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Q: ok here's the deal:
ive been going out with this boy for a week, we were supposed 2 makeout but i got there an hour late and he hooked up with his ex-g/f (well now they r going out)!!!! so now i feel crappy should i hate him or let it go and be friends with him?
holy crap.. what a loser.. you should probaly try 2 forget about it and just be friends wit him.. but if he hurt you really really really bad and you cant get over it.. you just need 2 forget about him.. and then he will realize what he is missingg!! hope i helped! lots of love! ~rachel leigh~

Q: our gruop of friends is falling apart.wel we were invited to go to this house party last saturday but only one of us could go my freind .she went and ever since she went she just dropped us hasnt said two words all week.i dont want to lose her as a freind but i cant carry on like this?what can we?anyone got ne ideas.plse reply swn xxxx
talk 2 her and tell her that you dont appreciate her ditching you all.. if she really really cared throughout the years yall have been friends.. she would listen 2 you and most probaly start hanging our with yall again.

Q: i'm currently a freshman in my second semester of college and i have a problem staying awake in my classes, even if i get adequate hours of sleep the night before!

i've tried drinking coffee during class (despite the caffeine, has not worked for me), bringing munchies, having a water bottle, doodling on my notebook, and vice versa. basically anything to keep me busy and awake! all of my attempts have failed...any ideas?
umm... what about RED BULL!!! hehee!! dunno what elsee.. coffee keeps me awakee.. lol!! hope i helped! lots of love! ~rachel leigh~

Q: In choir I've noticed this guy staring at me for awhile. In Spanish he fools around and I think he tries to get my attention. When I'm at my locker he waits for the kid next to me and I can sense he's looking at me. He also catches my eye in the hall. Well today in my locker I noticed something on the top shelf. It was a small piece of paper that only said i love you. It was written sloppily like a boy's handwriting. I'm hoping maybe he wrote it. I never talk to him but I really want to. Any ideas on how to do so....because I'm really shy. :-/
dontt be shyyy! lol.. talk 2 him.. start off with just sayin hey and stuff.. then work your way up 2 a conversation.. i know its hard b/c you like him and stuff.. but trust me.. once you do it.. you will be like woooohhh thank god i did that!! hope i helped! lots of love! ~rachel leigh!

Q: ok well, i swear im in love with this kid on my brothers basketball team, and he's really cute, sweet, athletic, and hes so cool. and he twisted his ankle, and i felt reallybad about it so i was talking to him about it and we kissed somehow and nowh he's all i can think about and i dont want my brother to know, because he's already mad at me because i became best friends with one of his best friends.
its your life.. he will get over it one day..

Q: well i ordered the
Farouk CHI Transformation System Home Support Kit stuff and i thought it would straighten my hair because on this one website it had info on it and it gave me the impression that it would straighten my hair but it didnt and it was 40 bucks and i have really curly hair and i it didnt do anything but i found out that it just makes it shiny and stuff so i have it and i dont kno what to do with it could i return it *it was off a website and i ordered it from california and i live in florida* and does any one know something else that would straighten my hair and make it stay *i have really really curly hair* could some one give me websites and names thanks alot
signed
-confused girl
my hair isnt really really curly. it just had curls at the bottom like little ones you know.. so i got it chemically straightened.. hope i helped! lots of love! ~rachel leigh~

Q: what do i do if i think my boyfriend is lying to me? PLEASE HELP ~Emma~
umm.. talk 2 him about it.. if he loves you he should really listen 2 you.. lots of love! ~rachel leigh~

Q: ok..
my boyfriend is like failing our grade and he cares but he just doesnt think he can do any better he always tells me he dont know how to study like his mind drifts and he said if he fails then he wants to just move to a differnt school...which would kill me!! because we wouldnt see eachother at all..so can anybody give me advice on what to do and help him pass some subjects (enough to pass)! please help! ill rate high!
ahhh.. this happend with my friend.. she got a bad grade and whatever and her parents got realli mad and said they were going 2 send her 2 a diff. school if she didnt straighten upp.. so i talked with her.. i said listen you NEED to straighten up w/ school.. and ever since then shes doing SOOOOOOOOO MUCH better and im very proud of her.. just let him know that you care! maybe that will realize what he would be missing if he did fail~!! hope i helped!! lots of love..~rachel leigH~

Q: I'm 14 and I've never made out with a guy, but I think something might happen with this kid this weekend. I don't really know what I'm doing so does anyone have advice? Is it weird that I've never made out with anyone?
no its def. not weird.. my cousin that is 17 just got her first kiss on valentines day.. hahaha not mentioning what cousin.. but theres def. nothing wrong with that.. if he doesnt make a move.. dont act all nervous.. just go with it!
hope i helped! lots of love! ~rachel leigh~

Q: I rate high....

Well me and this guy are friends I like him and stuff well he wants to go to the movies this weekend but my mom said I cant date until im 17. I told her its just as friends but she still says no. Just because she iddnt start dating until she was 17 doesnt mean she had to do that to me. What should I do? I really realllly wanna go with him.
tell her your going with alot of friends.. and then just hang out with him.. i know alot of people who have done that before.. or you can try talking 2 her about it.. hope i helped!!

Q: 13.f
alright. for about two years i have been cutting myself. and at first it was very innocent (little scratches with saftey pins... butter knifes, things like that) then one day i ginaed access to a really sharp razor blade and cut extremely deep. and for a year and a half thats how i have been doing it, because it is so addictive. more than once a day, and so i can go to sleep at night. most of my friends found out, one way or another and eventually my best friend got me to tell the guidance counselor. my dad now knows, and so does my psychiatrist (whom i have been seeing since I was 8 and my mom died). but i know he doesnt want me doing it, and niether do my friends. so latelyt i havent. but things got worse. im always pissed off at everyone, and lash out. also, i have been thinking about suicide more and more. i always considered it before but never like this. but when i talk to my friends, all the do is beg and pleed with me to stop. I CANT. when i was on the bus, i started tasting blood in my mouth, and noticed I had been bitting a chunk of my lip off as a pain reliever involuntarily. last night, I cut again and felt SOOO much better. but im so afraid someone will find out and be angry. im on medicine, and everything, it just sux. snapping rubberbands, and all that doesnt help. I know this is long, but im so upset with myself, I just dont know.

I rate 5s.

Manda.
aww.. we all have bad times.. but sweetheart you need 2 forget about the bad times and remember the good times.. i know that your probaly going through hard times.. trust me.. cutting is the worst thing you can do.. just talk 2 your friends about your problems.. they will listen.. if they want you 2 stop cutting yourself.. then they will listen 2 your problems.. also you can talk 2 your psychiatrist.. thats what he/she is there for! you need 2 pray to god for help.. trust me he will come through for you.. my friend used 2 do some EXTREMELY bad things in his past life.. until he started praying to god.. now he does none of that bad stuff anymore and he has a much better life.. talking about that kind of stuff gets it off of your chest and you feel better.. just please please please dont cut yourself! and the suicide thing.. honey please no! your 13 you have soooooo much longer 2 live.. why give up now? theres no reason.. like i said.. we all have our bad days.. but when you talk 2 someone and know tht they care about you it will get better!! hope i helped!!
lots of love~rachel leigh~

Q: ok well i am 13 female and there is this boy named alex and he is really really hot and popular and he said that he needs a girlfriend becuz he is lonely and my friend adriana put all these girls names on a piece of paper and gave it to alex so he can rate them and my name was on there and he rated me a 1!!! I am not the prettiest girl alive and i am kinda overweight so what can i do for him 2 rate me like a 7 or sumthing???? and any advice about excrise so i can lose weigt???????

-confused
dont change yourself for one boy honey.. you have 2 want 2 loose weight for yourself.. you should probaly exersize.. and eat less.. hope i helped! lots of love! ~rachel leigh~

Q: Ok, I have an 85 Daihatsu Charade.. It has done 180k kms. Recently (during night only) it's been shutting itself down, the mechanic says its because the oil fumes are going through the engine and it doesn't like breathing it. So I was wondering what are some easy, fast ways to reduce or eliminate these fumes?(FYI It's only during the night that I have this problem)

Also, My alternator is only putting 13ish Volts to the battery (No where near enough). How can I get it pumping out more voltage? thanks.
i have noooooo idea about cars.. go 2 google or something.. sorry! lots of love.. ~rachel leigh~

Q: well im currently going out with this guy i like alot....but last friday i hung out with muh ex boyfriend and i think im starting to like him again...and im really confused cuz im having mixed feeelings right now...what should i do??
there's really only one thing you CAN do.. go with your heart.. thats all i can tell you! lots of love.. ~rachel leigh~

Q: ok my mom's b/f's son (lets call him chip) hooked me and his friend (call him dip) up but now chip found out that me and dip want 2 makeout friday and hes telling a bunch of ppl so now dip isnt sure if he wants 2 go out b/c also chip's dad threatned to kill dip if he tried 2 do anything with me.. i like dip and dip likes me should i try 2 end our relationship or try to talk chip into not beliving we are gonna makeout soon?
well.. thats sort of confusing with the chip and dip.. but anyway.. you should talk 2 "chip" and tell him that its none of his buisness and that you 2 arent going to make out anytime soon.. tell him its YOUR personal life and he needs 2 stay out of it.. if he cant deal with that then talk 2 your mom about it.. she needs to also talk 2 "chips" dad.. your not his REAL daughter so he needs 2 lay off your personal life.. so i would just talk 2 "chip" and your mom.. hope it helps.. if u need 2 talk about it more.. IM me.. isyournamebilly4
lots of love! ~rachel leigh~

Q: Hey I just have a little question, everytime I am in the shower after I wash my hair and rinse it out and even when I rinse the conditioner out a lot of my hair just comes right out! Like not in huge chunks but in like a lot of strands and stuff! Is there any reason that this is happening? If anyone knows could you please help me? It usually only happens in the shower, not when it is dry!
i think i might know what it is.. its from stress.. that happend 2 my brothers girlfriend.. from what i remember.. its stress..

Q: okay. well i'm 14 years old and my best friend is a guy. and i do have a boyfriend whom i really love. but my best friend recently has been flirting with me and crap. but i only think of him as a friend and my boyfriend is starting to think i'm cheating on him. i want to tell my friend about what he's doing but i still want to keep him as a best friend...what should i do? how can i tell him to lay off?
tell him that u dont really like him more than a friend.. and that you already have a boyfriend and that you still want 2 remain friends.. trust me.. he will understand.. hope it helps
lots of love.. rachel

Q: Does anyone have or had scoliosis? and had to have surgery?? if so what was it like? thanks!
i do! but i didnt have 2 get surgery.. i did physical therapy.. and it got better! :)

Q: ok theres thid guy at school that i really like n its ma frends boyfrend. n n me n dis guy do stuff wit each otha but i really like him n i feel bad that we r keeping this secert from ma frend. wut shood i do?
okayy.. well.. does this guy like you also.. if so.. you 2 need 2 tell this girl this.. yeah i know who this is.. and yeah i know who you like.. and no im not going 2 tell.. lol.. anyway.. if u and this girl are like best friends.. then it might hurt yalls friendship if you 2 tell her.. one day she will find out.. i think you need 2 talk 2 this guy and ask him what he feels about it.. then you both need 2 get 2gether and tell the girll.. hope i helped!
~lots of love~ rachel leigh..
IM me if u need more help!!

Q: wuts 6 n a half feet n inches???
hahaha.. CLAUDE!! its 78 inchess..

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