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I want my friend back -REALLY LONG.
THIS WILL BE LONG.
I guess I'll start at the beginning.
We met in year 7.
Her computer wasn't working so she was seated
next to me. Neither of us wanted to sit together,
I though she was a total nerd(she had glasses)
and she thought I was a total FREAK.
But we got talking and we became best friends.
Lets call her Kelly.
She was in all my classes, we slept over each
others houses a fair bit(well mostly I slept over
hers - I have A LOT of family issues which I'd
rather not get into)
We hung out all the time.
Then year 8 rolled around, we were still friends,
cause we were in all the same classes together.
I started getting into drugs REALLY badly, I was
off my face just about everyday of school. I got
really into sex. I was such a slut, I slept with
soo many people...
I could tell she was trying to distance herself
from me, but how could she? We were "BFFL" We
spent so much time together...
I spun OUT OF CONTROL in the holidays between yr
8 & 9...
I was high everyday. I had so much sex, I drank,
and I shot up, and I snorted... Nothing and no
one could stop me.
I didn't realize how much I was hurting Kelly...
Until year 9(this year) came around.
We're in one class together.... and we never
hungout together at recess and Lunch anyway,
because I don't like her friends and she doesn't
like my friends.
We just kinda of stopped talking.
I miss her so much.
She's tried to help me, but I just shut her out &
everyone says she's being a control freak & I
think I may have said that too.
I want to be friends with her.
I love her, she's my BEST FRIEND int the whole
world, well... she was.
I'm quitting drugs for her.
one by one... but I'm going to do it.
When I told her I was quitting drugs for her, she
was just like "Oh yeah? that's nice" And walked
away. Like she didn't even care.
What can I say to tell her that I'm getting my
life back on track to be friends with her again
when she wont even talk to me??
Please I'm so desperate for help.
I'm really, really sorry this was so long.
xx
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
actions speak louder than words.
get help, break the addiction FULLY and then approach her when you have fully changed. You might also want to start hanging out with different people, because they will not be a good influence to you in the end and kelly might think that you're lying to her or still occasionally doing the whole drug and sex thing. You need to get better before you can make the friendship between yourself and kelly better. does that make sense ? Like once you progress enough for kelly to see a change, then your friendship will progress.
It's all about how you do this and what you do. Did your look change ? Maybe try to get a new conservative look, something that screams different. You don't have to change what you look like necessarily, or who you hang out with, but these are the types of changes that kelly needs to see in order to believe that you're actually serious about sobering up. Keep trying to talk to her, tell her that you are going to prove to her that you're changing and stopping your old ways because if its the only way to save the friendship, than you're willing to do that because you miss her friendship.
Caring words will really tug at her heart strings. but she really needs to see an imrovement to believe it. and i believe you can do it. I am so proud of you for wanting to change and stop this drig and sex and alcohol thing. It is super good ! and you have alot of will-power to do that. I think that what you're doing is spectacular, and i know you'll succeed :] and once you REALLY start to get away from all of the "bad stuff" you and kelly will be friend in no time. but for now, show her what you can do. go to a therapist, get HELP. I know you want to do this on your own, but maybe .. maybe if you ask her to help you FIND help, it will bring you guys closer. yuh know ? but you need to do this for you :] and i am so proud of you. good for you !
if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. good luck, hope i helped, and yayy for youu !! xxo.
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well, I'm not sure if your a boy or a girl but it seems like you had a lot of problems in life and that's what steered you towards drugs and sex? coming from a girl we don't believe words until we see the actions that follow. so, show her your going to quit them, don't just tell her. she is distancing herself from you for reasons i can name left and right. maybe she's afraid you'll try and get her into them too. maybe she doesn't want her parents seeing you like this. maybe she just doesn't want a drug addicted/ sex addicted friend. there's so much to be said and done. i give you applause for quitting for one person. that takes serious will power and shows so much about your character. i wish there was more people out there as strong as you to quit something cold turkey. now, my solution, do everything you can, find a counselor, a therapist, anything. you need to do this. i see how much you care about "kelly" and how much you want her back, so you need to do everything in your power to do this. be strong, think about the life you have ahead of you being clean, think about the life and relationship you can have with your friend and that should make you want to do this all the more. I'm praying for you and God bless.
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