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I was thinking about dumping my boyfriend, but I don't know if I want to now. One of my "friends" found out and told him and one of his best friends! He thinks I'm mad at him and stuff, but I'm not! I keep telling him that I'm not! BUt he still says I'm sorry! Some of my other friends were telling him that I was made at him because he didn't kiss me or anything at the movies over the weekend, and I don't really care. His best friend sent me a message that said that he was shy and he was sorry he didn't hold my hand or anything at the movies so he was gonna ask me to go to the movies this weekend to make it up to me. Now I don't know what to do, because if I do break up with him he's gonna think it is because of that. And I don't want him to think that, because it's not! And I don't know what to do! Someone please help me!!!
well number one- dont keep telling your friends everything you're thinking because they obviously tell him. its horrible when people believe what everyone else says. so stick it out a little longer and if you still want to break up with him (for whatever reason it is) then do it. just make sure to tell him the real reason and tell him not to believe what your friends keep saying. tell him the truth and make sure he knows it. if he doesnt believe you then thats his problem. good luck!
This guy and I were going out in the beginning of January and now we are just friends. We hang out as friends… but we do stuff like a couple would. He told me he got grounded from his truck and phone about four days ago. Today I was with him and he showed me his keys and when I asked where his phone was he said he won’t get it back till later. I was hanging with him this afternoon and reached in his pocket and found his phone. I got pissed and ran away with it and found out he had sent a message to another girl. I threw it at him when he came back and he told me that what he wrote in his advice column was true. (He wrote that he “hearted” me… which I guess means I love you/something of the sort) and then we texted during the next class. He said he was sorry and that that was the only thing he has ever lied about to me. I feel like he’s been with a lot of other chicks, but he told me he hasn’t done anything with any other girl since we started “dating”. I was really mad at him in class and I told him that he should just leave me alone and not talk 2 me again. He texted back that he did care. So now I feel really weird. I still like him as more than a friend and I’m not sure what to do now that we just went through that big fiasco! I told him to text/call my phone later… but I’m not sure what else to do! One girl on my bus that knows him well says he’s a really confusing guy… I agree... but she said that he flirts with everyone and gets paid to give younger people rides. I don’t know what to think of him anymore because I’m not sure if he’s with anybody else or not??? Any ideas?!
well this guy does sound really confusing. with all the stuff that he does its hard to keep it all straight. if you cant trust this guys then hes not worth it. it sounds like he lies alot (even though he tells you he doesnt) and thats not somebody to trust. you obviously cant talk to him and expect he truth because you've already seen him lie to you. i think that this guy just isnt worth it and you two should be just friends.
Okay. I like this guy and I know he likes me. The problem is, in school and on AIM he's always talking to this one other girl. (She has a boyfriend, soo..I know they can't go out) But it always makes me mood so mad, and I just hate him
the rest of the day. He can always tell when I'm mad, and asks "What's wrong?" and stuff, and I never know how to answer. I don't want him to think I'm like..a baby or something for feeling that way, so I never actually tell him. But, like, for instance. If it's a Saturday and we're at home talking on the computer, the other girl will put up an away message with something he said..and I realize that they're having such a more fun/interesting convo then we are. He makes himself be more fun when he talks to her, and that just upsets me so much. I don't know what to do, because a lot of days he's just the best..and we have so much fun, but whenever she's around I know it's gonna be a bad day.
okay so if this guy really likes you he should be great around you and try to make you feel great. i think he likes this other girl to and he tells you he likes you because he does but if she doesnt want him then second best is always great. you shouldnt let him treat you like you're second best. talk to him about it and just ask him straight out if he likes this other girl and not you anymore. if he doesnt answer and keeps making you feel this way then he's not worth it. no girl should ever feel second best. good luck!
ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana
dont sleep with him. i know you had fun over the one summer but its not worth it. if he loves his gf too then you're most likely just something to do when shes not there. i know its harsh but hes using you. break it off with him and try to find someone better for you. even if you think you love him dont let him end up breaking your heart.
Ok well I was the one who asked the question about my boyfriend got shot and is now in a coma and might die! Well he did die! I slit my wrist one night I cry my self to sleep every night And I hate my life I used to be a prep but now I have gone goth I guess skipping classes and crying! I went to his funerl and saw him in his casket I just broke down right then and there I fell down on the ground and cried I refused to get up for about an hour and I went bye him like you all said and spent his last hours alive with him but it wasnt good enough he still died. I left the funeral and just went to his house (his parents were at the funeral) and went in his room and cried I swear I smelled him and saw him for 2sec then I just cried! What will I do?
losing someone you love is really hard. talk to your parents and tell them you need help. talk to your friends and family and remember all the good times that you've had. it will be sad for a long time but things will heal. talk to someone about how you feel. dont hurt yourself though. that wont get you anywhere and it definately wont make things better. please try talking it out and dont hurt yourself anymore. good luck and things will get better!
yah well i really like this guy hu ive been friends with since the 2nd grade. i moved after 6th grade and recently got in tough with him. i really like him. hes so sweet to me and i think he likes me but im not completely sure. im going 2 a movie with him and his friend on thursday, should i be laid beck or try 2 get him to ask me out? i just dont wanna be pushy if he doesnt feel the same way
you can be flirty but if he doesnt seem interested after a while try backing off. if he makes a move then go for it. good luck and have fun! :)
Hey well i am like having all these problems with my mom and i love her very much but she just yells at me sometimes for like nothing and im really freaked out because she gets me mad and depressed i feel like killing myself or like cutting myself!
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Depressed little gurl
dont cut yourself or try to kill yourself. it doesnt help or get you anywhere. try talking to your mom and telling her how you feel. it might not work at first but maybe your mom is under some stress or there is something that is a deeper problem. just talk things out with her and if at first she doesnt listen keep trying. also talk to someone about how you feel. someone will understand and things will be okay. good luck!
Lately, I've been feeling REALLY lonely. How do I tell my parents that, I don't want to be here anymore? I'm tired of my friends, I'm tired of my family, and I'm tired with the people around. I do hang out with good people who make good decisions--I'm not tired about that. But I don't feel completely happy with them. I sometimes feel a little left out, and I do blame myself for not being more "in the loop". But I don't have that many things in common with them. My parents are also good people. They give me the things I need and have brought me up pretty well. They really are good parents. I'm just sick of living here and being lonely. I feel like theres no one around. I recently just lost my "best friend". She was great, but I did realize that she wasn't exactly the kind of person I want to be friends with (she constantly reassured herself by making fun of other people, she was REALLY competitive @ EVERYTHING, etc.). Is there anything I can do, or anyone I can talk to, or IM? (Theres a lot of other things I'm upset about) Is there anyone who's been in a state of depression or anything? Because I seriously need to talk to someone.
its okay to feel lonely sometimes but at the same time not want to be with anyone. every once and a while everyone gets sick of the same old people and the same old thing. i think maybe you should just talk to your parents about it. tell them how you feel and im sure they will help you feel better. try talking to one of your closest friends and maybe they can help. if not then keep talking to someone about how you feel but dont do anything you will regret. just try and talk it out because somebody will be able to help you. good luck and feel better!
I really want a boyfriend.All the boys say how ugly I am and that they'd never go out with me! I have brown hair and blonde highlights, brown eyes, a few light freckles, I guess you could say I'm thin, why don't boys like me?? there are girls at my school who look just like what I described and the boys go NUTS for them. It's because they're cheerleaders. I don't want to be a cheerleader, but i want a bf. Should I become a cheerleader?? Can anyone tell me why boys hate me???? I'm not mean to them at all!!!
boys are like that. i know its hard not having a boyfriend but the right boy will come along. you just have to wait even though its tough. good luck!
Ok there is this kid at my school and he likes me but he is just EW!Well he always tells his friends all theese stuff like I want to touch her ass and all and his friend tells me.Well I have told him over and over that I dont like him or get lost and all I started out rejecting him really nicly and all I didnt want to hurt his feeling but now I just cant help to be mean.. He is really nice and all but he is ugly and to nasty for me he alway can find 1 word and turn it into something sexaul
it sounds like this kid is just a perve. tell him straight out to get lost, but dont forget to say that you dont want to hurt his feelings. dont give him a stupid line or anything. just tell him straight out that you're sorry and you dont want to hurt his feelings but you dont like him that way and you can be JUST friends if its cool with him.
this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K)
well im not really sure what guys like more. i personally think that they like virgins more because that way they arent as pressured to be "good in bed" or pressured to try to have sex with you if they are virgins. i hope you'll have the courage to be truthful even though you might not want to at first. in the end it will be better.
im nice and a sweet guy and all, but i tend to get real mad about little things. i punch holes in my walls and break all kinds of stuff in my room and i even put my head through a window once over a real dumb reason. so what i wanna kno is if i should look sumthin up to calm my anger or to get anger management? (after all im only 14) i just want to stop myself before i end up doin sumthin crazy
well it seems like you have a big problem. i think you should try to get some help even though you're still young. tell your mom or dad about it and tell them you are concerned. i know this might sound stupid but if you're this worried then maybe you should talk to someone. if you dont want to do that then join a sport that is semi-violent. it could help take out some anger. good luck!
ok so ive been on and off with my boyfreind for a year and a half now, and he just asked me back out a few days ago...but i still have other guys i like from wen we werent going out. And some of my old boyfreinds are coming back into my life now..not sure y..i mean i love my boyfreind right now, but i dont get to see him all the time, and i am a reallllllly bad flirt. I dont want to cheat on him, but i dont wanna turn down all these other guys...im too nice to do that. I really wanna be with my boyfreind but i feel like i'll b with him for the rest of my life, so i kinda want time away from him for now...i odnt mean to sound like a slut, cuz it wouldnt be like that, i just want to be able to hang out with other guys, but my boyfreind doesnt like that and gets really jealous, wat should i do?
you are not a slut in any way. its your boyfriends fault for being jealous. sit him down and tell him that you can have friends and he cant stop you. if he doesnt like that then thats too bad. i know you love him but you also do want some time apart. if he really loves you he'll hide his jealousy and you will be able to have all the guy friends that you want. good luck!
ok me and my bf just broke up last night ok and it was all becuz i told him the truth about something i told him that i was starting to have feelings for someone else and i mean i hadn't cheated on him or anything me and the other guy just talk alot and i think im starting to have feelings for him and my ex was asking me what was wrong and i told him and i told him becuz i felt like i was lying to him and i didn't want to feel that way ne more and now he thinks im imature and sex hungry for some reason which im not i not stupid and i don't plan on doing any of that kind of crap any time soon just cuz the fact my parents would kill me and cuz im to young......so really who's being the imature one here me or him??? and should i have told him?? i mean was it a stupid mistake telling him or did i do the right thing???
okay you were definately right in telling him. it was really sweet of you to consider his feelings. i know it might hurt that you broke up, but its really good you said somthing. he is definately being immature here. dont let him pressure you into having sex with him if you dont want to. he is being immature, but so are you. dont fight over something so stupid about who is being immature. work it out together and i hope everything goes alright.
here's my problem..i've had this HUGE crush (i dont even like calling it a crush, i think i love him..but no one thinks it's possible so whatever..)anyway, ive had this huge crush on a guy fro about 8 years (i've known him all my life) but we're not really tight friends. (thats not my problem) The thing is, i've never tried to hit on the guy or anything cuz i wanted to respect his GF and all..They've been together 7 years (since 4th grade)and during all this time i've liked him..and i know he really loves her, but they just broke up 3 weeks ago, im gonna let him get over her cuz i know he needs time (c'mon it wa 7 years!!) but then after that? will i ever be able to replave his first love, his gf of 7 years? its gonna be terrible he's gonna be comparing me with her..and i cant compete with her and what they had. What am i going to do? When he first gottogether with her i decided to get over him..and i've been trying ever since..but it didnt work =( seven years later, here i am, still in love with him..so please dont tell me to get ver him! it wont work..please help me, please!!
okay yes i know its hard to get over boys... so rite now all you can do is get really close to your friend because he just broke up with his girlfriend. comfort him and be there for him and he'll see that you're an awesome person. Then maybe he'll be interested and if he starts to show interest show it back. I hope i helped! good luck!