes any sense at all). We have the funniest, strangest conversations and we always manage to make each other laugh. According to some of his and my mutual friends, he liked me a lot last year, but as I said, I wasn't really aware that I liked him that way then. I'm not sure that he likes me in that way now but I think that I really, really like him. My friends all say that we'd be cute together, but I just don't want anything to mess up our friendship because it means very much to me. I guess I just want to know what I should do.. should I pluck up the small amount of courage that I have and tell him I like him that way? Or just spare myself the possible awkwardness between us and not say anything? I don't know. I guess I'm just extremely confused. I'm sorry if that made no sense to anyone, but I thought that this would be a good place to ask for help. Thanks :)
If for some chance you can't tell him then you will live your life wondering how he felt. So, yes, in my opinion you need to tell him. The boy I like, I wrote him a note I just had feelings beyond what I could tell him to his face and I gave it to him in a bag with snacks in it for his birthday. He wrote me a note back saying he has the same feelings for me. Now we both know everything and things are rolling pretty well. What you need to do is find a cute way to make him aware of your feelings. Email him? Text? Write a note? Whatever you do is going to be great because you thought of it!