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friend jelouse of my new bf...? help mee =s
heyy i recently got a bf and my best friend is now acting all weird. i think its cos i have a bf now and she doesnt seem to like it or is jelous.
everytime i ask her to hang out she always blows me off by saying
"i dnt know i cant plan that far aheacd" or if i say "when can we hang out" she is always saying "i dno"
i try and i try and she just keeps being really cold towards me. i think she has given up. i dnt know what iv done.
she hasnt met my bf and thats becos he lives an hour away and i only see him a few nights a week so i have plenty of time to hang out with her.
im confused, wat should i do? i miss her. but she doesnt seem to care i just look stupid the more i try. help!! :(
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First off you didn't do anything wrong. You have a chance to be happy with something that is in you
Life don't change that for anything. In regards to you friend you need to make her listen that just because you have a boyfriend now, does not mean that you will spend less time with her. I was that way for a long time I was worried that all my good friends when they found something better I was jealous of that because they found something better I was worried about losing a friend. AS I got older I realized that we all have to find something special to enjoy life with. You need to make your friend see that,I hope this helped.
Thanks
Tim
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Talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. Tell her its childish and you want to put aside what ever happened and want to become good friends again that you miss her company and want the distance in the friendship to change.
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Well you're right maybe she does feel hurt, that she maybe replaced, or even jealous that you have a boyfriend. Talk to her about it just ask her why she doesn't want to hang out. You should probably just hang out with her and not have your boyfriend tag along. I've been in this kind of situation and I know how your best friend feels she may feel like she's losing you so just talk to her about it!
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Just let her know that you feel her slipping away, and that you don't know what you could have done. Let her know that you don't want to keep bothering her at this point, and that you'll always be there to hang out whenever she's ready. It sounds pretty certain that she's jealous, and unfortunately, even if she were to come back, if she is that jealous, she might not prove to be a true friend anymore anyway. You might just have to let her go. Unfortunately, things often get very weird with girls very fast once you start dating. It becomes very hard to find true friends the older you get. Watch out, she does have the potential to try and hook up with your boyfriends if you let her back in your life anyway, so she might have done you a favor by backing away.
If she comes back into your life in a healthy way, then you're lucky. But if not, don't stress. It's an unfortunate part of life. You might meet one or two more true friends in college or something. But after that point, it's virtually impossible, I'm afraid. It sounds bleak, but women are so competitive, and desperate as a whole, that they tend to put getting men above having good friends, and respecting their female friends, especially the older they get. I honestly wish that things would change, and that women would wake up and stop being this way, but it seems like a rampant plague of life.
This is from a 32 year old woman's personal experience. Stay alert in college for a good, loyal friend or two, and hang onto them if you find them.
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She may feel bad because she has never met him she thinks you guys are falling apart. even though you want to hang out she probably just doesnt feel as close to you because she doesnt know every little thing about whats going on. you should go on a double date help find her someone to go with thats fun so pier not bored and them shell get to meet you boyfriend as well. and in somewhere you can all talk like out to eat. if she's a good friend dont let her go but in sure if she's a good friend shell get over it. good friends are hard to come by so good luck let of know how it goes
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Hunny, this is hard but you just need to walk up to her, look her in the eyes and say "Listen, I don't know what I did to get you mad at me, I don't recall doing anything wrong yet you're giving me the cold shoulder anyway. If you have a problem you should tell me so we can sit down and talk about it like civilized people".
If that doesn't get her to realize you care I'm sorry to say that I don't think anything will. If you really care about her, you will go up to her, face her and tell her how you feel.
However, maybe you should give her a few days to think, maybe give her two before you make your move. Just let her be alone and think about everything. Deep inside I think she wants to be your friend, maybe she just needs to be reminded you still care even though you have a boyfriend.
Good Luck and God Bless.
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