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urgghhh. another boy question. (beware: long)
(my life is somewhat like the twilight series. so dont sue me for copyright if i use the characters names) right, so i have this friend, jake. we met 3 or 4 years ago, back when he was in fifth grade and i was in seventh. we talked on the phone a lot, and he annoyed me somewhat. but hes a really sweet guy and he eventually asked me to marry him, (its a middle school game-type-thing. obviously, we're not really married.) but i still call him my husband and he calls me his wife. its cute.
anywho, i met my current boyfriend, edward, 2 years ago. he broke up with me twice, but now we've been dating for 5 1/2 months, and as far as i can tell, we're not breaking up anytime soon. back when i was going through a really rough patch with edward, (because he had broken up with me abruptly and didnt talk to me for 6 or 7 months,) jake was there for me. we hung out a few times, and i always talked to him on the phone. he was my rock. and then when i got back together with edward, he was pretty upset, (he had allegedly fallen in love with me during that time). so anytime i vented to him about getting into a fight with edward, he bashes him. at first i didnt really care, then it started annoying me, and edward too. one time, he texted me while i was at edwards house, asking if i would cheat on edward with him. and edward saw the text! he was so pissed. but he called jake and tried to make it clear that he didnt want jake saying things like that anymore.
for a while, jake stopped. then the other night he was on aim, and i had just had another fight with edward. i vented, and he was bashing, and i finally told him to stop, but he wouldnt. he said i needed to "ditch the vampire, because the wolf is better," and i needed to "change the ending in the book". i yelled at him, and he got upset and logged off.
jake is a really good friend of mine, but he just gets so annoying! hes bashing my vampire and trying to get me to cheat on him or dump him, and just says so much shit it gets on my nerves. but i miss him! i dont know how to convince him that i will NEVER leave my vampire, and that he just needs to stop already! what should i do?????? please help!
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Hi there,
This whole thing seems very cute to me. You are only looking at the negative, instead look at it in the way that you have two amazing guys always there for you. Now, Jake needs to realize that you are taken and that he needs to wait his turn or move on. If Jake really is a friend he would come to the conclusion that you and Edward are very much in love. If he can't see that and he tries to break you and Edward up then I see it as he only wants you so Edward can't. That may be hard to believe but if he can't be happy for you and Edward then he isn't a true friend and you need to see through the niceness he has supplied during your rough patch. He will keep acting like a jerk and using you if you just keep forgiving him. Romans 12:9 says "love must be sincere. hate what is evil and cling to what is good" take those words as you will but that is my favorite verse ithelps me through everything and makes me realize that clinging to what is good (Edward) is really great advice. Hope everything works in your favor, dear.
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Hey :)
First off I want to say the whole Twilight themed story is VERY cute :) Okay look, I know this is a really great friend you do not want to loose but you may have to :( He is 2 years younger than you to start off with so he is going to be a little less mature than you. Also I do not think that a "FRIENDSHIP" with a guy that wants a "RELATIONSHIP with you is going to work. It seems to me that it will take a while for him to get over it, it has already been over 2 years! If you must be friends with him then tell him straight up that you are not planning on leaving your boyfriend anytime soon and that you do not like the way he acts about the situation. Tell him you like being "FRIENDS" with him and that is what you want him there for. So he can help an support you through everything including relationships. If he does not like it then the honest truth is that maybe you should not be close friends with him. The weird part is he will never truly stop liking you, he may only hide it from you. I do not think being best friends with this guy is good, especially when you are devoted to your boyfriend. You may not be loosing much. If he was a good friend he would not try to break you two up when you are happy. However whatever you decide to do at the end, do not use Jake as a "backup" unless you really like him. What I mean is if you and Edward break up then do not go running to Jake as anything more than a friend. It kind of gives him the upper hand. Anyways good luck with Edward and Jake. Do not worry about all the fights you have had, all real relationships do. You have lasted a long time :)I think this is about all I can say. Please feel free to send me a message if you have any more questions. I am glad to help!
Sincerely, Baylee :)
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